Showing posts with label sexual abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexual abuse. Show all posts
Tuesday
No Support for Underage Sex, Dating Minors
I understand that some men and women enjoy dating older and younger. But how young are we talking? There are laws in the land for good reason. I know that some men and women have their attractions, preferences to certain age groups. I for one had mine, older men. For some older men, they absolutely love dating younger women in their twenties. I was once in my twenties and dated my share of men in their 40s and one in his fifties. However, I don't support dating/abusing/messing with children, seriously. They are still developing mentally and physically, they have their lives ahead of them so why spoil them? Yet, selfish predators will do just that! Most likely they were spoiled by someone or a group who abused them and now here they go repeating the cycle. Children don't deserve that no matter how much they think they are mature enough to handle someone older!
When I didn't have children I stayed away from topics like this because my thought was, "It's not my business." But that was incorrect thinking, it is your business--it's everyone's business! That is someone's child. A child who can learn much about life in positive and productive ways that foster independence, raise self-esteem, teach them to be good spouses and parents without trading their innocence! This is why there are functional caretakers, authorities and licensed professionals available who aren't the least bit interested in taking advantage of them sexually. Yet, we live in a world of predators who could care less about anyone but their selfish needs being met no matter how dark, disturbing, or demented they might be! For some sexual predators, as long as it isn't their child being abused, they don't care! These same people will talk up a storm about what they wouldn't allow to happen to their mothers, sisters, aunts, nieces, etc. But that victim, who is being used and/or abused, is someone's relative, friend, co-worker...!
As much as some men and women attempt to justify their dysfunctional relationships, those of us who know better just aren't buying it! A young, brainwashed woman, who managed to get free from her abusive handler/lover, shared her experience--at the time she met him she was underage. She wrote about it anonymously and spoke about her ordeal on television. Some of you might be familiar with American R&B singer and songwriter R. Kelly. She claims he allegedly abused her as well as many other women. You can check her work out for yourself here. If the 90 plus page book is taken down, look for it under this title, Sex Me Confessions of Daddy's Little Freak. Funny, when I was about 19 years old, I looked at that CD by Aaliyah, "Age ain't nothing but a number" and in the background stood R. Kelly. He looked suspect back then and I turned to my boyfriend and said something like, "Look at this title, he probably is with her." Yep, he was. Aaliyah was 15 years old when rumors surfaced about her and R. Kelly.
It's unfortunate that I have to include a blog post such as this, but it is very necessary since some people just don't understand that age is more than a number when you are dealing with children not only are you destroying a child, but your life too when a person or group finds out, is it worth it?
Nicholl McGuire
When I didn't have children I stayed away from topics like this because my thought was, "It's not my business." But that was incorrect thinking, it is your business--it's everyone's business! That is someone's child. A child who can learn much about life in positive and productive ways that foster independence, raise self-esteem, teach them to be good spouses and parents without trading their innocence! This is why there are functional caretakers, authorities and licensed professionals available who aren't the least bit interested in taking advantage of them sexually. Yet, we live in a world of predators who could care less about anyone but their selfish needs being met no matter how dark, disturbing, or demented they might be! For some sexual predators, as long as it isn't their child being abused, they don't care! These same people will talk up a storm about what they wouldn't allow to happen to their mothers, sisters, aunts, nieces, etc. But that victim, who is being used and/or abused, is someone's relative, friend, co-worker...!
As much as some men and women attempt to justify their dysfunctional relationships, those of us who know better just aren't buying it! A young, brainwashed woman, who managed to get free from her abusive handler/lover, shared her experience--at the time she met him she was underage. She wrote about it anonymously and spoke about her ordeal on television. Some of you might be familiar with American R&B singer and songwriter R. Kelly. She claims he allegedly abused her as well as many other women. You can check her work out for yourself here. If the 90 plus page book is taken down, look for it under this title, Sex Me Confessions of Daddy's Little Freak. Funny, when I was about 19 years old, I looked at that CD by Aaliyah, "Age ain't nothing but a number" and in the background stood R. Kelly. He looked suspect back then and I turned to my boyfriend and said something like, "Look at this title, he probably is with her." Yep, he was. Aaliyah was 15 years old when rumors surfaced about her and R. Kelly.
It's unfortunate that I have to include a blog post such as this, but it is very necessary since some people just don't understand that age is more than a number when you are dealing with children not only are you destroying a child, but your life too when a person or group finds out, is it worth it?
Nicholl McGuire
Wednesday
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Sexual Fetishes Turn Violent with Abusers - Person...
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Sexual Fetishes Turn Violent with Abusers - Person...: The sexual encounters filled with psychological manipulation, pain, and control might look glamorous in movies, fun for some, and overall ju...
Thursday
Sexual Harassment - Men Who are Hell-Bent on Not Changing Their Ways
They are out there, men who will say whatever they want to any woman they choose. It doesn't matter that sexual harassment claims are taking our media by storm, the old way of thinking is etched in some of these older men's minds. Like children, some still believe pretty women are seen not heard. The men born prior to the seventies are still among us and still sharing antiquated beliefs with open-minded children and grandchildren.
Haughty men still insist on saying sexually inappropriate things to women, talking about sexual conquests to the same sex and others, sharing and/or giving sexually explicit material to female workers, clients, and even strangers. They laugh off what they do and follow it up with statements like, "Well you know how we are, boys will be boys. Can't you take a joke, why so serious? I can't help myself, but you are gorgeous. You are so fine, I couldn't help but touch that behind! Look at all the women who like me, I am irresistible, I will make you love me!" Some women will nervously chuckle until convicting thoughts and negative feelings take hold of them afterward, "What just happened?" some of these women think. "I can't believe he said that...did that. That's not right."
Whether a woman realizes in that moment or years later that being harassed is unacceptable, the point is, it happened. Something occurred that just wasn't right. A powerful man or a not-so-powerful one crossed the line. It didn't matter that she was single, married, young or old, he had no business forcing his sexual desire/thoughts/deeds. Would sexually inappropriate behavior be okay with him toward his daughter or granddaughter by other lust-filled men? Would he be okay with his wife being disrespected by other men with the promise of fame, fortune and power to follow? Most caring men would say, "No way, I would beat that man's a$$! No one disrespects my mother, sister, daughter...no one!" So why would they think it is okay to do it to another man's kin without consequence? People talk about religious groups forcing their views down people's throats, well what about men and women without any moral compass forcing their ill-intentions and other things down people's throats?
I must admit I am happy but also sad at the same time about what is happening in the media. Happy because the exposure empowers women and changes the mindset of many men who thought daddy and grandaddy's disrespect of women was acceptable. But sad, because this does impact the way a number of men and women's relationships and friendships with one another--some for good and others for evil--it all depends upon the accuser.
Now when you look at the long list of men in the spotlight for hurting women, you can't help but see how some victims also took advantage of the benefits they received from them as well. I guess they looked at it as getting their due payment from the pain, shame, and suffering they endured. Do we ignore the voices of those who agreed to perform some tricks for some treats? Were those women really harrassed or are they looking for a second or even third payout by riding on the #MeToo campaign?
Whether victim or not, the point is men are going to have to re-evaluate their thinking concerning women and teach sons and grandsons too! As much as lovely ladies are quite attractive to view and can be quite kind to you, doesn't mean that it gives any man or woman a license to act disrespectfully toward them. Keep your sexual thoughts and material to yourself. Resist the temptation to want to kiss, hold, squeeze, rape, or stare. Most women simply will not respond in a positive way to a forceful, desperate, lonely or even crazy sort of man hell-bent on getting something for nothing or something for something.
The men, who refuse to change their view of women, and continue to act inappropriate, will sooner or later have their day in court, day in the street, or worse six feet deep. You don't have to be a Hollywood big shot to be on a scorned woman's hit list. She will most likely have the support and protection from the men who love and appreciate her and may God help you if she does. In order to be a target, all you have to be is an arrogant fool with unaddressed sex issues and childhood woes who believes himself to be right even when he is wrong. The long list of names in the media continues to grow and so too are the life lessons. Going forward conduct yourself like gentlemen.
Nicholl McGuire
Haughty men still insist on saying sexually inappropriate things to women, talking about sexual conquests to the same sex and others, sharing and/or giving sexually explicit material to female workers, clients, and even strangers. They laugh off what they do and follow it up with statements like, "Well you know how we are, boys will be boys. Can't you take a joke, why so serious? I can't help myself, but you are gorgeous. You are so fine, I couldn't help but touch that behind! Look at all the women who like me, I am irresistible, I will make you love me!" Some women will nervously chuckle until convicting thoughts and negative feelings take hold of them afterward, "What just happened?" some of these women think. "I can't believe he said that...did that. That's not right."
Whether a woman realizes in that moment or years later that being harassed is unacceptable, the point is, it happened. Something occurred that just wasn't right. A powerful man or a not-so-powerful one crossed the line. It didn't matter that she was single, married, young or old, he had no business forcing his sexual desire/thoughts/deeds. Would sexually inappropriate behavior be okay with him toward his daughter or granddaughter by other lust-filled men? Would he be okay with his wife being disrespected by other men with the promise of fame, fortune and power to follow? Most caring men would say, "No way, I would beat that man's a$$! No one disrespects my mother, sister, daughter...no one!" So why would they think it is okay to do it to another man's kin without consequence? People talk about religious groups forcing their views down people's throats, well what about men and women without any moral compass forcing their ill-intentions and other things down people's throats?
I must admit I am happy but also sad at the same time about what is happening in the media. Happy because the exposure empowers women and changes the mindset of many men who thought daddy and grandaddy's disrespect of women was acceptable. But sad, because this does impact the way a number of men and women's relationships and friendships with one another--some for good and others for evil--it all depends upon the accuser.
Now when you look at the long list of men in the spotlight for hurting women, you can't help but see how some victims also took advantage of the benefits they received from them as well. I guess they looked at it as getting their due payment from the pain, shame, and suffering they endured. Do we ignore the voices of those who agreed to perform some tricks for some treats? Were those women really harrassed or are they looking for a second or even third payout by riding on the #MeToo campaign?
Whether victim or not, the point is men are going to have to re-evaluate their thinking concerning women and teach sons and grandsons too! As much as lovely ladies are quite attractive to view and can be quite kind to you, doesn't mean that it gives any man or woman a license to act disrespectfully toward them. Keep your sexual thoughts and material to yourself. Resist the temptation to want to kiss, hold, squeeze, rape, or stare. Most women simply will not respond in a positive way to a forceful, desperate, lonely or even crazy sort of man hell-bent on getting something for nothing or something for something.
The men, who refuse to change their view of women, and continue to act inappropriate, will sooner or later have their day in court, day in the street, or worse six feet deep. You don't have to be a Hollywood big shot to be on a scorned woman's hit list. She will most likely have the support and protection from the men who love and appreciate her and may God help you if she does. In order to be a target, all you have to be is an arrogant fool with unaddressed sex issues and childhood woes who believes himself to be right even when he is wrong. The long list of names in the media continues to grow and so too are the life lessons. Going forward conduct yourself like gentlemen.
Nicholl McGuire
Thursday
Painful Sex, Bruises, Blood - What Some will Do for Love
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Painful Sex, Bruises, Blood - What Some will Do fo...: Whether an abusive lover is too big, too small, or just right but rough privately (if you know what I mean), some victims in emotionally an...
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