Thursday

When the Old Man is Tired of the Young Woman

Some women just make older men more tired than they already are.  These men have to contend with their own share of internal issues, but then along comes a younger woman who has a long list of fun things to do, volumes of conversation, a large network of family and friends, and plenty happening in her life.  The older man is not ready for this, yet he convinces himself that he is.  The young lady is excited about the future and glad to be dating someone older that is until...

You might be that guy who is with someone like the young woman described.  But as each day passes by, you are so over the mid-life crisis thing and can bravely admit, "I'm tired.  I just want to relax after work.  Sit on the couch on weekends and enjoy the television."  Absolutely nothing wrong with that if you prefer to be alone or with someone closer to your age who enjoys the same thing.  But if you are going to date younger, you will need to stop hoping the young woman will conform; rather, let her go.

Now saying good-bye to a beauty with a lot of energy is no easy feat, but if you want to live a little while longer without the additional stress of trying to keep up with her say, "Adios!"  Far too many mature men date younger women and make both parties feel miserable, because they want to control the younger woman.  When she wants to fly, the older guy wants to put her back in her cocoon.  When she plans to relocate, get educated, try something new, or break up with him, the mature man figures out a way to lure her back to him.  If she asks for his support, the older, insecure type worries that his money or time will be in vain and that off she will go with someone younger.  This can all be so mentally and physically draining!  In time, the old man is seated on the couch tired of putting up a fight, yet he doesn't want his young partner to leave either.  Go figure!?

So if you are that mature man who has reached a point where you just don't see it benefiting anymore to date younger, but you still want to keep that pretty young thing around, do yourself and her a favor, (since you are supposed to be the wiser of the two) let her be free!

Nicholl McGuire
 

Friday

Message for those in Emotionally & Physically Abusive Relationships


What's Love Got to Do With It? He's a Sugar Daddy

Some rich men take no offense when they are dating women who are with them not because they love them or even find them attractive, but because they have money.  These Sugar Daddies don't see anything wrong with a young gold-digger who is a 10 on the beauty scale wanting a little cash to maintain her expensive appearance.  These Sugar Dads know that she does what she can to appease him in ways that aren't for public eyes.

A young woman who seeks a rich, handsome man does so, because she has needs that men her own age or younger just can't fulfill.  When a man who is established, successful in life, approaches her, she can't help but feel special.  She doesn't mind working out a deal, so to speak, with her wealthy companion.  For those who judge her and her partner's arranged relationship, she doesn't care much.  The caring doesn't come into play until the rich man is no longer holding up his end of the bargain. 

Some women do end up marrying their Sugar Daddys.  They appear to be happy with their lifestyle even if they aren't so content with their husbands. 

Life is difficult and can be even more challenging when there never seems to be enough money to live comfortably.

Nicholl McGuire 

Thursday

Older Guy: 6 Things You Can Do to Keep a Young Woman Interested in You

The mature man will not always hold the top spot in his young date's life when he slacks in how he treats her, becomes lazy about keeping up his body, and overall doesn't care about her.  There will always be a man or two willing to do what he no longer wants to do.  Thanks to the Internet, it is far too easy to emotionally connect with someone in the hopes of meeting him or her offline one day. 

Couples have their work cut out for them if they hope to stay together.  A May-December romance will quickly fizzle out if neither person is willing to do the kind of things that will draw one another close.  So what might an older man do to keep his young beauty on his arm besides buy her things, give her money, and make promises?

1.  Do what you did during the courtship.

You worked to get her, so work to keep her.  What did you do early on in the relationship that made her smile?  What could you do to make her think of how special you are?  How do you remain relevant in her life like a fame-starved celebrity would want to be to his or her fans?

2.  Improve your attire and be sure to smell good.

Most young women do much to make themselves look appealing, so it would make sense that she would want to look at a nice-looking man while smelling a nice odor coming from him.  Yet, there are men who don't care much about smelly breath, under-arms, private areas, or feet and then wonder why she doesn't want to kiss or have sex.  Go figure!?

3.  Exercise.

So many older men feel insecure around younger men simply because they don't bother to work-out and do things that will improve their bodies.  Instead of feeling like your young woman is going to run off with the next man she sees, do something that will make her feel good about having sex with you.

4.  Do things she likes sometimes.

Will it really hurt to give up a personal day, leave a job early, or take a holiday and enjoy time with your woman?  She has told you about an upcoming event, so clear your schedule and go with her.  Your efforts will be remembered and you just might have a woman who will appreciate you because you show how much you care about her and the people and activities that come with her.

5.  Listen rather than advise so much.

Sometimes mature men tend to give far too much advice and not enough of a listening ear or vice versa.  Find the balance when you are in your lady's presence and be open to what she has to say about everything from her job to how she feels about you.

6.  Change routine and offer to include her
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Never assume that she doesn't want to tag along when you go somewhere especially if you both haven't been spending much time together lately.  There is nothing wrong with doing some things different.  Rather than spend each weekend in front of the television screen, why not drive to a local town and window-shop, take a walk in the park, visit an attraction, take a class, or visit a cool family member or friend you both like.

The more you give, hopefully the more you will get in return.  If you are an older guy who sincerely would like to make things work in your relationship, then sit back, evaluate what you are doing and not doing, and take the time to make changes.  Check in with your lady friend to see how you are doing and share your personal feelings and thoughts on what she can do to help you be the best guy for her.

Nicholl McGuire also shares relationship advice here.
 

10 Signs Time to Call it Quits - When Younger Woman No Longer is Into Older Guy

You knew the day would come when your young date would stop liking you so much and start acting negatively toward you.  There are pros and cons to being older, and no matter what you do the cons tend to outweigh the pros. 

You have already tried to keep your young lady's interest by doing things you use to do that she once enjoyed.  You have attempted to perform a make-over on your physique.  You have bought your date much.  All these things and more are simply not holding her interest.  It is safe to say that it just might be time to call it quits.  Could she also be doing the following too?

1.  She rarely makes eye contact. 
2.  The young woman frowns when she takes one look at you without your ever saying anything. 
3.  She isn't the least bit interested in how you look when you make improvements to yourself.
4.  Your date rarely, if ever, compliments you.
5.  She tells you she doesn't like you anymore.
6.  She makes jokes about your body shape, graying hair, wrinkles, etc.
7.  She frequently sighs when you complain about body aches and being tired.
8.  Her eyes often wander, she finds men her own age or younger more attractive.
9.  She acts disrespectful when you talk.
10.  She doesn't like going places with you especially events that cater to her age group.

Sometimes a mature man has reached a point in his life where he grows weary of having to appease someone that he knows he really has no real connection.  His observant young partner might take notice and display signs that she doesn't feel that the relationship is worth preserving any longer as well.  When this happens, one or both will need to sit down and talk about going separate ways; rather than continuing to make one another feel miserable. 

Once you break up, most likely someone in your circle will tell you, "I told you so..." grin and bear it--you already knew it wouldn't work.

Nicholl McGuire
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