Showing posts with label internet dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label internet dating. Show all posts
Friday
Money, Sex and Online Dating
If you thought you were going to get online, find someone at one of those dating websites and all would be just fine in the end, think again! There will be challenges sooner or later when you meet these people who flock to the Internet to set up dating profiles and upload attractive headshots. For many online daters, it's a business whether they choose to call their dating experiences that. They are on these dating websites for upfront money and/or sex. You just aren't going to get something for nothing! The wealthy man calls the beautiful women he wants to date prostitutes because they want cash, gifts and other things before they agree to have sex. The women complain about being called gold-diggers. Then there are both men and women irregardless of their sexual preferences, locations, etc. they have their share of issues they are running away from, desire to relocate, and want more out of life and so someone online is supposed to save them from their boring routines or rescue them out of their poor situations.
Now let's just put money and sex to the side for a moment. Do you really like that guy and is he really your type? Is that girl so beautiful that you will do almost anything for her like marry her for starters? The truth is that many available as well as unavailable men and women are not sold out on their online dates, at least not in the beginning of the courtship, they say things like, "I think I could one day love him...She might be a good wife one day..." So in the meantime have a good time and get what you can out of the deal, right?
It takes time to truly get to know someone, but a man or woman with a pressing offline need is not going to waste too much time chatting, winking, texting, and doing much else before asking, "So when are we getting together?" Then when the time comes, someone better deliver on the goods or else face any number of things depending on the date's mindset. So many have had bad experiences feeling pressured to deliver on what was suggested online or promised.
There is nothing wrong with establishing boundaries and telling a person where you stand when it comes to a casual dating, serious commitment, or fling experience. But what is wrong is leading someone to believe things just to get things! Whatever the desire, wouldn't it be best simply to state it--no sugar-coating and no pretending to go along just to get along either? Even if your request is met with a "no," take heed, learn from the experience, and get needs met in other ways.
Unfortunately, some online daters ask for trouble when they assume they are going to visit an Internet website and get what they want when they want. As much as one would like to believe that these dating websites will deliver whether you pay or not, you still have to face the harsh reality that people are people and if they like you, they like you and if they don't, they don't.
Money and sex, if you hope for one or both, be prepared for the consequences in your rush to get these things.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7. Would you like more dating advice, see here.
Now let's just put money and sex to the side for a moment. Do you really like that guy and is he really your type? Is that girl so beautiful that you will do almost anything for her like marry her for starters? The truth is that many available as well as unavailable men and women are not sold out on their online dates, at least not in the beginning of the courtship, they say things like, "I think I could one day love him...She might be a good wife one day..." So in the meantime have a good time and get what you can out of the deal, right?
It takes time to truly get to know someone, but a man or woman with a pressing offline need is not going to waste too much time chatting, winking, texting, and doing much else before asking, "So when are we getting together?" Then when the time comes, someone better deliver on the goods or else face any number of things depending on the date's mindset. So many have had bad experiences feeling pressured to deliver on what was suggested online or promised.
There is nothing wrong with establishing boundaries and telling a person where you stand when it comes to a casual dating, serious commitment, or fling experience. But what is wrong is leading someone to believe things just to get things! Whatever the desire, wouldn't it be best simply to state it--no sugar-coating and no pretending to go along just to get along either? Even if your request is met with a "no," take heed, learn from the experience, and get needs met in other ways.
Unfortunately, some online daters ask for trouble when they assume they are going to visit an Internet website and get what they want when they want. As much as one would like to believe that these dating websites will deliver whether you pay or not, you still have to face the harsh reality that people are people and if they like you, they like you and if they don't, they don't.
Money and sex, if you hope for one or both, be prepared for the consequences in your rush to get these things.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7. Would you like more dating advice, see here.
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