How many older, married men so far this year have been surprised with the news, "I'm pregnant," by young mistresses? What about men, who never wanted children, and others who thought about it, but just didn't want to start their lives all over again? But now they have no choice. "Pregnant, why me?" they think.
Some older men aren't sticking around to even make the connection with their babies. We see evidence of this when we hear of the vast amount of single, young women having babies with no fathers living with them. Hopefully, these young women got enough information about the fathers of their children to meet up with them in family court. These love 'em and leave 'em types move on with lives as if nothing ever happened with their young damsels in distress. Meanwhile, the state pays for their babies and their young women's residences. Now other older men do stick around, but aren't the least bit happy about being dads especially when they are 50 plus and thinking about retirement in their 60s. In time, they too will find a way to love at a distance with or without children, while saying goodbye to young mates.
Men in midlife, who always wanted babies, tend to be happy about their young women being pregnant. But men in midlife, going through a tough time with bodily changes, and who are already fathers are not so happy. They struggle with the idea they got a young woman pregnant, how they look driving a family vehicle, money challenges they face bringing children into the world, and more.
This is why some mature women will warn young ladies to protect themselves. For they know better than most why their husbands strayed, why boyfriends are no longer loyal, and why these women couldn't stand to be with men their own age. Middle-aged, andropausal men can be fickle like menopausal women. The middle years are a strange time for many and they only get more strange for some while newborns cry, toddlers play, and big boys ask, "Why is dad so tired, so slow?"