It all depends on who you ask, "Does age really matter?" For years this blog has shared personal as well as expert opinion about dating older men and younger women. Well I can certainly tell you that those who scream the loudest that age doesn't matter, at least initially, get a rude awakening as the relationship grows older. The wider the age gap, the more differences and the more bad news you eventually find out about your older or younger partner.
There simply are things that young women just don't understand or have the mindset to deal with concerning older men. Take for instance, life experiences and personal health woes, some younger women (not all of course) can't relate to men who are having a mid-life crisis no more than mature women. Older men have their share of the blues and the only thing that some young women can think of are their own selfish needs being met.
Now what about the older men who are a bit outdated and unwise? They gravitate to young women in the hopes that they will get sex and a companion. However, it doesn't work that way in time especially if there is no sincere connection with the young lady. A number of young women feel doubtful about the May-December relationship and question what really is the older guy's motives for even considering them. "I'm broke, still learning things about life...why is he really bothering with me when he could be with someone his own age?" Whatever the reason an older male comes up with to make the inquisitive,young woman feel secure, it isn't good enough. She most likely will move on sooner or later.
The takeaway is age matters when you give the relationship some time. You will see and feel the difference.
Nicholl
Showing posts with label dating younger women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating younger women. Show all posts
Sunday
Thursday
How Do You Know When You Are Dating Someone Who is Too Young?
Some older men just might need a wake up call when it comes to dating young women. There are laws in the land on dating women young enough to be one's daughter twice for good reason!
1. You know your girlfriend's too young when every other word that comes out of her mouth during a conversation is "Like," "You know" or "Cool."
2. She's too young for you when she is asking you, "Now where is it that you like to shop again? My grandfather likes going there too!"
3. She just isn't old enough for you when she is enjoying your children more than you. "Hey, let's play another game, your dad is boring!"
4. She lies about her age (sometimes by applying heavy makeup) just so that people will stop staring when you both are out together, yet they keep right on looking any way. You can't hide the truth!
5. She is just a baby when she asks a lot, "What do you think? How do you feel? Do you think I should?"
6. She is far too young, when a relative threatens to call the police if they see you coming around her again.
No girl/woman is worth losing your freedom or your life, jump ship while you still have time!
Nicholl McGuire
1. You know your girlfriend's too young when every other word that comes out of her mouth during a conversation is "Like," "You know" or "Cool."
2. She's too young for you when she is asking you, "Now where is it that you like to shop again? My grandfather likes going there too!"
3. She just isn't old enough for you when she is enjoying your children more than you. "Hey, let's play another game, your dad is boring!"
4. She lies about her age (sometimes by applying heavy makeup) just so that people will stop staring when you both are out together, yet they keep right on looking any way. You can't hide the truth!
5. She is just a baby when she asks a lot, "What do you think? How do you feel? Do you think I should?"
6. She is far too young, when a relative threatens to call the police if they see you coming around her again.
No girl/woman is worth losing your freedom or your life, jump ship while you still have time!
Nicholl McGuire
Tuesday
Age Gap Dating - Dating Younger Women, Dating Older Men Tips
Are you serious about your older or younger partner? If so, you might want to click around this blog and others to test yourself on some issues that may or may not come up. Everything from health issues to parents not liking an older partner will come up and you best prepared. It isn't easy dating older or younger especially when you have children, a lack of money/resources, unsupportive men and women around you, and a partner that isn't completely convinced that you are his One and vice versa. The following are some sites that have posted some interesting reading material about May-December romances. Enjoy!
Meet a Millionaire
Younger Women Dating Older Men May Not Forsee the Consequences
Is an Older Man Dating a Younger Woman Acceptable?
Older Men and Younger Women: Gross, Natural, or Something In-Between?
Meet a Millionaire
Younger Women Dating Older Men May Not Forsee the Consequences
Is an Older Man Dating a Younger Woman Acceptable?
Older Men and Younger Women: Gross, Natural, or Something In-Between?
Friday
7 Dating Tips for Older Men Meeting Young Women for the First Time
So you are excited about meeting your new date offline? Your first meeting will be great if you just remember to relax, don't take yourself too seriously, and use your manners. Now here are some other tips you might not have thought about.
One. Have a plan, a back up plan, and another plan on where you are taking your date.
First dates are the memorable ones, so you will want to work out a great plan. Interview her on what she might like to do, see and eat on the first date. Mention your interests. Find places that will meet both your needs. Have alternative plans that are near the area just in case an unforeseen circumstance takes place. But whatever you do, don’t wander aimlessly around looking for a place to go. Research the area before you arrive. If you can visit the community before you get there, do it. Google the location and check reviews. If one spot doesn’t work out, check out the next, and the next when all else fails, park in a nice spot and just talk until you can figure out where to go next. Keep your cool.
Two. Save money to be spent on your dating experience.
Don’t count on your date to have much. Young mothers with children don’t typically have a lot of money put aside for dating. A young woman in college maybe barely making ends meet. Just because she may be living independently or with parents, doesn’t mean she is able to afford an expensive outing with someone she is still getting to know. So avoid the temptation to ask her to split the bill, drive her car, or pay for gas. If you can’t afford to make a good impression, put it off. Remember the old adage, a first impression is a lasting one--don’t blow it!
Three. If things should go wrong, don’t lie or make lame excuses.
You spent too much time looking at yourself in the mirror, you fell asleep and forgot about the date, someone came over and you left late, whatever the reason, don’t focus on what you did wrong by lying, covering up, or exaggerating, apologize and then get right to making wrongs right. “Let me make this up to you, could I interest you in…would you like…I would love to help you with…” Statements like these sound much better than, “I didn’t think it was a good time to meet, but I know you wanted…You could have called me, you’re lucky I’m here…Everyone is always bothering me at the last minute, I would have been here sooner, but…” So is she going to have to feel your tension all evening?
Four. Look your best, be prepared to take a photo with her.
Skipping anything that you typically do to make yourself handsome can be detrimental when on a first date. When that special someone has seen you looking your best in many of your photos, she doesn’t want to suddenly see the gray-bearded guy who once had a black beard in all his photographs or the guy with the flat stomach suddenly have one now that he isn’t wearing a certain garment, shirt, or suit coat. The first photo is just as important as the first date, so be sure you have everything trimmed, colored, or whatever else it is that you do to look good.
Five. Be kind and respectful.
It is very easy to be yourself to the point that it turns a date off. Be yourself, but within reason. Don’t act overly macho, young and silly, or crazy and critical just because she shared a story once of a cool guy who saved her family or some funny guys back in high school. Most young women want what the older ones want, a polite man who is a good listener and sincerely cares about her.
Six Avoid the temptation of expecting her to have sex with you.
Just because you both were talking hot and heavy on the phone the other night, doesn’t mean that she is going to have sex with you. You never know what has transpired since the two of you last talked. So if she doesn’t bring it up, don’t say anything, but gently let her know with a flirty glance, “I wouldn’t mind.” From religious conviction to a menstrual cycle, many factors come into play when a woman just doesn’t seem interested in being intimate. Besides, you shouldn’t want a woman who is all-too-willing to get in bed with you without so much as thinking about a commitment.
Seven. Don’t assume that she wants to go out with you again.
Some men believe that they are a catch and that every woman should be honored to be in their presence. However, there is always one, two, three or more women who rather be anywhere then with an unattractive boring guy, a miserable man, a control freak, or crazy nut. Be sure that none of these descriptions fit you. Young women might be open to try something new for a time, but then when things get weird, they will gradually back off.
Taking the needed time to prepare for a date will not only make her feel comfortable, but you will feel good knowing that no matter what happens, you did your best. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire maintains other blogs as well, check out http://workplaceproblems.blogspot.com
One. Have a plan, a back up plan, and another plan on where you are taking your date.
First dates are the memorable ones, so you will want to work out a great plan. Interview her on what she might like to do, see and eat on the first date. Mention your interests. Find places that will meet both your needs. Have alternative plans that are near the area just in case an unforeseen circumstance takes place. But whatever you do, don’t wander aimlessly around looking for a place to go. Research the area before you arrive. If you can visit the community before you get there, do it. Google the location and check reviews. If one spot doesn’t work out, check out the next, and the next when all else fails, park in a nice spot and just talk until you can figure out where to go next. Keep your cool.
Two. Save money to be spent on your dating experience.
Don’t count on your date to have much. Young mothers with children don’t typically have a lot of money put aside for dating. A young woman in college maybe barely making ends meet. Just because she may be living independently or with parents, doesn’t mean she is able to afford an expensive outing with someone she is still getting to know. So avoid the temptation to ask her to split the bill, drive her car, or pay for gas. If you can’t afford to make a good impression, put it off. Remember the old adage, a first impression is a lasting one--don’t blow it!
Three. If things should go wrong, don’t lie or make lame excuses.
You spent too much time looking at yourself in the mirror, you fell asleep and forgot about the date, someone came over and you left late, whatever the reason, don’t focus on what you did wrong by lying, covering up, or exaggerating, apologize and then get right to making wrongs right. “Let me make this up to you, could I interest you in…would you like…I would love to help you with…” Statements like these sound much better than, “I didn’t think it was a good time to meet, but I know you wanted…You could have called me, you’re lucky I’m here…Everyone is always bothering me at the last minute, I would have been here sooner, but…” So is she going to have to feel your tension all evening?Four. Look your best, be prepared to take a photo with her.
Skipping anything that you typically do to make yourself handsome can be detrimental when on a first date. When that special someone has seen you looking your best in many of your photos, she doesn’t want to suddenly see the gray-bearded guy who once had a black beard in all his photographs or the guy with the flat stomach suddenly have one now that he isn’t wearing a certain garment, shirt, or suit coat. The first photo is just as important as the first date, so be sure you have everything trimmed, colored, or whatever else it is that you do to look good.
Five. Be kind and respectful.
Six Avoid the temptation of expecting her to have sex with you.
Just because you both were talking hot and heavy on the phone the other night, doesn’t mean that she is going to have sex with you. You never know what has transpired since the two of you last talked. So if she doesn’t bring it up, don’t say anything, but gently let her know with a flirty glance, “I wouldn’t mind.” From religious conviction to a menstrual cycle, many factors come into play when a woman just doesn’t seem interested in being intimate. Besides, you shouldn’t want a woman who is all-too-willing to get in bed with you without so much as thinking about a commitment.
Seven. Don’t assume that she wants to go out with you again.
Some men believe that they are a catch and that every woman should be honored to be in their presence. However, there is always one, two, three or more women who rather be anywhere then with an unattractive boring guy, a miserable man, a control freak, or crazy nut. Be sure that none of these descriptions fit you. Young women might be open to try something new for a time, but then when things get weird, they will gradually back off.
Taking the needed time to prepare for a date will not only make her feel comfortable, but you will feel good knowing that no matter what happens, you did your best. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire maintains other blogs as well, check out http://workplaceproblems.blogspot.com
Tuesday
Thoughts on Leaving Older Partner to Date Younger
He made a decision to leave his older partner, because he no longer found the relationship interesting anymore. She chose to leave her older mate, due to the age gap that started to affect things like: romance, conversation, and the way she saw herself. Both left older to date younger in the hope to find someone more compatible, more affection, energetic, and more. Of course, there are pros and cons to doing this, lets review some of them.
Dull Romances
We can't avoid those periods in our relationships where everything starts to become a bit mundane and routine. Unless one is working an interesting job, have a great network of people that keep him or her excited, and money to spend to visit fun places at will (along with the desire to do it), the person seeking to leave his or her older partner just might be as boring as them, but just doesn't realize it yet. Running into the arms of someone more interesting is just a temporary pick-me-up, but sooner or later you will begin to notice that the same things you didn't want in the last relationship are going to start to show up in the new one.
Health Concerns
Unfortunately, some couples just can't make it, because one or both can't handle health issues. From andropause to menopause woes, if a lover didn't have the patience to contend with those health challenges with his or her last partner, what makes this person think that everything will be just fine with someone younger? Most young women can still bear children which will affect the body in time especially when she starts having that need to want to become pregnant. Many take birth control which has been known to fluctuate mood, weight, and more. So for the older man who thinks he can do better by getting someone younger while leaving an older partner and possibly children behind, he just might inherit a few new problems that he might not be ready for like a future offspring affecting his mood and weight. Also, take into consideration the many people who are walking this earth with an incurable sexual disease, mental disorders, criminal records and other issues brought on by wreckless behaviors, bad parenting, peer influences, etc. Know what you are getting into beyond the nice smile, sexy body and whatever else you are looking for.
Relatives and Friends
No matter who one dates, there will always be certain relatives and friends that may be very important in his or her life that the one dating younger won't necessarily like or agree with. Criticism comes and goes from loved ones when starting any new relationship. But if this is one reason why you just can't stand being with your older ex, it's not a very good one especially if you still have to deal with a few relatives because of children. Besides, you just might find that your younger mate's relatives and friends won't be any easier on you particularly if there is a significant age difference between you and younger mate.
Money
A young woman who leaves a relatively stable relationship just because she feels like her older man just isn't doing it for her, might regret her decision later. If age is the only factor that bothers her, nowadays there are plenty of things men can take and do to better their lifestyles. But leaving an older man solely for the beauty of a younger man is foolish and unwise. Money may not be a factor in the relationship, but then it might be. Some younger women stay because of money while others leave because there is no assistance for what they have to put up with concerning an older man (ie. aging process, children with an ex, long work hours, etc.) so they go back to dating younger. However, young men, who aren't necessarily ready for a committed relationship, but think they are, have been known to be unfaithful, immature, and unreliable in serious relationships. Also, consider many who are irresponsible with their finances and selfish. But for those young men who aren't, the young woman just might find a treasure in more ways than one. For older men, who believe that a younger woman can complete him, know that most young women aren't established and don't have the wealth that he who has had decades to build. An older mate will find that at some point in the relationship his younger partner will need his financial assistance, so if he isn't the generous type, there will be issues.
These are just some of the many things one who is interested in leaving an older partner for a younger mate might run into. For some readers, this piece might have discouraged and if so, most likely you still love and respect your older mate. But for others, you may still want to leave your mate for any and all reasons, just keep in mind that those "in love" feelings with a new someone are temporary and they are not what builds a healthy long-lasting relationship, but you know that already. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire is the blogger for this blog. Check out others: Things to Do Bored and Parents, Babies, Children
Dull Romances
We can't avoid those periods in our relationships where everything starts to become a bit mundane and routine. Unless one is working an interesting job, have a great network of people that keep him or her excited, and money to spend to visit fun places at will (along with the desire to do it), the person seeking to leave his or her older partner just might be as boring as them, but just doesn't realize it yet. Running into the arms of someone more interesting is just a temporary pick-me-up, but sooner or later you will begin to notice that the same things you didn't want in the last relationship are going to start to show up in the new one.
Health Concerns
Unfortunately, some couples just can't make it, because one or both can't handle health issues. From andropause to menopause woes, if a lover didn't have the patience to contend with those health challenges with his or her last partner, what makes this person think that everything will be just fine with someone younger? Most young women can still bear children which will affect the body in time especially when she starts having that need to want to become pregnant. Many take birth control which has been known to fluctuate mood, weight, and more. So for the older man who thinks he can do better by getting someone younger while leaving an older partner and possibly children behind, he just might inherit a few new problems that he might not be ready for like a future offspring affecting his mood and weight. Also, take into consideration the many people who are walking this earth with an incurable sexual disease, mental disorders, criminal records and other issues brought on by wreckless behaviors, bad parenting, peer influences, etc. Know what you are getting into beyond the nice smile, sexy body and whatever else you are looking for.
Relatives and Friends
No matter who one dates, there will always be certain relatives and friends that may be very important in his or her life that the one dating younger won't necessarily like or agree with. Criticism comes and goes from loved ones when starting any new relationship. But if this is one reason why you just can't stand being with your older ex, it's not a very good one especially if you still have to deal with a few relatives because of children. Besides, you just might find that your younger mate's relatives and friends won't be any easier on you particularly if there is a significant age difference between you and younger mate.
Money
A young woman who leaves a relatively stable relationship just because she feels like her older man just isn't doing it for her, might regret her decision later. If age is the only factor that bothers her, nowadays there are plenty of things men can take and do to better their lifestyles. But leaving an older man solely for the beauty of a younger man is foolish and unwise. Money may not be a factor in the relationship, but then it might be. Some younger women stay because of money while others leave because there is no assistance for what they have to put up with concerning an older man (ie. aging process, children with an ex, long work hours, etc.) so they go back to dating younger. However, young men, who aren't necessarily ready for a committed relationship, but think they are, have been known to be unfaithful, immature, and unreliable in serious relationships. Also, consider many who are irresponsible with their finances and selfish. But for those young men who aren't, the young woman just might find a treasure in more ways than one. For older men, who believe that a younger woman can complete him, know that most young women aren't established and don't have the wealth that he who has had decades to build. An older mate will find that at some point in the relationship his younger partner will need his financial assistance, so if he isn't the generous type, there will be issues.
These are just some of the many things one who is interested in leaving an older partner for a younger mate might run into. For some readers, this piece might have discouraged and if so, most likely you still love and respect your older mate. But for others, you may still want to leave your mate for any and all reasons, just keep in mind that those "in love" feelings with a new someone are temporary and they are not what builds a healthy long-lasting relationship, but you know that already. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire is the blogger for this blog. Check out others: Things to Do Bored and Parents, Babies, Children
Thursday
When Dating Bubbly, Talkative Young Women Just Isn’t Working for You
They are youthful, exciting and have a lot to talk about,
young women who laugh more than they cry can make any man fall head over heels
in love with them. But when you are a self-centered
mature man, settled—caught up in routines, in time, you will be annoyed with
all the energy that some young women bring to the relationship.
At first it doesn’t seem to bother you, her smiling often,
but over time you find yourself starting to feel uneasy. You begin to wonder if there is something
wrong with you or maybe with her. “Can
someone be this happy all the time?”
Rather, you should be asking, “Why am I so cranky?” The young bubbly woman seems so much happier
and optimistic about the future, but you, not so much.
Casting all doubt aside and unresolved issues of the past,
face it, you just might not be her type.
Why force a round peg into a square hole? But what do some mature men do? Try too hard to impress in the beginning of
the relationship only to later become weary and unemotional toward a younger
woman’s advances, requests and desire to be heard. “It’s not her, it’s me…” he should be telling
himself. But years of playing the blame game
skews his vision and all he sees is that wide smile that he can’t muster on his
face asking him to, “Try this…Why don’t we go there…What’s wrong?” while
hearing her irksome laughter in his head.
Some men just shouldn’t waste a young woman’s time. Think: she has her life ahead. Why slow her down with unnecessary requests
to get her to change who she is? “Do you
have to talk so much, honey? Are you
always like this so cheery? I wish I had
your energy…” he says. So she likes to
go, go, go and giggle, giggle, giggle.
Isn’t that what you liked about her?
Why expect her to be anything different?
Maybe you use to be young and fun once, but these days that just isn’t
you. Why not be the bigger person and
end the relationship so that you can find someone with less energy, you know
someone more like yourself. Don’t worry
over making her cry. Besides, she might
be thinking, “He is such a grumpy man.
Wonder how I can get out of this one?”
There are those men who just don’t get it when it comes to
dating younger women, one size (personality) doesn’t fit all. No matter how many relatives, friends,
co-workers, talk shows, articles, and more that are out there that scream at
you, “Stay away from younger women, you are no match for them” some men will
try to date them anyway. Men, who just
aren’t out-going and don’t like to do much but work and periodically have sex should
stick to their own age group or alone especially if the slightest remark,
question, or joke bothers them. Most menopausal
single women get it, that’s why some prefer to be alone. They avoid both young and older men. “It’s just too much work to date,” some
say.
Far too many young women have had their poor hearts broken
waiting for some mature men to get their act together. They sold them a good sales pitch in the
beginning of the dating relationship only to let these women down, shame on
them! Unfortunately, some of these young
women overlooked the old adage which says, “You can’t teach an old dog new
tricks” too!
When you know you have a long pattern of reckless dating and
many stories that include phrases such as: “I didn’t like…couldn’t get along…wish things
were different…” it’s time to take that pause in one’s life and ask yourself
this question, “What the #$%^ am I doing?”
I’m sure the women your own age were thinking the same thing.
Nicholl McGuire
Special Online Dating Website for Young Women & Mature Men - Girlsandgentlemen.co.uk.
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Participants can choose from singles from all over the world simply by registering. Membership is free. Whether you are interested in a rich man or a beautiful woman, this site connects those who can be honest about what they seek in a dating relationship.
No longer do you need to date people your own age while wishing to be with someone much younger or older. Too often singles settle for dating people they are less than interested in simply because the people they meet live nearby or happen to show more interest in them than others recently. Seek someone online that will compliment you.
It isn't often that this site refers readers to dating sites, but this one is definitely one that you, who are interested in dating older or younger, will appreciate. Click here.
Participants can choose from singles from all over the world simply by registering. Membership is free. Whether you are interested in a rich man or a beautiful woman, this site connects those who can be honest about what they seek in a dating relationship.
No longer do you need to date people your own age while wishing to be with someone much younger or older. Too often singles settle for dating people they are less than interested in simply because the people they meet live nearby or happen to show more interest in them than others recently. Seek someone online that will compliment you.
It isn't often that this site refers readers to dating sites, but this one is definitely one that you, who are interested in dating older or younger, will appreciate. Click here.
Teacher Leaves Wife, Kids for High School Student | Parenting - Yahoo! Shine
If you ever needed an example of what mid-life looks like when someone isn't taking his vitamin supplements, herbal remedies, and a prescription med for his hormones, look no further! She desperately needs a father figure and he definitely wants someone in his life to make him feel like he is 18 once again! When you read the article, you will notice how he talks about his attraction to her like it was an overnight thing that began when she turned 18--not hardly. I will be the first to support any relationship that is healthy and balanced, but this one, it stinks of hormones and dysfunction!
Teacher Leaves Wife, Kids for High School Student | Parenting - Yahoo! Shine
Teacher Leaves Wife, Kids for High School Student | Parenting - Yahoo! Shine
You Wanted that Nice, Sexy...Now You Got It!
Oh boy, did you ever...! "You got that nice piece of $%^?!" one of your boys says as if he doesn't believe it. You are just smiling from ear-to-ear about that special man or woman in your life. The world has stopped spinning and all you hear anymore are birds chirping. You and your younger partner have isolated yourselves. You both have a "me and you against the world" mentality.
So you thought I was going to say, "But..." right? Of course, there is a "but." But, it's for your own good, boss, dad, college student, retiree or divorced. You know these titles will make or break this kind of relationship if you or she isn't comfortable with them.
Where do you go from here, mature man? One of you or both should be asking this question, because anyone who has ever been in a relationship always comes to this point. So it might as well be you who is reading this. How will being in a relationship with your younger partner benefit you in both the short and long-terms? Or, is there really any long-term? You have heard the experiences of people in these kind of dating older/dating younger relationships. Are you conducting yourself in that "full speed ahead until we crash into a wall" fashion in this relationship?
What about your career and/or educational goals? Is there room in this relationship for that? What about a possible pregnancy? Do you really think aborting would be the best option or keeping the child? How will your partner fit in with your family? Do you make enough money if you are retired to help your younger partner?
Love blinds us. Reality awakes us. We can use every cliche in the book to make us feel at ease with what we are doing in our personal lives, but seriously mature man, we (both men and women of all ages) all need a voice of reason just in case that special someone breaks our heart.
Sure, your taking it slow, but then again maybe not if you already had sex with her. Sure, you will come to that bridge when you get there. You may already be there if she has been sharing her feelings about you. Don't wait. Talk about the things that matter when it comes to your intimate relationship with your younger woman and those who care about her. She (and they--you know her family) just might still respect you in the morning.
Nicholl McGuire
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So you thought I was going to say, "But..." right? Of course, there is a "but." But, it's for your own good, boss, dad, college student, retiree or divorced. You know these titles will make or break this kind of relationship if you or she isn't comfortable with them.
Where do you go from here, mature man? One of you or both should be asking this question, because anyone who has ever been in a relationship always comes to this point. So it might as well be you who is reading this. How will being in a relationship with your younger partner benefit you in both the short and long-terms? Or, is there really any long-term? You have heard the experiences of people in these kind of dating older/dating younger relationships. Are you conducting yourself in that "full speed ahead until we crash into a wall" fashion in this relationship?
What about your career and/or educational goals? Is there room in this relationship for that? What about a possible pregnancy? Do you really think aborting would be the best option or keeping the child? How will your partner fit in with your family? Do you make enough money if you are retired to help your younger partner?
Love blinds us. Reality awakes us. We can use every cliche in the book to make us feel at ease with what we are doing in our personal lives, but seriously mature man, we (both men and women of all ages) all need a voice of reason just in case that special someone breaks our heart.
Sure, your taking it slow, but then again maybe not if you already had sex with her. Sure, you will come to that bridge when you get there. You may already be there if she has been sharing her feelings about you. Don't wait. Talk about the things that matter when it comes to your intimate relationship with your younger woman and those who care about her. She (and they--you know her family) just might still respect you in the morning.
Nicholl McGuire
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Saturday
Trying to Fit In to the Point of Deceiving Your Date?
"Be yourself!" You heard this phrase from people who give you advice on how to act around certain individuals and groups. However, for the older man and younger woman dating one another, it can be easier said than done.
I have been the one who was trying to act older at one point to impress a man back in my early twenties, but I was also on the receiving end when an older man was trying to act younger than what he was. Both of us were nothing more than deceiving one another, at least for awhile; however eventually, we were found out! He says, "I enjoy traveling..." but he doesn't go anywhere on his off time. She says, "I love going to jazz concerts..." and she has only been to one in her life-time. Do you see the false fronts?
Someone is going to have a bad day while finding out the truth and that is when the cover is blown! A younger woman finds out the truth about the older man, so, "You really don't do much at all!?" The older man finds out the truth about the younger woman, "You aren't as active as I thought! Heck, you barely have sex!?" Neither is who they claim to be! He may have initially thought, "She acts quite mature for her age..." On the other hand, she thinks, "He is quite fun and youthful!" After spending a little time with one another, they quickly learn there are problems and lots of them. "You are just a daddy's girl looking for a sugar daddy, huh!?" He yells. "Well, what about you? You just want a daughter to care for you in your old age!"
What both the older man and younger woman must remember is trying to fit in with one another by talking or acting a certain way will not win one another over for long. Unless you are a skilled actor or actress who can keep your role up all day and everyday, it is only a matter of time that you will slip up.
The old statement, "Be yourself," means just that! Don't act any different than you do on a daily basis. State what you like to do, but inform your date what you are presently doing with your life. If you are embarrassed about a mediocre life, then start doing something to make it more interesting, but be genuine. If you know that you tend to act quite immature, work on your short-comings. Please note younger women, some personal issues will only go away with time and experience and an older man must be patient with you.
As much as we want to belong to someone that fits us like a hand in a glove, we must remember that no such person exists. They may come close, but like hats and gloves, one size doesn't fit all.
Nicholl McGuire
Author of Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues
I have been the one who was trying to act older at one point to impress a man back in my early twenties, but I was also on the receiving end when an older man was trying to act younger than what he was. Both of us were nothing more than deceiving one another, at least for awhile; however eventually, we were found out! He says, "I enjoy traveling..." but he doesn't go anywhere on his off time. She says, "I love going to jazz concerts..." and she has only been to one in her life-time. Do you see the false fronts?
Someone is going to have a bad day while finding out the truth and that is when the cover is blown! A younger woman finds out the truth about the older man, so, "You really don't do much at all!?" The older man finds out the truth about the younger woman, "You aren't as active as I thought! Heck, you barely have sex!?" Neither is who they claim to be! He may have initially thought, "She acts quite mature for her age..." On the other hand, she thinks, "He is quite fun and youthful!" After spending a little time with one another, they quickly learn there are problems and lots of them. "You are just a daddy's girl looking for a sugar daddy, huh!?" He yells. "Well, what about you? You just want a daughter to care for you in your old age!"
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The old statement, "Be yourself," means just that! Don't act any different than you do on a daily basis. State what you like to do, but inform your date what you are presently doing with your life. If you are embarrassed about a mediocre life, then start doing something to make it more interesting, but be genuine. If you know that you tend to act quite immature, work on your short-comings. Please note younger women, some personal issues will only go away with time and experience and an older man must be patient with you.
As much as we want to belong to someone that fits us like a hand in a glove, we must remember that no such person exists. They may come close, but like hats and gloves, one size doesn't fit all.
Nicholl McGuire
Author of Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues
Wednesday
The Worry Over the Age Difference
He may have joked about your being a baby or was angry and accused you of acting immature. She may have commented about how old you are looking lately or laughed about how much older you act when in certain situations. It happens, the reality sinks in that she is young enough to be your daughter or he is old enough to be your dad. Before long, you are stressing about the large gap between your ages.
The thoughts of age differences come and go like a nagging headache. You would love to feel comfortable in this relationship, like you did with all the others when you started out, but you are finding it more and more difficult. How many times will you think, “When I was only this age, he was…” or “When she was only a baby, I was graduating from college…”? Don’t ignore those gut feelings. Some important differences are beginning to show and you will need to think about what makes you feel this way, address it, and if there is no resolve, consider moving on.
Sticking around with someone who you aren’t 100% convinced you want to commit to a long-term relationship will only conjure up feelings of resentment and thoughts like these: “Why did I ever get involved with him? What was I thinking when I slept with her? Who am I kidding, she is just too young! I could never see myself with him forever!”
When you least expect it, out slips something you wish you could take back. The next thing you know you find yourself or your partner is apologizing. However, insecure feelings have already arisen and there is nothing an apology can do. He or she will most likely worry over, “What did you really mean by that statement?” for a long time.
The best advice, when it comes to those age difference worries, is to take the time alone (without your partner, family or friends in your ear cheering your relationship or booing it.) Begin to start thinking long-term. The person you are dating has feelings and would very much like to know how you really feel about them. Tell the truth, because if you don’t, your actions (or lack thereof) will speak louder than words. Unfortunately, that’s when relationships problems really start showing up such as: the silent treatment, phone calls go unanswered, a partner starts dating others without officially breaking up, dates decline, arguments are more frequent, and lies increase.
Thursday
10 Things Men Do With Other Women While in A Relationship that Cause Problems
When a young woman is just getting to know you, your actions may not bother her at first (maybe as long as a year or more,) but as your relationship grows older, a girlfriend or wife's "understanding" begins to get thin. Here are 10 things that you may be doing that may cause problems for your relationship later. Discuss these issues in advance and talk about them again as they come up since a lot can change since those early days of dating.
1. Helping a single woman out financially and physically.
2. Being alone with a woman when it is non-related to business.
3. Touching and sharing a meal with another woman.
4. Lying about your whereabouts or not talking about them with your partner.
5. Talking about your wife or girlfriend intimately with another woman.
6. Having non-business related lunch or dinner with a woman alone.
7. Inviting your wife or girlfriend to an event then ignore her.
8. Kissing or acting playful with other woman in or out of your wife or girlfriend's presence.
9. Not telling your wife or girlfriend that you took a woman home or somewhere else.
10. Talking to relatives and friends about another woman's beauty (your child's teacher, your exs, your co-workers, even the sales clerk at the local store) and comparing that woman with your wife or girlfriend.
You say there is nothing wrong with one or all of these things I have listed. You even feel like your girl is fine with you doing these actions. You may consider women who have these kinds of issues insecure. Debate, disagree, get upset, but one day you will be in the dog house because of one if not all of these issues (think about some of the reasons why you had problems in the past with other women.) According to the Bible even your lustful thoughts can get you into trouble.
Be wise, don't bring unnecessary conflict into your home and avoid the temptation to do things that may rise strife within your wife or girlfriend. Don't cover your behind, expose it! Be open and honest about what you do when you are away from your mate.
Women think beyond what you tell them. Their minds are constantly thinking, especially young, intelligent women, "I wonder who was that woman? Why is she talking so closely to my man? Why are they sharing food with one another? Why didn't he tell me he drove her home three times this week? Why is there a meal for two on this receipt, he never told me he had dinner with someone?" You see how your reputation now looks? She has to think about why you do what you do. You never want a woman to get to a place that she has to come to you and ask you questions. But you don't want to talk so much to the point that you look guilty, telling everything you want her to know, but leaving out the truth.
Here are some tips to help you stay out of the future dog-house:
Invite your wife or girlfriend with you to meet a single woman especially when she offers a proposal "to get together" some time.
Opt out of opportunities to be alone with co-workers. Invite a third wheel to join you and the woman.
Avoid keeping secrets from your wife or girlfriend no matter how upset she gets about it. Would you rather hear her rant now or talk about breaking up with you for being secretive or lying later?
Consider your young wife or girlfriend your best friend now and all other friends (especially those who you know are "very fond" of you and vice versa) should be put on the back-burner -- this doesn't mean abandon them. If they are not helping your relationship then you should cut them off. Why remain friends with someone who doesn't like your young girlfriend and thinks of you as nothing but a Chester molestor unless you really are? Distant yourself from those jealous, lonely, middle-age friends who wouldn't dare doing anything different! Eventually cut them off. Not every friend is a life-time friend!
If your young partner asks you to please stop doing something you know is harming the relationship and you refuse, then you are sending a message to her that those people in your life and/or activities you do are more important than she is. Some men take on a negative attitude about some of these issues, because they know that the young women they are involved with are nothing more than playthings so they don't compromise. But if you are not a player, but a gentleman then consider the fact that this young woman may be your wife and/or the mother of your child one day!
In the future, be more considerate and compassionate of your new mate's feelings. Remember she didn't come into the relationship desiring a companionship with your friends (exs, families, etc.) she came into it for you and the security you provide both mentally and physically -- show her the same courtesy!
Nicholl McGuire
http;//associatedcontent.com/nichollmcguire
1. Helping a single woman out financially and physically.
2. Being alone with a woman when it is non-related to business.
3. Touching and sharing a meal with another woman.
4. Lying about your whereabouts or not talking about them with your partner.
5. Talking about your wife or girlfriend intimately with another woman.
6. Having non-business related lunch or dinner with a woman alone.
7. Inviting your wife or girlfriend to an event then ignore her.
8. Kissing or acting playful with other woman in or out of your wife or girlfriend's presence.
9. Not telling your wife or girlfriend that you took a woman home or somewhere else.
10. Talking to relatives and friends about another woman's beauty (your child's teacher, your exs, your co-workers, even the sales clerk at the local store) and comparing that woman with your wife or girlfriend.
You say there is nothing wrong with one or all of these things I have listed. You even feel like your girl is fine with you doing these actions. You may consider women who have these kinds of issues insecure. Debate, disagree, get upset, but one day you will be in the dog house because of one if not all of these issues (think about some of the reasons why you had problems in the past with other women.) According to the Bible even your lustful thoughts can get you into trouble.
Be wise, don't bring unnecessary conflict into your home and avoid the temptation to do things that may rise strife within your wife or girlfriend. Don't cover your behind, expose it! Be open and honest about what you do when you are away from your mate.
Women think beyond what you tell them. Their minds are constantly thinking, especially young, intelligent women, "I wonder who was that woman? Why is she talking so closely to my man? Why are they sharing food with one another? Why didn't he tell me he drove her home three times this week? Why is there a meal for two on this receipt, he never told me he had dinner with someone?" You see how your reputation now looks? She has to think about why you do what you do. You never want a woman to get to a place that she has to come to you and ask you questions. But you don't want to talk so much to the point that you look guilty, telling everything you want her to know, but leaving out the truth.
Here are some tips to help you stay out of the future dog-house:
Invite your wife or girlfriend with you to meet a single woman especially when she offers a proposal "to get together" some time.
Opt out of opportunities to be alone with co-workers. Invite a third wheel to join you and the woman.
Avoid keeping secrets from your wife or girlfriend no matter how upset she gets about it. Would you rather hear her rant now or talk about breaking up with you for being secretive or lying later?
Consider your young wife or girlfriend your best friend now and all other friends (especially those who you know are "very fond" of you and vice versa) should be put on the back-burner -- this doesn't mean abandon them. If they are not helping your relationship then you should cut them off. Why remain friends with someone who doesn't like your young girlfriend and thinks of you as nothing but a Chester molestor unless you really are? Distant yourself from those jealous, lonely, middle-age friends who wouldn't dare doing anything different! Eventually cut them off. Not every friend is a life-time friend!
If your young partner asks you to please stop doing something you know is harming the relationship and you refuse, then you are sending a message to her that those people in your life and/or activities you do are more important than she is. Some men take on a negative attitude about some of these issues, because they know that the young women they are involved with are nothing more than playthings so they don't compromise. But if you are not a player, but a gentleman then consider the fact that this young woman may be your wife and/or the mother of your child one day!
In the future, be more considerate and compassionate of your new mate's feelings. Remember she didn't come into the relationship desiring a companionship with your friends (exs, families, etc.) she came into it for you and the security you provide both mentally and physically -- show her the same courtesy!
Nicholl McGuire
http;//associatedcontent.com/nichollmcguire
Monday
Effect of Younger Women on Older Men For Rejuvenation
Aging is an inevitable phenomenon. But as man gets older he can retain his youthful vigor by acts that can be considered unorthodox. One of these recipes is a sexual relationship with a younger woman. The ancient Indian manuals as well as the Arabic manuals all bring out the fact that an older man copulating with a younger woman is a form of rejuvenation for the man. The ancient oriental sex manuals have accepted this as a truth.
One can argue about the veracity of the recipe recommended by the eastern manuals, but the western world has only now accepted this though with some reservations. This acceptance has come about because this is a subject of study in the west. In the United States this aspect has been studied by some scientists. Scholars at Stanford and the University of California-Santa Barbara have carried out research on this aspect of a man's sexual relationship with a younger woman. The study at the beginning of the twenty first century has made some revelations that have been known to the oriental for many hundreds of years. The study concluded that an older man who had a sexual relationship with a younger woman tended to live longer.
On the face of it a lot many rationalists and a lot of women as well are apt to negate this study. But there is no doubt that a relationship with a younger woman for a male does have a beneficial effect on him. It affects the physiology of the male. The male feels younger and has an intense desire to please his younger partner. This desire allows a male to do certain acts that will give his sex an impetus as well as please his younger partner. The Max Plank institute in Germany carried out a study on this aspect as well. Scientists there concluded that man tended to live longer if took as his sexual mate a woman who preferably was about 15 to 17 younger than him. Statistics are always difficult to digest but scientists at the institute feel that longevity of the male could go up by as much as 20%.Ancient sex manuals also say the same thing.
For a lot many people it is difficult to accept this. But there every day sex with a younger woman may make the man live longer. This is because the sex act by itself is a therapy. The effect on the man and his physiology is beneficial as it gives a purpose to a man in his life. He will exercise and keep himself fit as a desire to please his partner becomes a tremendous motivating force for him.
In the everyday world it is very difficult to start a relationship between older men and much younger women. There are very limited ways for this though a relationship in the office with an older boss or colleague is an accepted norm. But now with the advent of the internet the chance to start a relationship are greatly increased. People seem less likely to be concerned about the age difference on the net and love could blossom.
A younger woman will always make her partner feel younger. During the relationship or marriage the man will strive to please his partner leading to very beneficial results for him. A younger woman will help a man to stay in the same sexual level even with passage of a year or so.
Men, who have sex daily, especially with younger women, are more likely to live longer. A study in Denmark from 1990 to 2005 has concluded that higher life expectancy of the male could be because of younger women caring for their men. Obviously one may well ask as to what is there in such a relationship for a woman. For a younger woman it can be a very exciting surprise whose only sexual experience may have been only with men of her age. Women often complain that their need for foreplay is much more and a lot men do not get it. This is a plus point as an older man will take time to rouse himself and in the process he could spend a long time to raise the pitch of his younger partner. The result can only be beneficial. In addition older men are able to have more control over the physical and mental state of the woman and obviously more knowledge of what gives the greater pleasure to his younger partner.
The ancient sex manuals of the orient have given a lot of theory and to put it to practical use it is up to the man.
By Madan G Singh
One can argue about the veracity of the recipe recommended by the eastern manuals, but the western world has only now accepted this though with some reservations. This acceptance has come about because this is a subject of study in the west. In the United States this aspect has been studied by some scientists. Scholars at Stanford and the University of California-Santa Barbara have carried out research on this aspect of a man's sexual relationship with a younger woman. The study at the beginning of the twenty first century has made some revelations that have been known to the oriental for many hundreds of years. The study concluded that an older man who had a sexual relationship with a younger woman tended to live longer.
On the face of it a lot many rationalists and a lot of women as well are apt to negate this study. But there is no doubt that a relationship with a younger woman for a male does have a beneficial effect on him. It affects the physiology of the male. The male feels younger and has an intense desire to please his younger partner. This desire allows a male to do certain acts that will give his sex an impetus as well as please his younger partner. The Max Plank institute in Germany carried out a study on this aspect as well. Scientists there concluded that man tended to live longer if took as his sexual mate a woman who preferably was about 15 to 17 younger than him. Statistics are always difficult to digest but scientists at the institute feel that longevity of the male could go up by as much as 20%.Ancient sex manuals also say the same thing.
For a lot many people it is difficult to accept this. But there every day sex with a younger woman may make the man live longer. This is because the sex act by itself is a therapy. The effect on the man and his physiology is beneficial as it gives a purpose to a man in his life. He will exercise and keep himself fit as a desire to please his partner becomes a tremendous motivating force for him.
In the everyday world it is very difficult to start a relationship between older men and much younger women. There are very limited ways for this though a relationship in the office with an older boss or colleague is an accepted norm. But now with the advent of the internet the chance to start a relationship are greatly increased. People seem less likely to be concerned about the age difference on the net and love could blossom.
A younger woman will always make her partner feel younger. During the relationship or marriage the man will strive to please his partner leading to very beneficial results for him. A younger woman will help a man to stay in the same sexual level even with passage of a year or so.
Men, who have sex daily, especially with younger women, are more likely to live longer. A study in Denmark from 1990 to 2005 has concluded that higher life expectancy of the male could be because of younger women caring for their men. Obviously one may well ask as to what is there in such a relationship for a woman. For a younger woman it can be a very exciting surprise whose only sexual experience may have been only with men of her age. Women often complain that their need for foreplay is much more and a lot men do not get it. This is a plus point as an older man will take time to rouse himself and in the process he could spend a long time to raise the pitch of his younger partner. The result can only be beneficial. In addition older men are able to have more control over the physical and mental state of the woman and obviously more knowledge of what gives the greater pleasure to his younger partner.
The ancient sex manuals of the orient have given a lot of theory and to put it to practical use it is up to the man.
By Madan G Singh
Sunday
What Does a Young Woman Really Want?
These are just a few things I thought I would share with the men who happened to stumble upon this site seeking some perspective about the way younger women think.
The first point is just because a younger woman is not questioning your whereabouts and oftentimes acts nonchalant about your activities away from her, doesn't mean she can be played. Some older men might have gotten use to their former wives or girlfriends questioning everything they did, because those women didn't know how to establish lives of their own. However, this doesn't mean, "Well my young girlfriend doesn't care what I do as long as I give her money." Just like a woman your own age or older we care, we just don't make a big deal about what you are doing since we know that at any given moment when we are tired of your lies we can drop you and find someone who will appreciate us whether that man has a head full of hair and zero body fat or overweight and balding.
The next point refers to one's intelligence. Although there is a significant age difference, that doesn't mean the young woman is a fool. She may not know much about your era and may have little or no experience with your educational and/or career background; however that doesn't mean you can't talk to her or share a bit about yourself. It also doesn't mean that she can't hold a conversation with the best of them.
Another point I would like to make is that young women need love and security just like an older woman. Why is it okay for an older woman to say, "I need a man who makes a nice living..." but when a young woman says that she is deemed a gold-digger not every woman is with an older man because of money. It is a nice perk, but when the lights go off and you are ready to go to bed, she wants to know do you love her.
In closing, not every young woman has the kind of daddy issues that she needs a sugar daddy. An older man may say the things she wished her dad would have said back in the day like, "I love you...I care about you..." However, there are many women that are operating in this world with a healthy mindset and could care less how often their own dad said I love you or even came around for that matter. She doesn't need a father, like some women sing about in songs and write in poems, she needs a man! And unless you can be that man that will be the shoulder she can cry on, offer some advice, love her, and make her feel like a woman, you might want to check whether you are an older man with mommy issues, a need for a daughter, or in a mid-life crisis.
Nicholl McGuire
http://lovepoetrybynicholl.blogspot.com
The first point is just because a younger woman is not questioning your whereabouts and oftentimes acts nonchalant about your activities away from her, doesn't mean she can be played. Some older men might have gotten use to their former wives or girlfriends questioning everything they did, because those women didn't know how to establish lives of their own. However, this doesn't mean, "Well my young girlfriend doesn't care what I do as long as I give her money." Just like a woman your own age or older we care, we just don't make a big deal about what you are doing since we know that at any given moment when we are tired of your lies we can drop you and find someone who will appreciate us whether that man has a head full of hair and zero body fat or overweight and balding.
The next point refers to one's intelligence. Although there is a significant age difference, that doesn't mean the young woman is a fool. She may not know much about your era and may have little or no experience with your educational and/or career background; however that doesn't mean you can't talk to her or share a bit about yourself. It also doesn't mean that she can't hold a conversation with the best of them.
Another point I would like to make is that young women need love and security just like an older woman. Why is it okay for an older woman to say, "I need a man who makes a nice living..." but when a young woman says that she is deemed a gold-digger not every woman is with an older man because of money. It is a nice perk, but when the lights go off and you are ready to go to bed, she wants to know do you love her.
In closing, not every young woman has the kind of daddy issues that she needs a sugar daddy. An older man may say the things she wished her dad would have said back in the day like, "I love you...I care about you..." However, there are many women that are operating in this world with a healthy mindset and could care less how often their own dad said I love you or even came around for that matter. She doesn't need a father, like some women sing about in songs and write in poems, she needs a man! And unless you can be that man that will be the shoulder she can cry on, offer some advice, love her, and make her feel like a woman, you might want to check whether you are an older man with mommy issues, a need for a daughter, or in a mid-life crisis.
Nicholl McGuire
http://lovepoetrybynicholl.blogspot.com
Monday
Time to Show Off Your Younger or Older Mate for the Holidays
The day will soon be here! You will be making a statement whether you know it or not when you bring your new mate home for the holidays. So what do you say? What will they say? How will you react? What do you think your partner will do? So many questions, so little time. Let's talk about the dos and don'ts.
1. Do stay positive.
Although some will not favor your choice in a mate whether to your face or behind your back, ignore the looks and address negative comments, but always remember why you love your partner!
2. Do your homework before you and your date arrive to the family function.
Find out from relatives and friends what the mood is like before you arrive. If there is alot of tension about your decision, find somewhere else to spend the holidays.
3. Do avoid family disagreements.
You may be accustomed to arguing with certain family members and friends about one thing or another, try not to. You don't want to give your partner the wrong impression. Also, he or she may already feel tensed being around people he or she doesn't know, so try to keep conversations light.
4. Do respect your partner's feelings.
When your partner says, "I think we should go...I don't feel comfortable..." Don't make a scene. Politely excuse yourself when the opportune time comes and find out what occurred away from the site so as not to draw attention to the two of you.
5. Don't act bossy, know-it-all, negative, toward your partner in front of your family.
Sometimes we tend to tell our partners everything about everything when we are around people we know and we may even act a little different. Check your attitude and be sure you are putting your best foot forward not only with everyone else, but more specifically your partner.
6. Don't leave your partner alone with family for long periods of time.
Family have a way with words once you leave your partner alone. If you know you have difficult, negative relatives and friends, don't leave your partner alone with these people.
7. Don't allow your family to disrespect your partner.
Age is nothing but a number, but for some it is more than that and they may not hesitate to let everyone know how they feel. Don't stand there and let the relative or friend tell you and your partner off.
8. Don't feel tempted to joke about age or appearance with others.
Sometimes people will give into jokes because they want to go along just to get along. If you are in the relationship for the long haul, you don't want to set a precedence from the beginning that says, "I don't care..." when you know that you or your date really does care. Cut the joking off from the beginning and everyone will know where you stand.
Now that you have your tips for the holidays, enjoy! If things take a bad turn, try not to break your relationship off with your mate until you are certain he or she is not the one, not because of pressure or negative reaction from family and friends.
1. Do stay positive.
Although some will not favor your choice in a mate whether to your face or behind your back, ignore the looks and address negative comments, but always remember why you love your partner!
2. Do your homework before you and your date arrive to the family function.
Find out from relatives and friends what the mood is like before you arrive. If there is alot of tension about your decision, find somewhere else to spend the holidays.
3. Do avoid family disagreements.
You may be accustomed to arguing with certain family members and friends about one thing or another, try not to. You don't want to give your partner the wrong impression. Also, he or she may already feel tensed being around people he or she doesn't know, so try to keep conversations light.
4. Do respect your partner's feelings.
When your partner says, "I think we should go...I don't feel comfortable..." Don't make a scene. Politely excuse yourself when the opportune time comes and find out what occurred away from the site so as not to draw attention to the two of you.
5. Don't act bossy, know-it-all, negative, toward your partner in front of your family.
Sometimes we tend to tell our partners everything about everything when we are around people we know and we may even act a little different. Check your attitude and be sure you are putting your best foot forward not only with everyone else, but more specifically your partner.
6. Don't leave your partner alone with family for long periods of time.
Family have a way with words once you leave your partner alone. If you know you have difficult, negative relatives and friends, don't leave your partner alone with these people.
7. Don't allow your family to disrespect your partner.
Age is nothing but a number, but for some it is more than that and they may not hesitate to let everyone know how they feel. Don't stand there and let the relative or friend tell you and your partner off.
8. Don't feel tempted to joke about age or appearance with others.
Sometimes people will give into jokes because they want to go along just to get along. If you are in the relationship for the long haul, you don't want to set a precedence from the beginning that says, "I don't care..." when you know that you or your date really does care. Cut the joking off from the beginning and everyone will know where you stand.
Now that you have your tips for the holidays, enjoy! If things take a bad turn, try not to break your relationship off with your mate until you are certain he or she is not the one, not because of pressure or negative reaction from family and friends.
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