Advice for the Mature Man Dating Young Women - Watch out for the Needy Woman

Courting a needy woman is an added stress for many mature men who are set in their ways.  Author and Motivational Speaker Nicholl McGuire brings awareness to the woman who wants far too much than she gives.  The Needy Woman

From Beta Male Into Alpha Male

Does Your Date Make Less Money than You?

The longer you date someone, the more you learn about him or her. You begin to find out things that aren't so flattering and you start to wonder whether you want to continue to date this person. One thing that can turn into a big issue later is when a date makes less money than you. Now sometimes this isn't a problem if he or she is good about managing what little he or she has. But when this person doesn't make much money, sooner or later low funds will affect you and your wallet.

Consider the many things one wants to do while dating. Most of these travel plans cost money. Does your date have a savings toward making any of his or her wishes a reality or is this person expecting you to foot the bills?

When it comes to eating out and at home, who is often putting out the money? Does this bother you? If it does and you have been hiding your feelings about it, you might want to start discussing your concerns before things get any more serious. If you started out paying most of the bills in the dating phase, know that your role most likely won’t change as the relationship gets older.

A man or woman who is use to being taken care of is usually attracted to people willing to meet his or her needs. What is your date’s history? Has his partners typically been older or younger? This is significant because chances are if you are older, he or she has some other underlying issues and being with someone mature makes him or her feel mentally and physically secure. Sometimes a date is thrown into a role he or she didn't plan on playing out i.e.) Sugar Daddy, Father, Sugar Momma, Mother.

You will know when the connection with a date is more about material wealth then it is about love when he or she does the following:

1. The person never offers to pay for anything while you are out.
2. He or she doesn't appear to love or even like you much, but when you pull out your wallet, there is much attention and affection thrown your way.
3. You can’t have a conversation with him or her without it involving money or you assisting him or her in some way.
4. Your date acts very needy, pouts, and does things that irritate you when it comes to purchases you have made with your money.
5. The date doesn't bother to save any money and expects you to bail him or her out.

Once you see the truth, here’s what you will need to do:

1. Scale back on the gift-giving.
2. Don’t offer your date any financial assistance or service. Observe how he or she handles matters.
3. Plan to attend events and travel, but ask for contributions from your date if he or she would want to go along. If the date doesn't help, go without him or her.

Life is too short to permit someone to take advantage of your kindness. Be sure that anyone you date whether they make less or more money is someone that sincerely loves you for you!

Nicholl McGuire shares more relationships tips here.

Brent Morin: Don't Date Rich Girls; They're INSANE

Would a 22 Year Old Date an Older Guy and Why?

So many women in their twenties are targets for older, mature men.  Whether he is married, single, or dating many others, the mature, rich man, with a plan, is going to try real hard to get the attention of that nice-looking twenty-something year old woman.  He will start up a simple conversation by making a comment about something she is wearing.  The wealthy, older guy might offer his assistance if he notices that a young woman needs help with something or he may ask questions, in an attempt to get her to open up to him. 

When walking out in public, the mature gentleman might stare at the young lady from a distance hoping that she will take notice of him.  A question might come to mind, would the 22 plus year old woman bother with the graying man with/without facial hair, fit/unfit, handsome or not?  Most likely she will give him a bit of attention especially if he should make her laugh.  Agreeing to date the older man might not be an issue if she knows that he has something more to offer besides flattering statements and a nice smile.  The 22-year-old is looking over the rich man's shoulder at the car he is driving.  She is viewing his wardrobe and looking at his ring finger.  She is also noticing the jewelry he is wearing.  She might take notice of how he smells and whether or not she can stand to look at his face and body shape for long.  The young woman is also looking at the hue of his skin while checking out scars, age marks, and other imperfections along with tattoos while he brags about his haves while luring her into some conversation about her have-nots.  She is determining whether or not she can tolerate listening and looking at the older man for long periods of time.

What might the affluent older man do for the 22 plus year old woman?  He needs to know the answer to that question before he bothers to ask for a date.  Sooner or later a smart, young lady will ask.  Since many young women, who are focused on education and careers, aspire to do wonderful things that will make them feel accomplished, they aren't that interested in a middle-aged man's relatives, children, exes, etc.  Smiles are deceiving.  She is being polite when she is asking about one's personal life, but if she picks up on anything that sounds like work for her, drama that she has to put up with just to be with an older, rich (or poor) man, distractions that might interfere with her career goals/cost of living, or anything more that might potentially affect her plans, she most likely will forget about that nice, older gentleman.  But other young ladies, depending on the impact the older man might have made on them, will take his number-- just in case they need financial help one day, a temporary sex buddy, or a father figure/mentor for a bit of wisdom. 

Most career-driven young women are not interested in marriage and a baby in a carriage until late in life.  Many more are definitely not interested in baby-sitting/looking after or spending money on another woman's children with the older man.  The ones that might put aside life goals and work to assist their older partners are those that are very unhappy with their current or unresolved past situations.  Maybe they have the following challenges: 

-Don't get along with parents.
-Recently broke up with someone.
-Became homeless.
-Found out they are pregnant.
-Have a mental condition.
-Struggle with past issues regarding a father figure or other males or something else that might have occurred in their personal lives to derail dreams.

A young lady just might tolerate the older guy if he acts like her escape from past woes especially if he is stable and secure in his life.  Desperate, young women seek the older men who are weak to helping beautiful damsels in distress.  Sobs, anger outbursts, frequent sighing, or fake laughs over one's troubles is often given early on in the dating relationship (along with much sex) in the hopes that she can secure the successful, older man until the troubled young woman no longer has need of him.

So when it comes to young women dating older men, it all depends on who you ask and what their life issue might be at the time.  Just know that love doesn't come easy.  A spiritually and mentally immature woman who is still learning and growing isn't much interested in love as much as opportunity.

Nicholl McGuire 

  

Seductively Dressed Beautiful Women Lie Just as Much as Any Other

Hard to believe until it happens to you.  An angel, seductively dressed to lure you to a photo and act as if she is interested in you, an older man.  She lies to gain money, fame and power then boasts to friends, "Look, what I got him to buy me!"  If she is a professional, it's hard to tell, her photo tells no one that she is intelligent, people-oriented and ready to do business.  Rather, she sells sex.  She claims that she has morals when people question who is she really after seeing her photographs.  Her appearance shouts, "I am ready for the taking."  While she claims she is a Christian, wholesome, fun to be around, honest, etc.  But her lifestyle says something totally different.  Watch out for the beautiful liars!

They are hypocrites, the all show no go, types.  Now one must not assume that all scantily dressed women are up to no good, but something is up.  No one bares anything covered or uncovered on or offline for nothing. 

The scorned, beautiful women will orchestrate a plan to rob a millionaire of his wealth.  They can put on an act, say that you said or did something that you know you didn't.  You might want to record some conversations, make a copy of a dating profile, pen dates of incidents, and consult with your legal team, just in case you detect a little crazy in that gorgeous dame you met online.

Many in our society are gullible, easily charmed by beauty.  They think, "How can someone so beautiful, be so treacherous?"  Even with an image of Satan standing right next to the beauty queen, many men will find a way to get close enough to her to undress her despite all the warning signs, "Stay away."

Save yourself some grief, any woman whether nice-looking or not, who gives off signs that she just wants a fun time, be aware.  Spend some time studying more than just her body parts.

Read Proverbs 5

Nicholl McGuire