Monday
Sunday
Having Sex with Younger or Older Partner Just Because...
The couple was head over heels in love with one another when they first met some years ago, but now, not so much. You see, she experienced far too many disappointing moments with the man who she calls, "Sugar Daddy." She had hoped that maybe the relationship would have matured by now. But he and she aren't interested in anything more than sex these days.
What appeared to be so right, ended up so wrong when the young woman finally realized she bit more off than she could chew by involving herself with an older man decades older than she. He too, thought that being with his younger partner was a bit too much for him to handle mentally and physically, yet he pressed on with the relationship anyway.
Now the pair are nothing more than periodic sex partners with very few common interests. They just don't have that "spark" for one another anymore--they have grown apart. Yet, the sex keeps them connected, at least for the time being, until one or both insults the other in a dispute, then off they go taking a sabbatical away from one another in minds and sometimes with feet too--that is until "missing you" feelings draw them back together again. On the outside looking in, witnesses might describe the couple as "pathetic, weak, dysfunctional..." but it works for them now.
If your relationship with an older or younger partner is somewhat like what has been described, then you just might want to begin to emotionally and physically set yourself free if the situation is causing you misery. Why dump your personal frustrations and dislike on to someone who isn't going to change his or her lifestyle or behaviors to suit you? Move on.
Nicholl McGuire shares more relationship advice at: Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
What appeared to be so right, ended up so wrong when the young woman finally realized she bit more off than she could chew by involving herself with an older man decades older than she. He too, thought that being with his younger partner was a bit too much for him to handle mentally and physically, yet he pressed on with the relationship anyway.
Now the pair are nothing more than periodic sex partners with very few common interests. They just don't have that "spark" for one another anymore--they have grown apart. Yet, the sex keeps them connected, at least for the time being, until one or both insults the other in a dispute, then off they go taking a sabbatical away from one another in minds and sometimes with feet too--that is until "missing you" feelings draw them back together again. On the outside looking in, witnesses might describe the couple as "pathetic, weak, dysfunctional..." but it works for them now.
If your relationship with an older or younger partner is somewhat like what has been described, then you just might want to begin to emotionally and physically set yourself free if the situation is causing you misery. Why dump your personal frustrations and dislike on to someone who isn't going to change his or her lifestyle or behaviors to suit you? Move on.
Nicholl McGuire shares more relationship advice at: Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
Saturday
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Fine-Looking, Funny and Unforgettable: The Special Older Man
An average looking older man might have that stunning, younger woman on his arm, but he didn't get her without being that guy who holds her interest. He might have found some ways to enhance some physical features that made the young woman say, "Well, he may not be the best-looking man, but he sure has some fine-looking qualities about him."
A man with a great personality knows how to make the young women laugh and say the kinds of things that make him unforgettable. He doesn't take himself too seriously and isn't interested in being right all the time when conversing with others. He takes criticism in stride whether helpful or not. In addition, he doesn't care to control the people who are in his presence and is careful not to hurt feelings. He prefers to win friends, rather than make enemies. For an older man, such as the one described, it may have taken him years to get it together in mind, body and spirit, but once he arrived, he took advantage of his opportunities. Now he isn't a perfect man, far from it, but he knows that in order to live his best life, he must do the kind of things that not only benefit him, but others too.
Many young men haven't quite grasped the concept of developing one's self in mind, body and spirit. They may choose one or the other, usually the part of self that is going to make them the most money, and then worry about the others when they are too old, broke, busted, and disgusted to do much. Vibrant, smart, and beautiful women look out for the man who makes them laugh, is easy on their eyes, and has some attributes about them that make him unforgettable.
The best advice a mature man could takeaway from this blog post today is, do the best you can for you (physically, mentally and spiritually). Know what your weaknesses are and address them before someone has to point them out to you. Work hard to build yourself up especially after years of being beaten down from angry people, bad investments, fast living, and a poor diet. When you are at that place in your life where you can feel good about you inside and out, then others will take notice and want to be around you.
Nicholl McGuire
A man with a great personality knows how to make the young women laugh and say the kinds of things that make him unforgettable. He doesn't take himself too seriously and isn't interested in being right all the time when conversing with others. He takes criticism in stride whether helpful or not. In addition, he doesn't care to control the people who are in his presence and is careful not to hurt feelings. He prefers to win friends, rather than make enemies. For an older man, such as the one described, it may have taken him years to get it together in mind, body and spirit, but once he arrived, he took advantage of his opportunities. Now he isn't a perfect man, far from it, but he knows that in order to live his best life, he must do the kind of things that not only benefit him, but others too.
Many young men haven't quite grasped the concept of developing one's self in mind, body and spirit. They may choose one or the other, usually the part of self that is going to make them the most money, and then worry about the others when they are too old, broke, busted, and disgusted to do much. Vibrant, smart, and beautiful women look out for the man who makes them laugh, is easy on their eyes, and has some attributes about them that make him unforgettable.
The best advice a mature man could takeaway from this blog post today is, do the best you can for you (physically, mentally and spiritually). Know what your weaknesses are and address them before someone has to point them out to you. Work hard to build yourself up especially after years of being beaten down from angry people, bad investments, fast living, and a poor diet. When you are at that place in your life where you can feel good about you inside and out, then others will take notice and want to be around you.
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
You Can Date a Younger Woman...
Who said that because you are in your 40s, 50s, 60s plus that you can't/shouldn't/won't date anyone younger? Life just got interesting for many older men who have met younger women. Until these youthful beauties came into their lives, many settled. They went along with someone their own age or older only to regret it. Many of these men, young at heart, knew they weren't attracted to their older partners like they were younger women, but because of the people around them putting their personal beliefs off on them and the worry of "what will my parents/brothers/sisters think" they stuck a relationship out with someone they should have never dated/married.
So many older women going through a tough menopausal experience wonder why their partners are behaving rudely, acting as if they don't want to be in relationships with them anymore while never bothering to think, "My spouse has changed. He has grown weary of being in a relationship with me...He has moved on..." Instead, some women so desperate to keep a man, any man, will let them play. Play with this woman and that one until their men fall in love with their younger lovers or get them pregnant. Now what?
Any older man, rich or poor, sweet or sour can date a younger woman if he knows how to relate to her, but can these men love them--truly fall head over heels in love with them? Can you honestly treat her like a potential wife? That is the question. If worries keep you up at night, the thought that you have walked away from an older partner that you might still love or you feel uneasy about committing to a younger woman, then dating younger is just not for you. Only the strong survive in these age gap relationships. Yes, the young woman will be tempted by men her own age, older or younger. Yes, the young woman might want you to commit to her and have a family. Yes, the young woman might have daddy issues and you might be the solution to her problems. But whatever your worry/fear, you will have to override it if you want to catch and keep a quality young woman.
The age difference does play a part at some point in the relationship between younger and older. A man may not want anymore children, yet his young partner does. He may have some health issues that put a damper on their sex life, and she may be in her prime. Problems will surface, but it is up to the couple to find a way to alleviate as many challenges as possible.
Think about what you most want to do when it comes to relationships. If you are serious about being with a young woman (notice I didn't say many women), then let it be known to her and those who matter in your life.
Nicholl McGuire
So many older women going through a tough menopausal experience wonder why their partners are behaving rudely, acting as if they don't want to be in relationships with them anymore while never bothering to think, "My spouse has changed. He has grown weary of being in a relationship with me...He has moved on..." Instead, some women so desperate to keep a man, any man, will let them play. Play with this woman and that one until their men fall in love with their younger lovers or get them pregnant. Now what?
Any older man, rich or poor, sweet or sour can date a younger woman if he knows how to relate to her, but can these men love them--truly fall head over heels in love with them? Can you honestly treat her like a potential wife? That is the question. If worries keep you up at night, the thought that you have walked away from an older partner that you might still love or you feel uneasy about committing to a younger woman, then dating younger is just not for you. Only the strong survive in these age gap relationships. Yes, the young woman will be tempted by men her own age, older or younger. Yes, the young woman might want you to commit to her and have a family. Yes, the young woman might have daddy issues and you might be the solution to her problems. But whatever your worry/fear, you will have to override it if you want to catch and keep a quality young woman.
The age difference does play a part at some point in the relationship between younger and older. A man may not want anymore children, yet his young partner does. He may have some health issues that put a damper on their sex life, and she may be in her prime. Problems will surface, but it is up to the couple to find a way to alleviate as many challenges as possible.
Think about what you most want to do when it comes to relationships. If you are serious about being with a young woman (notice I didn't say many women), then let it be known to her and those who matter in your life.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
Age Gap Dating: Is the Young Woman the Needy and Greedy Type?
The rich gentleman was there when no one else was in the young woman's life. He gave her things that no one else had. He said things that no else ever said to her. The young woman adores her older beau. She is very appreciative of him and does her part to ensure that he will always be in her life. However, the young woman can be too needy and greedy for her own good.
Often requesting her mature mate buy her things, the young lady doesn't do too much for herself like she once did. She has grown dependent on her date to meet her needs. Once the rich professional completes his date's list, she has created yet another for him to do. By the time, the older man realizes how much he has done for his young partner, and for how long, he is already head over heels in love.
Some young women take advantage of older men because these men allow them to become dependent on them while encouraging greedy behavior. They say things like, "Get whatever you like...do you need anything else? Would you like to get another...?" They turn the appreciative, stable-minded young woman into an ungrateful, moody brat who cries when she doesn't get her way. To stop such behavior, one must teach or re-teach the young woman to become more independent. She must build a life of her own especially if she has no plans on being with her older friend for always.
The mature man might not want to keep the young woman around in the future, so it would make sense to begin to cut down or cut off the money and gifts being given to her depending on the status of the relationship and the agreement between the couple.
As with most May-December relationships, one will have to determine are the age difference challenges worth staying together. The wealthy man must take control of the need and greed before it suffocates what contentment is left in the relationship.
Nicholl McGuire
Often requesting her mature mate buy her things, the young lady doesn't do too much for herself like she once did. She has grown dependent on her date to meet her needs. Once the rich professional completes his date's list, she has created yet another for him to do. By the time, the older man realizes how much he has done for his young partner, and for how long, he is already head over heels in love.
Some young women take advantage of older men because these men allow them to become dependent on them while encouraging greedy behavior. They say things like, "Get whatever you like...do you need anything else? Would you like to get another...?" They turn the appreciative, stable-minded young woman into an ungrateful, moody brat who cries when she doesn't get her way. To stop such behavior, one must teach or re-teach the young woman to become more independent. She must build a life of her own especially if she has no plans on being with her older friend for always.
The mature man might not want to keep the young woman around in the future, so it would make sense to begin to cut down or cut off the money and gifts being given to her depending on the status of the relationship and the agreement between the couple.
As with most May-December relationships, one will have to determine are the age difference challenges worth staying together. The wealthy man must take control of the need and greed before it suffocates what contentment is left in the relationship.
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
What He Sees in You Younger Woman
He sees your youth, beauty, and preserved innocence despite whatever abuse you have undergone. He sees the way you smile, the way you carry yourself and hears the words that come from soft lips. He loves the way you move. You are a reminder of good times in his life when responsibilities were minimal.
Young woman, you take him back to days of laughter and nights of peace. You came along after his many life storms. You brought your joy, peace, and patience with you. You showed interest when the wife of his youth stopped caring and sharing. You are something special, meant to be cherished, and never abused.
Think highly of yourself young woman, because you deserve a good man who will use his life experience to love you. He will show you things about yourself that you could never imagine. He will take you places that you have never been before. He will act like your father at times even when he doesn't mean to. You are a daughter worth his attention. You will earn a place in his life because he will need to determine what kind of woman are you.
So stand tall, young woman, know that you don't have to act like anyone, but yourself to keep a wise, older man. But what you do have to be is respectable, loving, polite, and caring. Be attentive to who you are, what you look like, and what you want out of your relationship with someone older and life.
Nicholl McGuire
Young woman, you take him back to days of laughter and nights of peace. You came along after his many life storms. You brought your joy, peace, and patience with you. You showed interest when the wife of his youth stopped caring and sharing. You are something special, meant to be cherished, and never abused.
Think highly of yourself young woman, because you deserve a good man who will use his life experience to love you. He will show you things about yourself that you could never imagine. He will take you places that you have never been before. He will act like your father at times even when he doesn't mean to. You are a daughter worth his attention. You will earn a place in his life because he will need to determine what kind of woman are you.
So stand tall, young woman, know that you don't have to act like anyone, but yourself to keep a wise, older man. But what you do have to be is respectable, loving, polite, and caring. Be attentive to who you are, what you look like, and what you want out of your relationship with someone older and life.
Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Younger Women Older Men - Age Gap Dating Some will Never Understand
No matter how many reasons one states as to why younger women should or shouldn't date older men, the fact remains it happens and every situation is different. There are those reasons that the general public knows about and those reasons that lie within the individuals themselves who date younger, older. From a past of hurt to economic reasons, one who is young dating older, doesn't enter into a relationship for nothing. Yet, in time, for many age gap couples that's what it ends up, a dead end. This is what you don't find out about until years later after all the newness wears off. Yet, the older man dusts himself off after a break up and keeps trying anyway as well as the young woman. They set their sites on someone else who doesn't mind having a May-December relationship.
Young women get older, older men get older. The two experience various personality changes, life challenges, and other issues over their courtship that aren't easily understood. The older man is in a different place in his life and so is his younger partner. No youthful person full of energy is going to want to retire to a life of boredom for long. Sure, money keeps anyone interested for a time, but when it isn't there like it once was, the personality has to outweigh the finances and oftentimes with many older men, they just don't have it like they use to, ask their ex-wives!
So many older individuals work for years only to retire without a plan that motivates them to keep living. They find themselves often parked in front of a television set or computer screen feeding their faces and when they aren't doing that, they are doing something else that isn't all that fulfilling. Rather than create their own personal satisfaction, outside of being tied to a relationship with a younger person, they dream. "One day I'm going to...and then I will..." Meanwhile, the body increases in size and nothing gets done.
Some younger women will tolerate the fat, old white guy or some other ethnicity for a time, because there is something or things that those men can do for them that young, immature men can't. If many of these young men heeded their fathers' instructions (and of course came from a good gene pool) just maybe more could land the older man's hot woman. But so many, look at the younger women, older men dating relationship with jealousy in their eyes like a child with his or her face pressed up against a toy store window, "I wish..." Keep wishing!
One must get his or her life together, put each piece in place and be at the right place at the right time to get noticed in order for a beautiful young woman to even think about dating him or her. Working on one's self is a process and an older man has decades of experience doing just that. He learns and then he puts what he knows into practice while an ignorant, wild young man groans, "I don't want to do that...I don't feel like it...what if...I'm outta here!" Why would any woman want to bother with a lazy, unpredicatable, immature, and most likely crazy young man who has nothing, but something in between his legs? In order for any woman, young or old, to respect a man, he has to prove his worth. So the next time someone says, "Why is that pretty young woman with that ugly old guy?" Know this, that ugly, old guy has proven his worth--he thinks of himself better than most, has accomplished much due to years of working on building himself up and others, while reaping the rewards from his efforts. Unwise young men, watch and learn.
Nicholl McGuire
Young women get older, older men get older. The two experience various personality changes, life challenges, and other issues over their courtship that aren't easily understood. The older man is in a different place in his life and so is his younger partner. No youthful person full of energy is going to want to retire to a life of boredom for long. Sure, money keeps anyone interested for a time, but when it isn't there like it once was, the personality has to outweigh the finances and oftentimes with many older men, they just don't have it like they use to, ask their ex-wives!
So many older individuals work for years only to retire without a plan that motivates them to keep living. They find themselves often parked in front of a television set or computer screen feeding their faces and when they aren't doing that, they are doing something else that isn't all that fulfilling. Rather than create their own personal satisfaction, outside of being tied to a relationship with a younger person, they dream. "One day I'm going to...and then I will..." Meanwhile, the body increases in size and nothing gets done.
Some younger women will tolerate the fat, old white guy or some other ethnicity for a time, because there is something or things that those men can do for them that young, immature men can't. If many of these young men heeded their fathers' instructions (and of course came from a good gene pool) just maybe more could land the older man's hot woman. But so many, look at the younger women, older men dating relationship with jealousy in their eyes like a child with his or her face pressed up against a toy store window, "I wish..." Keep wishing!
One must get his or her life together, put each piece in place and be at the right place at the right time to get noticed in order for a beautiful young woman to even think about dating him or her. Working on one's self is a process and an older man has decades of experience doing just that. He learns and then he puts what he knows into practice while an ignorant, wild young man groans, "I don't want to do that...I don't feel like it...what if...I'm outta here!" Why would any woman want to bother with a lazy, unpredicatable, immature, and most likely crazy young man who has nothing, but something in between his legs? In order for any woman, young or old, to respect a man, he has to prove his worth. So the next time someone says, "Why is that pretty young woman with that ugly old guy?" Know this, that ugly, old guy has proven his worth--he thinks of himself better than most, has accomplished much due to years of working on building himself up and others, while reaping the rewards from his efforts. Unwise young men, watch and learn.
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
Seductively Dressed Beautiful Women Lie Just as Much as Any Other
Hard to believe until it happens to you. An angel, seductively dressed to lure you to a photo and act as if she is interested in you, an older man. She lies to gain money, fame and power then boasts to friends, "Look, what I got him to buy me!" If she is a professional, it's hard to tell, her photo tells no one that she is intelligent, people-oriented and ready to do business. Rather, she sells sex. She claims that she has morals when people question who is she really after seeing her photographs. Her appearance shouts, "I am ready for the taking." While she claims she is a Christian, wholesome, fun to be around, honest, etc. But her lifestyle says something totally different. Watch out for the beautiful liars!
They are hypocrites, the all show no go, types. Now one must not assume that all scantily dressed women are up to no good, but something is up. No one bares anything covered or uncovered on or offline for nothing.
The scorned, beautiful women will orchestrate a plan to rob a millionaire of his wealth. They can put on an act, say that you said or did something that you know you didn't. You might want to record some conversations, make a copy of a dating profile, pen dates of incidents, and consult with your legal team, just in case you detect a little crazy in that gorgeous dame you met online.
Many in our society are gullible, easily charmed by beauty. They think, "How can someone so beautiful, be so treacherous?" Even with an image of Satan standing right next to the beauty queen, many men will find a way to get close enough to her to undress her despite all the warning signs, "Stay away."
Save yourself some grief, any woman whether nice-looking or not, who gives off signs that she just wants a fun time, be aware. Spend some time studying more than just her body parts.
Read Proverbs 5
Nicholl McGuire
They are hypocrites, the all show no go, types. Now one must not assume that all scantily dressed women are up to no good, but something is up. No one bares anything covered or uncovered on or offline for nothing.
The scorned, beautiful women will orchestrate a plan to rob a millionaire of his wealth. They can put on an act, say that you said or did something that you know you didn't. You might want to record some conversations, make a copy of a dating profile, pen dates of incidents, and consult with your legal team, just in case you detect a little crazy in that gorgeous dame you met online.
Many in our society are gullible, easily charmed by beauty. They think, "How can someone so beautiful, be so treacherous?" Even with an image of Satan standing right next to the beauty queen, many men will find a way to get close enough to her to undress her despite all the warning signs, "Stay away."
Save yourself some grief, any woman whether nice-looking or not, who gives off signs that she just wants a fun time, be aware. Spend some time studying more than just her body parts.
Read Proverbs 5
Nicholl McGuire
Tuesday
Wednesday
Why a Younger Woman should Date an Older Man?
Written from a male perspective.
If you are interested in joining the dating game as a younger woman looking for older men, then you are heading on the right path. Older men are more mature, have more success in life, are usually further in their careers, and are overall a better companion to be with versus a younger man. In this article you will learn why a younger woman should date an older man.
If you are interested in joining the dating game as a younger woman looking for older men, then you are heading on the right path. Older men are more mature, have more success in life, are usually further in their careers, and are overall a better companion to be with versus a younger man. In this article you will learn why a younger woman should date an older man.
Here are five reasons why you should date an older man:
1. Maturity level – Ladies let's be serious here; younger men
are just not mature. For example, having a burping
contest with your lover is not what most ladies' would consider a good time. An older man has much more mature aspects
over a younger man. This is why when you see a young woman dating an older man, chances are she finds him a more suitable match due to his confidence in who he is and knowledge of life.
2. More successful in life – Most older men who date younger
women are a bit more successful in life.
By this I mean they have goals, some own homes, have nice cars, etc. I am not saying that this
is what is important in choosing someone to date, but it shows you their
overall character as a person and as someone you want to date.
3. Further in their careers - Older men are further along in
their careers. Again this is not the end
all be all if they are not. You just might have a great lover which would make up for an unimpressive income.
4. Better companion –Older men are better companions in
life. Why? This goes back to 1, 2, and 3. They are more mature, more successful, and
further in their careers. These things
show you the character of that person and their overall companion level will be with
you.
These are just the beginning stages when you ask yourself or
someone else, why a younger woman should date an older man? Again, this is just the beginning and should not be the end of the road for some daters.
If the man you are with is younger, but treats you good, that is better
than being with an older man who does not treat you good. These are decisions only you can make for
yourself and only you will learn in time.
Nobody can tell you what you need to do or who to be with in
life. You make that call. Use this article as a guide of what to watch
out for, but do not pass on something that is better.
Friday
Being In Love or Like? There is a Difference
Sometimes when one is dating, he or she forgets that every emotion that is experienced is not love. It doesn't matter how old you are, there should be someone to speak aloud in your circle, "Hey, you just met the girl, slow down...Seriously honey, you don't even know this man!" loved ones will say. This is a good think, don't take offense.
Those of us who remember being in love, know that the feeling lasts at least six months. You can't eat or sleep without the one you love. You plan for the future ie.) marriage. You show this special person off even to your enemies. You share just about everything with this person including your drinking glass--you just love them! But when you are in like, you don't really care whether they come or go. You definitely aren't planning any future and you aren't much interested in showing this person off especially around family. You will even think twice about letting their lips touch anything you eat or drink, "I don't know where her/his lips have been?" you think.
So the next time someone or even yourself teases, "You're in love..." Know the difference.
Nicholl McGuire
Those of us who remember being in love, know that the feeling lasts at least six months. You can't eat or sleep without the one you love. You plan for the future ie.) marriage. You show this special person off even to your enemies. You share just about everything with this person including your drinking glass--you just love them! But when you are in like, you don't really care whether they come or go. You definitely aren't planning any future and you aren't much interested in showing this person off especially around family. You will even think twice about letting their lips touch anything you eat or drink, "I don't know where her/his lips have been?" you think.
So the next time someone or even yourself teases, "You're in love..." Know the difference.
Nicholl McGuire
Wednesday
What's There Not to Love About Dating Older, Dating Younger?
What's there not to love about dating older men or dating younger women? Plenty, depending on who you ask and what has been one's dating experience has been like over the years. From immaturity to boredom, there are turn-offs about dating anyone older or younger. Therefore, you must be willing to pick out what you are capable of putting up with and what is most certainly a deal-breaker.
My name is Nicholl, the creator of this site, and I can tell you that for years I have been exposed to older men very interested in dating younger women. I have personally dated my share of older men as well and married two (one I am still with to date). But as I began to exit my energetic 20s and entered into my insightful 30s, what I thought I liked about dating older men had changed and what I thought they liked about me had changed too.
You see, the more you date, the more you learn about the manipulators, liars, pimps, players, and others who have far too many personality disorders to count amongst the good guys who just want to make you happy. As a young woman, you find yourself having to put up with some old fools, for a time, because you got yourself in a situation or two that you can't immediately exit without some degree of difficulty. Then, as you mature, you realize some older men just aren't as fond of you as you might think or portray. You discover they have been with so many women physically over their years, in addition to grappling with one or two mentally, that their mental capacity for dealing with yet another new face is overloaded. You discover that some (of course not all) mature men aren't really thinking or believing in long-term relationships anymore.
There is plenty not to love about dating someone younger who is immature, unstable, and still angry with dad, her last boyfriend, and everyone else in between. Further, one just might find that his young date may be a disappointing "all show, but no go." The same holds true for the older man who naively thinks that simply decorating himself up with some nice clothes and "smell good" while filling his pockets with some cash is all that it takes to keep a young woman interested. This tactic doesn't work for the wise young ladies on the dating scene. They are going to eventually request more time, affection, attention, and love and when the old player doesn't deliver, it is on with the next one. The young lady will be looking to exit the relationship sooner rather than later.
Take the time to list everything you don't like about dating someone older or younger and then ask yourself, "What am I willing to tolerate?" Taking this moment to reflect just might help you be more selective when it comes to dating older men or younger women in the future.
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My name is Nicholl, the creator of this site, and I can tell you that for years I have been exposed to older men very interested in dating younger women. I have personally dated my share of older men as well and married two (one I am still with to date). But as I began to exit my energetic 20s and entered into my insightful 30s, what I thought I liked about dating older men had changed and what I thought they liked about me had changed too.
You see, the more you date, the more you learn about the manipulators, liars, pimps, players, and others who have far too many personality disorders to count amongst the good guys who just want to make you happy. As a young woman, you find yourself having to put up with some old fools, for a time, because you got yourself in a situation or two that you can't immediately exit without some degree of difficulty. Then, as you mature, you realize some older men just aren't as fond of you as you might think or portray. You discover they have been with so many women physically over their years, in addition to grappling with one or two mentally, that their mental capacity for dealing with yet another new face is overloaded. You discover that some (of course not all) mature men aren't really thinking or believing in long-term relationships anymore.
There is plenty not to love about dating someone younger who is immature, unstable, and still angry with dad, her last boyfriend, and everyone else in between. Further, one just might find that his young date may be a disappointing "all show, but no go." The same holds true for the older man who naively thinks that simply decorating himself up with some nice clothes and "smell good" while filling his pockets with some cash is all that it takes to keep a young woman interested. This tactic doesn't work for the wise young ladies on the dating scene. They are going to eventually request more time, affection, attention, and love and when the old player doesn't deliver, it is on with the next one. The young lady will be looking to exit the relationship sooner rather than later.
Take the time to list everything you don't like about dating someone older or younger and then ask yourself, "What am I willing to tolerate?" Taking this moment to reflect just might help you be more selective when it comes to dating older men or younger women in the future.
Nicholl McGuire contributes to this dating blog site as well, click here.
Monday
Broken Hearted Older Men with Issues - Young Women Don't Waste Your Youthful Years
He has yet to get over decades of heartbreak. The mentally-disturbed older man has his share of the following: self-esteem issues, sleep problems, sexual problems, mood swings, and weird behavior that if anyone knew, people would warn, "Keep away!" Of course, a single, young lady, who thought the older man was rather attractive during their first meeting, didn't know this about him during those times they lived separately and periodically went out on dates. But now, all hell has broken lose!
Independent young women, from around the world, tend to find out things the hard way when it comes to dating mature men. These men are skilled at being everything young women want them to be, that is until their dates sincerely get to know them. It is then when they act like fools, acting in ways that make a young woman think, "He's crazy, what did I get myself into!?"
When the young woman can finally say in confidence that she knows her older gentleman suitor, it is usually after she has been robbed of her youthful years worrying about him and what he might do or not do concerning her and possibly children! Her partner is a senior citizen behaving like a 20 plus year old leaving her feeling insecure, jealous, and angry, because he simply doesn't have his mindset and/or heart together!
"What on earth happened to my mate?" She thinks. "Why is he so grumpy? What did I do?" Don't beat yourself up with questions if you are a young woman reading this, you did no more than any other woman would do: you entertained him, did nice things, gave him good conversation, had sex with him, and became that friend he wanted. Now if the older man, with issues, can't see the benefits in being with someone like you, and has given you much grief for the things that originally won him over, then it's time to move on! Don't change who you are to suit someone who expects you to accept him for who he is.
Many young women who once were jovial in spirit, lose what little happiness they have left, because they allow a broken individual to sap their energy with his constant complaints, criticisms, and other rude behavior. Sometimes the only way a man can truly see the diamond he has seated next to him is to lose her!
There are those young women who have dated their share of older men who have mentally and/or physically scarred them over the years, that they finally arrive at a place in their lives where they don't want to date another older man 10 plus years. Good times become one too many bad times and so some of these young women will swear off dating old guys.
No matter the age, there will always be a broken hearted guy who just doesn't believe that he is a troubled individual. He will talk himself into believing that he just can't seem to find the right girl, when in fact, he is the reason why he can't seem to get along with most young ladies long term.
Perceptive young women can spot a broken, desperate old man from how he walks to how much he stares at them. The broken man doesn't think too much about how he makes others feel, because he is more concerned about controlling others to make him feel better--as if they can make him whole again. Consider this, when an older man doesn't hear the questions that a young woman asks of him and isn't interested in answering them during their dating phase, it is clear, he isn't interested in her mindset. When he doesn't take much interest in considering her suggestions for a future date, he has shown that he is a selfish individual. If this older man doesn't bother to make his date feel good by complimenting her, then he lacks compassion and is more concerned about other people and things then who she is as a person and could care less about keeping her around long term. And most of all, if he doesn't plan a future with her, then he has made it plain, she is nothing more than his "in the meantime" experience--that is until someone better comes along.
So before things, get too serious for some of you readers, recognize potential problems and know that a broken hearted older man can potentially sap the very life out of you if you aren't too careful! If you are already in such a relationship, find your peace of mind and make plans to be rid of your burden if nothing changes for the better.
Nicholl McGuire
Independent young women, from around the world, tend to find out things the hard way when it comes to dating mature men. These men are skilled at being everything young women want them to be, that is until their dates sincerely get to know them. It is then when they act like fools, acting in ways that make a young woman think, "He's crazy, what did I get myself into!?"
When the young woman can finally say in confidence that she knows her older gentleman suitor, it is usually after she has been robbed of her youthful years worrying about him and what he might do or not do concerning her and possibly children! Her partner is a senior citizen behaving like a 20 plus year old leaving her feeling insecure, jealous, and angry, because he simply doesn't have his mindset and/or heart together!
"What on earth happened to my mate?" She thinks. "Why is he so grumpy? What did I do?" Don't beat yourself up with questions if you are a young woman reading this, you did no more than any other woman would do: you entertained him, did nice things, gave him good conversation, had sex with him, and became that friend he wanted. Now if the older man, with issues, can't see the benefits in being with someone like you, and has given you much grief for the things that originally won him over, then it's time to move on! Don't change who you are to suit someone who expects you to accept him for who he is.
Many young women who once were jovial in spirit, lose what little happiness they have left, because they allow a broken individual to sap their energy with his constant complaints, criticisms, and other rude behavior. Sometimes the only way a man can truly see the diamond he has seated next to him is to lose her!
There are those young women who have dated their share of older men who have mentally and/or physically scarred them over the years, that they finally arrive at a place in their lives where they don't want to date another older man 10 plus years. Good times become one too many bad times and so some of these young women will swear off dating old guys.
No matter the age, there will always be a broken hearted guy who just doesn't believe that he is a troubled individual. He will talk himself into believing that he just can't seem to find the right girl, when in fact, he is the reason why he can't seem to get along with most young ladies long term.
Perceptive young women can spot a broken, desperate old man from how he walks to how much he stares at them. The broken man doesn't think too much about how he makes others feel, because he is more concerned about controlling others to make him feel better--as if they can make him whole again. Consider this, when an older man doesn't hear the questions that a young woman asks of him and isn't interested in answering them during their dating phase, it is clear, he isn't interested in her mindset. When he doesn't take much interest in considering her suggestions for a future date, he has shown that he is a selfish individual. If this older man doesn't bother to make his date feel good by complimenting her, then he lacks compassion and is more concerned about other people and things then who she is as a person and could care less about keeping her around long term. And most of all, if he doesn't plan a future with her, then he has made it plain, she is nothing more than his "in the meantime" experience--that is until someone better comes along.
So before things, get too serious for some of you readers, recognize potential problems and know that a broken hearted older man can potentially sap the very life out of you if you aren't too careful! If you are already in such a relationship, find your peace of mind and make plans to be rid of your burden if nothing changes for the better.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
Friday
7 Vaginal Health Issues Every Woman Should Know
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Thursday
Plenty of Reasons Why Older Men Date Younger Women, But Middle-Age Issues Live On
So older men date younger women for a variety of reasons from Boaz marrying Ruth to protect a family name to a relative simply liking a young lady and wanting to take care of her--no big deal, right? Right. But what if upon closer inspection some of those male mid-life blues start to show up coupled with issues he has carried from the last relationship with a menopausal woman, now what? The young woman has her work cut out for her--that's what! She has to be strong, focused, love herself, determined to make the relationship work (that is if she loves her partner) and have a support system that will advise her when things don't look good in the relationship.
I thought of this topic yet again (already wrote about it in the past on other sites and this one) as to why a man dates younger when I noticed many middle-aged women (both on and offline) behaving immaturely (ie. dressing inappropriately, cursing, fighting unnecessarily with partners)--purposely acting like young women in an attempt to keep their man's attention. However, deep inside these middle-aged women feel jilted, angry, and jealous about the relationship between those "cradle-robbers," as they put it, and " young thangs." These women's snarky comments, reveal a lot about their insecurities, unresolved issues, and more.
Men who date younger have spoken online and other places saying, "they don't like to feel old, menopausal women make them feel old." I guess if one complains often about their aches it can be a turn-off. I have heard menopausal women share a long list of issues with their co-workers about things like: vaginal dryness, weight gain, mood disorders--you name it! So if they are talking about these things at work, I can only imagine how much more they are sharing with partners!
I would also assume that if a woman isn't taking care of herself both inside and out, her man is going to stray. He is not going to keep being understanding if his wife/girlfriend keeps telling him, "I'm sorry I can't have sex tonight...these hot flashes are killing me...don't touch me. Leave me alone!" A weak man is going to eventually lust or look for a woman who he hopes will make him feel better than the last. He is going to watch for the woman who doesn't have as many women issues as those who are more mature. Remember,the old adage, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks?" This is also true for the mature women as well.
Some mature men grow weary of telling so-called responsible women (both young and old) to take care of themselves. Notice I didn't say all. From smelly (you know what) to managing money, women who don't take heed to advice that their mother may have told them or should have, will not keep any man around for long!
Being that I am not middle-aged yet and not considered youthful either by societal standards, I can date men both young and old (since my face and body at times is deceiving for some), I am personally indifferent to the topic of dating older and younger now that I am headed for the big 40, yet I do like to write about it and share my observations. But really, who are the individuals who get a rise when the topic of older men, dating younger women arises? Scorned middle-aged mothers and daughters, they care. "Dad left mom for a younger woman who's like my age, wtf!?" Her mom yells, "Go back to that baby, you call a girlfriend, Pig, Chester the Molester!"
These women care a whole lot! The insecure wife is often left alone while her husband plays with the twenty-something year olds who could care less that the man is married. Mom, on low self-esteem, hurts inside because she once looked a certain way and now thanks to society, she is forced to try to work on a face that is no longer holding make-up well. She despises her body shape and will often comment about others being "...so small...Look at her...I wish I had her body..." Meanwhile, her daughter just doesn't see men in the same way. She wonders what the future holds. She is angered that the young lady is old enough to be her friend. She thinks, "Why is my dad so stupid?" Hormones played an impact on dad's decision-making especially if the young woman is old enough to be his daughter. Sure, there were other reasons that made him like the girl, but most assuredly a mentally stable man, who has a relatively good life and his relationship has very few issues, is not going to suddenly abandon it for a young woman. But unstable men do it all the time and cover up the true reasons with a barrage of mainstream excuses. The ignorant overlook the deception and don't bother to think deeply about the topic. "So it happens, old guy, young lady, who cares?" They dismiss all reasoning; instead, some just say, "S$%t happens." While they move on, middle-age issues live on.
Nicholl McGuire
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I thought of this topic yet again (already wrote about it in the past on other sites and this one) as to why a man dates younger when I noticed many middle-aged women (both on and offline) behaving immaturely (ie. dressing inappropriately, cursing, fighting unnecessarily with partners)--purposely acting like young women in an attempt to keep their man's attention. However, deep inside these middle-aged women feel jilted, angry, and jealous about the relationship between those "cradle-robbers," as they put it, and " young thangs." These women's snarky comments, reveal a lot about their insecurities, unresolved issues, and more.
Men who date younger have spoken online and other places saying, "they don't like to feel old, menopausal women make them feel old." I guess if one complains often about their aches it can be a turn-off. I have heard menopausal women share a long list of issues with their co-workers about things like: vaginal dryness, weight gain, mood disorders--you name it! So if they are talking about these things at work, I can only imagine how much more they are sharing with partners!
I would also assume that if a woman isn't taking care of herself both inside and out, her man is going to stray. He is not going to keep being understanding if his wife/girlfriend keeps telling him, "I'm sorry I can't have sex tonight...these hot flashes are killing me...don't touch me. Leave me alone!" A weak man is going to eventually lust or look for a woman who he hopes will make him feel better than the last. He is going to watch for the woman who doesn't have as many women issues as those who are more mature. Remember,the old adage, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks?" This is also true for the mature women as well.
Some mature men grow weary of telling so-called responsible women (both young and old) to take care of themselves. Notice I didn't say all. From smelly (you know what) to managing money, women who don't take heed to advice that their mother may have told them or should have, will not keep any man around for long!
Being that I am not middle-aged yet and not considered youthful either by societal standards, I can date men both young and old (since my face and body at times is deceiving for some), I am personally indifferent to the topic of dating older and younger now that I am headed for the big 40, yet I do like to write about it and share my observations. But really, who are the individuals who get a rise when the topic of older men, dating younger women arises? Scorned middle-aged mothers and daughters, they care. "Dad left mom for a younger woman who's like my age, wtf!?" Her mom yells, "Go back to that baby, you call a girlfriend, Pig, Chester the Molester!"
These women care a whole lot! The insecure wife is often left alone while her husband plays with the twenty-something year olds who could care less that the man is married. Mom, on low self-esteem, hurts inside because she once looked a certain way and now thanks to society, she is forced to try to work on a face that is no longer holding make-up well. She despises her body shape and will often comment about others being "...so small...Look at her...I wish I had her body..." Meanwhile, her daughter just doesn't see men in the same way. She wonders what the future holds. She is angered that the young lady is old enough to be her friend. She thinks, "Why is my dad so stupid?" Hormones played an impact on dad's decision-making especially if the young woman is old enough to be his daughter. Sure, there were other reasons that made him like the girl, but most assuredly a mentally stable man, who has a relatively good life and his relationship has very few issues, is not going to suddenly abandon it for a young woman. But unstable men do it all the time and cover up the true reasons with a barrage of mainstream excuses. The ignorant overlook the deception and don't bother to think deeply about the topic. "So it happens, old guy, young lady, who cares?" They dismiss all reasoning; instead, some just say, "S$%t happens." While they move on, middle-age issues live on.
Nicholl McGuire
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Wednesday
Sunday
7 Signs an Age-Gap Relationship is Over
You might have noticed a partner isn't acting like he or she is interested in staying in a relationship with you. However, you don't want to assume the worse unless you see the following signs.
1. He/she often complains about the other, to not only family and friends, but strangers too.
Jokes, insults and other statements that make one angry come up all-too-often. One's partner feels like he or she is not liked much less loved. When feelings of upset are mentioned, the offending one acts uncaring and doesn't acknowledge his or her partner's concerns.
2. He/she has feelings of regret having met the other.
"I knew she was too young...I should have listened to my family--he's too old." The thoughts plague one's mind to the point where there are feelings of discontent and regret left behind.
3. There is a disconnect when conversing about important matters.
From topics about one's plans to issues about a job, when the couple talks to one another there is no attempt at making one another feel comfortable and secure in the relationship. Statements like: "I don't get you...You don't understand...why do I bother talking to you..." increasingly come up during discussions.
4. Plans of a future together are discontinued or no longer discussed.
When someone mentions marriage, children, buying a house, moving in together, etc., the couple isn't the least bit interested. They have avoided all communication about being together long-term, if anything, they are planning to break up in the near future.
5. Frequent disputes including threats or violent attacks.
Unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment have taken root. No matter how hard they try, nothing helps. They think about paying one another back for the last incident that left one or both with hurt feelings.
6. Thoughts of cheating increase or has already been done repeatedly.
Everyone else looks better than one's mate. So thoughts of a new relationship with someone else are heavy on the mind if he or she hasn't already begun the process.
7. Lies and cover-ups about one's feelings gradually stop occurring.
The liar or cheat starts getting sloppy with their cover-ups and false story-telling. They are showing no signs of wanting to stay in a relationship.
Once it is confirmed in your mind, body and spirit that your girlfriend or guyfriend isn't interested in you anymore, move on with your life. Save yourself the drama of make-up to break up. When a man or woman is no longer interested in being with one's current partner, things only get worse, they don't get any better no matter how many promises are made.
Nicholl McGuire
1. He/she often complains about the other, to not only family and friends, but strangers too.
Jokes, insults and other statements that make one angry come up all-too-often. One's partner feels like he or she is not liked much less loved. When feelings of upset are mentioned, the offending one acts uncaring and doesn't acknowledge his or her partner's concerns.
2. He/she has feelings of regret having met the other.
"I knew she was too young...I should have listened to my family--he's too old." The thoughts plague one's mind to the point where there are feelings of discontent and regret left behind.
3. There is a disconnect when conversing about important matters.
From topics about one's plans to issues about a job, when the couple talks to one another there is no attempt at making one another feel comfortable and secure in the relationship. Statements like: "I don't get you...You don't understand...why do I bother talking to you..." increasingly come up during discussions.
4. Plans of a future together are discontinued or no longer discussed.
When someone mentions marriage, children, buying a house, moving in together, etc., the couple isn't the least bit interested. They have avoided all communication about being together long-term, if anything, they are planning to break up in the near future.
5. Frequent disputes including threats or violent attacks.
Unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment have taken root. No matter how hard they try, nothing helps. They think about paying one another back for the last incident that left one or both with hurt feelings.
6. Thoughts of cheating increase or has already been done repeatedly.
Everyone else looks better than one's mate. So thoughts of a new relationship with someone else are heavy on the mind if he or she hasn't already begun the process.
7. Lies and cover-ups about one's feelings gradually stop occurring.
The liar or cheat starts getting sloppy with their cover-ups and false story-telling. They are showing no signs of wanting to stay in a relationship.
Once it is confirmed in your mind, body and spirit that your girlfriend or guyfriend isn't interested in you anymore, move on with your life. Save yourself the drama of make-up to break up. When a man or woman is no longer interested in being with one's current partner, things only get worse, they don't get any better no matter how many promises are made.
Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Last Minute Valentine's Day Gifts for a Young Woman
Most men will show up at a lady friend's door with flowers and candy, this is still a hit with most women. However, what if she has allergies and chocolate isn't her favorite candy? Here are simple, inexpensive gifts to make her smile.
1. Something she has often mentioned and still has yet to buy. For the men who pay close attention to their dates, try getting a few of those inexpensive things and then include a Valentine's Day card mentioning that, "I was listening when you said you needed..."
2. A cute box to hold future clutter with something inside like a decorative picture frame of the two of you is memorable. Include a card.
3. His and hers anything with a note. From a couple of pretty wine glasses to a quality towel set, these items say, "I still believe in our relationship..."
4. Costume jewelry is only good when it does have lots of gold and other paint on it that can easily come off. Look closely for signs of tarnishing. Also, keep in mind, that if she doesn't typically wear beaded items, decorative charms, etc. and has skin allergies, don't take the chance buying cheaply made items.
5. Valentine's day is also a good time to pass on a family heirloom for committed couples--not those who are just getting to know one another.
6. Create a handmade card and include a bottle of perfume that you would like to smell on her.
7. Purchase a gift card to her favorite store, nail or beauty shop.
8. Write a letter and include an I.O.U. coupon promising to take her to an outing, perform a service, or something else since you forgot to plan for the holiday.
Other things include: balloons, stuffed animals, a pretty red or pink shirt, an accessory by a favorite designer, a book of a favorite celebrity, something engraved with her name on it...
Remember, these are items you would give someone you are just getting to know. But women who have been around for years, you will have to do better! Electronics, gold or sterling silver jewelry, birthstones, airplane tickets, money, pay off a bill, help with chores for the day--unexpected things always blow them away!
Have a Happy Valentines Day!
Nicholl McGuire
1. Something she has often mentioned and still has yet to buy. For the men who pay close attention to their dates, try getting a few of those inexpensive things and then include a Valentine's Day card mentioning that, "I was listening when you said you needed..."
2. A cute box to hold future clutter with something inside like a decorative picture frame of the two of you is memorable. Include a card.
3. His and hers anything with a note. From a couple of pretty wine glasses to a quality towel set, these items say, "I still believe in our relationship..."
4. Costume jewelry is only good when it does have lots of gold and other paint on it that can easily come off. Look closely for signs of tarnishing. Also, keep in mind, that if she doesn't typically wear beaded items, decorative charms, etc. and has skin allergies, don't take the chance buying cheaply made items.
5. Valentine's day is also a good time to pass on a family heirloom for committed couples--not those who are just getting to know one another.
6. Create a handmade card and include a bottle of perfume that you would like to smell on her.
7. Purchase a gift card to her favorite store, nail or beauty shop.
8. Write a letter and include an I.O.U. coupon promising to take her to an outing, perform a service, or something else since you forgot to plan for the holiday.
Other things include: balloons, stuffed animals, a pretty red or pink shirt, an accessory by a favorite designer, a book of a favorite celebrity, something engraved with her name on it...
Remember, these are items you would give someone you are just getting to know. But women who have been around for years, you will have to do better! Electronics, gold or sterling silver jewelry, birthstones, airplane tickets, money, pay off a bill, help with chores for the day--unexpected things always blow them away!
Have a Happy Valentines Day!
Nicholl McGuire
How to Date an Older Man
Over 40 plus male interested in a youthful beauty in her 20s, but his eye candy doesn't have a clue on how to date older men. So she acts strangely, distant, and even nervous when he talks to her.
There really isn't anything that different when it comes to dating a man, young or old. Of course, most personalities, social class, political views, appearance, and other things are different, but simple communication is basic. So choose to focus on that rather than everything else that society has bombarded you with.
"What's your name? How are you? What do you like to do? Would you like to go out sometime?" says the older gentleman. His approach isn't complex. The young woman can say, "Yes..." or "No..." real simple, right? Well for some young women, they act as if there is something so different in dating an older man to the point that they worry themselves. While out on a date, it is obvious that some are uncomfortable and lack confidence. One can shake off feelings of worry by talking about the atmosphere, sharing details about interests, and asking questions while smiling and laughing at a joke or two.
Older men who have dated much, know how to put their dates at ease. This is key in having a good time while on a date. They may say something shocking to get a reaction or joke about someone standing nearby. Most know not to stare at their dates as if they want to undress her at the moment or make statements that only make a date want to run and hide. Men who are confident in who they are and really want to make a great impression on their young dates will take it slow. There is no rush to be anywhere. They have made the time to listen to a long story. They enjoy getting to know their young beauties.
Things to consider when dating someone more mature.
1. Don't think of him as someone so important, so smart, and so whatever else that you can't have a simple conversation with him.
2. Forget about what you think you know about him. Ask questions to find out more. "What is your profession? Can it be challenging, how so? Do you hope to do something else in the future? What are some things that you have accomplished in your life that you are most proud of?" These questions and more will open up a quality dialogue.
3. Don't assume he has dated so many sweet, nice, and intelligent women that you are less than acceptable to date someone of his social class or age. Think: if he had so much success with women why is he still single? He is flawed like you, so be prepared for anything.
4. Don't say "Yes" when you really mean "No." Before you date anyone, you should already have personal boundaries established. Tell yourself, "I don't know this person well enough to kiss, have sex, commit to a relationship, etc." This way you won't be caught off guard if he should attempt to persuade you to go to bed with him. Also, don't say "Yes" to impress when you know nothing about a topic, a certain food, a location, etc. He will find out eventually that you are lying.
5. Talk about things that matter to you and watch his reaction. Players will digress from serious topics. They are more concerned about getting physical needs met and not how you feel about your job, family, and other important things.
6. From a restaurant to a private spot to make-out, avoid going anywhere you don't feel comfortable. The skill level of gaining a woman's trust is very good with a mature man, so good, that a young, gullible woman just might fall for anything. So when in doubt, don't continue to go out.
7. Stay away from conversation about your past boyfriends, jokes about mid-life, and things you know that if he was to bring up certain topics you might be offended.
The more knowledge you have about mature gentlemen, the better! You will find that one's worries about dating someone older were unnecessary. Tell yourself, "I am good enough to date any man of status. I am intelligent, beautiful, and am going places in life. I'm just as interesting, if not more, than my date. I deserve to be heard." Stating positive affirmations before going out on a date while viewing one's self in the mirror are empowering!
Have a great time!
Nicholl McGuire writes more tips on dating here.
There really isn't anything that different when it comes to dating a man, young or old. Of course, most personalities, social class, political views, appearance, and other things are different, but simple communication is basic. So choose to focus on that rather than everything else that society has bombarded you with.
"What's your name? How are you? What do you like to do? Would you like to go out sometime?" says the older gentleman. His approach isn't complex. The young woman can say, "Yes..." or "No..." real simple, right? Well for some young women, they act as if there is something so different in dating an older man to the point that they worry themselves. While out on a date, it is obvious that some are uncomfortable and lack confidence. One can shake off feelings of worry by talking about the atmosphere, sharing details about interests, and asking questions while smiling and laughing at a joke or two.
Older men who have dated much, know how to put their dates at ease. This is key in having a good time while on a date. They may say something shocking to get a reaction or joke about someone standing nearby. Most know not to stare at their dates as if they want to undress her at the moment or make statements that only make a date want to run and hide. Men who are confident in who they are and really want to make a great impression on their young dates will take it slow. There is no rush to be anywhere. They have made the time to listen to a long story. They enjoy getting to know their young beauties.
Things to consider when dating someone more mature.
1. Don't think of him as someone so important, so smart, and so whatever else that you can't have a simple conversation with him.
2. Forget about what you think you know about him. Ask questions to find out more. "What is your profession? Can it be challenging, how so? Do you hope to do something else in the future? What are some things that you have accomplished in your life that you are most proud of?" These questions and more will open up a quality dialogue.
3. Don't assume he has dated so many sweet, nice, and intelligent women that you are less than acceptable to date someone of his social class or age. Think: if he had so much success with women why is he still single? He is flawed like you, so be prepared for anything.
4. Don't say "Yes" when you really mean "No." Before you date anyone, you should already have personal boundaries established. Tell yourself, "I don't know this person well enough to kiss, have sex, commit to a relationship, etc." This way you won't be caught off guard if he should attempt to persuade you to go to bed with him. Also, don't say "Yes" to impress when you know nothing about a topic, a certain food, a location, etc. He will find out eventually that you are lying.
5. Talk about things that matter to you and watch his reaction. Players will digress from serious topics. They are more concerned about getting physical needs met and not how you feel about your job, family, and other important things.
6. From a restaurant to a private spot to make-out, avoid going anywhere you don't feel comfortable. The skill level of gaining a woman's trust is very good with a mature man, so good, that a young, gullible woman just might fall for anything. So when in doubt, don't continue to go out.
7. Stay away from conversation about your past boyfriends, jokes about mid-life, and things you know that if he was to bring up certain topics you might be offended.
The more knowledge you have about mature gentlemen, the better! You will find that one's worries about dating someone older were unnecessary. Tell yourself, "I am good enough to date any man of status. I am intelligent, beautiful, and am going places in life. I'm just as interesting, if not more, than my date. I deserve to be heard." Stating positive affirmations before going out on a date while viewing one's self in the mirror are empowering!
Have a great time!
Nicholl McGuire writes more tips on dating here.
Thursday
His Wife Ended the Relationship for Good Reason - He's Far from Perfect
"That is just so wrong what she did to you...you are a good guy...well, that's okay, I'm not like her," says the young woman who doesn't know any better. She believes that because she is in the middle-aged man's life that all will be okay, but will it? Rather than be critical or assume falsely she was a bad ex, a wise young woman would ask herself, "What did the ex-husband do to drive the poor woman insane?" Then she would be observant of everything the man is doing and saying to her and others while making a determination whether or not she could tolerate her lover in the long-term.
The ex-wife (or wives) drove him out the family home for reasons beyond what those closest to the former couple knows. She signed the divorce papers with good cause. There was something wrong, terribly wrong with the man she once fell in love with and she could no longer subject herself to her former husband's abusive ways. Abuse comes in many forms besides physical--a person can only put up with so much before the mind and body beg to be rid of The Problem.
Often the talk of male midlife crisis comes up when an older man dates a younger woman, but what rarely is mentioned in troubled relationships is personality disorders. You may have welcomed a broken man into your life who has yet to unveil his true colors. From bipolar disorder to schizophrenia, there are many 40 plus men with mental issues, in addition to male midlife challenges, that are too complex to deal with for an ex-wife much less a young lover. These men may have even stumped a few doctors over the years with all their problems.
Sometimes young women will speculate on how and why things ended in their mate's last relationship based on what he says. However, as she learns more about his past, she discovers that there was really more to her lover's reasons for the break up than what he cared to mention.
Personality disorders aren't to be taken lightly. They can't be dismissed when they manifest themselves under great stress then stick around a lot longer than expected. Men tend to do many unorthodox things when they can't get a grip on what is happening on the inside of their mind, body and spirit and aren't much interested in getting necessary help. What's worse, busy people, with full schedules, don't see the signs a relative or friend is indeed falling apart. Others choose to ignore these troubled males, because they don't want to take on yet another burden. They say, "He will be okay...I will just pray about...I hope he doesn't hurt anyone. Maybe he will break up with his new lady friend before she learns how he truly is."
The menopausal wife who decided to give her ex the walking papers decided to deal with her own issues apart from a troubled husband. She refused to keep assisting someone who may have hurt her very badly all the while refusing to change.
The young woman might want to think twice about her older date's history before committing. If she should make a rash decision, she may learn later that she indeed bit off more than she could chew. If one reading this has mental issues, be honest with your partner, take necessary medications/vitamin supplements and don't expect someone to be the cure all for your emotional and hormonal issues.
For others dating older, pay attention to signs that an older man has a personality disorder by doing things like:
1. Watching the way he looks at you. Does his stare make you feel uncomfortable to the point that you want to get out of his presence?
2. Do you fight with thoughts inside your mind of staying with him or breaking up?
3. Do you often find yourself being blamed by him for things you didn't think or do?
4. Does he frequently put words in your mouth or twist your communication?
5. Is he controlling and forbids you to go places or see certain people?
6. Does he fight with you about things that shouldn't matter much like a simple statement or comment to help him?
7. Does he have subtle or bold quirks about him or strange mannerisms that others would say, "There's something not quite right with him."
Anger outbursts, silent treatment, pressure that keeps you tensed/emotional, false accusations, sneaky or unexplainable behavior, sexual problems, and frequent lying are all signs that there is definitely something wrong with a friend.
Nicholl McGuire
The ex-wife (or wives) drove him out the family home for reasons beyond what those closest to the former couple knows. She signed the divorce papers with good cause. There was something wrong, terribly wrong with the man she once fell in love with and she could no longer subject herself to her former husband's abusive ways. Abuse comes in many forms besides physical--a person can only put up with so much before the mind and body beg to be rid of The Problem.
Often the talk of male midlife crisis comes up when an older man dates a younger woman, but what rarely is mentioned in troubled relationships is personality disorders. You may have welcomed a broken man into your life who has yet to unveil his true colors. From bipolar disorder to schizophrenia, there are many 40 plus men with mental issues, in addition to male midlife challenges, that are too complex to deal with for an ex-wife much less a young lover. These men may have even stumped a few doctors over the years with all their problems.
Sometimes young women will speculate on how and why things ended in their mate's last relationship based on what he says. However, as she learns more about his past, she discovers that there was really more to her lover's reasons for the break up than what he cared to mention.
Personality disorders aren't to be taken lightly. They can't be dismissed when they manifest themselves under great stress then stick around a lot longer than expected. Men tend to do many unorthodox things when they can't get a grip on what is happening on the inside of their mind, body and spirit and aren't much interested in getting necessary help. What's worse, busy people, with full schedules, don't see the signs a relative or friend is indeed falling apart. Others choose to ignore these troubled males, because they don't want to take on yet another burden. They say, "He will be okay...I will just pray about...I hope he doesn't hurt anyone. Maybe he will break up with his new lady friend before she learns how he truly is."
The menopausal wife who decided to give her ex the walking papers decided to deal with her own issues apart from a troubled husband. She refused to keep assisting someone who may have hurt her very badly all the while refusing to change.
The young woman might want to think twice about her older date's history before committing. If she should make a rash decision, she may learn later that she indeed bit off more than she could chew. If one reading this has mental issues, be honest with your partner, take necessary medications/vitamin supplements and don't expect someone to be the cure all for your emotional and hormonal issues.
For others dating older, pay attention to signs that an older man has a personality disorder by doing things like:
1. Watching the way he looks at you. Does his stare make you feel uncomfortable to the point that you want to get out of his presence?
2. Do you fight with thoughts inside your mind of staying with him or breaking up?
3. Do you often find yourself being blamed by him for things you didn't think or do?
4. Does he frequently put words in your mouth or twist your communication?
5. Is he controlling and forbids you to go places or see certain people?
6. Does he fight with you about things that shouldn't matter much like a simple statement or comment to help him?
7. Does he have subtle or bold quirks about him or strange mannerisms that others would say, "There's something not quite right with him."
Anger outbursts, silent treatment, pressure that keeps you tensed/emotional, false accusations, sneaky or unexplainable behavior, sexual problems, and frequent lying are all signs that there is definitely something wrong with a friend.
Nicholl McGuire
Is it Really Love or Societal Brainwashing? Making Boys out of Grown Men
"If I am more concerned about the way I look and feel while making someone else happy who just so happens to be younger than me, then I am going to overlook those people and things around me that don't feed my ego--no matter how important they might be to me." Sounds like a little crazy thinking, huh? Well, the selfish, arrogant, mid-life male has an interesting way of reasoning why he does what he does. "I need love, I need someone to appreciate me...and by God, I'm going to find her!" How about thinking like this, "I am unhappy right now about many things and rather than focus on someone else or something else making me happy, I choose to focus internally on a broken me, how might I be able to fix me?" Sometimes it is simply a trip to the doctor that helps, a moment with one's Creator, and a supportive network of others who are solving their woes.
Let's face it, we all are aging, even the young women out there, but what seems to be happening is this fight to look and feel younger is messing with many supposedly mature men's minds to the point that they are losing jobs, money, marriages, relationships with children, and more!
I have read comment after comment on various sites about 50 plus year old men finding 20 something young women "compatible, fun, sexy," etc. It is nice to read that many men have found a compatible partner that "...gets me," so some say. However, are they really in love or is it lust? If we were to interview these same men who have been dating for a month, or a year or more later, will they still feel head-over-heels in like/love for their young mates?
With so much media hype about defying age, one can easily band aid one's crisis with someone or something that doesn't remind him or her, "You are getting old..." there are more than enough options. It doesn't help matters when you don't have supportive people around you. Older women tend to make less than uplifiting comments about aging, mature friends will joke about getting older, and even young people will tease the middle-aged about what they look like, but for some men it is no laughing matter about growing older, so they defy it by doing just about anything that says, "You still got it, man!"
Many mature men aren't interested in young women simply because they don't want to take advantage of them, they are like daughters in their eyes. These men consider themselves wise and aren't the least bit interested in seeking a fountain of youth. They love their wives, appreciate their sons and daughters, and are content with who they are--gray hair and all! Some mid-life men who aren't so blessed to have a family that is still intact, refuse to allow media brainwashing to make them feel like they ought to find someone younger to complete them, so they too opt out of the age gap dating scene.
When one is in love, of course, age doesn't matter, flaws are of little concern, and one is enamored with all there is, beauty, brains, body--you name it! But every now and then, the idea will pop up in a mid-life man's mind that his young partner will awake to a harsh reality. "He just is too old for me...he isn't what I had in mind...what am I missing out on by being with him...how much longer will he be able to satisfy me sexually? I think my parents are right, he's just too d*mn old!"
One must contemplate whether a May-December relationship is just that, meant to be only months long, rather than years. Tricks are for kids and one who is maturing and aware that time is important, doesn't want to play any games with his life. Yet, society plays mind games on many middle-aged men by telling them to do things like: watch games made for boys, play games made for boys, buy boys' toys, and sit amongst The Boys. So if one is so focused on activities made for boys, where does a mature woman fit in? She doesn't. So off he goes with the girlfriend meant for a boy not for a man--get it? Thinking back, what do most young adult boys do anyway? Lust after young girls then have sex with them. They play a sport or two, work a job, spend money on an expensive toy, drink alcohol, travel, and do it all over again tomorrow without a care--that is until the following happens: someone says, "I love you!" She contracts an STD, says she's pregnant, wants to get married, asks for one's money or wants to drive his car, now the adult boy is forced to become a man. Now what he does with that young woman, during those trials, will determine how much of a man he truly is-- age is irrelevant. "I don't know what to do...why didn't you protect yourself...who were you sleeping with...you aren't getting my money...you aren't driving my car...you're not my wife...I'm not marrying you!" The adult boy, full of regret, plays the blame game, looks for an escape, and acts selfishly. This is why he can't last with a woman his own age, the mind has yet to mature. And how will it, when he constantly permits himself to be programmed by people and systems who are unsupportive of the natural aging process?
We must all take some time to question our motives, our feelings, and why we do what we do. For some mature men, young women lose their shine after awhile, especially when some ladies can see through an adult boy's games. They know when they are being played, and sooner or later they will either create a game of their own or bail out. Some mature men lose their shine because they just don't get the younger women particularly the wise ones. However, young women don't become wise overnight and neither do adult boys who still have a lot of growing up to do! Both need time to understand who they are before they can understand one another and they must also recognize when they are being brainwashed by the powers that be. Is he really having a male midlife? Is she really seeking a father figure?
In closing, men: avoid the "boys will be boys" mentality coupled with age defiance, and get real with yourself, your family, and that one you claim you love!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of many books. She is looking to advance her virtual assistant role and small self-publishing business in the near future. Learn more here. Angel investors are welcome!
Let's face it, we all are aging, even the young women out there, but what seems to be happening is this fight to look and feel younger is messing with many supposedly mature men's minds to the point that they are losing jobs, money, marriages, relationships with children, and more!
I have read comment after comment on various sites about 50 plus year old men finding 20 something young women "compatible, fun, sexy," etc. It is nice to read that many men have found a compatible partner that "...gets me," so some say. However, are they really in love or is it lust? If we were to interview these same men who have been dating for a month, or a year or more later, will they still feel head-over-heels in like/love for their young mates?
With so much media hype about defying age, one can easily band aid one's crisis with someone or something that doesn't remind him or her, "You are getting old..." there are more than enough options. It doesn't help matters when you don't have supportive people around you. Older women tend to make less than uplifiting comments about aging, mature friends will joke about getting older, and even young people will tease the middle-aged about what they look like, but for some men it is no laughing matter about growing older, so they defy it by doing just about anything that says, "You still got it, man!"
Many mature men aren't interested in young women simply because they don't want to take advantage of them, they are like daughters in their eyes. These men consider themselves wise and aren't the least bit interested in seeking a fountain of youth. They love their wives, appreciate their sons and daughters, and are content with who they are--gray hair and all! Some mid-life men who aren't so blessed to have a family that is still intact, refuse to allow media brainwashing to make them feel like they ought to find someone younger to complete them, so they too opt out of the age gap dating scene.
When one is in love, of course, age doesn't matter, flaws are of little concern, and one is enamored with all there is, beauty, brains, body--you name it! But every now and then, the idea will pop up in a mid-life man's mind that his young partner will awake to a harsh reality. "He just is too old for me...he isn't what I had in mind...what am I missing out on by being with him...how much longer will he be able to satisfy me sexually? I think my parents are right, he's just too d*mn old!"
One must contemplate whether a May-December relationship is just that, meant to be only months long, rather than years. Tricks are for kids and one who is maturing and aware that time is important, doesn't want to play any games with his life. Yet, society plays mind games on many middle-aged men by telling them to do things like: watch games made for boys, play games made for boys, buy boys' toys, and sit amongst The Boys. So if one is so focused on activities made for boys, where does a mature woman fit in? She doesn't. So off he goes with the girlfriend meant for a boy not for a man--get it? Thinking back, what do most young adult boys do anyway? Lust after young girls then have sex with them. They play a sport or two, work a job, spend money on an expensive toy, drink alcohol, travel, and do it all over again tomorrow without a care--that is until the following happens: someone says, "I love you!" She contracts an STD, says she's pregnant, wants to get married, asks for one's money or wants to drive his car, now the adult boy is forced to become a man. Now what he does with that young woman, during those trials, will determine how much of a man he truly is-- age is irrelevant. "I don't know what to do...why didn't you protect yourself...who were you sleeping with...you aren't getting my money...you aren't driving my car...you're not my wife...I'm not marrying you!" The adult boy, full of regret, plays the blame game, looks for an escape, and acts selfishly. This is why he can't last with a woman his own age, the mind has yet to mature. And how will it, when he constantly permits himself to be programmed by people and systems who are unsupportive of the natural aging process?
We must all take some time to question our motives, our feelings, and why we do what we do. For some mature men, young women lose their shine after awhile, especially when some ladies can see through an adult boy's games. They know when they are being played, and sooner or later they will either create a game of their own or bail out. Some mature men lose their shine because they just don't get the younger women particularly the wise ones. However, young women don't become wise overnight and neither do adult boys who still have a lot of growing up to do! Both need time to understand who they are before they can understand one another and they must also recognize when they are being brainwashed by the powers that be. Is he really having a male midlife? Is she really seeking a father figure?
In closing, men: avoid the "boys will be boys" mentality coupled with age defiance, and get real with yourself, your family, and that one you claim you love!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of many books. She is looking to advance her virtual assistant role and small self-publishing business in the near future. Learn more here. Angel investors are welcome!
Tuesday
Monday
Friday
Age-Gap Dating: He's Old, Your Not -- So What's the Problem?
There is no age on love. When you love someone you just do, there are no disclaimers, no shallow reasons, and no convincing oneself through affirmations! You aren't focused on what the person looks like; rather you are more concerned with how your special someone makes you feel. However, when the person isn't doing his or her part to make you feel special, you will begin to see flaws--all of them. In time, the person's weaknesses become what's important rather than everything else if you don't keep things in proper perspective--you aren't perfect either!
An older man may have his own personal identity crisis due to the aging process complete with erratic hormone levels and the like. Sometimes he takes his issues out on his youthful beauty, other times he doesn't. Problems arise in the relationship when there is the up and down roller coaster ride of emotions that might be triggered for any number of reasons. One day the mature man is confident in the relationship the next, he is not. Although age might not be a factor (just yet) with the young woman, it may be an issue with him. The young woman isn't aging as quickly as the older man. She isn't experiencing any mid-life crisis. She has very few, if any, unresolved issues from the past. Her debt isn't any where near his. Jealousy just might rear it's ugly head with some insecure, older men.
Witnesses who interact with the couple might see some things that they don't see in the couple's relationship. If the older man is acting in ways that make the young woman consider things like breaking up, there is cause for concern. Despite her youthful age and look, she might be feeling like the trouble of being with someone older just isn't worth it no matter how much money, notoriety or other things her older partner might have.
If you find yourself going through a myriad of emotions related to his age, think about whether dating an older man with his own set of personal hangups is really something you can tolerate long-term in addition to everything else you might be dealing with in your life.
Nicholl McGuire
An older man may have his own personal identity crisis due to the aging process complete with erratic hormone levels and the like. Sometimes he takes his issues out on his youthful beauty, other times he doesn't. Problems arise in the relationship when there is the up and down roller coaster ride of emotions that might be triggered for any number of reasons. One day the mature man is confident in the relationship the next, he is not. Although age might not be a factor (just yet) with the young woman, it may be an issue with him. The young woman isn't aging as quickly as the older man. She isn't experiencing any mid-life crisis. She has very few, if any, unresolved issues from the past. Her debt isn't any where near his. Jealousy just might rear it's ugly head with some insecure, older men.
Witnesses who interact with the couple might see some things that they don't see in the couple's relationship. If the older man is acting in ways that make the young woman consider things like breaking up, there is cause for concern. Despite her youthful age and look, she might be feeling like the trouble of being with someone older just isn't worth it no matter how much money, notoriety or other things her older partner might have.
If you find yourself going through a myriad of emotions related to his age, think about whether dating an older man with his own set of personal hangups is really something you can tolerate long-term in addition to everything else you might be dealing with in your life.
Nicholl McGuire
Thursday
When a Relative Says " No Way" to Dating the Old Dude
Not everyone in the family will be supportive of a young woman dating an older fellow. When this happens, it makes it difficult to focus on the relationship. Male relatives can be overprotective and even threatening when it comes to their loved one going out with the "old dude" they may even wish death upon him for coming into their young relative's life.
Any man who sincerely wants to be in a relationship with someone will fight to be with his partner, but he won't be a fool to stay when all hell is breaking lose because of his mere existence. One would be wise to determine what type of fight will he be fighting and how long in order to stay with his young date. He will also need to observe his young partner's mannerisms whe dealing with family. She may still be too young mentally to handle being in a relationship with a mature man and too fearful to stand up to family.
Threats of violence from the woman's family members and friends just isn't worth it although some men enjoy a challenge. However, one would be better off waiting until the young woman is independent and away from troubled relatives. If she is in love and genuinely cares for her older man, she must understand that he is not going to keep putting his life at risk to be with her--no matter how beautiful she might be. Chances are a relative or friend may have warned him to go away or else.
"The old dude" is typically hated by one or a few relatives simply because he may have done some things to the young woman that she shared with relatives who were supposed to keep quiet about, but didn't. They don't like "the old dude" for good reason even if all parties don't know what about.
Sometimes the older man did nothing during the dating process to hurt the young lady, but just the sight of an aging man going out with the young, attractive person just might be too much to bear for some. Thoughts might be, "What does he want with my daughter/niece/sister/cousin? Who does he think he is showing up at my doorstep...I know his type!?" That type might be like the one questioning the relationship, a liar, cheat, pimp, player type. It takes one, to know one.
The couple will want to consider the family's objections; however, don't permit loved ones to dominate one's choice in a partner. Maybe there are some things that they see in one or both individuals that are a sincere cause for concern.
Nicholl McGuire also maintains and contributes to the blog: Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate. and Relationship Advice.
Any man who sincerely wants to be in a relationship with someone will fight to be with his partner, but he won't be a fool to stay when all hell is breaking lose because of his mere existence. One would be wise to determine what type of fight will he be fighting and how long in order to stay with his young date. He will also need to observe his young partner's mannerisms whe dealing with family. She may still be too young mentally to handle being in a relationship with a mature man and too fearful to stand up to family.
Threats of violence from the woman's family members and friends just isn't worth it although some men enjoy a challenge. However, one would be better off waiting until the young woman is independent and away from troubled relatives. If she is in love and genuinely cares for her older man, she must understand that he is not going to keep putting his life at risk to be with her--no matter how beautiful she might be. Chances are a relative or friend may have warned him to go away or else.
"The old dude" is typically hated by one or a few relatives simply because he may have done some things to the young woman that she shared with relatives who were supposed to keep quiet about, but didn't. They don't like "the old dude" for good reason even if all parties don't know what about.
Sometimes the older man did nothing during the dating process to hurt the young lady, but just the sight of an aging man going out with the young, attractive person just might be too much to bear for some. Thoughts might be, "What does he want with my daughter/niece/sister/cousin? Who does he think he is showing up at my doorstep...I know his type!?" That type might be like the one questioning the relationship, a liar, cheat, pimp, player type. It takes one, to know one.
The couple will want to consider the family's objections; however, don't permit loved ones to dominate one's choice in a partner. Maybe there are some things that they see in one or both individuals that are a sincere cause for concern.
Nicholl McGuire also maintains and contributes to the blog: Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate. and Relationship Advice.
Tuesday
Understand a Father Daughter Relationship Before You Date a Young Woman
If the young woman doesn't feel love from her own father, she may be a problem for you. A good father raises his daughter to be self-reliant, spiritual, loving, etc. If she isn't interested in being controlled, reliant on you, and has a faith, be grateful for that! Don't fight her on it. If her dad is protective, he has good reason. Check your own relationship with your daughter or the one you never had. Could you be involved with a young woman because you really desire a quality father daughter relationship?
Saturday
Young Woman You Wanted a Rich Man
So you decided to pursue a man with riches. You placed yourself at the right place at the right time whether on or off the Internet. However, now you have some thoughts about who he is and all that comes with him that aren't so positive. Well, when this sort of thing happens; take a step back. You will need to re-evaluate whether you are willing to compromise personal beliefs, make yourself available more than you want to, and other things to keep that rich man in your life.
There is more to life than money, but for some women, whether young or old, that is all they think about. "How much can I get out of him? I need this paid...what will I have to do to get him to pay for it?" These thoughts and others can create unnecessary stress. Worrying over how to get someone to do something for you can be burdensome. How much do you trust yourself to get what you want? How much do you value you? If your date is so rich, why do you feel the need to have to jump through hoops to get him to help you? When you find yourself thinking more about his riches and less about the man himself, there is a problem--a big problem. Sooner or later you will start to dislike who you are because you secretly feel the way you do about the rich man and his riches. In addition, you just might lose interest in the rich man if he starts rejecting you often. Keep in mind, he will be watching to see if you are indeed interested in him or his money like so many others do.
You may have to tweak some things about you so that you can honestly have a great relationship free of the complications that money and sex can bring. Maybe you need to get out more, pursue hobbies, take classes, or do other things to make you more interesting. Often young women become insecure, controlling, and rude when they feel their position in a rich man's life is being threatened. These issues could be avoided had these women started a relationship with the rich man for the right reasons. A rich man will also need to think about whether he wants more with his young partner in the future, because he knows that in time, there is the possibility that she might want more with him.
Being with a rich man isn't easy. For purposes of this article, rich isn't defined by how much money a man makes only, but everything else that he has as well. A rich man could have many assets, people around him he works with, talents, hobbies, a great personality, and more. The wealthy man shows no evidence of being poor in much of anything. For a young woman who doesn't have much, his lifestyle can be overwhelming and intimidating. Immature women who aren't use to dating rich men can act strangely, rebel, and have temper tantrums like children. If you or someone you know is acting in ways that is causing a rich date to act more like a father figure than a lover, than the relationship will most likely be headed toward a dead-end.
Embrace all that comes with the rich man good, bad, and ugly only if you are accepting of his ways, the people around him, and goods. However, if you know that you are losing your identity and what you stand for while dating such a person, then back off. Maybe he just isn't the answer to your prayers that you thought.
Nicholl McGuire
There is more to life than money, but for some women, whether young or old, that is all they think about. "How much can I get out of him? I need this paid...what will I have to do to get him to pay for it?" These thoughts and others can create unnecessary stress. Worrying over how to get someone to do something for you can be burdensome. How much do you trust yourself to get what you want? How much do you value you? If your date is so rich, why do you feel the need to have to jump through hoops to get him to help you? When you find yourself thinking more about his riches and less about the man himself, there is a problem--a big problem. Sooner or later you will start to dislike who you are because you secretly feel the way you do about the rich man and his riches. In addition, you just might lose interest in the rich man if he starts rejecting you often. Keep in mind, he will be watching to see if you are indeed interested in him or his money like so many others do.
You may have to tweak some things about you so that you can honestly have a great relationship free of the complications that money and sex can bring. Maybe you need to get out more, pursue hobbies, take classes, or do other things to make you more interesting. Often young women become insecure, controlling, and rude when they feel their position in a rich man's life is being threatened. These issues could be avoided had these women started a relationship with the rich man for the right reasons. A rich man will also need to think about whether he wants more with his young partner in the future, because he knows that in time, there is the possibility that she might want more with him.
Being with a rich man isn't easy. For purposes of this article, rich isn't defined by how much money a man makes only, but everything else that he has as well. A rich man could have many assets, people around him he works with, talents, hobbies, a great personality, and more. The wealthy man shows no evidence of being poor in much of anything. For a young woman who doesn't have much, his lifestyle can be overwhelming and intimidating. Immature women who aren't use to dating rich men can act strangely, rebel, and have temper tantrums like children. If you or someone you know is acting in ways that is causing a rich date to act more like a father figure than a lover, than the relationship will most likely be headed toward a dead-end.
Embrace all that comes with the rich man good, bad, and ugly only if you are accepting of his ways, the people around him, and goods. However, if you know that you are losing your identity and what you stand for while dating such a person, then back off. Maybe he just isn't the answer to your prayers that you thought.
Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Age-Gap Dating: How to Know When the Younger Woman is No Longer Interesting in Dating You
The newness wears off in many age-gap relationships. A mature date just isn't as appealing as he once was--it happens. Money and gifts don't keep all young women interested in dating older men especially when she is use to having nice things.
When you think of the many young women who do enjoy the company of older men (at least for a season), you must also realize that many settle with them for a time until they are better able to take care of themselves. Others may like the companionship, but not necessarily the way their men look. As for other young ladies, they just haven't met a charming guy their own age--yet. But for the young women who no longer like or want to be around their older men, they will act subtle or quite boldly about how they truly feel about them.
1. She frequently makes up excuses not to go out with him.
2. She isn't much interested in his conversation and frequently looks away, answers her cell phone, or strikes up a conversation with others just so that he will stop talking.
3. She ignores him when he calls.
4. She badmouths about him to his face and behind his back without remorse.
5. She isn't interested in being in the same room with him.
6. She expresses little or no interest in his hobbies like she once did.
7. She doesn't smile much around him.
8. She is very guarded about sharing her private life and feelings. For instance, she talks about others' thoughts/ideas/activities, but rarely shares how she feels about too much of anything.
9. She stops asking her date/boyfriend to buy her things.
10. She shows little, if any, affection toward him and doesn't act very responsive toward him when it comes to sex.
If you are a woman reading this and can relate to many of these signs, chances are you just don't like your date much, it would be best to make plans and move on. If you are a man reading this and really desire to keep your young lady friend around, step up your game and ask her does she really want to be in a relationship with you!
Nicholl McGuire
When you think of the many young women who do enjoy the company of older men (at least for a season), you must also realize that many settle with them for a time until they are better able to take care of themselves. Others may like the companionship, but not necessarily the way their men look. As for other young ladies, they just haven't met a charming guy their own age--yet. But for the young women who no longer like or want to be around their older men, they will act subtle or quite boldly about how they truly feel about them.
1. She frequently makes up excuses not to go out with him.
2. She isn't much interested in his conversation and frequently looks away, answers her cell phone, or strikes up a conversation with others just so that he will stop talking.
3. She ignores him when he calls.
4. She badmouths about him to his face and behind his back without remorse.
5. She isn't interested in being in the same room with him.
6. She expresses little or no interest in his hobbies like she once did.
7. She doesn't smile much around him.
8. She is very guarded about sharing her private life and feelings. For instance, she talks about others' thoughts/ideas/activities, but rarely shares how she feels about too much of anything.
9. She stops asking her date/boyfriend to buy her things.
10. She shows little, if any, affection toward him and doesn't act very responsive toward him when it comes to sex.
If you are a woman reading this and can relate to many of these signs, chances are you just don't like your date much, it would be best to make plans and move on. If you are a man reading this and really desire to keep your young lady friend around, step up your game and ask her does she really want to be in a relationship with you!
Nicholl McGuire
Monday
On Breaking Up with Younger or Older Partner - You Can't Get Away that Easy or Can You?
When you had your problems and your date had his or her's, you were there. When loneliness was getting the best of you, that's when your lover came along. When life was such a bore, your new friend brought excitement. In the beginning, it was nice. He grew to love you, treated you so sweetly. She was beautiful, charming, and gave you butterflies like in a teenage romance. But now?
It can be difficult to break up with someone who might still have a way of luring you back into his or her life even when you know he or she is no good for you. Your partner may have been a true friend when no one seemed to care. However, sometimes things go stale in relationships, because people change. From childbirth to unresolved issues of the past, change can make or break relationships. One must know when he or she can't stomach change anymore. You will know when you just can't go on in a relationship if any of the following has started or you believe will begin:
1. Feeling the need to cover up stories with lies. Sometimes having no feelings of remorse.
2. Frequent thoughts of wishing ill on this person.
3. Unable to forgive and forget every time he or she says or does something that offends.
4. An increase of disputes followed by thoughts of breaking up that don't seem to go away.
5. Your body often aches around this person from headaches to backaches.
6. You don't enjoy touching, smelling, or looking at this person like you once did.
7. You find that you have very little in common with him or her.
If most or even all of these signs apply to your current relationship, cut your losses early! Make plans to distance yourself from this individual. Cut this person off sexually and emotionally. Get belongings and stay away from him or her. If you force yourself to stay when you really don't want to, eventually you will mistreat this person and it just might lead to physical violence.
Nicholl McGuire
It can be difficult to break up with someone who might still have a way of luring you back into his or her life even when you know he or she is no good for you. Your partner may have been a true friend when no one seemed to care. However, sometimes things go stale in relationships, because people change. From childbirth to unresolved issues of the past, change can make or break relationships. One must know when he or she can't stomach change anymore. You will know when you just can't go on in a relationship if any of the following has started or you believe will begin:
1. Feeling the need to cover up stories with lies. Sometimes having no feelings of remorse.
2. Frequent thoughts of wishing ill on this person.
3. Unable to forgive and forget every time he or she says or does something that offends.
4. An increase of disputes followed by thoughts of breaking up that don't seem to go away.
5. Your body often aches around this person from headaches to backaches.
6. You don't enjoy touching, smelling, or looking at this person like you once did.
7. You find that you have very little in common with him or her.
If most or even all of these signs apply to your current relationship, cut your losses early! Make plans to distance yourself from this individual. Cut this person off sexually and emotionally. Get belongings and stay away from him or her. If you force yourself to stay when you really don't want to, eventually you will mistreat this person and it just might lead to physical violence.
Nicholl McGuire
Thursday
When Dating Older Goes Bad...
Dr Phil: A 26 Year Age Divide: Can This Couple Be Saved [December 16, 2013]
Wednesday
Do You Know What You Really Want Young Woman, Older Gentleman?
The carefree attitude that a date might convey is such a draw when getting to know someone who looks and acts better than an ex. In the beginning, everyone appears as if they are okay with just about anything one does. "Do you have other people you are dating?" Yes. "Is it okay if we have sex?" Sure. "Do you like wild stuff?" Yeah. "Would you mind if I asked you to...?" Okay. Everything seems so easy. Right? She compliments you on your physique and he talks about how much you are turning him on. But then in time, things start to get complicated, doesn't it?
He wants you to do more of whatever you reluctantly agreed to. She starts complaining about what you do or don't do. What happened to the "No big deal" personality? "How did we end up like this?" one asks his or herself. The reason, there was never any boundaries. The thought of protecting one's mind, body and spirit was too much for some and so they went along just to get along.
One must remember that when dating, you are still in a relationship with each and every person you are going out with, although short-lived at times, one is still relating to the other. What this means is that eventually someone will be wanting something more if they sincerely like you. Who wouldn't? If I saw a piece of cake that I wanted, you think I wouldn't want a taste? If you keep letting me eating of that cake, you are then training me to expect it.
You have to know, whether you are returning to the dating scene, still in it, or planning to get out, what you truly want out of a partner or even better out of life? If you are just blindly taking one day at a time, then you are leaving it up to someone else to dictate your future. For instance, if a young woman knows that she wants to relocate in a week, a month, or a year from now and her older gentleman friend isn't planning on moving anywhere, guess who will want to try to change her plans? Would he be willing to pack up his life for the sake of being with a younger partner? Most likely not if he is content with his location. A mature man knows that life outside of his sexual escapades is pretty much settled for him.
Now when one goes into a relationship with goals and visions of the future, he or she is seeking someone to help complete them. Most people don't want to connect with individuals who can't help them in some way from friendship to business. What is really the benefit in getting to know you? What are you really receiving from the person you are dating besides the typical dinner, movie and sex at his or her house or a hotel some where? What does the future really hold--more of the same?
Some people expect a lot when they date while others not so much. When you have a good idea what you don't want when dating, you usually are able to determine what you do want. Most individuals want a companion, a good friendship that just might last until death.
Sometimes couples have a hard time in their relationships, because there is a failure to communicate what one really desires. Men and women want to be heard in relationships and when there is more sexual groaning and moaning going on and less talking, in time one realizes he or she really doesn't know the person at all. A date might want to get to know his sexual partner, but by that time it might be too late especially if the person has lost much interest.
So do take the time to share what you really want when dating a younger woman or older man, and who knows, it might grow into something more if you are willing.
Nicholl McGuire author of Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street, a book of poems.
He wants you to do more of whatever you reluctantly agreed to. She starts complaining about what you do or don't do. What happened to the "No big deal" personality? "How did we end up like this?" one asks his or herself. The reason, there was never any boundaries. The thought of protecting one's mind, body and spirit was too much for some and so they went along just to get along.
One must remember that when dating, you are still in a relationship with each and every person you are going out with, although short-lived at times, one is still relating to the other. What this means is that eventually someone will be wanting something more if they sincerely like you. Who wouldn't? If I saw a piece of cake that I wanted, you think I wouldn't want a taste? If you keep letting me eating of that cake, you are then training me to expect it.
You have to know, whether you are returning to the dating scene, still in it, or planning to get out, what you truly want out of a partner or even better out of life? If you are just blindly taking one day at a time, then you are leaving it up to someone else to dictate your future. For instance, if a young woman knows that she wants to relocate in a week, a month, or a year from now and her older gentleman friend isn't planning on moving anywhere, guess who will want to try to change her plans? Would he be willing to pack up his life for the sake of being with a younger partner? Most likely not if he is content with his location. A mature man knows that life outside of his sexual escapades is pretty much settled for him.
Now when one goes into a relationship with goals and visions of the future, he or she is seeking someone to help complete them. Most people don't want to connect with individuals who can't help them in some way from friendship to business. What is really the benefit in getting to know you? What are you really receiving from the person you are dating besides the typical dinner, movie and sex at his or her house or a hotel some where? What does the future really hold--more of the same?
Some people expect a lot when they date while others not so much. When you have a good idea what you don't want when dating, you usually are able to determine what you do want. Most individuals want a companion, a good friendship that just might last until death.
Sometimes couples have a hard time in their relationships, because there is a failure to communicate what one really desires. Men and women want to be heard in relationships and when there is more sexual groaning and moaning going on and less talking, in time one realizes he or she really doesn't know the person at all. A date might want to get to know his sexual partner, but by that time it might be too late especially if the person has lost much interest.
So do take the time to share what you really want when dating a younger woman or older man, and who knows, it might grow into something more if you are willing.
Nicholl McGuire author of Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street, a book of poems.
Friday
Avoid Sex with Minors
Here are some reasons not to even think about dating a child much less being intimate with them! There are laws in the United States against sex with minors. Although some countries still permit these unions between children and adults, there are serious consequences that prove why one would be better off staying away! Now some might argue that "Nothing happened when I..." but sooner or later something will, better off removing one's self out of the situation before someone gets hurt!
8-year-old bride dies from internal injuries because of 40-year-old husband
Malaysian Man Accused Of Rape Marries 13-Year-Old Victim; Attorney General Vows To Pursue Charges
Rumor Update: 70-year-old man marries 15-year-old girl
5-year-old Indian girl dies of heart attack after rape (The incident was not an arranged marriage).
Here are some tips when it comes to identifying whether a young woman is really a girl:
1. She uses heavy makeup and when she appears without it, she looks like a young child.
2. She doesn't converse like an experienced woman. For instance, she has little, if any, responsibilites.
3. She often talks about parents or caretakers providing for her.
4. Her ID appears to be tampered with and she acts like she can't be seen with you.
5. The girl talks about interests that most young women aren't the least bit interested in.
6. She is hypersexual (often talking about it, clingy, dresses for attention).
7. She may or may not act discreet when it comes to sex. She may show signs that she isn't respectful of herself or others.
8. When upset, she will cry like a child or have a fit. She fails to communicate concerns like an adult would.
For more tips, see other articles on this blog under the labels "advice choosing young women to date" and "advice for older men seeking younger women."
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