In previous entries I provided a host of information that talks about age gap dating experiences, family woes, health concerns, and more, and yet some will continue to date older or younger even when their hearts or minds are not that into it anymore.
There is a self-deception that occurs with some daters. It goes something like this, "I guess it's okay. I mean I like her/him. I really hope things work. I know I am his/her type. Besides I have a lot of money...look good, still fit...a great catch!" Most likely, if the person is displaying signs they don't like you much, you aren't as good as you think. But it's okay. You can move on if only you are willing.
I found someone online over a decade ago and I admit that I wasn't really feeling older guys at the time. I had a history that didn't treat me so nice. I had made up in my mind at the time that if it didn't work, I wasn't sticking around and I meant it. When you know you have reached that point when the young lady is annoying you more than pleasing you or the older man is being controlling rather than loving, it's time to make some hard decisions.
I know it can be tough. One man many years ago I had to let go because I was 19 and he was about 41. He really didn't do it for me. I knew there were some insecurities he had like the time when I brushed his hair not realizing that I uncovered his thinning spot. Irritated he swept it back, "I'm sorry..." I said. Talk about awkward. The man in crisis also drank much at times and didn't mind visiting me when he was drunk. What a waste! Yeah, that is what I was thinking. I didn't respect him and neither did he me, because why would he show up drunk?
Anyway, you need established relationship boundaries my friends. Once one, two or more are crossed and you just aren't feeling the fellow or gal, move on. Don't punish, insult, complain...there's no point in dating older or younger when you have personal hang-ups with age, personality, wit, and more.
Older people can be boring at times even when they think they are not and younger people can have too much energy...so why complain about the person you picked? Stick to your own age if dating younger or older is just not working any longer.
Nicholl
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Monday
Improve You and Dating Experiences in the New Year
For some singles they are turning over a new leaf in the New Year. They are looking forward to dating a bit differently like changing dating preferences and upgrading personal images for starters. Courageous men and women who have never dated younger or older, a different ethnicity or even out of their hometowns are ready for new dating experiences this upcoming year, according to some online dating forums.
You might be one looking to make a difference in your life, if so, bravo to you! Why not think outside the box? Many of us who have dated a variety of people in our lifetime did so, because we simply got tired of doing things based on past dating experiences or teachings passed down from family. You never know who you might cross paths with and that person just may be the one!
Now some couples are simply fed up with one another for any number of reasons including age related issues and if this is you, well you don't have to stick it out in a miserable relationship. Fall back from the dating scene a bit, recover and then come back for some more good times when you are ready. If you have a faith, use it--someone is out there for you! Here are some tips on improving your future dating experiences:
1. Work on your health. Watch your weight. Exercise and check in with your doctor and dentist.
2. Don't keep ex-lovers, wives, husbands, etc. on speed dial. Move on!
3. Vow that you will never permit yourself to be broken spiritually, mentally or physically by a future or current partner.
4. Keep your relatives out of your personal life. This means no updating them on dates you are not serious about.
5. Find the time for you! The world doesn't revolve around that new someone you meet--no matter how friendly, wealthy, attractive,etc.
6. Do your part to make some great memories when dating someone. Don't rely on others to make you happy.
7. If you believe in a Creator, why not practice your faith and attract someone who is spiritual like you?
With so much happening online in dating world you can never be too safe. Take precautions when meeting someone online and never rush into doing anything with someone you barely even know! There are countless stories of victims who just didn't bother researching before sleeping with dates and now they are either connected with the wrong partners, in jail, deceased or have their share of unwanted children or STDS (sigh).
Have a great New Year connecting with someone who is right for you!
By the way, check out our partners on this site who work hard to bring you some great services around the web!
Nicholl
You might be one looking to make a difference in your life, if so, bravo to you! Why not think outside the box? Many of us who have dated a variety of people in our lifetime did so, because we simply got tired of doing things based on past dating experiences or teachings passed down from family. You never know who you might cross paths with and that person just may be the one!
Now some couples are simply fed up with one another for any number of reasons including age related issues and if this is you, well you don't have to stick it out in a miserable relationship. Fall back from the dating scene a bit, recover and then come back for some more good times when you are ready. If you have a faith, use it--someone is out there for you! Here are some tips on improving your future dating experiences:
1. Work on your health. Watch your weight. Exercise and check in with your doctor and dentist.
2. Don't keep ex-lovers, wives, husbands, etc. on speed dial. Move on!3. Vow that you will never permit yourself to be broken spiritually, mentally or physically by a future or current partner.
4. Keep your relatives out of your personal life. This means no updating them on dates you are not serious about.
5. Find the time for you! The world doesn't revolve around that new someone you meet--no matter how friendly, wealthy, attractive,etc.
6. Do your part to make some great memories when dating someone. Don't rely on others to make you happy.
7. If you believe in a Creator, why not practice your faith and attract someone who is spiritual like you?
With so much happening online in dating world you can never be too safe. Take precautions when meeting someone online and never rush into doing anything with someone you barely even know! There are countless stories of victims who just didn't bother researching before sleeping with dates and now they are either connected with the wrong partners, in jail, deceased or have their share of unwanted children or STDS (sigh).
Have a great New Year connecting with someone who is right for you!
By the way, check out our partners on this site who work hard to bring you some great services around the web!
Nicholl
Saturday
6 Dating Tips to Keep Things Fun, Easy-going this Season
With the weather warmer, more and more singles will be out and about checking out one another. You don't want to miss out on the action if you're ready to connect with someone new, so do make time to get out and about! But before you do, consider the following so that you are not wasting your time this mating season.
1. Don't assume the first person who shows you some interest (and who happens to be younger or older) is meant to be. Long term commitment is the last thing you should be thinking of when you barely know someone.
2. Find some common interests before you make arrangements to meet or spend your hard-earned money on someone. People might look like your ideal, but it doesn't mean that mentally you will mesh with them.
3. Never expect someone will give you anything just because you gave the individual something first.
4. Stop talking about exes! They are your former partners for good reason!
5. Just because your older or younger means nothing, so don't dwell on age! There are mature and immature people in all age groups. However, keep in mind the wider the age gap, the more differences you will encounter sooner or later.
6. Lastly, appreciate your time with someone and most of all be respectful even if they aren't big on respect, because you never know how he or she might benefit you later. It is a small world you know!
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Nicholl McGuire
1. Don't assume the first person who shows you some interest (and who happens to be younger or older) is meant to be. Long term commitment is the last thing you should be thinking of when you barely know someone.
2. Find some common interests before you make arrangements to meet or spend your hard-earned money on someone. People might look like your ideal, but it doesn't mean that mentally you will mesh with them.
3. Never expect someone will give you anything just because you gave the individual something first.
4. Stop talking about exes! They are your former partners for good reason!
5. Just because your older or younger means nothing, so don't dwell on age! There are mature and immature people in all age groups. However, keep in mind the wider the age gap, the more differences you will encounter sooner or later.
6. Lastly, appreciate your time with someone and most of all be respectful even if they aren't big on respect, because you never know how he or she might benefit you later. It is a small world you know!
Check out our sponsors ads and start having some fun tonight!
Nicholl McGuire
Wednesday
Dating Tips - New Romance, Trouble Brewing - Don't Dismiss the Signs
A mature man will never let on that he is crazy, nope, no way, no how! He wants you to see him as that guy who is going to sweep you off your feet and meet your needs. The same is true for the young woman. You don't expect her to be a bit out of her mind either. When I recorded Whirlwind Romance, I thought of the thousands of men and women that start off dating never bothering to ask the uncomfortable questions and often dismissing what is obvious, "Something just ain't right."
Listen up on Your Listen. Also, do check out my books: She's Crazy for men who find themselves in abusive relationships with women and Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men for women who are often getting mixed up with mean-spirited men who of course never start off that way. You are showing your support for this blog and others with every purchase--much appreciate!
Nicholl McGuire, Blog Owner
Sunday
Wednesday
What's There Not to Love About Dating Older, Dating Younger?
What's there not to love about dating older men or dating younger women? Plenty, depending on who you ask and what has been one's dating experience has been like over the years. From immaturity to boredom, there are turn-offs about dating anyone older or younger. Therefore, you must be willing to pick out what you are capable of putting up with and what is most certainly a deal-breaker.
My name is Nicholl, the creator of this site, and I can tell you that for years I have been exposed to older men very interested in dating younger women. I have personally dated my share of older men as well and married two (one I am still with to date). But as I began to exit my energetic 20s and entered into my insightful 30s, what I thought I liked about dating older men had changed and what I thought they liked about me had changed too.
You see, the more you date, the more you learn about the manipulators, liars, pimps, players, and others who have far too many personality disorders to count amongst the good guys who just want to make you happy. As a young woman, you find yourself having to put up with some old fools, for a time, because you got yourself in a situation or two that you can't immediately exit without some degree of difficulty. Then, as you mature, you realize some older men just aren't as fond of you as you might think or portray. You discover they have been with so many women physically over their years, in addition to grappling with one or two mentally, that their mental capacity for dealing with yet another new face is overloaded. You discover that some (of course not all) mature men aren't really thinking or believing in long-term relationships anymore.
There is plenty not to love about dating someone younger who is immature, unstable, and still angry with dad, her last boyfriend, and everyone else in between. Further, one just might find that his young date may be a disappointing "all show, but no go." The same holds true for the older man who naively thinks that simply decorating himself up with some nice clothes and "smell good" while filling his pockets with some cash is all that it takes to keep a young woman interested. This tactic doesn't work for the wise young ladies on the dating scene. They are going to eventually request more time, affection, attention, and love and when the old player doesn't deliver, it is on with the next one. The young lady will be looking to exit the relationship sooner rather than later.
Take the time to list everything you don't like about dating someone older or younger and then ask yourself, "What am I willing to tolerate?" Taking this moment to reflect just might help you be more selective when it comes to dating older men or younger women in the future.
Nicholl McGuire contributes to this dating blog site as well, click here.
My name is Nicholl, the creator of this site, and I can tell you that for years I have been exposed to older men very interested in dating younger women. I have personally dated my share of older men as well and married two (one I am still with to date). But as I began to exit my energetic 20s and entered into my insightful 30s, what I thought I liked about dating older men had changed and what I thought they liked about me had changed too.
You see, the more you date, the more you learn about the manipulators, liars, pimps, players, and others who have far too many personality disorders to count amongst the good guys who just want to make you happy. As a young woman, you find yourself having to put up with some old fools, for a time, because you got yourself in a situation or two that you can't immediately exit without some degree of difficulty. Then, as you mature, you realize some older men just aren't as fond of you as you might think or portray. You discover they have been with so many women physically over their years, in addition to grappling with one or two mentally, that their mental capacity for dealing with yet another new face is overloaded. You discover that some (of course not all) mature men aren't really thinking or believing in long-term relationships anymore.
There is plenty not to love about dating someone younger who is immature, unstable, and still angry with dad, her last boyfriend, and everyone else in between. Further, one just might find that his young date may be a disappointing "all show, but no go." The same holds true for the older man who naively thinks that simply decorating himself up with some nice clothes and "smell good" while filling his pockets with some cash is all that it takes to keep a young woman interested. This tactic doesn't work for the wise young ladies on the dating scene. They are going to eventually request more time, affection, attention, and love and when the old player doesn't deliver, it is on with the next one. The young lady will be looking to exit the relationship sooner rather than later.
Take the time to list everything you don't like about dating someone older or younger and then ask yourself, "What am I willing to tolerate?" Taking this moment to reflect just might help you be more selective when it comes to dating older men or younger women in the future.
Nicholl McGuire contributes to this dating blog site as well, click here.
Saturday
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