Not everyone who has children with an older partner is getting along well and the children are happy and healthy. There are some things that you already know when it comes to having a baby with an older guy and then there are those unexpected issues that you least expect.
1. The baby might have some health ailments.
It is inevitable, but some children do have their share of developmental problems because one or both parents are older. Do your research before you start planning to have a baby with someone over a decade older than you. Know what the risks are and find out what you can do to help alleviate some of the issues.
2. The sex will not remain the same as it was when you first started dating.
For many starry-eyed couples, they have a false belief that everything will just continue to be sexy and fun for always. They will talk of taking medicines to keep their sex lives active and come up with creative ways to enjoy love-making. However, as you age, so does your mind and body. There will be days even weeks, irregardless of your age, you just don't feel like it. So add demanding newborns, whiny toddlers and rebellious teens to the mix and the gap widens since the last time you had sex.
3. Sometimes impatience, moodiness, and tiredness will affect dreams of the happy family life.
If you thought that having a baby with your mature beau would bring you closer, think again. Men and women who have had children already or just beginning to think about having them as mature adults, have a good idea what to expect. Now how they endure through the whole child-rearing process is left up to speculation. Some couples actually break up because they just can't handle themselves and their needy children. The aging process isn't easy for some. If one isn't happy within, he isn't going to give his all to yet another relationship and possibly more children--some divorced men have been there and done that and really don't want to do it again. Young lady, do more watching what your older guy friend does and less listening to his charming speech about how you will make a great mom. Will he really make a great dad?
4. How old will you be and how old will he be when the child is in high school, college, etc.?
This question will pop up in your mind as you look at those around you who appear to be more active with their children while your partner not so much. You will think of this question as your mate grows older. You will start to wonder if he will be alive to see the children graduate, get married and have children of their own.
5. The children will notice that dad is an old man.
As much as you say, "Age is nothing but a number" to yourself, the children will clearly see that their father isn't like you and those young dads they see. They will ask questions, "Why can't dad do this...Why can't our father go there...Why is he always tired? Why doesn't he do things like the other dads?" Make all the excuses you want, the reality is he is older and you will most likely be the one running the children around to school activities, entertaining events, and more.
So just ponder deeply whether having a baby with an older man is really what you want to do.
Nicholl McGuire provides spiritual commentary on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
