As long as the older guy dates the younger woman, there will always be someone or a group in the family that will be keeping one eye on that man who claims to love/like their young relative. The day he says one cross word or puts his hand on their little girl and she goes back to report to her family about the episode, just might be the day that he can forget coming back around the family.
Although some relatives might be okay with the arrangement publicly, behind closed doors they are having the "If he does anything..." kind of conversation. Remember, the relatives don't love or appreciate that man like his partner does. As far as they are concerned, he is a fly by night romance with mid-life issues.
Meanwhile, those relatives, who are genuinely happy for the couple, will not hesitate to invite them over for future events. It is up to the older guy and his young partner to pick and choose which events are worth attending. Too much hanging around the family isn't always good and so the old adage goes, familiarity breeds contempt. Therefore, take some time away from relatives and love from a distance if you want your relationship to go the distance!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.