A age gap dating advice blog that provides valuable tips when dating older men and younger women. Thought-provoking relationship tips for older men seeking to date younger women. Please be advised to seek a professional for serious issues. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling. This blog is not for people under the age of 18.
Monday
The Power of the Engagement Ring
Some men use jewelry like a mother using a pacifier to quiet a baby. "One look at that diamond," he thinks "and she will stick around a little while longer." Maybe she will or maybe she won't. These days there are many women buying their own jewelry without a man, so he will have to bring more than just a ring, watch, bracelet, necklace or a pair of earrings to the relationship. Yet, some older men will still try anyway to keep their younger women by their side with gifts. The engagement ring is the most powerful of them all, because it tells a woman one thing, he is committed -- ready to marry! Some men will try to lessen the weight of its significance by calling it a "promise ring" or saying, "we don't have to rush about getting married..." when he says these kinds of things after giving it to his younger woman then she should immediately think, "He's not serious. He just wants to keep me around." A man who is sold out on a woman whether young, old, rich or poor won't drag anything out -- he will even suggest a date of marriage! A seriously committed man will do everything he can to make himself and his loved one very happy!
Men who are still boys will play games. They will say things they don't really mean. Make excuses as to why they aren't ready for commitment. Make no sacrifices for anyone no matter how much loved ones cry, complain, or moan about him "never being around, more focused on his career, always messing with different women, hanging out with friends" etc. Men who are ready for a real commitment won't debate about things like exs since they are a thing of the past, why pornography offends her, why she feels like she can't trust him, or why she believes that the engagement ring is just another one of his tricks. True men also known as good men don't have these kinds of dramas in their relationships, but boys do!
Well with all this said, hope you will think wisely before getting or receiving an engagement ring.
Nicholl McGuire is the creator of this blog and tweets periodically on http://twitter.com/datingdramas
Wednesday
The Older Men Who Rather Keep Their Secrets in The Dark About Dating a Younger Woman
Everyone has a motive as to why they want to be with someone. Some have lists while others just go with the flow. But whatever the reason, an older man feels compelled to have a younger woman, it should be honest and true. If you want a trophy piece its better to say so, then for her to find out that you aren't interested in a committed relationship the hard way. If you seek a younger woman, because you desire to be a father, she should know that, some women simply don't want children not now or anytime in their lives. The more open young, old, rich or poor couples are with one another, the better the relationship!
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Nicholl McGuire is the creator of this blog and enjoys providing tips to young women about what to expect when dating an older man.
Tuesday
Younger Women Dating Older Men
Most women will admit that they want a strong man who can stand his own ground and be confident; and generally speaking, many women appreciate the maturity of an older man. It's no secret that the qualities that women are looking for in their future husbands are the same qualities that men slightly older than them display. Most women assume that older men are well trained at being a gentleman, are more civilized and more capable of providing for and supporting whoever they are with. They also feel older men have probably been married or at least have gone through a lot of different relationships, have learned how to treat a woman and how to give her what she wants and/or needs.
When it comes to dating younger men, many women feel that these guys still have a sense of immaturity about them and that they don't know what it means to really treat a woman. It's a well-known fact that women mature faster than men, and if a woman wants to date an older guy, it's probably because she's had her fill of the 23-year-old party animal who still believes he's invincible and can't even remember her name. Mature, younger women, who are no longer interested in dealing with the games and attitudes of younger guys appreciate an older man's life experiences and the fact that they're over many of the games they may have played in their younger years. Also, if a younger woman is ready to start a family, she feels older men might settle down sooner.
In the discussion of older men younger women dating, there are some women who will argue that older men only ask them out because they take longer to grow up and mature or only want a trophy girlfriend on their arm to boost their ego. Another argument to dating younger women is that older men miss out on meeting a mature, wise and appreciative woman their own age. While this may be true in some cases, in reality, most older men who date younger women do so because they feel that women younger than them have more energy, spontaneity and less dating baggage. They simply want to feel rejuvenated and youthful again and make their sex life more adventurous.
The real disadvantages to this type of relationship for an older man dating a younger woman is that there may be a difference in the energy levels between the two of them. The age difference can cause a big difference in interests such as music, social activities and morals. If an older man doesn't keep up with the younger woman or perhaps loses his financial stability and/or health, a gold digger might lose interest in him and leave him rather quickly.
Ultimately, older men dating younger women must be able to deal with the attitudes of others who stare, those who comment about the age difference, the negative attitudes of those who just disapprove, and the many other challenges they may be faced with. Older men younger women dating can be wonderful as long as both of you know what you are looking for and where you want to go with it before you get too involved.
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Monday
Five Signs He is a Good Guy But Boring
1. Listen to him when he tells you what life was like for him before you came along.
Now most women want to hear from their new partner, "I was just going about my days watching TV and wishing for someone like you." However, that should actually be a turn off to you! Here's why. If he didn't have a life before you then he won't have much of a life with you either especially after the newness of your dating relationship wears off. If you are an active woman, you want an active man!
2. He is often looking to you to make plans on what to do for entertainment.
You may enjoy planning everything now, but what happens when money woes become an issue later and he expects you to not only plan the date, but pay for everything too? Looks like the two of you won't be getting out much.
3. Whenever you talk to him about going places, he finds fault with your suggestions. This will get old with anyone. No one likes to be rejected or criticized for every interest they like. This is not only a sign that you have someone who isn't much on trying new things, but he may also be the controlling type -- better start distancing yourself!
4. He can't enjoy life without you. This seems flattering in the beginning of the relationship, but as you become more comfortable with this person, you will want to do some things without him too. If he starts showing signs now of clingy behavior, imagine what that might be like if you commit to him for a life time!
5. His idea of a good time seems to always be staying home. This is a clear indication that you have a future couch potato boyfriend and an insecure one too! The relationship might work if you are just like him, but if you are not, woe to you! Don't settle with someone who is already panting on the first lap! "I'm too tired to go out...didn't we go out last weekend."
Now that you have five signs this guy may be a future bore for the active you, don't do anything stupid like marry him! There are nice, genuinely active guys out there who don't have to put on an act.
Nicholl McGuire has past experience dating older men and online dating. She penned a new book entitled, Laboring to Love Myself and she tweets @datingdramas on Twitter.
Tuesday
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When He Thinks You Are Dumb
You see, young woman, no man wants a dumb blonde on his arm for a lifetime, so to those of you who are acting -- stop it! Let your intelligence show before its too late! Just like in school your teacher gives you a pop quiz to see if you were paying attention, the older man will do the same. Sometimes he doesn't know that is what he is doing until after he realizes he has been asking the kind of questions of you that will help him make a decision whether you are wife material.
The one major thing that separates the mature woman from the younger woman is life experience. The mature woman will underestimate the young woman because she falsely assumes that all are "babies, stupid, wet behind the ears, don't know any better, still young." However, the mature woman has a rude awakening when she realizes she is out of the running when a young woman steps up to the plate and shows her that she knows a thing or two about life too.
Part of stepping up to the plate is concentrating on your man. Studying him like you would a text book and knowing how to answer his questions when the time comes. Some of his questions may be about your interests, your hopes for the future, how you feel about him, where do you see yourself in five years with him (or without him) and how do you feel about his family. Depending on how serious you are in your commitment to him will determine how you answer his questions. If he is nothing more than a friend (someone you haven't slept with) then answer the questions selfishly, because you aren't interested in a future with him. But if you love this man and you can't eat, drink, or sleep without him, then be careful! You don't want to scare him off by preaching about me and not we.
Be smart young woman and you will go far! But act dumb and all you will be is nothing more than a toy for an older man!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love Myself, Amazon.com http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com
Wednesday
Younger Women Watch Out for Jealous Women in Mid-life
You may have already noticed the negative attitude of these women. They roll their eyes, they say condescending comments like, "Aren't you cute? You are so young. Aww your still a baby! You are like a little sister to me." No matter how nice they say these little statements, these women are insecure with your youth and God bless you if you are beautiful because no matter what you do, some of these women will find fault with you!
There is something that arises in us when the presence of a beautiful woman or handsome man walks into a room. We may adjust our clothing, look at ourselves in the mirror just a little longer, add just a tadbit more make up, or toss our hair just a little bit more. Some of us just don't know how to behave around nice-looking people especially insecure women!
You are a light in that older man's eyes and you are also a dagger to those women in his family and those he has befriended who are insecure. Therefore, knowing this, be careful what you say to these women. Avoid talking about your man negatively to them. And most of all, when you are being disrespected by them, communicate that to your man. Some older men will not tolerate such foolishness, others will defend their family and friends or find excuses for them. The latter action is sad and unfortunately may make matters worse in your relationship. Both of you need to be in support of one another especially when their are jealous women in the midst.
It may be hard for him to realize his beloved sister or best friend is actually an un-supportive, jealous, insecure (you fill in the blank) and even if he doesn't believe it now, what is in darkness will come to light! If you believe in a greater power do the following: pray about your relationship, how you deal with matters as they arise, and believe that God will make your enemies your footstool!
Be encouraged!
Nicholl McGuire is the creator of this blog and the author of Laboring to Love Myself and Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate located at Amazon.com.
Younger Women Dating Older Men - Why May-December Relationships Are Doing So Well These Days
Women in their 20s are becoming very frustrated these days about the current dating scene and there are many reasons for this. One reason is men in their 20s have become very immature compared to how they used to be 20 to 50 years ago. Back then, men were not only more romantic but also concentrated their efforts on courting one woman. For instance, the men used to walk up to a woman's doorstep with a nice bouquet of roses in one hand and chocolates and the other. Don't get me wrong, I'm not focusing on material gifts here, but more so on the effort that man used to give when they were interested in a woman. These days young men just skip the roses and focus all of their efforts into trying to get women in bed. They don't want a relationship, and all they care for is to try to get as much short-term pleasure out of these dates as possible. In other words, men in this age group have become very shallow and self-serving.
Younger women dating older men find that these men are much more mature than the younger guys and know how to treat a lady right. Right off the bat older men are much more caring and communicative on the date. They will start by asking a woman to tell them anything about herself. They want to know what her goals and dreams are, and they will be attentive enough to try to help in any way they can. If you ask any young woman, they will say that communication is the key to keeping a relationship strong. Older men understand this also because they have already been through their immature and selfish years and truly understand how special a monogamous relationship really is.
In a May-December relationship the older man not only can keep up with the younger women in bed, but can also hold his own as far as doing the chores around the house, paying bills and taking care of children. Not only are these kinds of relationships on the rise, but they will be here to stay for a long time.
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Barely Legal - Older Guys Dating Teenagers?
Are you an NBA fan? If you watched the playoffs, then no doubt you saw the T-Mobile commercial where Charles Barkley is constantly calling D-Wade. Hilarious stuff, particularly when Chuck inanely spouts, "That's why I don'teat shrimp."
Well, despite all the marketing hype in the Seduction Community about pulling the youngest hotties possible (especially if you're an older guy), that's pretty much how I feel about dating eighteen or nineteen year old girls, even if they are "legal".
And for those of you who might be assuming that this is all a function of my current age, I've pretty much viewed the universe this way since I was 21, with a few scattered exceptions
Not coincidentally, you see, at 21 years of age is when a guy in the United States (like me) can finally order a beer.
It's not that the younger girls aren't often really, really hot...you and I both know they are.
The deal is that they're unnecessary.
As I see it, I can find a woman who is at least 21 who looks every bit as intriguing as any 18 or 19 year old. And then, I can take her A-N-Y-W-H-E-R-E I want.
Otherwise, her restrictions become my restrictions. And I've been through with being relegated to "Teen Night" at the local club for over twenty years now.
Think of it...they are teenagers, after all.
They are barely through high school, let alone college. This means that there has not yet been any chance to cultivate the necessary level of independence and maturity that most older guys invariably demand.
Now if you're 30 and still living in your Mommy's basements, all bets are off. Disregard the previous statement.
But otherwise, my educated guess is that most guys of any advanced age beyond 21 probably only THINK they want "barely legal" girls in their rotation.
By using the word "rotation" above, I'm telegraphing the raw fact that I'm too squeamish to think that any older guy out there is seriously talking about making a teenager his steady girlfriend.
In fact, here it is: I really think that the vast majority of guys who think they want to date teenage girls are in that frame because they can't get them.
Simply put, the fantasy is clearly better than the reality.
Beyond the matter of social restrictions and maturity level, there are yet two other factors that are arguably even more significant.
First, if you are at all interested in any kind of long-term relationship with a woman, dealing with a teenager is the proverbial "box of chocolates".
How many teenage couples do you know who have broken up by age...oh...21, because the "grew apart". With real-life experience comes real change in priorities and even personality itself.
Further, how do you know your 19-year-old girlfriend is going to look great at 30?
You don't.
Recently I was interviewed for an upcoming product for older guys on how to date younger women. The guys producing it are well-known, but I hadn't yet had the chance to meet them when they approached me.
Suffice it to say they got a unique perspective.
Ultimately, I'd much rather find a woman closer to my own age who still gets carded. That way, you get the hot, sexy little vixen of your dreams...all with the added benefits of social commonality, emotional maturity (we hope) and the blessed assurance that this woman will most likely continue to age well.
Apart from online dating, where everyone's stats are pinned to their respective profiles, the main challenge to me always boiled down to actually identifying the kind of women I'm talking about.
After all, we don't walk around with a cartoon bubble full of stats over our heads in real life.
But my very real, "field-tested" premise is that there are women around us wherever we go that look and seem far, far younger than their age.
Humorously, most such women I've met report that they get hit on mostly by guys many years their junior, who are shocked to find out their real age. Meanwhile, these same women are flat-out craving to be approached by guys their own age, who are largely assuming they are "too young".
The ironies abound, don't they?
So what of this?
You've just got to have the guts to meet them and find out, that's what. The problem is that "approaching" equals "pickup" to virtually every guy out there.
Meanwhile, if I'm friendly and start an unloaded conversation with even the fresh-faced girl behind the check out counter at the grocery store, I may find out she's actually 28. But this will only happen if I can get outside my own head, drop the "agendas" and stop seeing every single interaction with any woman as "pickup".
Oh yeah, I mentioned there were two other important factors, didn't I?
How's this...how do you really know your "18 year old" is 18? If it takes the potential of handcuffs and iron bars to make the point, so be it. You don't want to be the guy who finds out his new girlfriend is only 16 or 17 after the law says it's too late.
By the way, don't count on meeting her parents as proof of age. A shocking number of them are more than happy to help her "protect" you from the truth.
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Wednesday
Traits Of A Good Man-what Every Woman Must Know
The first thing that you ought to search for is integrity and character. These are qualities that are necessary in a lifelong partner.
Traits of a good man will let you know what he stands for, the morals he lives by, plus the morals that form his actions. This determines how he treats you and the way he treats himself. His personality is vital, yet don't confuse his personality with his character. His personality is the way he presents himself to the world, the way in which he expresses himself on the outer surface. His character is what he is on the inside, his substance.
In order to understand how to recognize traits of a good man, you must get to know him and had honest conversations with him, and this is included with time.
If you find a person who is fully commited to growing in addition to improving himself as an individual, and that wants to discover everything he can concerning being a greater individual, rest assured that this is a decent man.
If he's approachable emotionally and honest with his feelings and he expresses those emotions to you, you are likely to think that the door to his heart is open.
Is he mature and responsible? This means that he has grown up and doesn't act similar to a child, and he does not require you to look after him. Being trustworthy means he does what he says he will do. He keeps his promises and shows up on time.
Does he possess a confident approach toward life? Does he notice good on the earth, in you, plus himself? He ought to make you feel good when you're with him. Keep away from the man who's a unenthusiastic person that is always cranky. Such a human being will drain all your power and bring you down.
Does he have a superior self-esteem? Does he feel good about who he is and how he lives his life, and does he take care of himself? A person can only be in love with you if he loves himself. He also does not permit others to mistreat him or you.
Does he have integrity? Is it possible to count on him to be straight with you at all times? Is he honest with himself and you? Honesty and integrity are crucial for a long term relationship to survive. You want to admire the way he treats other people.
In order for you to acknowledge the traits of a good man, you need to have these similar qualities. One must always care for a man not just for external appearance but for who he is on the inside as well.
By: Jos Mahan
Tuesday
The Significant Age Difference: An Issue with Family
It can be troubling knowing his family have had a better relationship with his past girlfriends than you; however, don't let that disturb your inner peace with who you are -- if age is indeed nothing but a number then by all means keep it that way!
Jealousy, lies, confusion, bitterness, and more are in every family and his is no exception. Since you have come into his life, there may have been some hidden family issues that have now surfaced. He may have seen a different side to his once kind mother, his wonderful sister, and his easy-going brother. They may have criticized his choice in a woman either to his face or behind his back, "Why did you pick someone so young? What's going on with him, did he catch a bad case of midlife?" Whatever the comments he has had to endure since dating you, he will have to be the one to either stand with you or cave into the pressure and end the relationship -- its all up to him.
What you can do is stay true to who you are and your beliefs. If you and he believe in the relationship, then it will last, but if only one or neither of you don't, it won't.
Keep in mind that at first everyone who says, "I don't have a problem with..." In time the truth comes out and they really do have a problem. Their issue, not yours!
Enjoy your relationship while it last! Ask questions to find out the truth about his feelings before you commit. Finally, know that everyone will not like you and there is nothing in the rule book that requires you to make friends and influence people who don't like you!
Nicholl McGuire
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Friday
How to Go About Dating Older Men
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Thursday
Lies Young Women Believe from Older Men
So what do you have to do young ladies? Be one step ahead of the game. I know that men stand back and watch and learn about us so that they know how to play the game, but the key is to present everything out on the table and that eliminates the need to play games.
Do you want an older man for just sex? Yes or no. If you answered yes, then tell him that. If your answer is no, then he needs to know that especially if you have other reasons for befriending him. Maybe you are a young woman trying to escape your strict parents, if so, not a good idea to run into the arms of an older man, even though he would be more than glad to accommodate you, but you want to be more than a man's sex toy now don't you?
Naive women believe all sorts of lies! They believe a man when he says, "I love you" especially after a good sexual release. They believe him when he says, "You are the only one for me" even though another woman's voice was heard via the cell phone saying, "See you later, Sexy!" They believe a man if he says, "I was working late, honestly" but every time you try to reach him hours after the workday is over you can't get him!
As much as you want to believe that man you find yourself falling in love, please do fact check ladies! That's right, make his so-called smart self THINK you believe him. There is nothing wrong with double-checking what anyone says. Chances are after you are finished reading this, you will double-check with someone to see if what I have told you is good information or not, so do the same with that man who promises you everything!
Mature men have been walking this planet for a long while and some of these young women, who think they know-it-all and no one can tell them anything, believe they can walk circles around them. Don't be so sure! You just might be the one being left broken-hearted with egg on your face!
At least in the beginning of your romance, have fun and enjoy what he has to offer, but when things like, "Let's move in together. Let's get married. Let's have a baby. Let me meet your parents..." come up, you better be fact-finding what is on this man's mind including performing a background check on his "too good to be true" butt!
Your older man may be having some things on his mind that he isn't letting you in on at least not yet. He may feel pressured to get married and have children, because all his buddies have all done it, his mother is a Christian, his dad wants grand-kids, or his emotions are temporarily going haywire!
Know what you are getting yourself into before you stop taking birth control, packing your bags to move in with him and more. Have a deep conversation with yourself and learn how to strategically play the game of life, like chess, anticipate your opponent's every move. Trust me, he is doing it with you!
Nicholl McGuire
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Tuesday
The Unpredictable Middle-Aged Man
The once well-liked and respected man in crisis had given his job a two weeks notice, moved out the family home located in a well-kept rural neighborhood in his sports car, and said, "Goodbye" to long time friends all within a week!
The tall, still very handsome man in his forties, had found a bachelor pad in the city and a state-of-the-art gym as well. Within months he found something else too! A beautiful young woman in her twenties. The two were like teenagers kissing and holding hands often. He was so immersed with this woman that he barely noticed the divorce papers that showed up in the mail from his ex. He was in love under new management and he didn't care about the past he left behind at least for a time.
His children, a teen boy and girl, didn't know what to think of him, they asked mom about dad but continued through school participating in activities and performing above average in their studies. Sometimes a negative report from a teacher would follow them home for disrupting the class but that was about it -- the children were just taking one day at a time.
One day the former all-star college athlete was in deep thought reflecting on his life. He had felt guilty at times about what he had done. He had asked God for a since of direction, because he felt that he was a little out of control after coming home drunk with his young girlfriend four weekends straight. He remembered this life back in his twenties and he didn't like it much back then and he wasn't liking it much now. The partying and drinking had to stop!
Meanwhile his youthful mate wasn't ready to settle down like stay at home and watch TV every weekend, but she was willing to quit drinking and maybe cut down on her club activities. He discussed some of his thoughts with her, the ones he felt she could handle, but of course not all of them because he didn't completely trust a mate who was almost 20 years his junior with his emotions.
As the young woman learned more about this man, who she had yet to see as an "older man," she realized he wasn't necessarily a trustworthy character these days. "I mean he left his wife of 14 years for God sake!" She told herself, "What if he leaves me!?" So she told herself she had better do something and fast. One day she asked if they could talk in her most grown-up expression, you see she didn't have experience in these sorts of matters. "I just want to say I think we have a great relationship, but you know the other day when you were talking about moving in together, well I don't think that would be a good idea." He wondered why and she made up some excuse about how she didn't want to "cramp his style." She too, didn't think he could handle some of her thoughts either, since he was older and may have forgotten about the things that young people considered important like friends, travel, relocation, entertainment, etc. She wasn't looking for a father figure who would police her lifestyle, she was looking for a friend with benefits including emotional security.
She wanted to know he wouldn't just up and leave her like he did his former wife and children and so far he hadn't convinced her of that especially since he was dyeing his hair almost every two weeks, looking for yet another sports car, and complaining alot about his new job that paid him considerably less than the last one but he liked it because "it was fun!" To the smart young woman, he had signs of a ticking time bomb ready to explode again.
In time the two went their separate ways after their first child was born. That's right in between all the kissing and hugging the young woman was unwed and pregnant with her older man's baby. He promised to take care of her and briefly they did live together, but she had been a fool so she thought. She had quit her job to take care of the baby and so when they broke up she had nothing. One of his unpredictable mood swings sent her packing after an intense argument one day over all things, baby diapers! He had grew weary of buying them and felt she should leave the diaper on the baby longer. She didn't want to do it because of the terrible rash their son got once before. He complained about not having enough money for retirement. She complained about him not sharing money to care for his new family. Meanwhile, the old family was calling him every week, not for small talk, but money as well.
The unpredictable middle-aged man had made a mess of things due to those unresolved hidden emotions and desires buried deep within. He had watched far too many television shows that glorified his youth. He had listened to way too many of his old high school songs. He had immersed his walls with an overwhelming amount of photographs of the "has-been." It was time for a doctor's visit, a church visit, and a place of solitude to pen a plan that would suffice for the remaining part of his life if he so dared.
Nicholl McGuire, wrote this fictional story to help all parties understand the significant impact a male in mid-life can play on everyone he knows both good and bad.
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Saturday
Some Boring Older Men: Career First, Fun Never
He sold the young woman on lies that he was a great guy to be around. The truth was most people found him a bit of a recluse, quiet, and at times slightly angry. He liked to go to nice places, travel, and he had the income to back up everything he promised. So the time came for them to get together. At first having sex often kept both distracted, but one day the woman awoke to reality and wanted more than just a penis inside of her, she wanted a man. A Prince Charming, if you will, a fun guy that would take her places, shower her with gifts, and just live a little outside of the bedroom. She told her date about her concerns, he listened with his ears, but did nothing with his feet.
As days together became weeks and weeks turned into years, weekends together didn't change. A movie, sex, breaks for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and do it all over again. Eventually she grew bored with him. She started fantasizing what it would be like to be with someone her own age.
This story is based on true facts. Younger women who complain about boring, older men. What is it about career minded older men that make some so boring anyway? For one, they don't attempt to do anything outside of their comfort zone. They talk alot, but don't deliver. Second, they assume that the woman will plan everything. How can a woman who doesn't have alot of life experience know what makes a man tick especially if her past experiences with men are few? Lastly, they don't educate themselves on the needs of women. How can you keep a woman when you don't bother to act on what you learn from romantic films, women's magazines, and advice from those who are in successful marriages?
The younger woman must be discerning of a man before she chooses to date him much less sleep with him. She must observe what he calls "fun." Ask him what he did last weekend, the weekend before and so on. If there is a pattern of staying home and watching television and she enjoys getting out into the community, then she should know that a future with him will be dull and boring. She should picture days of him coming home from work, plopping down in front of the television, and expecting her to entertain herself without him. Throw children into the mix and she will find that she will be entertaining them most of the time not him.
Some men simply don't know how to do anything more than go to work. They are often tired and prefer to be left alone to do what they want when they want to do it. It isn't any wonder that some of these men are cheated on, their wives leave them, or don't give them sex, etc. Young women should avoid pitying men who tell them that their exs did any of these things to them. Most likely, the ex had her reasons and they just didn't come into being either.
Remember young woman, you are only hearing one side of the story and he will not tell you all the details of what went wrong in the last relationship no matter how much you ask especially if he knows he is guilty.
When a young woman discovers her so-called fun guy is really a dull guy, she has a choice: she can either adjust her interests to suit his lifestyle (which is a bad choice because she is not living her life), she can explain to him how she would like to do more with him and would he honor what he has promised, or she can tell him that she thought he was her match, but unfortunately she has found that he isn't. The older man may take her words into consideration and do more, but then he may be doing some things out of his comfort zone. If he is honest with her, he may say, he is not interested in going places, and prefer to stay home most of the time. But how many older men who are trying to keep a younger woman is going to be truthful? That is why she has to recognize the signs that say he is not her match. The young woman must take initiative and move on, rather than try to be something she is not or make him act in ways that he is not.
Most older men are not interested in doing much but working, watching TV, sleeping, shopping for their interests, occasionally visiting family, and meeting with a few friends every now and then. An active older man with money to spend to travel, explore new places, participate in fun classes, etc. is in the minority! Young women don't be deceived by the men who promise you a life of fun and games. There may be some games -- the kind that play with your mind, so be careful.
Nicholl McGuire
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Friday
Age Difference Matters When Pain is Involved
Some young women aren't affected by the grunts and ouches that come and go from a man twice even tripple their ages, but other women are bothered by them. If you are an active younger woman who is fit, don't settle for a man who is often in pain. You may pity him in order to stay with him and that is the wrong reason. You may stick it out with him, because you think you have something to gain from being empathetic or worse, you secretly think one day he will die and you will achieve his wealth. Don't be so sure, many men are living longer than women nowadays.
If you can live with his aches and pains especially after great sex, so be it, but if you know that secretly you can't stand his old wrinkled butt, then by all means save yourself and him some time and kindly break it off!
Nicholl McGuire, experienced in dating older men during her terrible twenties. She has seen it all gray hair, age marks, wrinkles, war wounds, and smelled it all too -- LOL! But it didn't keep her away from embracing the maturity and security of dating someone older.
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Thursday
10 Things Men Do With Other Women While in A Relationship that Cause Problems
1. Helping a single woman out financially and physically.
2. Being alone with a woman when it is non-related to business.
3. Touching and sharing a meal with another woman.
4. Lying about your whereabouts or not talking about them with your partner.
5. Talking about your wife or girlfriend intimately with another woman.
6. Having non-business related lunch or dinner with a woman alone.
7. Inviting your wife or girlfriend to an event then ignore her.
8. Kissing or acting playful with other woman in or out of your wife or girlfriend's presence.
9. Not telling your wife or girlfriend that you took a woman home or somewhere else.
10. Talking to relatives and friends about another woman's beauty (your child's teacher, your exs, your co-workers, even the sales clerk at the local store) and comparing that woman with your wife or girlfriend.
You say there is nothing wrong with one or all of these things I have listed. You even feel like your girl is fine with you doing these actions. You may consider women who have these kinds of issues insecure. Debate, disagree, get upset, but one day you will be in the dog house because of one if not all of these issues (think about some of the reasons why you had problems in the past with other women.) According to the Bible even your lustful thoughts can get you into trouble.
Be wise, don't bring unnecessary conflict into your home and avoid the temptation to do things that may rise strife within your wife or girlfriend. Don't cover your behind, expose it! Be open and honest about what you do when you are away from your mate.
Women think beyond what you tell them. Their minds are constantly thinking, especially young, intelligent women, "I wonder who was that woman? Why is she talking so closely to my man? Why are they sharing food with one another? Why didn't he tell me he drove her home three times this week? Why is there a meal for two on this receipt, he never told me he had dinner with someone?" You see how your reputation now looks? She has to think about why you do what you do. You never want a woman to get to a place that she has to come to you and ask you questions. But you don't want to talk so much to the point that you look guilty, telling everything you want her to know, but leaving out the truth.
Here are some tips to help you stay out of the future dog-house:
Invite your wife or girlfriend with you to meet a single woman especially when she offers a proposal "to get together" some time.
Opt out of opportunities to be alone with co-workers. Invite a third wheel to join you and the woman.
Avoid keeping secrets from your wife or girlfriend no matter how upset she gets about it. Would you rather hear her rant now or talk about breaking up with you for being secretive or lying later?
Consider your young wife or girlfriend your best friend now and all other friends (especially those who you know are "very fond" of you and vice versa) should be put on the back-burner -- this doesn't mean abandon them. If they are not helping your relationship then you should cut them off. Why remain friends with someone who doesn't like your young girlfriend and thinks of you as nothing but a Chester molestor unless you really are? Distant yourself from those jealous, lonely, middle-age friends who wouldn't dare doing anything different! Eventually cut them off. Not every friend is a life-time friend!
If your young partner asks you to please stop doing something you know is harming the relationship and you refuse, then you are sending a message to her that those people in your life and/or activities you do are more important than she is. Some men take on a negative attitude about some of these issues, because they know that the young women they are involved with are nothing more than playthings so they don't compromise. But if you are not a player, but a gentleman then consider the fact that this young woman may be your wife and/or the mother of your child one day!
In the future, be more considerate and compassionate of your new mate's feelings. Remember she didn't come into the relationship desiring a companionship with your friends (exs, families, etc.) she came into it for you and the security you provide both mentally and physically -- show her the same courtesy!
Nicholl McGuire
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Monday
If Your Match is Too Good to Be True than It Probably Is
So why didn't he bother to tell you about the fine print when he met you. You know the print that says, "The offer to impress you expires after about 20 dates." Not only that, you find out he is a big cheapskate. Oh he spends money alright at the dollar store, the thrift store, the local yard sale, and the swap meet also known as the flea market! Worse, his apartment or home looks and smells like something out of a thrift store or a college dorm!
Be careful of that older guy who wins you over with sweet words like, "I like to do this...and I really enjoy that..." followed by everything you like to do!! He is forcing himself to be something he is not -- a younger man to fit your needs. If that is what you wanted, you wouldn't have bothered with the older man now would you? When you see this pattern of "too good to be true" happening in your relationship, expose him. Tell him how he doesn't have to tell you he likes something just to keep you interested. Explain to him that you would like to make a decision whether he is your match based on fact not fiction.
If you find that he is more interested in impressing you and not being truthful about who he really is and what he really likes and wants out of life, you might want to save yourself some time and call him an acquaintance like the guy you see every now and then at the local grocery store.
Remember there will come a time in the relationship that he will have a moment of truth where he will ask himself, "What the h*ll am I doing? I don't have any business running around with this young girl! I want my wife back or anyone who isn't twenty-something!"
You've been forewarned, now have a great time and that's it -- a great temporary time! LOL
Nicholl McGuire
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Friday
The Possibility Of Marriage Through Online Dating
Sometimes internet romances lead to a turbulent marriage, unwanted babies, venereal disease and more, so if you know you aren't ready for that kind of thing LOL, slow down with all the sappy talk, promises, and "I can't wait to be with you..." mush. Rather, be the adult and ask the hard questions, the kind that make your love interest think. Listen closely and read between the lines. Does he or she call you only on certain days? This person might be in a relationship with someone whether bad or good (they are still committed to someone else) or have children (that you know you aren't even a little bit interested in LOL.) This person may write to you with many grammatical errors, misspells, and doesn't answer your questions. He or she may not be as intelligent as they would like for you to believe. He or she may also be unable to articulate his or her thoughts which most likely means he or she is a bad communicator. Does your love interest seem like he or she is in a rush to get married, live with you or relocate? This person could be running from someone or something, lost a job, or may be difficult to live with. Think of more things he or she said or typed that were red flags. Re-read those past emails and analyze them!
Its the little things that you must pay attention to in order to determine whether your young hottie or old stallion is really right for you like he or she brags.
Thank you for reading! Now onto the "Possibility of Marriage..."
Marriage through online dating is rising fast in popularity. A number of eligible bachelorettes these days have sorted to online dating to be able to find a potential partner. Online dating is not as taboo as it used to be before. The idea of two complete strangers meeting up through the Internet to have lunch or dinner is already accepted in the society.
And frequently, these simple lunch and dinner dates end up in more intimate results; hence the possibilities of marriage through online dating. Most online dating services provide success stories on their site.
A few decades ago, before the rise of the Internet, strangers meet at a bar or a club. Then, they get to know each other further by phone calls and old-fashioned snail mails. But with the Internet, a woman does not have to get dressed or wear make-up to have fun conversations with men online.
There are plenty of sites that offer online dating services. There are also articles found on the Internet and magazines that may be used as guides on this kind of service. A woman may learn the proper ways to communicate with a man on the Internet through such guides.
When a woman finds a man that interest her, they could chat online and swap photos. They could also tell each other their favorite things, movies, hobbies, and food. However, certain precautions must be observed.
Although marriage through online dating is indeed possible, there are also times when online dating can be disastrous. In some news articles, horrible stories of online daters are told. Some “potential boyfriends” turned out to be scammers or maniacs. That is why is important for a woman to trust her gut instinct and follow some safety tips before you signs up to an online dating service and meet a man she just met online.
By: jhonnycorrz
When you have tried everything else to meet your potential husband it could be time to join the a dating online service. If you like more dating tips for women first you can visit www.girlmeetsguyonline.com for online dating and safety tips.
Wednesday
Approaching Younger Women & More
Shorter, Older Men Attract Women With Larger Packages!
- Over 98% of men would increase the size of their penis if they knew how.
- 93% of Women have never achieved an orgasm during intercourse, and 76% admit that they are dissatisfied with their partner's sexual performance.
- The majority of men have very poor blood circulation to the penis.
- By age 29, 96% of men cannot gain erections 1/5 as much as when they were 20.
Of course, most of the smarter men out there take action and solve this problem within a few weeks time but other men let the problem get worse and affect their personal lives. Every man wants to have a long lasting sexual life, attract the most women and feel great.
It does not matter how ugly you think you are or how short you may be, ATTRACTION comes from confidence and confidence comes from below the belt. Most men do not care about that, and end up losing to someone else with a larger package, because women know what they want.
If I can do it, you can do it too. Forget about tall men, or the younger guys, because you can walk all over them if you knew how to do it right. You can become a sexual icon whereever you live and take control of every situation.
By Jesse Isaac James
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Tuesday
The Appeal of Older Men
1. POWER. You don't have to own an oil company to be powerful. Power is about being comfortable with yourself and confident about what you have to offer a woman. A powerful man doesn't have to prove himself or brag about what he has or who he knows. His accomplishments speak for themselves. Power means not being afraid of rejection. He understands that being turned down says nothing about his value as a person. That kind of cool, confidence is very sexy.
2. SUBSTANCE. The signature word for my generation is "authenticity." The fact that you know who you are and what you believe is a big turn on for women my age. A mature man doesn't play games trying to be someone he's not just to impress me. Younger guys talk a lot about what they are going to do...someday. A mature man has already built a life and has something to show for his efforts.
3. SKILLS. Yes, it's true. Women like a man with 'skills.' We don't want to waste a night with a man who can't find our clitoris or who thinks foreplay consists of taking his pants off. A mature man knows what he's doing in bed and enjoys pleasing women. Most young guys are a little afraid of vaginas. I'd much rather spend an evening with a man who LOVES p*ssy. Sure, your 'texting' skills are probably not so great, but we can teach you. In the mean time, if a young woman asks if you wanna 'B your L on her Ts,' just say 'Hell, yes,' and ask for directions later.
To meet younger women who are sexually compatible and looking for sex dating with a man like you, check out Sexpatible.com.
By Kathryn Carter
Monday
Effect of Younger Women on Older Men For Rejuvenation
One can argue about the veracity of the recipe recommended by the eastern manuals, but the western world has only now accepted this though with some reservations. This acceptance has come about because this is a subject of study in the west. In the United States this aspect has been studied by some scientists. Scholars at Stanford and the University of California-Santa Barbara have carried out research on this aspect of a man's sexual relationship with a younger woman. The study at the beginning of the twenty first century has made some revelations that have been known to the oriental for many hundreds of years. The study concluded that an older man who had a sexual relationship with a younger woman tended to live longer.
On the face of it a lot many rationalists and a lot of women as well are apt to negate this study. But there is no doubt that a relationship with a younger woman for a male does have a beneficial effect on him. It affects the physiology of the male. The male feels younger and has an intense desire to please his younger partner. This desire allows a male to do certain acts that will give his sex an impetus as well as please his younger partner. The Max Plank institute in Germany carried out a study on this aspect as well. Scientists there concluded that man tended to live longer if took as his sexual mate a woman who preferably was about 15 to 17 younger than him. Statistics are always difficult to digest but scientists at the institute feel that longevity of the male could go up by as much as 20%.Ancient sex manuals also say the same thing.
For a lot many people it is difficult to accept this. But there every day sex with a younger woman may make the man live longer. This is because the sex act by itself is a therapy. The effect on the man and his physiology is beneficial as it gives a purpose to a man in his life. He will exercise and keep himself fit as a desire to please his partner becomes a tremendous motivating force for him.
In the everyday world it is very difficult to start a relationship between older men and much younger women. There are very limited ways for this though a relationship in the office with an older boss or colleague is an accepted norm. But now with the advent of the internet the chance to start a relationship are greatly increased. People seem less likely to be concerned about the age difference on the net and love could blossom.
A younger woman will always make her partner feel younger. During the relationship or marriage the man will strive to please his partner leading to very beneficial results for him. A younger woman will help a man to stay in the same sexual level even with passage of a year or so.
Men, who have sex daily, especially with younger women, are more likely to live longer. A study in Denmark from 1990 to 2005 has concluded that higher life expectancy of the male could be because of younger women caring for their men. Obviously one may well ask as to what is there in such a relationship for a woman. For a younger woman it can be a very exciting surprise whose only sexual experience may have been only with men of her age. Women often complain that their need for foreplay is much more and a lot men do not get it. This is a plus point as an older man will take time to rouse himself and in the process he could spend a long time to raise the pitch of his younger partner. The result can only be beneficial. In addition older men are able to have more control over the physical and mental state of the woman and obviously more knowledge of what gives the greater pleasure to his younger partner.
The ancient sex manuals of the orient have given a lot of theory and to put it to practical use it is up to the man.
By Madan G Singh
Thursday
Understanding Men and Depression - Especially During Mid-Life Crises
Men and woman experience and cope differently with depression. Females are self-blaming and feel guilty while males blame other people and feel ashamed. Males want to remain in control at all times and woman have problems setting limits.
Common symptoms are insomnia, irritability, changes in sex drive and impotency. However cluster symptoms are not easily recognisable and thus not easily diagnosed by Doctors and other health care Professionals.
What can be done when you recognize these symptoms in your husband, partner, neighbour or even co-worker? Do not mention depression directly, rather approach it with an angle as the male brain is wired to deny anything that might look weak or female-like. Help will only be sought when pressured by important people in their life, so make sure that the man feels that he is important to you.
What are the available treatments?
Treatment can take the form of support groups, counselling or psychotherapy, medication either natural or prescribed. Medical science has evolved so much the last couple of decades that an extensive range of antidepressant medication is available from your physician. The medication can be classified as follows:SSR's, is most effect drugs on the market with less side effects than Tricyclic Antidepressants. Avoid usage with weight loss supplements and pills, Tryptophan and St. John's Wort.
Amphetamines are very, very dangerous medication and should only be prescribed by highly skilled Psychiatrists.
Tricyclic Antidepressants, are generics although cost-effective have lots of side effects.
Depression can also be greatly reduced by the patient self by means of dietary changes, exercise, mind shifting to more positive thoughts and approaches as well as development of stress management skills.
By Trevor Johnson
Find more ways to overcome male depression and discover more about depression and men
Sunday
You Tube Video Talks About What To Expect When Dating an Older Man
Nicholl prepares young women of all ages with solid advice to help them make a decision on whether or not dating an older man is right for them.
Young women will be enlightened as well as entertained about a subject that is often laughed off as nothing more than a passing phase.
Dating an older men should be taken seriously. Nicholl shares insightful information. Listen to podcast, "Messages for the Soul" here.
You can follow Nicholl on Twitter @datingdramas
Friday
Great Tips For Dating Older Men
No two women are alike. While some women enjoy dating men that are similar in age to them, other women prefer either younger or older guys. Although many aspects of dating different aged men are the same, there are some unique considerations if you are interested in someone who is significantly older than you. Older men often offer something unique to the women in their lives. Not only are they more emotionally mature than younger men, but they are already established in their lives and careers. This gives them the advantage of usually having more time to devote to the women in their lives. One of the most helpful tips for dating older men is to be self confident just as they are.
Mature men often come into a relationship with self confidence. They've done the dating and relationship thing before and they know exactly who they are and what they are looking for. Being confident is incredibly attractive to every man and especially so to an older man. Don't apologize for any of your self-perceived shortcomings and embrace who you are as a woman. Never be ashamed if you are a little overweight or if you don't have that executive job that you've always dreamed of yet. Love who you are and an older man will be more likely to love you back. This is really the most important of the tips of dating older men.
Remember that older men may have a different set of values than you do. If you like to hold hands and be affectionate in public this may not be something he's comfortable with. Someone who is older than you was raised in a different time than you and may feel that cuddling is best left in private. Let him guide you in this situation. If you are out shopping or having dinner and he reaches for your hand, embrace his. Letting him set the pace is one of the tips for dating older men that you want to always keep in mind when you are together.
Treat him once in a while. Many older men are very chivalrous and will insist on paying for everything when you two are out together. This is obviously a really lovely gesture but it's also nice to take the reigns sometimes and treat him. He'll really appreciate how thoughtful you are being and he'll love that you value him just as much as he does you.
Specific things you say and do can make a man feel helplessly drawn to you. If you are convinced he is the one there are things you can do to ensure he only has eyes for you. For more insightful tips about understanding men including a way to get him to fall deeply in love with you, visit this informative site!
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Thursday
Older Dating - The Vast Options of Dating Older People
For starters, the internet is the best place to search for that person you have been looking for. If you are tired of the people in your life and want to meet someone new and exciting, then the internet is the right answer. You can search through databases of you entire city, state or even go international for that matter. In fact, the entire world is offered to you at your finger tips. You just need to look in the right places and you are bound to find someone interesting.
There are a couple of pointers that you may want to keep in mind for internet dating. Just like how simple it is for you to find a date, it is equally simple for other miscreants to abuse it. There are a lot of fake profiles out there and you need to apply caution before you decide to go out with one. Make sure that you speak to the person beforehand and only then decide to meet them. By speaking, it is not sending tweets or SMSs to one another, but an actual voice conversation. If possible, even try video chat before you go out for that date.
The last resort if you are not technologically inclined is to seek professional help. Go out and get someone to search that person on your behalf. There are many dating services all over the city that are waiting to help you out for a fee. The best way to go about this is to actually find someone who has used these services to tell you whether they are good. In this case, word of mouth is probably the best advice you can rely on.
Finally, don’t lose hope. There is no such thing as an upper limit when it comes to dating. There are people who were too busy building their career to worry about dating. It is only later on in their life they start looking, which might probably be your case too. In the end, you are bound to get the person that will complete your life, or at least show a good time around.
Older dating is on an up rise with the invention of a multitude of sites geared towards mature dating. Many older people have stayed away from online dating because it is typically geared towards twenty and thirty somethings but in the last five years there have been many sites that are dedicated to finding true love for a more mature audience. If you fit into this category and you’re searching for true love and companionship, take some time and check out a few older dating matches. These sites can lead you on the journey to finding true love regardless of your age.
John Smithe
John is an experienced writer on seeking dating and relationships. He has been writing for many years and has had many articles published. Some of John's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals, mature daters, relationships, and older dating with matchmaking.Older Dating
Wednesday
Dating Tips For Men - How to Get a Younger Girlfriend
First of all, you need to know that older man dating younger women is a completely natural situation. The funny thing is, most guys think really gorgeous younger women are "out of their league."
The truth is, not only is it possible for you to date younger women -- it's actually easier than you think. The first and most essential thing to bear in mind is that women actually prefer older men.
It's true that you can definitely be dating younger women. I don't care what the women your age tell you; this is a fact.Over the past 200-plus years, the United States government has been recording statistics for the ages of men and women getting married. And every year, there is a larger gap between the ages of men and women who marry each other.
Every year, the guys get a little older on average, and their wives get a little younger.
Here's another interesting statistic: guys who tie the knot for a second time are usually doing it with women who are around a decade younger.
Here's another thing to ponder: in 20% of these second marriages, the guy is over 20 years younger than his partner.
{A woman who is twenty years younger?? Oh no! The "Femi-Nazis" get upset when they hear this! They will declare that it's not right! Deviant!
Ironically, no one seems to mind if the guy is wealthy and famous. Then he is practically expected to marry a significantly younger wife.
Donald Trump? Have you seen how beautiful his wife is? They had a baby not too long ago, and they're very happy together...
The actor Michael Douglas? (For quite a while now he's been married to Catherine Zeta-Jones, the insanely hot actress. 'Nuff said.)
I could give you a ton of other examples. It's been this way all throughout history. It's only in modern times that a double-standard has emerged -- that it's fine for a successful older guy to be with younger women, but it's somehow "wrong" for the common guy to pursue this course.
So why, exactly, do older guys have such a powerful urge to be with a younger mate? It goes a lot deeper than just wanting a hot young babe. The deeper reasons are rooted in our biology; men are hard-wired to want a woman who is healthy, young and fertile, who has the greatest chance of bearing his children and carrying on his genetic legacy.
Also, it's not only about sex and procreation. According to research, it's been demonstrated that a younger wife can quite literally lengthen a man's life span. In a sense, her youth is "contagious" and will keep her husband active (and not just in the bedroom!)
When you come right down to it, the yearning to desire to be dating younger women is a natural, healthy impulse.
If you'd like to make yourself powerfully appealing to younger women, I have a strategy that I want to show you. It is a method that I use all the time, and I've seduced beautiful younger women right out from under their bad-boy 22 year old lovers!
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Sunday
What Does a Young Woman Really Want?
The first point is just because a younger woman is not questioning your whereabouts and oftentimes acts nonchalant about your activities away from her, doesn't mean she can be played. Some older men might have gotten use to their former wives or girlfriends questioning everything they did, because those women didn't know how to establish lives of their own. However, this doesn't mean, "Well my young girlfriend doesn't care what I do as long as I give her money." Just like a woman your own age or older we care, we just don't make a big deal about what you are doing since we know that at any given moment when we are tired of your lies we can drop you and find someone who will appreciate us whether that man has a head full of hair and zero body fat or overweight and balding.
The next point refers to one's intelligence. Although there is a significant age difference, that doesn't mean the young woman is a fool. She may not know much about your era and may have little or no experience with your educational and/or career background; however that doesn't mean you can't talk to her or share a bit about yourself. It also doesn't mean that she can't hold a conversation with the best of them.
Another point I would like to make is that young women need love and security just like an older woman. Why is it okay for an older woman to say, "I need a man who makes a nice living..." but when a young woman says that she is deemed a gold-digger not every woman is with an older man because of money. It is a nice perk, but when the lights go off and you are ready to go to bed, she wants to know do you love her.
In closing, not every young woman has the kind of daddy issues that she needs a sugar daddy. An older man may say the things she wished her dad would have said back in the day like, "I love you...I care about you..." However, there are many women that are operating in this world with a healthy mindset and could care less how often their own dad said I love you or even came around for that matter. She doesn't need a father, like some women sing about in songs and write in poems, she needs a man! And unless you can be that man that will be the shoulder she can cry on, offer some advice, love her, and make her feel like a woman, you might want to check whether you are an older man with mommy issues, a need for a daughter, or in a mid-life crisis.
Nicholl McGuire
http://lovepoetrybynicholl.blogspot.com
Saturday
Tips For Dating Older Men - Top 5 Tips on Dating Older Men
There are lots of advantages in dating older men. They are emotionally much more mature. They have also already established themselves in their career and life so they have ample time to devote to their woman. But older men will always go for self confidant women. Be prepared to put your best foot forward.
Have a life of your own. Always be smiling, having a zest for life. Be upbeat, don't fret over negativities of life. This will put you in an advantageous position as you will be always glowing from inner beauty which in turn will make you more attractive to older men.
One of the vital tips for dating older men is to be a woman with a positive attitude because they don't want their women to be an appendage. Older men want their woman to be independent, vibrant and full of life. They want you to contribute positivity to the relationship.
For dating older men you must be prepared to give them the rein of the relationship. Don't be aggressive, let them lead you. At their age they like to take the upper hand as they are more experienced than you are. It has nothing to do with your capability or a reflection on your abilities. Moreover they will treat you like a lady. Learn to let them open the door, pull your chair, and the like. Chivalry is not dead with older men. So go on... just enjoy it!!
While dating older men you should take care not to show your affection in public places. They are not very comfortable with it. Older men are inclined to be more reserved in public and quite demonstrative in private, of their affection. Don't fret if he doesn't hug or kiss you at the street corners or when you are out with him.
Dating older men doesn't mean the end of your sex life. It is exactly the opposite. With mature men you will have a great time in bed, as with his age, he has gathered lots of experience. At his age he need not prove anything about his sexuality, so he will take more time, effort and care to satisfy his partner.
Only difference in your sex life may be about the frequency of it. Because, for older men companionship, sharing experiences and ways to relax with their woman take predominance. He has reached a point in his life where he is comfortable with who he is without having to prove.
by Sara M. Jones
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A Foolish Older Man and His Younger Girlfriend
The young woman was seeing someone at the time, but the relationship was rocky considering that her young partner was in jail at the time. She didn't see a future with him, so the older man represented the foundation she needed in her life at least for the moment.
They talked about their college experiences, they had fun going to nice restaurants, and they were actually head over heels in love with the idea of being in love. However, it wouldn't be too long before he started acting foolish.
She was in her dorm room one day studying and received a phone call. It was her older man friend. He was downstairs wanted to come up to see her. She met him downstairs but didn't like his red eyes. She interviewed him on the way up to her room while riding the elevator, "What were you up to?" She asked. "Oh just hanging out with the guys and thought I would stop by." She was thinking he should have never showed his face looking obviously drunk. "Did you have to come over looking like this?" He laughed and proceeded to kiss her with breath smelling like a bar. They reached her dorm room and he started small talk about his experience with the guys what this one said and what that one did. She wasn't amused. She wanted him out her room. He wasn't ready to go. He played with her, hugged on her and tried to stick his penis in her. She wasn't interested told him no and repeated it several times. Fortunately, he got the message when she got a bit aggressive. He wasn't in any position to fight. He was drunk. She told him he had to leave. He said he would call her later.
The next day he was very apologetic. She lost all respect for him. It was too easy to dismiss him because he was older and younger men were presently in pursuit of her. She reasoned, "Why bother with a balding old man when I can be with a younger one who probably would respect me and my space."
As the old saying goes, "No Fool like the old Fool."[1732 T. Fuller Gnomologia)
by Nicholl McGuire
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The Older Man Syndrome
In my philosophy of thinking, age is just a number. It doesn’t attach itself to any man thing, or importance. There are mature men at fifty, and there are immature men at sixty. Where does that leave us?
I dated a man who was eleven years older than me, and it was great for the moment. The man had wisdom all over the place. It got to a point that he was taking his wisdom and running all over the place with it, and driving me to drink. I was truly in need of a Matai and then some.
The fact that he was so much older than me he thought he had the key to the world and then some. He treated me like I was his daughter, and he was my father. We also have to realize that a man who is ten years older than someone is under the assumption that he’s the king of the castle, and you will worship the ground he spit on. I think not!
My man was living in the 21st century, but he was still hibernating in the prehistoric days where the dinosaurs ruled the world and then some. He had this concept that men were still the chief at arms, and when I say do something, or don’t do something, you obey, follow, and give me the respect I deserve and then some. I knew at this precise moment that my man was going to be my eliminated man.
Now don’t get me wrong because my man had some perks which attracted me to him, but the issues of being the dominant factor in the relationship bordered on the ridiculous and then some.
1. No one told me what to do because I was truly a grown woman.
2. There were no masters and kings in this day and age.
3. The man and woman are on equal levels.
4. Respect is given and received.
5. You are not my father, and I am not your mother.
An older man is stuck in his ways and this is an understatement thank you very much. He was built with these factors, and no amount of loving, good sex, convincing and persuading will change his mind. It was going to be his way, and if you think that you can change a man, then forget about it. No amount of anything would change his mind. If you gave him one million dollars, you still wouldn’t be able to float his boat around to your thinking. It was truly out of the question.
My concept on older men is that they are wiser in the ways of the world, but they have their faults just like men my age, and younger men. Older men are more established in their employment, and money. My man had just retired from the CTA, so he was bent on doing some of the things he loved doing, but couldn’t do because he was working. Of course my retired man got exhausted, and he ended up going back to work on a part-time basis.
So would you date an older man? I think it depends on the man and not the age of the man. It also depends on the level of your competence in this relationship.
1. Are you willing to handle an older man and his faults?
2. Are you okay with his domination?
3. Are you contented with him treating you like a child, or his daughter?
4. Can you live with his prehistoric ways?
5. Is he sweet, loving, and kind, and you can over look his faults?
6. Do you love him?
7. Does he love you?
8. Is the relationship going anywhere?
9. Is marriage down the line?
10. Does he treat you like a queen?
If you answered yes to most of these questions, or all of them, then your older man is worth it and then some. Forget about his mindless ways, and celebrate the loving he brings to your relationship. Remember age is only a number, and what do we really care about numbers? Sisters we want the love of a good man, and older men bring it on. I think I can handle you.
By Carol Ann Culbert Johnson
I am 43 years old, and my passion is writing. I love it. Please check out my website at http://www.freewebs.com/jcarolann and enjoy the ride
Tips For Dating Older Men - Issues That Can Harm Your Relationship
If you're sensitive to criticism or negative remarks from others, then developing a thick skin is one of the best tips for dating older men. Your friends and family might not be thrilled with your choice. They might try to talk you out of continuing the relationship or persuade you not to pursue one in the first place. They can give you all the well-meaning advice they want, but ultimately, this is your life and your decision to make. Don't let these comments get to you or interfere with your relationship. Have confidence in yourself and the choices you make, so that you can enjoy your life.
If your older man has children, this could present an awkward situation for you. If his children are close to your age, they might not appreciate your presence or they might feel threatened by it. Since you're all adults, you should be able to talk these things through in a mature manner. You shouldn't have to put up with any rudeness on their part. Be open to discussion in order to clear the air. Letting hostility or resentment build up can cause some serious damage to your relationship. You don't want your man to feel that he has to choose between you or his children.
Among all the helpful tips for dating older men that you'll find, learning how to compromise is one of the most effective for maintaining a strong relationship. Although you might share a lot in common, be prepared to make some serious changes to your lifestyle when it comes to how you spend time together. He might not have the energy to keep up with a hectic dating schedule, and you might find yourself feeling bored with some of the places he takes you to. This is where compromise comes in handy. You can take turns figuring out when and where you would like to spend time together so that you can both enjoy each other's company without getting frustrated.
There are several other tips for dating older men or to attracting them in the first place, that will also help you enjoy a strong, healthy relationship. Being aware of these is essential in order to avoid problems that could arise. Remember that this is your life and you have the right to make your own decisions, but also remember that there are certain issues associated with the choices you make that could interfere with your happiness.
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By Anna M Jones