Love Dating Older, Younger?

Do you enjoy the laughter of a young, beautiful lady in your presence, mature gentleman?  Do you appreciate the maturity of a man who is almost old enough to be your dad?  Well, there is nothing wrong with that!

You are a wonderful man or woman who knows what he or she wants and even if you don't you are still learning and growing with each dating experience.  With that said, enjoy your life!  Now we aren't talking about doing something you might regret, compromising one's personal faith for a cheap thrill, or acting like a complete idiot to win favor with someone.  But what we are saying is find the space in your mind and the time in your schedule to really get to know someone.  Through the journey, you will also learn some interesting things about you.

Dating online robs many people of the joy of being with someone in a way that really makes you see and feel a person inside and out.  Instead, what happens for many the online experience becomes nothing more than a game of cat and mouse that never has a proper ending.  Even offline one feels jaded that he or she was used in the moment and then on to the next.  Feel empty yet?  Do you feel a void in your heart?  You probably have dated far too many people or met up sexually with energy vampires.

When one warns to "slow down...take it easy...stop rushing...I don't like to be pressured." they are sending a red alert flag that you are moving too fast.  They are letting you know that there is something wrong with your wiring.  Dating older or younger was never meant to be something that you turn around in 10 minutes and hope for the best.

Remember why you wanted to date older or younger in the first place?  So why speed things up? Besides you can't teach an old dog any new tricks and you can't make a young person settle down who doesn't want to.

Look beyond your personal needs and ask yourself again, "Now why do I love dating older or younger..."  Upon closer inspection you will find that there is more to why you do it than meets the eye.

Nicholl McGuire

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Nicholl Shares Thoughts From a Spiritual Perspective for Women Dating Older Men

Here is some thoughtful insight on dating someone older for the younger women.  Hopefully, you will walk carefully and choose wisely.  Enjoy the video!

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by Nicholl McGuire who is the writer of this blog and other ones.  She also has written various nonfiction books including When Mothers Cry

It’s Not Always Easy Dating Someone Almost Half Your Age (Younger or Older)

You may not admit it to those around you because you don’t want them to tell you, “I told you so.” But it’s really not easy to date someone with a mindset that is from decades ago when women/men acted this way and that way.  It can be challenging to be with someone who has more energy than you and sees years ahead of them to get things right, while you think “I don’t have long to live to not get things right.” 

So on and on we think about just how different we are from one another—older man, younger woman—until that one day when he or she says some things that make us feel like, “Well maybe we aren’t that different…”  But then disagreements come up and suffocate all the niceties, don’t they?  Things are said that remind us of those age differences once again.  “She is so immature!”  He says.  “He is so old and boring!” She thinks.

You try to deny the truth and suppress your uncomfortable feelings, but neither is working.  For some couples, they start obsessing about ending the relationship.  Then they enlist others to encourage them, “Maybe being with him/her is not what you really want.  If you would have listened to me, I would have introduced you to someone who was more your age.” 

When you are all alone at home or in your car and with no distraction, you have to make up in your mind whether you are committed to this younger woman or older man.  Are you?  You have to be the one that decides if this person is worth all the criticism, future joy AND upset, health issues, etc.  If you know that you just don’t have the energy, mindset or time to commit to the relationship; then don’t deceive yourself or that older man or younger woman who might possibly be in love with you.  Let this person know that you are not interested in marriage, living together, children, or anything else that typical committed couples have.  Rather, tell the one you admire (or possibly might love) that you are still working on some areas in your life, and you are not quite ready to settle down.  It is better that you are open and truthful, this way your lover/friend can prepare his or herself emotionally and not demand any commitment from you.

How to Know You Are Not Ready to Date an Older Man

You like the idea of dating someone older, but are you really ready? Article provides tips to help you answer that question.

He approached you whether in person or over the Internet, you know how old this older man is and you think you might take him up on his offer to go out, but do you really know what to expect? You may know enough about him that turns you off, but there are a few things about him that turn you on more. Questions come to mind such as, “What if I don’t like him? What would my family and friends think if I date him?” This is why it is important to seriously think through whether you want to date an older man. Here are some signs to watch out for that will help you determine whether you are ready or not.

One. You can’t seem to look past his gray or thinning hair, sagging skin, age spots, or deep lines and wrinkles on his face and body.

Two. You complain often about his choice in television and radio shows and would prefer he get more involved with your world.

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Three. You find yourself wishing that he would change his wardrobe.

Four. You are often embarrassed being seen with him in public and can’t handle the dirty looks some people give you.

Five. When you communicate your thoughts or interests to him, you feel that he is more interested in having sex with you.

Six. You feel uncomfortable with the idea that his daughter or son is about your age and his ex-wife is about your mother’s age.

Seven. You enjoy his money more than his company.

Eight. You often struggle with trying “to fit in” with his family because of their age differences too.

Nine. When he asks, “Do you have a problem with our age difference, you find yourself lying.”

Ten. You can’t handle when he or his relatives make jokes about him being your “sugar daddy” and you being “a gold digger.” You are angry often and find yourself fantasizing about dating someone your own age.

Now that you have 10 tips to help you understand whether you sincerely want to date an older man, it’s time to put yourself to the test! If at any time you feel that a dating relationship with an older man isn’t right for you, be honest and tell him. He may not agree but at least he will respect you for your honesty.

By Nicholl McGuire
Dating & Relationship Advice

When He Thinks You Are Dumb

The day will come when your intelligence will be tested young woman. He will come to you with a little bit of wisdom -- a question that just might leave you guessing. It's not that he is playing games with your head, at least not at this point, but he is trying to determine can you walk with him long term.

You see, young woman, no man wants a dumb blonde on his arm for a lifetime, so to those of you who are acting -- stop it! Let your intelligence show before its too late! Just like in school your teacher gives you a pop quiz to see if you were paying attention, the older man will do the same. Sometimes he doesn't know that is what he is doing until after he realizes he has been asking the kind of questions of you that will help him make a decision whether you are wife material.

The one major thing that separates the mature woman from the younger woman is life experience. The mature woman will underestimate the young woman because she falsely assumes that all are "babies, stupid, wet behind the ears, don't know any better, still young." However, the mature woman has a rude awakening when she realizes she is out of the running when a young woman steps up to the plate and shows her that she knows a thing or two about life too.

Part of stepping up to the plate is concentrating on your man. Studying him like you would a text book and knowing how to answer his questions when the time comes. Some of his questions may be about your interests, your hopes for the future, how you feel about him, where do you see yourself in five years with him (or without him) and how do you feel about his family. Depending on how serious you are in your commitment to him will determine how you answer his questions. If he is nothing more than a friend (someone you haven't slept with) then answer the questions selfishly, because you aren't interested in a future with him. But if you love this man and you can't eat, drink, or sleep without him, then be careful! You don't want to scare him off by preaching about me and not we.

Be smart young woman and you will go far! But act dumb and all you will be is nothing more than a toy for an older man!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love Myself, Amazon.com http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com