Does Your Date Make Less Money than You?

The longer you date someone, the more you learn about him or her. You begin to find out things that aren't so flattering and you start to wonder whether you want to continue to date this person. One thing that can turn into a big issue later is when a date makes less money than you. Now sometimes this isn't a problem if he or she is good about managing what little he or she has. But when this person doesn't make much money, sooner or later low funds will affect you and your wallet.

Consider the many things one wants to do while dating. Most of these travel plans cost money. Does your date have a savings toward making any of his or her wishes a reality or is this person expecting you to foot the bills?

When it comes to eating out and at home, who is often putting out the money? Does this bother you? If it does and you have been hiding your feelings about it, you might want to start discussing your concerns before things get any more serious. If you started out paying most of the bills in the dating phase, know that your role most likely won’t change as the relationship gets older.

A man or woman who is use to being taken care of is usually attracted to people willing to meet his or her needs. What is your date’s history? Has his partners typically been older or younger? This is significant because chances are if you are older, he or she has some other underlying issues and being with someone mature makes him or her feel mentally and physically secure. Sometimes a date is thrown into a role he or she didn't plan on playing out i.e.) Sugar Daddy, Father, Sugar Momma, Mother.

You will know when the connection with a date is more about material wealth then it is about love when he or she does the following:

1. The person never offers to pay for anything while you are out.
2. He or she doesn't appear to love or even like you much, but when you pull out your wallet, there is much attention and affection thrown your way.
3. You can’t have a conversation with him or her without it involving money or you assisting him or her in some way.
4. Your date acts very needy, pouts, and does things that irritate you when it comes to purchases you have made with your money.
5. The date doesn't bother to save any money and expects you to bail him or her out.

Once you see the truth, here’s what you will need to do:

1. Scale back on the gift-giving.
2. Don’t offer your date any financial assistance or service. Observe how he or she handles matters.
3. Plan to attend events and travel, but ask for contributions from your date if he or she would want to go along. If the date doesn't help, go without him or her.

Life is too short to permit someone to take advantage of your kindness. Be sure that anyone you date whether they make less or more money is someone that sincerely loves you for you!

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The Young Woman who Runs from Her Father to the Older Guy

She isn't attracted to the older man for the sake of being attracted to him, this perceptive young woman is running to him because he is a kind, sweet, caring version of what she wished her own father to be.  Everything isn't about sex and money with this particular lady.  She is quite content with or without those things, just so long as the older guy is attentive and makes her feel special and secure, he wins and angry dad loses.

Dad should have seen it coming long ago.  When he walked past his daughter as if he didn't see her or when he sat in front of the television screen far too long while never bothering to ask, "So how was your day in school?"  He should have known that he would be unimportant in her life sooner rather than later, because he could care less about his daughter's lifestyle unless it some how involved him.

The mature man, who might have a daughter of his own, is not only going to embrace the youthful beauty, but he is going to care for her (while possibly pitying her) in a way that she wants.  The troubled older man might use the woman's pain to benefit him while creating the illusion he is safe. Either way, if the man, who might be a possible father himself, isn't close to his own daughter, somehow this young lady will fulfill his emotional disconnect from his own offspring.

Some mothers, who are about the same age as their daughters older boyfriends, are disturbed by their choices in older men sometimes.  They might look like their husbands or exes, act in similar ways, or do things that make them hurt inside for their daughters. These discerning mothers see through some of these older men like looking through a glass store front.  Sure, they look good on the outside, but upon closer inspection, "What does this guy really want with my daughter?  Is he just as troubled as she?  Is someone or something absent in his life too?"

It isn't easy for some age-gap couples, because people change like they do in other types of relationships.  What once served its purpose during the courtship will one day be reviewed and replaced with something new, and if what is being offered is dismal, dissatisfying, or downright wrong, someone will wake up and the relationship will surely come to an end.  

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.

May-December Relationships - When It Comes to Dating: Age is Just a Number or is it?

When young women meet older men or vice versa, they will talk about how age is just a number and who cares about the age gap, and how much they love their partners. They could care less about the years their dates have been on the planet. Most observers understand these age gap relationships, while others not so much—especially when the person who is dating someone older is their daughter or son. Families don’t tend to embrace the age gap relationship as well as some would have you to believe. Parents, grandparents and other relatives want to see their loved ones happy, but they don’t always like the choices they make in mates particularly when the dates are as old as they. Of course, the happy couple doesn't care what the critics say, they love one another. But age does eventually play a part in the relationship.

Marriage

The older partner that has experienced much in his or her life is sometimes not open to discussing the possibility of being married once again which will make those who find marriage important bristle. The mature date knows what marriage means and is not at times happy about the idea of making yet another promise that he or she might not be able to keep, so he or she will drag out the relationship promising to commit one day. A young person that has never been married before will be tempted to add pressure to an already intense situation causing the older person to put off getting married.

Children

A young person who has never had children is typically open to the idea which might stimulate an increase interest in getting married sooner rather than later. He or she wants to feel secure in knowing that a partner will be around to help parent the children. However, the one who has been there and done that isn't so excited about the possibility of having yet another child. This person might reflect on a time of much struggle, be concerned about the baby’s needs affecting his or her work and bank account, and avoid the topic because he or she doesn't like the idea or want to be a part of it.

Life experience

As much as some would like to think that life experience has no bearing on a May-December relationships, it does! The more mature a man or woman is the more knowledge he or she has about life. Sometimes people will change during their evolution of maturing. A young person is more likely to change his or her mindset, personal goals, and more than an older partner. He or she isn't typically settled and will not be too happy if he or she feels like an the mature mate is attempting to hold him or her back. Until the pair is in similar places in life, the relationship will be challenged.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual advice on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7

Too Much Talking About Your Young Lady or Older Guy?

Some best friends, relatives, co-workers, and others aren't the least bit interested in connecting with an older man and younger woman dating one another.  Some have acted strangely, others have closed off circles, while a few might have faked support.

One of the biggest mistakes a couple makes in an age gap relationship is talk about one another a little too much to those in their inner circles.  Revealing things like personal issues they have with one another to how they act when it comes to sex, too much information will cause some healthy couples to put up their signs, "Keep away."

Friends, who have known each other for decades, begin to grow distant but the distance can increase even more when a buddy keeps talking about his "Pretty young thing...how she makes me feel...I just love when she...I don't like it when she..."  Some friends become jealous while others just don't want to hear things about the young woman in almost every conversation.

The young woman, who is excited about dating the older guy with money, loses her friends over time because, she too likes to run her mouth about what she receives from him, what she likes and doesn't like about the man.  The pair belong together, at least for a time, until one or both isn't so positive about the relationship.

Funny, how time flies when you're having fun!

Nicholl McGuire

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10 Warning Signs On Dating Hyper-sexualized Young Women

From the time a young girl was old enough to walk, she may have already experienced some things too graphic to mention here when it comes to her sexuality.  By the time she is in her 20s, she has seen, heard and felt enough pain and pleasure that it isn't any wonder that at times she dresses and acts in ways that might be considered shameful, disrespectful, and downright foolish to some older men.

As much as some mature men would love a twenty-something beauty on their arms, what they don't realize is there is often baggage that comes with the hyper-sexualized type--those very sexy women who will do almost anything for a good time.  From various personalities they can switch on and off to eating disorders, these sexy ladies are seriously too hot to handle and may create much drama in an unsuspecting man's life.  Some older men don't realize what they are getting themselves into until its too late i.e.) rape accusations, stalking, jail etc.

When checking out these pretty young women both on and offline, mature men should consider the following:

1.  Is the young woman often seen in photographs half nude or totally nude?

2.  Does she strip, use drugs, or abuse alcohol?

3.  How might accepting her wild lifestyle affect a possible future relationship with her, your life, or affect others in your family?

4.  Is she frequently seen flirting or "hanging out" with males?

5.  What is the likelihood that the young lady has slept with at least one or two of her so-called good friends?  How might you feel sharing her with other men?

6.  Does she have a close relationship with mom, dad or both to the point that it makes you feel uncomfortable or is her relationship so bad to the point that police had to get involved?

7.  Have you experienced moments with the young lady that made you question whether she was mentally stable?

8.  Has she asked you to do things to her or others that were strange, odd, or painful?  Did you do these things against your better judgment?  What might happen if you keep doing them?

9.  Have you had dark dreams about her or experienced some bizarre things when she isn't around?

10.  Does she curse often, yell, or make a big deal about things that most people wouldn't?

These are just some things you will want to think about before planning a future where you might be taking care of the young woman financially and physically.  Some of these hyper-sexualized women know just how bad things are with them mentally, physically and spiritually while hoping to find a few good men to save them.  When that doesn't work, they often do the following:  get pregnant in the hopes their lovers will stick around, later abandon children, leave their babies with many different people, or choose to abort because they are incapable of handling the responsibility of raising children.

If you know someone who appears to have it together, yet tends to be overly sexy and has been at times very irresponsible in her decision-making, pay attention to the warning signs early on and protect yourself in more ways than one.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7

She Was a Child, He Was a Man

I never thought in a million years that my mom would lift up the liner of my purse and see many letters from a young girl about 13 written to me.  The girl was my best friend.  She was going through a tough time back in '86.  Dad was no where to be found, mom was often working, and my friend had a lot of time to hang out.  Me, I had no time to spare, my parents didn't believe in me spending anytime over friends' homes or they coming to our home, nor was I allowed to ride on buses or chill on street corners, parking lots or malls.  Phone calls were limited and so was afterschool events.  So back then, before Internet, there was much letter writing between friends.


I knew that things were beginning to take a different turn for my good friend when she started mouthing off to our teacher back in elementary school.  The guy was nice and more patient than most teachers.  I was thinking at the time, "What was up with her?"  The rebellious student had a lot on her mind.  I knew her secrets, but I didn't know just how bad they could affect her personality, but I could never tell--I promised.


My friend had met a guy who was 21 years old that same year.  She had been lying about her age for a long time.  I thought it was strange at that a young man was interested in her.  I mean she was attractive and had a build that didn't look like a teen, yet  I could see how young she looked in the face, but I guess the older guy didn't seem to notice or didn't care.  I really wished he had taken a better look at her between all the makeup she wore and simply told my flirtatious friend, "You're too young Sweetheart and moved on."  But the letters never revealed he rejected her, rather he seemed to be taking advantage of her and I mentioned some things in the hope that she would get some help.


For many months, she confessed how she felt about the guy.  "I love him...he's so nice," she would say.  She talked about how he liked her and bought her things.  She said she really wanted to be with him.  At some point, her mom detected she had a boyfriend.  However, in time she knew he was older, but hadn't pressed the issue about her daughter breaking up with him.  I thought it was bizarre back then that mom seemed not to care.  But looking back, the man most likely was giving the mother some money or helping the family out in some way.


I hated keeping my friend's secrets, I eventually did throw those once hidden letters away at the request of my mother, they started becoming more and more graphic.  The girl would share her experiences and I being a faithful friend just couldn't divulge her secrets.  I was 11 years old at the time.  My friend's life wasn't the least bit innocent.  As I read each letter, I felt like a piece of my own childhood was evaporating. 


When I reflect on the day that my mom found those many letters, it was freeing in some way even though I was quite scared that she might do something.   I was so glad not to carry my friend's burdens anymore.  That was her life and her mother was going to have to deal with whatever she permitted her daughter to do.


By the time that school year ended, I don't really know what happened to my friend.  The last I heard, she was going to a different school.


Nicholl McGuire 

Money, Sex and Online Dating

If you thought you were going to get online, find someone at one of those dating websites and all would be just fine in the end, think again!  There will be challenges sooner or later when you meet these people who flock to the Internet to set up dating profiles and upload attractive headshots.  For many online daters, it's a business whether they choose to call their dating experiences that.  They are on these dating websites for upfront money and/or sex.  You just aren't going to get something for nothing!  The wealthy man calls the beautiful women he wants to date prostitutes because they want cash, gifts and other things before they agree to have sex.  The women complain about being called gold-diggers.  Then there are both men and women irregardless of their sexual preferences, locations, etc. they have their share of issues they are running away from, desire to relocate, and want more out of life and so someone online is supposed to save them from their boring routines or rescue them out of their poor situations.


Now let's just put money and sex to the side for a moment.  Do you really like that guy and is he really your type?  Is that girl so beautiful that you will do almost anything for her like marry her for starters?  The truth is that many available as well as unavailable men and women are not sold out on their online dates, at least not in the beginning of the courtship, they say things like, "I think I could one day love him...She might be a good wife one day..."  So in the meantime have a good time and get what you can out of the deal, right? 


It takes time to truly get to know someone, but a man or woman with a pressing offline need is not going to waste too much time chatting, winking, texting, and doing much else before asking, "So when are we getting together?"  Then when the time comes, someone better deliver on the goods or else face any number of things depending on the date's mindset.  So many have had bad experiences feeling pressured to deliver on what was suggested online or promised.


There is nothing wrong with establishing boundaries and telling a person where you stand when it comes to a casual dating, serious commitment, or fling experience.  But what is wrong is leading someone to believe things just to get things!  Whatever the desire, wouldn't it be best simply to state it--no sugar-coating and no pretending to go along just to get along either?  Even if your request is met with a "no," take heed, learn from the experience, and get needs met in other ways.


Unfortunately, some online daters ask for trouble when they assume they are going to visit an Internet website and get what they want when they want.  As much as one would like to believe that these dating websites will deliver whether you pay or not, you still have to face the harsh reality that people are people and if they like you, they like you and if they don't, they don't.


Money and sex, if you hope for one or both, be prepared for the consequences in your rush to get these things.


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How Does the Young Woman End Up with an Older Man a Lot Like Dad?

I never planned to date any men who acted like my dad, but yet I found myself in so many ways being attracted to older men who had some or as many of my dad's traits that I could find.  I realize now there were "triggers," things I might have liked, wished, or didn't like about my own father, but I didn't know this at the time.  On the surface, I could care less about dad's appearance, personal interests, etc. yet someone within me, cared a whole lot! 

When the need to want to be close to dad was there, it showed up in the mates I agreed to date.  I didn't seek out these men, they came to me which was quite bizarre just how much they reminded me of my dad.  So for me, if there is something that I like or I found missing in my life related to my father, I tended to gravitate to it.  However, as I mature, I am recognizing this and finding more healthier ways to cope since the truth is, I have no desire in the future to date any more men especially with a large age gap--five years tops!  I am married now and I see my dad in some ways.

1.  Skin Tone

It all started with skin tone, I personally like my own father's color, so if a guy was similar to his shade, I would be more open to talk to him then someone with a darker skin tone.

2.  Occupation and Hobbies

If the man had a background that was close to my dad's like a white collar job, military service, and hobbies that reminded me of him, he also got the VIP treatment.  (Mind you, at the time, I didn't knowing that my criteria in meeting someone was based on my dad's lifestyle).

3.  Age

I realized that most men who are older are more settled.  I didn't experience any hurt growing up such as, a father who ran the streets like a young man, partied, concerned about "his boys" or acted wild.  Yet, my experience with younger, unsettled men was just that.  They were often uncaring and wasted money.  My dad and other older men I knew didn't do this, so the age gap was a plus for me.  However, I had a strict upbringing, so I felt comfortable with controlling types which caused me much heartache with one older man.

4.  Travel

What was strange was I really wanted men who got out and explored their local areas and elsewhere, yet I kept giving many dates the pass on this who didn't get out much!  I would eventually get frustrated with these men.  When I reflected back, my dad didn't leave the home to do recreational activities or vacation much either.

5.  Communication

I found that when I talked with my dates, I often over did it and I wondered why.  I felt like sharing so much of myself with these men.  The truth was that at home with my own father, we rarely talked and he spent much time on off days staring at a television screen.  So of course, where did I find I had most of my conversations with these dates?  Seated next to them while they watched TV with no eye contact.  They didn't seem to care too much about what I said, just like my dad.

If you should find that there is much going on with a date that is somehow connected with father blues or daddy issues, know that the young lady really can't help herself.  Her dad dropped the ball.  She still has more maturing to do so that she can find someone who she likes that doesn't consciously or subsconsciously remind her of her dad.  This comes with being exposed to men at work, school, church, and elsewhere.  She doesn't have to date much, but she will need to establish friendships in an effort to learn what she likes or doesn't like in men while breaking the wish for having a relationship with her father.  Sometimes talking with dad about issues helps quell some childhood woes too.  Also, a simple hug can do wonders.  But what I will not advise is taking advantage of the wish for daddy's communication, affection and more, becoming like a dad to her.  That relationship will soon fizzle especially when she begins to bond with her dad. 

As for the young lady, continue to learn more about yourself and your needs and when you recognize you are choosing a mate based on what you did or didn't have with a dad, think deeply and be sure it is a healthy connection.

Nicholl McGuire

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The Wider the Age Gap, The More Things to Consider

Love, friendship, compatible interests, similar goals, money, mental and financial stability, you name it and singles want it all.  Some get lucky and others not so much in meeting a partner.  Age gap dating is really not that different than dating someone your own age or close to it, but there are some differences.

This issue of age not meaning much only applies if the ages between the younger and older aren't extremely wide. But age is significant when a man is old enough to be the young woman's father twice!  These people who love to talk about how age is nothing but a number haven't experienced many relationship differences, but for those who have and see the truth for what it is: He's really too old and she's really too young!  So what makes this so?

1.  Very little in common spiritually, mentally and physically.  Frequent disputes, immaturity and/or substance, emotional or physical abuse.
2.  Too little or too much money and an unwillingness to help with basic needs.
3.  Worries over things like: gold-digging, family woes with the partner, and jealousy.
4.  Employment and education focus -- too many long hours, not enough time spent together.
5.  Health concerns that affect sex.
6.  Unresolved issues with finances, former partner(s), business etc.

Whether you are the lucky older guy or gal who has landed a great companion or the one struggling in a May December relationship, there are some things to think about when dating older.  This blog has many topics that range from age gap dating to dealing with mid-life challenges.

Media reports have shared studies where couples had a hard time staying together when the age gap in a relationship is very wide.  The older guy isn't getting any younger and the young woman will not always stay young.  So as the pair matures, needs change.  What was good five or 10 years ago, isn't anymore.  The internal issues of wanting more out of life rather than settling will be there for the young woman who feels the older gentleman didn't make good on his promises or isn't what she had in mind for a partner.  The mature man will have his issues with mental and physical compatibility now that he is getting older.  These are the facts and as much as some would like to blame everything but age, it is what it is.  

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.

No Acting Older Than You Are, Young Women are Watching

Older men, who feel the innate need to feel young again, have this personal issue that a young woman could care less about.  As far as she is concerned she just wants to know that you are mentally, physically and financially stable.  The last thing she wants to hear about is how forgetful you are getting, how you have an ache here or there, how broke you are, what you don't know, and how you can't get there from here.  These are not the kind of things you want to share with a new date!

Older men that often complain about all sorts of things like bills, exes, adult sons and daughters, and long lines at the store are such a bore!  Why bother dating young women?  Some older men should simply stick to their own age group.  These same grumbling men will drop hints about their lack (whether true or not) as well as have other ups and downs that exes already know about and young women will soon discover.  The troubled older man would do better talking to their own age group about personal challenges or better yet, seeing a doctor.

Think about this, would any man want to hear a woman nag, cry or moan often about her woman problems?  So why would an older man assume a young woman would want to hear about his mid-life woes?  Now there are some women who have a heart for male mid-life issues, but others not so much especially those who have been on the fence about dating older men.  You can easily turn young women off if you act older than what you are.

There is a fight to stay young if an older man should want to brave dating women with a significant age gap. A man has to have some degree of youth to keep the young woman liking, loving and respecting him. He doesn't have to act like a 20 plus year old, but he should exude the kind of confidence that says, "I enjoy life, having fun, and appreciate my companion."

Older men, who can't keep young women around, are the type who tend not to be happy with themselves much less anyone else.  These men have no real desire to stay fit, live unsatisfactory lifestyles, and can't see beyond their personal challenges.  It isn't any wonder why some will change partners like they do their undergarments--young women grow weary of grumblers.

It is safe to say that a young woman who sincerely wants a good relationship will stick it out with a man who doesn't make her feel miserable by frequently complaining and acting older than who he is. The last thing a young woman wants is to feel like her youth is quickly passing by because she is with an unhappy older man.

Nicholl McGuire

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How many older, married men so far this year have been surprised with the news, "I'm pregnant," by young mistresses?  What about men, who never wanted children, and others who thought about it, but just didn't want to start their lives all over again?  But now they have no choice.  "Pregnant, why me?" they think.


Some older men aren't sticking around to even make the connection with their babies.  We see evidence of this when we hear of the vast amount of single, young women having babies with no fathers living with them.  Hopefully, these young women got enough information about the fathers of their children to meet up with them in family court.  These love 'em and leave 'em types move on with lives as if nothing ever happened with their young damsels in distress.  Meanwhile, the state pays for their babies and their young women's residences. Now other older men do stick around, but aren't the least bit happy about being dads especially when they are 50 plus and thinking about retirement in their 60s.  In time, they too will find a way to love at a distance with or without children, while saying goodbye to young mates.


Men in midlife, who always wanted babies, tend to be happy about their young women being pregnant.  But men in midlife, going through a tough time with bodily changes, and who are already fathers are not so happy.  They struggle with the idea they got a young woman pregnant, how they look driving a family vehicle, money challenges they face bringing children into the world, and more.


This is why some mature women will warn young ladies to protect themselves.  For they know better than most why their husbands strayed, why boyfriends are no longer loyal, and why these women couldn't stand to be with men their own age.  Middle-aged, andropausal men can be fickle like menopausal women.  The middle years are a strange time for many and they only get more strange for some while newborns cry, toddlers play, and big boys ask, "Why is dad so tired, so slow?"


Nicholl McGuire

Crazy Old Men - Why Do Young Women Bother?

Most young women know a crazy old man when they see him.  He might be unattractive, smell funny, move slow, and talk much.  These ladies might be polite and respectful to the senior citizen, but the last thing they are interested in is being with him.  But then there are some young women who look at the same crazy old man and think, "I wonder if he has a nice house, some money, know a few stars, or has a hot car I can drive?"  These women just might put up with crazy at least for awhile to impress friends, increase finances and achieve dreams.


Now some men, who believe that they still "got it" whatever "it" might be to them, won't be surprised that a young lady is taking any interest in them.  Most likely, women have told them quite a few nice things over the years about the way they look, how they behave in bed, how they talk, walk, etc.  However, older men, who have never had an "it" factor in their youth or in old age, should be concerned why would young women be acting like they are romantically interested in them?  Consider also those older men who have mental and health issues who suddenly have a flock of youthful women taking up time with them.  Observant sons and daughters of their elderly parent are going to want to know, "What's up with dad and these young women?  He's not able to do much...he isn't mentally strong, something isn't right."  Most likely, there isn't anything right about what is happening.  Adult sons and daughters should investigate.


Sometimes seniors who are beginning to lose their minds will blurt out their personal business.  They might alert young women to their money and give them access to their assets in the bank.  These irresponsible seniors will offer to assist these young ladies while telling them to keep a lid on it.  They wouldn't want sons and daughters older than their lovers to know what dear ole dad has been up to.  But a forgetful mind, wasteful living, items going missing in the home, increase in foot traffic at the residence, and secretive behavior on dad's part just might alert relatives to some funny business.


One crazy man, who unfortunately died, had an increase of young women visiting him during his latter years.  Neighbors wondered why they were so interested in the unattractive, often broke, older man living in a senior citizen high-rise building.  His private life eventually became public, especially after he passed, it turned out that he was using drugs with those young ladies and some were servicing him.  He would pay them to bring him the drugs.  These ladies would then sit with the old man and get high.  The poor man was losing his mind the more he used the drugs while causing further harm to his already bad health.  He acted strangely and didn't keep himself up prior to death, but the young addicts didn't care and neighbors said the young women weren't all bad looking either.


Crazy old men in need of love will do just about anything for a bit of attention.  With no one around who cares much for them, some end up doing despicable things.  Others find themselves in jail after chasing what they thought were young ladies, when in fact were really young girls.  But with mature attire, make-up, and what appears to be a fully developed body, who knew?  The young girls know how old they are, but due to their immaturity and some of these older men's craziness and desperate acts, the pair will take chances--the kind of risks that might put girls in hospitals and old men in jail.


Nicholl McGuire

When the Wealthy Older Man Acts Like a god in the Young Woman's Life

Her parents didn't care much for her, the young woman in need of love begins her quest to gain what she lacked growing up.  She stumbles across an older man whether online or offline, someone who can help her mentally, physically and spiritually--at least so she hopes.


Yet, for many young women in search of mates, that they believe will meet their needs, they are left feeling disappointed.  Sure, most relationships start off quite wonderful and others remain that way for years, but the unspoken truth with many is that they have resented their decisions in choosing mates.  Rather, they wish they would have made wiser choices especially when the older men begin to show their true ages.


What one has to give up in order to gain much can be quite shocking when it comes to dating older wealthy men.  Some young women have reduced their lives down to nothing more than being baby makers, maids, baby-sitters, secretaries, workers, investors, mistresses, and more.  There is no love in these relationships just expectations.  "I do for you, you do for me...and maybe you just might get more."


A young woman who has no faith, no self-esteem, broke physically, and is grappling with all sorts of family issues is easy prey for a man who is also broken mentally, physically and spiritually.  Controlling other people's lives makes some men feel complete--they feel like gods answering their followers prayers.  They expect to be praised, worshipped and given respect even when these acts are undeserving.  These controlling men enjoy not having to answer to anyone.  They will not hesitate to put up a fight, whether right or wrong, when it comes to someone or something directing their lives.  So a young woman with little education, skill, wisdom, talent, respect for herself, etc. has little, if no influence, on her mature dates.


This is why concerned relatives and friends, who know women in relationships with older men, will advise these young ladies to do things like:  focus on school, find a good job, break from a meaningless relationship, relocate, achieve dreams, travel, avoid pregnancy, marriage, and more.  Those who have made poor decisions in their lives early on know how difficult it can be to live for self once one commits to marriage and family.


A young woman with little guidance in life will look to whoever is willing to be attentive to her.  If that person is offering advice, paying her bills, protecting her, and doing other things while family and friends are often being critical, ignoring her, or showing the poor lady no love, there will always be an older man around looking to get his needs met while meeting hers for a time.  Unfortunately, some mature men don't keep up with their end of the bargain.  They lie, exaggerate, and do other things that leave a young woman feeling used and abused.  Check out Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.


Nicholl McGuire 

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Does She Really Love Her Sugar Daddy?

When does a Sugar Baby reach a point in the mutually beneficial arrangement that she is strongly considering a long-term partnership with her older beau?  The young woman has a lot to learn if she intends on maintaining some sort of arrangement with the gentleman.


Young women, who desire to get more out of their Sugar Daddy, Sugar Baby arrangement, will act in ways that might later cause a breakup.  For a needy young woman, the innate passions such as: wanting to feel special, a hope of getting married, and the thought of having a baby will begin to suffocate the simplicity of just being available to a Sugar Daddy.


"I want more," she cries.  Just like a father, a Sugar Daddy will calm the young lady with words, gifts, and promises.  However, none of what he is doing will fulfill the void within.  A woman with unfulfilled dreams, no faith, unresolved issues, personality disorders, and money woes is like an open wound that never heals.  Place a Band-Aid on her and she will bleed to death.


One, who is in a Sugar Daddy arrangement, typically knows that love is one of those emotions that tends to come out of nowhere.  Depending on the kind of friend one might have, will determine whether the arrangement ever becomes a relationship.  Some Sugar Babies have to keep feelings hidden or otherwise risk losing it all.  Some Sugar Dads simply don't want to be connected or controlled by anything that sounds even a little bit like love.  Since most Sugar Daddies are involved with more than one woman, it will be difficult (almost impossible) to pen one down and keep him down.


Love feelings may be sincere or may not be between friends.  Sometimes being treated and spoiled with gifts and sex gives an illusion that one is in love, when the truth is one is in infatuation.  He or she might not be interested in living together, seeing one another daily, or planning a future.  If this is the case, love just wouldn't describe temporal emotions, but lust would.


Nicholl McGuire also maintains the blog, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.

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Getting a Divorce to Be with the Young Lady

Your secret is safe with me, I'm not telling.  But the issue of divorce is something that many of us faced in the past.  The thoughts came into mind soon after the holidays came to an end and then by spring the paperwork was delivered.  For any number of reasons men and women say, goodbye to the past and hello to the future.


It may appear as if things are just great once the decision is reached to discontinue a current relationship.  However, some people just don't understand that when people warn, "The grass isn't greener..." they mean it.  It starts off a plush green, but in time it wears out, gets old and turns yellow.  Without turning the grass over, planting some new seed, and maintaining the ground, there will be no plush green grass anymore.  Instead, there will be holes, bald spots, bugs, and an unsightly look left behind.  Isn't this partly the reason why the marriage grew stale in the first place?  Off to go explore new pasture.


A young lady can be nice, sexy, smart, and special, but one must remember she is young.  One day she is going to realize just how good-looking and intelligent she is and how much life she has in front of her.  She will want to see what more is out there.  No matter what she says, her heart will eventually tell her different.  Why take a risk with a wishy-washy young person if a marriage might be saved?


Far too many men have prematurely ended savable marriages only to later find that if only they had been more focused on what was happening on the home-front and less distracted from what was at work, in the parking lot, on the computer screen, or at the local business maybe a wife would still be around.


Divorce has long-lasting effects while sexy and sex is temporal.  Be sure that you are willing to take care of your ex and the young lady, because both will be expecting something sooner or later that starts with a dollar sign and ends with zeros.


Nicholl McGuire 

When the Young Woman is Rude, Restless and Miserable

The writing is on the wall, she isn't much interested in her older partner like she once was.  The young woman talks rudely to him whether behind closed doors or in the public.  She often feels bored in the relationship.  In addition, her date has a good way of making her feel miserable when she is with him frequently complaining about something, acting critical of her, and showing well, his age.


The older man may not care too much about the way his lady friend feels since she still has sex with him every now and then.  But in time, he is going to grow weary of his date's negative attitude and may end the relationship--that is if she doesn't do it first.


When the young woman reaches a point of no return in an age gap relationship, it's not so much that she hates the man she is with, but she is disappointed at the change that has taken place between them.  Older men don't remain the same, they age and so do young women. 


What use to be fun, unique and interesting a year or more ago may not be anymore for any number of factors between the couple.  One would have to sit down with his or her partner to find out what has happened--that is if you still want to be in the relationship.


Nicholl McGuire also contributes to a dating blog here.

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When Some Older Men are Tired and Lazy

Some mature men are very energetic, pleasant to be around and enjoy having fun with younger people.  These men will admit that young people make them feel alive.  However, there are those older men who avoid young people like a plague.  They aren't very much interested in dating women with young children, don't bother to take much time up with their own sons and daughters and younger relatives.  They enjoy time alone watching favorite sports on television without feeling obligated to entertain anyone but themselves.


Sometimes the older man, who doesn't have much of a life, believes that by connecting with a young woman things will get better--become more interesting, but this isn't always the case.  For some men, they regret their decisions choosing younger women to date.  They come to the realization that having an imagined fun life, really ends up being more work than anticipated and costs much money.  An older man, who is often tired, lazy and hoards his money, doesn't make for a good partner.  Both mature and younger women actually regret landing these types.


Being overweight and having low-T has a lot to do with why some men are not as energetic as they once were.  Unfortunately, some lost wives due to being fat--imagine having someone much larger than you attempting to make love to you or smelling an out of control body odor?  It isn't any wonder that some divorce.  Then throw in a mood disorder and boredom, an older man with these issues aren't going to win and keep friends for long.  These men are typically uninterested in life beyond the television screen and music. 


When a man is miserable and doesn't like himself much, he will lash out at anyone who points the finger at his weaknesses.  Rather than deal with the problems that are creating more problems, he will cast blame, act as if he has done nothing wrong in a previous relationship, and go about his routines oblivious to those around him.


If a young woman happens to be involved with a man she deems old, tired and lazy, it would be best to distance herself from the troubled man when he refuses to address issues.  Of course, we all are getting older, but some age pretty well and are a joy to be around, while others are often angry and want nothing more than a comfy chair, a cool beverage, and a huge television screen.


Nicholl McGuire 

Young Woman: Do You Really Want a Rich Man?

What are you willing to give up to get a rich man?  If anyone ever told you that there is nothing you must sacrifice in order to be with a successful man, think again, young woman!


Whether a man has a six figure income, inherited wealth, or just manages his money well, for him to be willing to share what he has earned, he has to know that he is going to get something (more than just sex) from his partner.  The kind of some "things" that will motivate him enough to generously hand over a portion of his money to his young lover/girlfriend/wife.  Yet, the truth is that many successful types maintain their wealth, not because they enjoy distributing it, but because they love saving or worse hoarding it!


So along comes a young lady who thinks that she is going to swindle a man out of his money, play a game better than him, or sweet talk him into sharing his assets. She just might do well persuading him to give her a donation or two, but of course at some point, the rich man is going to catch on to her gaming and in time, he will be expecting more than a trophy for a partner and legs spread wide.  Whatever that something is she just might find herself compromising her morals--that is if she has any.


Most women who landed wealthy men did something along the way to catch and keep that man.  Maybe the young lady didn't have to disrobe, but she did have to show and prove that she was a worthy partner.  Manipulating others, pretending to love her rich man, helping him with his projects, offering financial support to her mate for a time (even though he is rich), housing him, making meals, tending to his needs, assisting with his children, meeting the needs of older parents...there are no free lunches when it comes to some young women partnering with older, rich men.


Mature women, who have been with well-to-do gentlemen far longer than most young women who have been on this planet, will speak of a long list of things they had to put up with in order to keep their, at times, insensitive, grouchy, and downright evil partners.


1.  Lie for their rich men even though they wanted to tell the truth to others about them.
2.  Pretend as if their men never emotionally, physically or spiritually abused them.
3.  Put off personal needs to tend to their mates endeavors.
4.  Enlist the help (or otherwise take advantage) of others to save their men money and time.
5.  Experience emotional turmoil because a mate wanted to have sex with other women.
6.  Forget about past indiscretions if they wanted to keep the peace at home.
7.  Act as if everything is mentally, physically and spiritually alright with their rich partners when they know different.


These are only seven of many things partners of rich men have undergone to maintain decades long relationships.  A woman who doesn't have tough-skin, has problems with working indoors and outdoors (sometimes the home isn't going to include a maid and a gardener), has issue with lying to protect a wealthy man's reputation, money, power status, etc. is not going to do well with a rich man. 


Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it and when you do, will you be able to handle it?


Nicholl McGuire

When the Family Accepts Younger Woman Dating Older Guy

He made it through the series of tests!  The family really liked that guy who is 10 plus years older than their young daughter, niece, sister, cousin...Good for him!  But the trial is not over, it's just beginning!


As long as the older guy dates the younger woman, there will always be someone or a group in the family that will be keeping one eye on that man who claims to love/like their young relative.  The day he says one cross word or puts his hand on their little girl and she goes back to report to her family about the episode, just might be the day that he can forget coming back around the family.


Although some relatives might be okay with the arrangement publicly, behind closed doors they are having the "If he does anything..." kind of conversation.  Remember, the relatives don't love or appreciate that man like his partner does.  As far as they are concerned, he is a fly by night romance with mid-life issues.


Meanwhile, those relatives, who are genuinely happy for the couple, will not hesitate to invite them over for future events.  It is up to the older guy and his young partner to pick and choose which events are worth attending.  Too much hanging around the family isn't always good and so the old adage goes, familiarity breeds contempt.  Therefore, take some time away from relatives and love from a distance if you want your relationship to go the distance!


Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.

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Age Gap Dating - When is it a Good Time to Stick with Your Own Age?

You will know when it is a better to remain friendly with someone older or younger when your mind and body are in agreement.  There is just no shaking that feeling that says, "Keep away from them!" 


Many young women may have started off talking about how great their older dates were when things were still new, but in time they begin to realize why the older women wouldn't even look twice at them.  There is always a not-so public reason why an older man is interested in a younger woman and it isn't always good.


Some older men regret meeting their younger dates after a time of spending time with them.  They too come to the realization why the young women prefer dating them; rather than younger, more attractive looking men.  From wanting a place to stay to needing someone in their lives that will make them feel special, some young women's demands are too much to bear for older guys set in their ways.


To date most individuals who are older men or younger ladies requires patience, generosity, sex, and kindness.  Young women are typically more active and talk more than older women.  They also are still trying to figure their lives out so you never know what a day might bring.  Older men tend to have their share of responsibilities as well as health issues, so you never know when those sweet guys will turn sour.


If you know that the idea of being with someone with a significant age gap is going to be a bit of a burden for you, then rather talk yourself into dating the person or allowing him or her to persuade you to continue to date, just say, "No."  When you are not sold out on an idea, it is always best to avoid it.  Otherwise, you will find yourself one day playing the blame game.  Meanwhile, the only one to blame will be yourself for thinking you wanted something that you really didn't from the start.


Nicholl McGuire wrote Laboring to Love Myself, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.

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Married Men will be Home for the Holidays

For the young women hoping that the married man will be with them during the holidays, think again!  If he does come around, he would have told a fantastic lie to relatives in order to get out of the home during the evening or late at night which he just might avoid being that family holidays is a time for togetherness.  If you see the married man before or during a holiday, it will be between his errand running and he will obviously look stressed and will be in a rush.  Wives may be busy, but not too busy to notice that something is a bit strange about their spouses.


These other women await for their unavailable men's return to their beds in the hopes that things will get back to the way they were. They hope the gifts of money, time and affection will continue as usual.  However, the holidays have a way of changing some men's hearts, minds and bank accounts when it comes to their other women.  No sense in acting like a crazed woman if the married man says, "Listen, I really don't think we should keep seeing each other.  I don't think it is a good idea..."


While these young women had hoped for babies to their new lovers, serious relationships or their older men to divorce their wives, there will be an unexplained energy in the air, the kind that includes prayers and curses coming their way depending on the kind of men these women decided to connect with.  As much as men and women reason that all is okay despite saying wedding vows before a supernatural God, the reality is, it isn't--it  really isn't.  Consider the countless media stories of scorned wives and lovers going off the deep end as a result of being cheated on and lied to.  Until a man is divorced, he shouldn't be leading any woman on, making her believe that he is ready to move on with his life when it is obvious, he is not.  So many men manipulate women then wonder why these sweet, beautiful young woman turn into crazy, obsessed b*tches, don't wonder, get out while you still have a mind and body intact as well as your freedom.  See blog on dating and domestic violence as well as other abuses http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com 


Women, who have been in relationships with the following types of unavailable men such as:  married men,  married abused men, abusive married men, or are involved with married Sugar Daddies, know what it feels like when it seems like one's world is mysteriously getting worse fooling around with these backslidden Christian oath takers who stood before a group of people to declare their love for wives knowing full well they never loved God, his church or the wives they are committed to! 


From health to finances, the young woman has more problems to solve while the unavailable man becomes less and less in their lives until he is no more!  Babies born in these relationships never fully get to know their fathers.  They are often forgotten about sooner or later, because the married man has to keep his mess away from his supposedly happy home. 


One or both know when an affair is coming to an end when usually the married man is not acting as kind, patient and generous like he once was.  He may find excuses not to come around his lover anymore or blatantly express his feelings of guilt, resentment, and anger toward wife and lover(s).


To eliminate some of the personal drama, it would make sense for any woman or man in a troubled relationship like this to end it, but there is always that but...or butt that makes things difficult.  If this describes your situation, one way of relieving some of the tension is to keep away from all things that tempt you to want to go back to a lover.  If her smile attracts you, rid yourself of images on and offline that remind you of her.  If seeing him at a nearby workplace makes you want him, then avoid watching him and going to that place whenever possible.  If she is one of your Facebook friends, a part of a dating network, a co-worker, or is in or around your home, or lives nearby, you will need to stop making an effort to talk and be with this young lady. 


People ignore one another everyday and when you are determined to get on with your life and rid yourself of past mistakes, you don't keep inviting them back into your world.  If a baby is involved, you have no choice but to do your part to help the young woman and your baby.  If you are a married father reading this, you most likely will have to share this information with your spouse if the young woman plans on letting the world know about the baby via the court system, media, or confronting your wife and other relatives. 


Most young women and older married men find each other as a source of escape from troubled marriages and mundane lifestyles.  It was a process to get together and it will be a process to break up, but it can be done.  Who wants to keep waiting by the phone for a call all hours of the day and night or worry over whether he or she is sleeping with someone else, stressed about money and gifts, or concerned that someone with a taste for blood just might find out about the relationship?


A man or woman who doesn't want to have to deal with the adrenaline rush of keeping secrets and telling lies during what is supposed to be a happy season, will stay home at least for a time.  Having an affair is work.  Telling lies and trying to keep up with those lies is exhausting.  Remembering to address the needs of a wife, tend to work responsibilities, and do for children and other relatives is hard work.  Then there is that young woman who thinks to herself, "What on earth did I get myself into?"  Free yourself.


Happy Holidays!
Nicholl McGuire

7 Inexpensive Gift Ideas for the Older Man

A young woman just can't go wrong if she knows her older man's taste, but if he isn't one for being specific about his preferences, here are some gift ideas that are useful and will make him smile!


1.  Wrinkle-free dress shirts.  A professional man with a tight schedule doesn't like ironing or at times dropping off or picking up clothing from the cleaners.  The young woman might purchase quality shirts in navy blue, gray or white for her mature man. To play it safe, avoid bright colors and bold prints.


2.  Cologne is a good idea when you have some idea what he already has.  If he enjoys subtle colognes like a musk or others that you can smell before he hits the door, you might want to do your research and let him smell some cologne samples before you buy one.  However, if he is an allergy sufferer, pass on this gift idea, and instead get some useful hair and body items that are fragrance free and are designed for sensitive skin.


3.  Ties along with a nice set of cuff links are a great gift if he is often in the public or travels to formal events.  If you go along with this idea, be sure you have checked out what he already has to get some idea of his taste.  Don't take a chance wasting your money on something silly just because you like it.  He most likely will laugh about it, but he won't wear it.


4.  Avoid jewelry unless you have been with the gentleman for a long time and know his taste well.  Although a major purchase might flatter him, you don't want to go broke in the hopes of a serious commitment and nothing comes of it.  Expensive gift items have a way of conveying exclusivity.  You also don't want to be disappointed during your gift exchange only to find out the item he bought for you was inexpensive and meaningless.  Instead of jewelry, get him something that helps him organize what he already has.  So if he has many necklaces, rings, or cufflinks, seek out a nice-looking organizer.


5.  Printed media is always a great gift for someone who loves to read, but not so much for the man who enjoys watching television or movies online.  So be sure the media you choose goes along with his preference.


6.  Collectible items are great gifts if you know what he enjoys collecting.  If he has a favorite team, you might want to get something within reason to add to his office décor or his "man cave."


7.  Spiritual men love anything that reaffirms their faith, makes them feel good, and is helpful to their godly assignments.  So if you know how to pray, ask God to lead you to something that is worthwhile.  Beautiful plaques, cups, framed pictures, key chains, book covers, book marks, and other Christian items make for great gifts.


Other items you might want to look out for on sale include: sweatshirts, belts, socks, underwear, hats with favorite teams/logos, and useful electronics under $100.


Nicholl McGuire also shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7 as well as links to other useful sites.  See here.

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