Thursday
What the Young Woman Doesn't Think About When Having a Baby with an Older Man
There are issues that many age gap couples are aware of prior to a pregnancy and during the process when it comes to having a baby. A doctor will advise the expectant couples of the increase medical risks. A young woman with an older man might have more appointments than other expectant moms due to the age difference.
After baby is born, there just might be some unexpected issues especially if the mature gentleman's parents and siblings are much older and his family is large. One's baby might not be treated like others who were born many years prior, because folks are simply too old and weary to care for a demanding newborn who later turns into a very active two year old, an inquisitive four year old, and so on. Depending on the type of families, they may welcome the couple's new addition or not--especially if they were unsupportive about their older relative dating a younger woman or vice versa in the first place.
The family support might not be there, but the love must be strong enough to withstand the emotional roller coaster ride during and after the pregnancy. Some older men just don't have the tolerance level for the drama. Others have "been there and done that" so many times with other women that pregnancy and delivery just isn't special to them anymore. Then there are those older gentlemen who are quite excited about becoming fathers to the point that they practically snatch the sonogram photos out of the hands of their younger partners.
Money may or may not be an issue for the older man when it comes to getting the necessary care for the young lady and their newborn. But it might be a challenge gradually, because she may not be planning to return to work. However, if she does, there is childcare to consider. Typical expenses like baby food, diapers, and other needed supplies will drain one's bank account. Other expenses will arise like medicines, medical bills, insurance, holiday events, and more, so if one is ill-prepared the relationship will experience the strain. Days off of work is necessary to assist the new mother with the child.
Age gap relationships may weather the pregnancy and delivery challenges, but sometimes they don't. A man in mid-life is more interested in winding down and relaxing on most days, but this changes when the couple is expecting. A young lady may have thought she could keep up the pace at work and continue to do other things she loves, but the arrival of a baby is definitely a game-changer mentally and physically.
Although a relationship might feel quite nice, safe and secure, recognize all the factors that come into play once someone says, "I want to have a baby." Are you really ready for that? If not, protect yourself.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry and other books.
After baby is born, there just might be some unexpected issues especially if the mature gentleman's parents and siblings are much older and his family is large. One's baby might not be treated like others who were born many years prior, because folks are simply too old and weary to care for a demanding newborn who later turns into a very active two year old, an inquisitive four year old, and so on. Depending on the type of families, they may welcome the couple's new addition or not--especially if they were unsupportive about their older relative dating a younger woman or vice versa in the first place.
The family support might not be there, but the love must be strong enough to withstand the emotional roller coaster ride during and after the pregnancy. Some older men just don't have the tolerance level for the drama. Others have "been there and done that" so many times with other women that pregnancy and delivery just isn't special to them anymore. Then there are those older gentlemen who are quite excited about becoming fathers to the point that they practically snatch the sonogram photos out of the hands of their younger partners.
Money may or may not be an issue for the older man when it comes to getting the necessary care for the young lady and their newborn. But it might be a challenge gradually, because she may not be planning to return to work. However, if she does, there is childcare to consider. Typical expenses like baby food, diapers, and other needed supplies will drain one's bank account. Other expenses will arise like medicines, medical bills, insurance, holiday events, and more, so if one is ill-prepared the relationship will experience the strain. Days off of work is necessary to assist the new mother with the child.
Age gap relationships may weather the pregnancy and delivery challenges, but sometimes they don't. A man in mid-life is more interested in winding down and relaxing on most days, but this changes when the couple is expecting. A young lady may have thought she could keep up the pace at work and continue to do other things she loves, but the arrival of a baby is definitely a game-changer mentally and physically.
Although a relationship might feel quite nice, safe and secure, recognize all the factors that come into play once someone says, "I want to have a baby." Are you really ready for that? If not, protect yourself.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry and other books.
Saturday
Thursday
Young and So Dumb - What Some Selfish, Older Men Really Think of Women
Some mature men just don't think highly of women their own age much less young ladies. They can be hateful, angry, and rude toward women. As far as they are concerned they are good for periodic sex, a hot meal, money, and not much else. A 30 plus year old man who claims that he wants to settle down with a young woman who is 18 is definitely something to think twice about. She doesn't have much material wealth especially if she is still living with parents. Her life experience can't be compared to a man who is 10, 15 or even 20 plus years older than she. She is still learning and growing when it comes to life issues. The older man may have a daughter or son not that much younger who might still need to be parented. It is safe to say that the older man is most likely going through a personal crisis and what a nice distraction from his personal problems when he meets a bubbly, sweet young lady.
Of course, the mature man will attempt to persuade the young lady that he isn't having any midlife issues and that he knows what he wants. But the truth is, if you take a look at the gentleman's relationship history, how many other women did he claim to love, want, need, like? Notice what he says about the relationship endings and whether he is mainly blaming his exes and in-laws.
Some older men just love the idea of being with new sexual partners more so than settling down with them--no matter the age. But if a single or unavailable man wants to put his potential young lover at ease, he is going to say the kinds of things that will make her feel secure and safe with him.
"You are so pretty. I love that scent you are wearing. Would you like for me to buy you some more? I'm not the kind of guy who plays games, I know what I want, so will you give it to me? What would you think of being my wife one day?" The man who says these things obviously wants the young woman to feel special and consider keeping him around even though he isn't considering anything long-term or serious and may have told her so. The mature man is well aware that there are younger men who would very much like to date the young apple of his eye; therefore, he has to say whatever he can to keep her interested in him.
Some men laugh with the guys about the things they have said and done to win the trust of their young lovers. They enjoy the "dumb" act that some women play, but what they don't know is that there are those who are sincerely acting. When the time is right, those women will reveal their true selves and most likely the men won't like them so much. Then there are those young ladies who really are unintelligent and immature and so a lot of older men don't mind making them notches on their belts and then moving on. Sad, but true. These manipulative men will photograph or video record some of these young, obedient women and collect their images like hunters hanging up the heads of their prey on walls. With social media, online and offline albums, you never know just how many women have fallen prey to an older man's fantasies.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.
Of course, the mature man will attempt to persuade the young lady that he isn't having any midlife issues and that he knows what he wants. But the truth is, if you take a look at the gentleman's relationship history, how many other women did he claim to love, want, need, like? Notice what he says about the relationship endings and whether he is mainly blaming his exes and in-laws.
Some older men just love the idea of being with new sexual partners more so than settling down with them--no matter the age. But if a single or unavailable man wants to put his potential young lover at ease, he is going to say the kinds of things that will make her feel secure and safe with him.
"You are so pretty. I love that scent you are wearing. Would you like for me to buy you some more? I'm not the kind of guy who plays games, I know what I want, so will you give it to me? What would you think of being my wife one day?" The man who says these things obviously wants the young woman to feel special and consider keeping him around even though he isn't considering anything long-term or serious and may have told her so. The mature man is well aware that there are younger men who would very much like to date the young apple of his eye; therefore, he has to say whatever he can to keep her interested in him.
Some men laugh with the guys about the things they have said and done to win the trust of their young lovers. They enjoy the "dumb" act that some women play, but what they don't know is that there are those who are sincerely acting. When the time is right, those women will reveal their true selves and most likely the men won't like them so much. Then there are those young ladies who really are unintelligent and immature and so a lot of older men don't mind making them notches on their belts and then moving on. Sad, but true. These manipulative men will photograph or video record some of these young, obedient women and collect their images like hunters hanging up the heads of their prey on walls. With social media, online and offline albums, you never know just how many women have fallen prey to an older man's fantasies.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.
Saturday
Crazy, Weird, Silly - Don't Settle for Someone You Don't Really Want
When I was younger if a man had a funny looking face, an annoying flaw like a bizarre laugh, or something else I didn't like, I simply didn't make him The Guy. You know that special one in your life you want to roll around in the bed with or the guy you take home to parents. As I grew older, I created additional standards for myself and didn't care whether he had a great sports car, a huge home, and a large bank roll, if he wasn't my type, I wasn't letting him see my legs, much less my boobs.
Seriously my friends, stop the settling and this goes for the mature men too. You want a 10, but yet you go out with a five? Sooner or later that "okay" looking young lady is going to know you just don't like her much. What about the smart gal who looks great, but you don't approach her because of whatever insecurities you are grappling with? So what if she says, "No, I have a boyfriend already." There are others, many others, who will give you a little bit of this and that if you are honest.
Crazy, weird and silly people are everywhere on and off the Internet and if you don't consider yourself to be one of the three, then why get involved with odd folks? I don't care how fine the hair, eye color, height, body type is, if I don't want him--I don't want him! This is a major issue with many singles, divorced, and even unavailable men and women, they either can't connect with good-looking people with a brain between their ears or they settle for what is convenient, nearby, easy, cheap, affordable, etc. Some daters treat online dating like shopping at Walmart. "Did the price drop yet...? Oh wow, two for one special. Is the meat fresh or is it expired? Where's my coupon? The store is right by my house. Is it Black Friday?" Now for some it just might be "black" Friday, but I digress. And for others, they are serious about the quality of meat they choose too...anyway, people have feelings, I repeat, people have feelings and there is more to them than their dating preferences, location and age.
So the next time you come across some individuals that really don't impress you, no matter how eager they are to try you like you are a tasty sample at the local Cosco or Sam's Club, politely move on. Chances are they just want whatever you are putting out anyway--nothing more, nothing less. But if you want a little more than a one time experience, then be prepared to put your work in and don't settle!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad and other books.
Seriously my friends, stop the settling and this goes for the mature men too. You want a 10, but yet you go out with a five? Sooner or later that "okay" looking young lady is going to know you just don't like her much. What about the smart gal who looks great, but you don't approach her because of whatever insecurities you are grappling with? So what if she says, "No, I have a boyfriend already." There are others, many others, who will give you a little bit of this and that if you are honest.
Crazy, weird and silly people are everywhere on and off the Internet and if you don't consider yourself to be one of the three, then why get involved with odd folks? I don't care how fine the hair, eye color, height, body type is, if I don't want him--I don't want him! This is a major issue with many singles, divorced, and even unavailable men and women, they either can't connect with good-looking people with a brain between their ears or they settle for what is convenient, nearby, easy, cheap, affordable, etc. Some daters treat online dating like shopping at Walmart. "Did the price drop yet...? Oh wow, two for one special. Is the meat fresh or is it expired? Where's my coupon? The store is right by my house. Is it Black Friday?" Now for some it just might be "black" Friday, but I digress. And for others, they are serious about the quality of meat they choose too...anyway, people have feelings, I repeat, people have feelings and there is more to them than their dating preferences, location and age.
So the next time you come across some individuals that really don't impress you, no matter how eager they are to try you like you are a tasty sample at the local Cosco or Sam's Club, politely move on. Chances are they just want whatever you are putting out anyway--nothing more, nothing less. But if you want a little more than a one time experience, then be prepared to put your work in and don't settle!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad and other books.
Thursday
Painful Sex, Bruises, Blood - What Some will Do for Love
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Wednesday
Married, Children and Work - When the Mature Man Just Wants Fun
I didn't know at 20 years old when the older gentleman approached me that he had a wife, children, and other responsibilities until I walked into his office and noticed the photo behind him. We weren't at his workplace to talk business, we were planning a date. I had no conscious, compassion or anything about marriage, children or anything related, because I just thought, "He's cute for an older guy."
You would have thought that at the moment I saw the photograph I would have backed off, politely excused myself and moved on, but I didn't. He noticed I was checking out the family photo, so he took it off the shelf and talked about what appeared to be a happy group. Since he had been out of state for months, he missed them, but he also wanted to have a good time.
I didn't give the man any sex, despite his alluding to it, but what I did give him was laughter. The smile that came on his face as we strolled a park was priceless! The 40 plus year old was enjoying the company of a 20 year old and neither one of us even bothered to talk about age.
Of course, my conscious began to catch up with me a few days later. I started to think, "What if I was his wife in that photo? And he has children...What if my dad was like that?" Cold chills came over me. The gentleman called me again requesting I hang out with him, but I politely declined.
Fast forward to present day, over 20 years later I now have a family of my own and I recognize that sometimes life can get quite boring. I realized that there are men and women who just get tired of partners, children, and work--I have been there. But we have choices and there are consequences to every decision we make.
I have observed and listened to men who just felt trapped in marriages, jobs and more. Their loveless relationships produced children that they really didn't want. They worked jobs they hated. Their spouses were giving them a hard time about looking externally for happiness. But sometimes you ask yourself, "When is it my turn to live a little?" I personally think there is nothing wrong with wanting to do some things you always wanted to do with your life within reason. Does it have to be about flings, fast cars and other typical things that midlife men in crisis desire?
I think there is far too much programming out there to subliminally lure married men as well as the committed retired to do the unthinkable because there is a lot of money to gain from this group who have spent decades saving money and want any excuse to dip in their investments. Sports cars are pricey, juggling more than one woman will result in increase revenue for entertainment spots, travel, and also a trip to divorce court, and more.
Women who enable the men who want some "fun" will also pay sooner or later mentally, spiritually and physically (because hot looks do go away especially when there's lots of relationship stress and yes, I was cheated on in the past). The married man tired of his current family may end up with yet another family that makes him even more miserable.
Being idle, creating fantasies in one's mind, and flirting with trouble will cause problems for all parties in one's quest to have a little fun. Consider doing some productive things that will keep you out of trouble while appeasing the need within to live a little.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.
You would have thought that at the moment I saw the photograph I would have backed off, politely excused myself and moved on, but I didn't. He noticed I was checking out the family photo, so he took it off the shelf and talked about what appeared to be a happy group. Since he had been out of state for months, he missed them, but he also wanted to have a good time.
I didn't give the man any sex, despite his alluding to it, but what I did give him was laughter. The smile that came on his face as we strolled a park was priceless! The 40 plus year old was enjoying the company of a 20 year old and neither one of us even bothered to talk about age.
Of course, my conscious began to catch up with me a few days later. I started to think, "What if I was his wife in that photo? And he has children...What if my dad was like that?" Cold chills came over me. The gentleman called me again requesting I hang out with him, but I politely declined.
Fast forward to present day, over 20 years later I now have a family of my own and I recognize that sometimes life can get quite boring. I realized that there are men and women who just get tired of partners, children, and work--I have been there. But we have choices and there are consequences to every decision we make.
I have observed and listened to men who just felt trapped in marriages, jobs and more. Their loveless relationships produced children that they really didn't want. They worked jobs they hated. Their spouses were giving them a hard time about looking externally for happiness. But sometimes you ask yourself, "When is it my turn to live a little?" I personally think there is nothing wrong with wanting to do some things you always wanted to do with your life within reason. Does it have to be about flings, fast cars and other typical things that midlife men in crisis desire?
I think there is far too much programming out there to subliminally lure married men as well as the committed retired to do the unthinkable because there is a lot of money to gain from this group who have spent decades saving money and want any excuse to dip in their investments. Sports cars are pricey, juggling more than one woman will result in increase revenue for entertainment spots, travel, and also a trip to divorce court, and more.
Women who enable the men who want some "fun" will also pay sooner or later mentally, spiritually and physically (because hot looks do go away especially when there's lots of relationship stress and yes, I was cheated on in the past). The married man tired of his current family may end up with yet another family that makes him even more miserable.
Being idle, creating fantasies in one's mind, and flirting with trouble will cause problems for all parties in one's quest to have a little fun. Consider doing some productive things that will keep you out of trouble while appeasing the need within to live a little.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.
Tuesday
It Isn't Always Business as Usual: Some Older Men are Kinky
He might look kind, sweet, youthful and harmless, but some mature gentlemen enjoy doing some things that cause discomfort, pain, and nightmares. If you go along, just to get along Young Lady, you just mind find yourself needing therapy one day.
Let's face it some women are ill-equipped to handle some unique, interesting, painful and downright strange experiences sexual and otherwise and to expose them to such things might mentally break them down to the point that they are useless even to themselves. Drugs, alcohol, and other things are used to lower one's inhibitions in many weird situations, but just how low does an individual want to go? What might be the consequences if a young lady reaches a point of no return? Will one be ready to face those issues and still sleep at night?
There are some aspects about dating that are just unexpected and if a young woman is in the dark about some things she will be frightened and possibly will get law enforcement and others involved. This is why one needs to know a person well and if she is interested in doing some wild things then that is her choice, but she should never be talked or forced into doing things she just doesn't want to do.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.
Let's face it some women are ill-equipped to handle some unique, interesting, painful and downright strange experiences sexual and otherwise and to expose them to such things might mentally break them down to the point that they are useless even to themselves. Drugs, alcohol, and other things are used to lower one's inhibitions in many weird situations, but just how low does an individual want to go? What might be the consequences if a young lady reaches a point of no return? Will one be ready to face those issues and still sleep at night?
There are some aspects about dating that are just unexpected and if a young woman is in the dark about some things she will be frightened and possibly will get law enforcement and others involved. This is why one needs to know a person well and if she is interested in doing some wild things then that is her choice, but she should never be talked or forced into doing things she just doesn't want to do.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.
Isolation: When the Older Man Doesn't Want His Young Woman Around Anyone But Him
He's out there, that nice guy who says in such a nice voice, "You are so pretty, I just want you all to myself." This mature man knows exactly what he is doing when he subtly or quite boldly tells a young woman what he expects from her. "I really enjoy your company, come around more often. Whatever you need I can supply those things for you..." Now if she isn't discerning, she will just laugh and dismiss what he says as unimportant. The young lady assumes that her life is still her own--independent and free even with her gentleman suitor. Little does she know, she will soon be entering a world where she will be repeatedly asked to shut off her phone off, stay with him, move away with him, etc. Family, friends, co-workers and others are just not welcome. Gradually the older man's critical voice will rise up and object to anyone or anything that interferes with his attempt at building an isolated world where it's just two and no more.
As she draws near to the man who "means the world to me," it will become increasingly difficult to reach the young woman, because his mind control will begin to take root. Her voice mail will pick up, but she won't. E-mails from acquaintances will go unopened. She will become a stranger to friends. Her family will begin to worry. Meanwhile, the older, controlling man will have her right where he wants her with him and only him.
Isolation is a form of abuse. Many mature, abusive men are either unaware of what they are doing, don't care or do care and systematically isolate their victims. Persuading or forcing someone to stay in a room, a home, a car, etc. knowing full well she wants to see people and do things apart from you is deceptive, controlling and evil.
Maybe the young female doesn't want to be bothered with her family and if that is the case, then her older gentleman friend might want to encourage her to at least write or call them just to let them know that everything is alright sometimes. But some men are content with their partners staying away from relatives, co-workers, friends, and even children, because this means they will remain loyal to them.
If the young woman should rebel against her older mate's wishes and decide that she is going to see her loved ones, talk to male friends, shop alone, work late hours, or anything else that she wants to do, then there is a psychological hell he will put her through whether in gentle ways using sweet words and affection or harsh ones using threats and fists. If loved ones should come around, these jealousy men will ignore partners and them, fight, or do things to make all parties feel unwelcome when visiting the couple's residence. He doesn't want them showing up and he doesn't mind acting rude, critical and bitter around them either. These controlling men might make their partners feel guilty when they want to go some where without them or if they should decline seeing their relatives.
A young woman who knows her partner is isolating her is going to act fearful when he does things that keep her close to him. She isn't going to tell others what is happening, because she doesn't want to look bad or make others think negatively about a man she has bragged about or defended. She also feels ashamed and angered about the way her mate acts when her loved ones are around. So the young woman will distance herself from family and friends, put a limit on outside activities, or don't do much at all just so that she doesn't have to deal with her mean-spirited partner's bad-mouthing and tantrums as a result of her wanting to see loved ones, go places, etc.
You may be a victim, an abuser or know of someone in a relationship where isolation is ongoing. Take a look at what is happening, bring attention to the problem and seek solutions. It is not "okay, normal" or a loving thing to say and do things to keep a person isolated, nor should one abandon a friend who you know is in an abusive relationship. Much of this isolation behavior derives from jealousy, insecurities, childhood issues, and being a victim possibly of abuse yourself. Don't enable dysfunction, speak up, establish boundaries and if necessary end the relationship.
1. Tells you what to do with your money or tells you not to work, so you will not be out and about.
2. Causes friction between you and others due to negative words he says about them i.e.) He lies.
3. Creates a list of things you are expected to do when interacting with others i.e.) "You only go places with me. You are not permitted to talk to the opposite sex when I'm not around whether on or off the Internet..."
4. Doesn't want people visiting the residence--makes all sorts of excuses.
5. Doesn't want to visit your relatives and friends and would rather you don't go either.
6. Suddenly comes up with "plans" to keep you from going places.
7. Tells you some things like, "It's just me and you, we don't need anyone...We can stay at home, we don't need to go anywhere...All we need is each other...We can be all alone on an island--just you and I, Baby."
8. Calls and checks up on you often and may even joke about you, "Staying put. I hope you aren't going anywhere, you stay in your place, Woman."
9. Complains, vents, yells, threatens or does things to keep you from leaving the home.
10. Offers to do many things so that you are never in an atmosphere where you could possibly meet and talk to other men i.e.) shops for you, runs errands, fixes things, offers to go places with you, etc.
As she draws near to the man who "means the world to me," it will become increasingly difficult to reach the young woman, because his mind control will begin to take root. Her voice mail will pick up, but she won't. E-mails from acquaintances will go unopened. She will become a stranger to friends. Her family will begin to worry. Meanwhile, the older, controlling man will have her right where he wants her with him and only him.
Isolation is a form of abuse. Many mature, abusive men are either unaware of what they are doing, don't care or do care and systematically isolate their victims. Persuading or forcing someone to stay in a room, a home, a car, etc. knowing full well she wants to see people and do things apart from you is deceptive, controlling and evil.
Maybe the young female doesn't want to be bothered with her family and if that is the case, then her older gentleman friend might want to encourage her to at least write or call them just to let them know that everything is alright sometimes. But some men are content with their partners staying away from relatives, co-workers, friends, and even children, because this means they will remain loyal to them.
If the young woman should rebel against her older mate's wishes and decide that she is going to see her loved ones, talk to male friends, shop alone, work late hours, or anything else that she wants to do, then there is a psychological hell he will put her through whether in gentle ways using sweet words and affection or harsh ones using threats and fists. If loved ones should come around, these jealousy men will ignore partners and them, fight, or do things to make all parties feel unwelcome when visiting the couple's residence. He doesn't want them showing up and he doesn't mind acting rude, critical and bitter around them either. These controlling men might make their partners feel guilty when they want to go some where without them or if they should decline seeing their relatives.
A young woman who knows her partner is isolating her is going to act fearful when he does things that keep her close to him. She isn't going to tell others what is happening, because she doesn't want to look bad or make others think negatively about a man she has bragged about or defended. She also feels ashamed and angered about the way her mate acts when her loved ones are around. So the young woman will distance herself from family and friends, put a limit on outside activities, or don't do much at all just so that she doesn't have to deal with her mean-spirited partner's bad-mouthing and tantrums as a result of her wanting to see loved ones, go places, etc.
You may be a victim, an abuser or know of someone in a relationship where isolation is ongoing. Take a look at what is happening, bring attention to the problem and seek solutions. It is not "okay, normal" or a loving thing to say and do things to keep a person isolated, nor should one abandon a friend who you know is in an abusive relationship. Much of this isolation behavior derives from jealousy, insecurities, childhood issues, and being a victim possibly of abuse yourself. Don't enable dysfunction, speak up, establish boundaries and if necessary end the relationship.
Isolation Tactics an Abuser will Use
1. Tells you what to do with your money or tells you not to work, so you will not be out and about.
2. Causes friction between you and others due to negative words he says about them i.e.) He lies.
3. Creates a list of things you are expected to do when interacting with others i.e.) "You only go places with me. You are not permitted to talk to the opposite sex when I'm not around whether on or off the Internet..."
4. Doesn't want people visiting the residence--makes all sorts of excuses.
5. Doesn't want to visit your relatives and friends and would rather you don't go either.
6. Suddenly comes up with "plans" to keep you from going places.
7. Tells you some things like, "It's just me and you, we don't need anyone...We can stay at home, we don't need to go anywhere...All we need is each other...We can be all alone on an island--just you and I, Baby."
8. Calls and checks up on you often and may even joke about you, "Staying put. I hope you aren't going anywhere, you stay in your place, Woman."
9. Complains, vents, yells, threatens or does things to keep you from leaving the home.
10. Offers to do many things so that you are never in an atmosphere where you could possibly meet and talk to other men i.e.) shops for you, runs errands, fixes things, offers to go places with you, etc.
Tuesday
Her Immaturity Wearing Off on You?
You didn't anticipate that the young woman's youthful spirit, energetic demeanor, and other interesting things about her would rub off on you. But there are those immature sayings, silly expressions, and other annoying things that just don't compliment her well. In addition, you catch yourself acting like her.
When you are set in your ways, mature, and know right from wrong, it can be troubling to look at yourself one day reverting back to a time in your life that you didn't find all that fun, smart, etc. Young people can bring out the best or worst in you, so beware of those times that you are just not being "adult" about some things.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad and other books.
When you are set in your ways, mature, and know right from wrong, it can be troubling to look at yourself one day reverting back to a time in your life that you didn't find all that fun, smart, etc. Young people can bring out the best or worst in you, so beware of those times that you are just not being "adult" about some things.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad and other books.
Saturday
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Controlling People Don't Think They Smell, Unattra...
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Controlling People Don't Think They Smell, Unattra...: Spend enough time with someone who enjoys telling others what to do and how to do it, and you will soon find that the individual isn't ...
Wednesday
Unattractive But Beautiful...His Words That Is
Oh the seductive sound of a male voice telling you how sweet, sexy and sophisticated you are, young woman! It makes you feel good, doesn't it? You love when he tells you how much he enjoys your company, how beautiful you are, how smart...you can't help but be in love with the sound of his inspirational words. But you have a secret and your girlfriends know what it is, your mom might know, and your dad doesn't want to think about it. The well-kept secret was your date is just not your type. He is unattractive.
Now that your secret is out, what are you going to do about it? I mean he sounds so charming. He says things that no other man has ever told you. He makes you feel like you are on top of the world. You just never heard such wonderful things come out of one's mouth. Oh, but...we know he's ugly.
This is why you just don't settle young ladies for any man no matter how sweet, adorable or kind he is--you just don't! You don't make unattractive men think that you are into them, when you know you are not. You are basically living a lie! Sure those words these unattractive, older gentlemen say are beautiful, but when you walk with these men in public, who most women wouldn't even think of giving their time much less a second glance, you got to feel confident. You can't be concerned about what people think of you, a gorgeous 10, with the fat old guy. Instead, you have to motivate yourself to want to be with him despite his imperfections. You have to remind yourself you have flaws too. You tell yourself things like, "It's what's on the inside that matters...I will just have to overlook those things on his face I don't like. His crooked teeth...big ears. The fact he doesn't workout. I have to remember he is older and one day I will be older..." That's a lot of self-talk in order to maintain a relationship with someone you don't find attractive isn't it?
Save yourself all the mind manipulation and face the facts, you wouldn't give this man the time of day if it wasn't for those sweet things he says to you and his material wealth just might be an added benefit, right? So if the sales pitch you give yourself becomes a burden and you just can't keep making yourself go out with him, use some beautiful words of your own and start making a slow departure. It's for the best if looks are that important to you. Besides think of your future offspring (sigh). God bless 'em!
Nicholl McGuire
Now that your secret is out, what are you going to do about it? I mean he sounds so charming. He says things that no other man has ever told you. He makes you feel like you are on top of the world. You just never heard such wonderful things come out of one's mouth. Oh, but...we know he's ugly.
This is why you just don't settle young ladies for any man no matter how sweet, adorable or kind he is--you just don't! You don't make unattractive men think that you are into them, when you know you are not. You are basically living a lie! Sure those words these unattractive, older gentlemen say are beautiful, but when you walk with these men in public, who most women wouldn't even think of giving their time much less a second glance, you got to feel confident. You can't be concerned about what people think of you, a gorgeous 10, with the fat old guy. Instead, you have to motivate yourself to want to be with him despite his imperfections. You have to remind yourself you have flaws too. You tell yourself things like, "It's what's on the inside that matters...I will just have to overlook those things on his face I don't like. His crooked teeth...big ears. The fact he doesn't workout. I have to remember he is older and one day I will be older..." That's a lot of self-talk in order to maintain a relationship with someone you don't find attractive isn't it?
Save yourself all the mind manipulation and face the facts, you wouldn't give this man the time of day if it wasn't for those sweet things he says to you and his material wealth just might be an added benefit, right? So if the sales pitch you give yourself becomes a burden and you just can't keep making yourself go out with him, use some beautiful words of your own and start making a slow departure. It's for the best if looks are that important to you. Besides think of your future offspring (sigh). God bless 'em!
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
Daddy Issues - Dating Older Men
As much as some of us women would like to avoid a certain topic about dating older men and the connection to our fatherless issues, it is a known fact. Is there a void that we experience when fathers don't act like they care or want to come around us daughters? Yes. Do we feel like we can fill our voids with some attention from older partners? At times.
When I look back at my dating experiences with older men, I have to shake my head. Why didn't I see the signs? Why didn't someone tell me that I was trying to keep myself from having to think about what was really hurting me on the inside? It was an absent emotional bond with Dad. He was often too tired to talk, too busy to visit, too angry to be good company, too this or too that!
I took my frustration out on others. I became angry, had moments in the past where I drank too much, shook my behind in the club (clothes on--thank God), made stupid decisions, etc. I argued with my older dates about things they couldn't do for me; at times I hated them for not knowing how I felt. Some days I wished to be with men my own age while I tried to bottle up my tears and act mature, happy...what was going on back then? A need to want to feel accepted by Dad I suppose. I wanted to hear that I was okay, appreciated, wasn't ugly, and was going places in life without a "...but you need to...you better..."coming from Dad.
You see, some of you dads might be wanting that connection to your daughters, but you just aren't getting it because you have no clue what to do and some of you daughters might want the same. Dad might have thought he did his part when his daughter was younger, but can I tell you, it doesn't stop! Communication is key to having quality relationships. A runaway daughter sees her runaway mid-life father pre-occupied with someone, possibly younger than her, who makes him temporarily feel good. Instead of working to heal a broken bond with his kin, he ignores her and vice versa. The daughter might be grown, but she wants to know that Daddy loves her. However, we have to face the truth that some men are incapable of love. They aren't interested in loving anyone. They are self-absorbed and see people as servants. They use and abuse. These toxic dads we have to grieve and let them go.
So if there is one thing I wanted to leave some of you readers with, is if you have a bond with a daughter maintain it and if you are a daughter stay cool with dad if you can. Fathers can establish a healthy bond with their daughters by making a phone call sometimes, sending a card in the mail or flowers, or share a message via a loved one (if she isn't speaking to you) "Dad cares."
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the upcoming book, Say Goodbye to Dad.
When I look back at my dating experiences with older men, I have to shake my head. Why didn't I see the signs? Why didn't someone tell me that I was trying to keep myself from having to think about what was really hurting me on the inside? It was an absent emotional bond with Dad. He was often too tired to talk, too busy to visit, too angry to be good company, too this or too that!
I took my frustration out on others. I became angry, had moments in the past where I drank too much, shook my behind in the club (clothes on--thank God), made stupid decisions, etc. I argued with my older dates about things they couldn't do for me; at times I hated them for not knowing how I felt. Some days I wished to be with men my own age while I tried to bottle up my tears and act mature, happy...what was going on back then? A need to want to feel accepted by Dad I suppose. I wanted to hear that I was okay, appreciated, wasn't ugly, and was going places in life without a "...but you need to...you better..."coming from Dad.
You see, some of you dads might be wanting that connection to your daughters, but you just aren't getting it because you have no clue what to do and some of you daughters might want the same. Dad might have thought he did his part when his daughter was younger, but can I tell you, it doesn't stop! Communication is key to having quality relationships. A runaway daughter sees her runaway mid-life father pre-occupied with someone, possibly younger than her, who makes him temporarily feel good. Instead of working to heal a broken bond with his kin, he ignores her and vice versa. The daughter might be grown, but she wants to know that Daddy loves her. However, we have to face the truth that some men are incapable of love. They aren't interested in loving anyone. They are self-absorbed and see people as servants. They use and abuse. These toxic dads we have to grieve and let them go.
So if there is one thing I wanted to leave some of you readers with, is if you have a bond with a daughter maintain it and if you are a daughter stay cool with dad if you can. Fathers can establish a healthy bond with their daughters by making a phone call sometimes, sending a card in the mail or flowers, or share a message via a loved one (if she isn't speaking to you) "Dad cares."
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the upcoming book, Say Goodbye to Dad.
Saturday
Thursday
Saturday
Declare Today is the Day that You are Free from Controlling Dates
Jealous, angry, bitter, resentful...you know how some controlling singles can be, so why deal with them when you don't have to? Today is your day to be free from any man or woman who wants to make you feel bad about wanting to be selfish every now and again. Do we have to be together all the time for every event? Do we have to call or text whenever we change our location? Do I have to stay away from my friends to be with you? Are you serious?
Wake up! You are being controlled. Live your life!
Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
Wake up! You are being controlled. Live your life!
Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
Wednesday
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Sunday
Dating Older Men - When He Thinks You Are Younger
He didn't think that you were in your thirties or was it your forties? The mature gentleman, who absolutely loves young women, assumed you were in your 20s. What a disappointment for this guy with such a strict preference? You see, for some men, they will handle older women a bit different than they do younger ones--they won't. They strongly believe that older women have much emotional baggage and they don't want to help in the least bit way with any of it. If you play, young and dumb, you will see some of these older guys' games right before your eyes. There are usually more young women where you came from and they spend time finding out which ones are going to meet their needs, pronto!
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I started graying in my 20s and felt the need to dye my hair. I knew that if I let that gray hair show, men were going to think I was older than I was. As I matured, I realized they needed to know I was not the silly young girl they thought I was, so I began to let that gray hair show. There would be no more talking down to me, making stupid statements, and acting as if I was a lost puppy that needed a home. Something as simple as letting my gray hair show sent a bold message to the ladies and gentlemen, I'm not whoever or whatever you thought I was. Funny, how people treat you a bit more respectful when you look and act your age.
Now when you look younger--really young, some manipulative elders will take advantage. They falsely assume you haven't had much life experience, you are ignorant to a lot of things, and they think having fun each day is one of your priorities. They don't think of you as marriage material or baby-making. You are a "friend" and that's about it. Therefore, some older guys who have a bit of money, enjoy going to nice places, and treating their pretty young "things" will do some nice things for you until they grow weary of you or vice versa. The rule of thumb: look pretty and don't talk too much. You start talking about the future, children, where he has been, who he knows, and wanting to meet his relatives, the older guy just might start to distance himself if he isn't sold out on your type. Yes, he has "a type" and if you don't fit into that mold, he isn't thinking about any present or future.
Now the "friend" relationship works when you don't care to be in a serious commitment with someone, but when feelings begin to grow, you want more. But an older gentleman may not want to see you as anything more than whatever you agreed to be to him.
I learned quite a few life lessons when it comes to dating older men unfortunately the hard way. Those lessons were the premise for starting this blog years ago. I wanted young women as well as mature men to see the ups and downs when it comes to age gap dating and do it wisely. I wanted people on the outside looking in to be informed and have a bit of compassion for these couples. It isn't always easy. Money, time, and energy is often lost in these partnerships because couples get swept away with "fun, different, new experience" that they don't realize just how many people they affect when they make poor choices in selecting mates. Children from previous marriages lose respect for their parent(s). Relatives shun or distance themselves from their young family members who refuse to listen to warnings. Religious people judge these couples because they assume something unholy is going on (which it is sometimes especially when the older gentleman is still married). Children are born into the new relationship wearing scarlet letters because some relatives believe they should have been born in wedlock. Society frowns at the dirty old men who date women who are young enough to be daughters and nieces. Sometimes children are born with health issues because there is such a wide age gap.
When a mature man thinks a woman is younger than he thinks, he has a choice: he can either go ahead and date her and actually enjoy the experience of dating someone more mature then what he was hoping for or he can let the lady go in peace. Too often people settle and later learn that they are unhappy. If a young woman is misrepresenting herself or falsely advertising that she is younger than what she claims to be, this might backfire. For some mature men, they are strict about the kind of young women they like to date and if the woman is not really twenty-something it might be an issue for some. There are differences between age groups and not everyone can tolerate those differences.
So be sure, young lady, you are representing an accurate portrayal of who you are. Consider this, a mature man who is adamant about your age, most likely will not change from his stance. Your youthful appearance will eventually fade, especially after child-bearing, and he will no longer find you as attractive as he once did. Sooner or later, he will find that comparable match who will be a lot younger than you.
Nicholl McGuire shares more dating tips at lovedatingadvice.blogspot.com
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I started graying in my 20s and felt the need to dye my hair. I knew that if I let that gray hair show, men were going to think I was older than I was. As I matured, I realized they needed to know I was not the silly young girl they thought I was, so I began to let that gray hair show. There would be no more talking down to me, making stupid statements, and acting as if I was a lost puppy that needed a home. Something as simple as letting my gray hair show sent a bold message to the ladies and gentlemen, I'm not whoever or whatever you thought I was. Funny, how people treat you a bit more respectful when you look and act your age.
Now when you look younger--really young, some manipulative elders will take advantage. They falsely assume you haven't had much life experience, you are ignorant to a lot of things, and they think having fun each day is one of your priorities. They don't think of you as marriage material or baby-making. You are a "friend" and that's about it. Therefore, some older guys who have a bit of money, enjoy going to nice places, and treating their pretty young "things" will do some nice things for you until they grow weary of you or vice versa. The rule of thumb: look pretty and don't talk too much. You start talking about the future, children, where he has been, who he knows, and wanting to meet his relatives, the older guy just might start to distance himself if he isn't sold out on your type. Yes, he has "a type" and if you don't fit into that mold, he isn't thinking about any present or future.
Now the "friend" relationship works when you don't care to be in a serious commitment with someone, but when feelings begin to grow, you want more. But an older gentleman may not want to see you as anything more than whatever you agreed to be to him.
I learned quite a few life lessons when it comes to dating older men unfortunately the hard way. Those lessons were the premise for starting this blog years ago. I wanted young women as well as mature men to see the ups and downs when it comes to age gap dating and do it wisely. I wanted people on the outside looking in to be informed and have a bit of compassion for these couples. It isn't always easy. Money, time, and energy is often lost in these partnerships because couples get swept away with "fun, different, new experience" that they don't realize just how many people they affect when they make poor choices in selecting mates. Children from previous marriages lose respect for their parent(s). Relatives shun or distance themselves from their young family members who refuse to listen to warnings. Religious people judge these couples because they assume something unholy is going on (which it is sometimes especially when the older gentleman is still married). Children are born into the new relationship wearing scarlet letters because some relatives believe they should have been born in wedlock. Society frowns at the dirty old men who date women who are young enough to be daughters and nieces. Sometimes children are born with health issues because there is such a wide age gap.
When a mature man thinks a woman is younger than he thinks, he has a choice: he can either go ahead and date her and actually enjoy the experience of dating someone more mature then what he was hoping for or he can let the lady go in peace. Too often people settle and later learn that they are unhappy. If a young woman is misrepresenting herself or falsely advertising that she is younger than what she claims to be, this might backfire. For some mature men, they are strict about the kind of young women they like to date and if the woman is not really twenty-something it might be an issue for some. There are differences between age groups and not everyone can tolerate those differences.
So be sure, young lady, you are representing an accurate portrayal of who you are. Consider this, a mature man who is adamant about your age, most likely will not change from his stance. Your youthful appearance will eventually fade, especially after child-bearing, and he will no longer find you as attractive as he once did. Sooner or later, he will find that comparable match who will be a lot younger than you.
Nicholl McGuire shares more dating tips at lovedatingadvice.blogspot.com
Wednesday
Young Woman: Think Before You Have Children with an Older Man
Not everyone who has children with an older partner is getting along well and the children are happy and healthy. There are some things that you already know when it comes to having a baby with an older guy and then there are those unexpected issues that you least expect.
1. The baby might have some health ailments.
It is inevitable, but some children do have their share of developmental problems because one or both parents are older. Do your research before you start planning to have a baby with someone over a decade older than you. Know what the risks are and find out what you can do to help alleviate some of the issues.
2. The sex will not remain the same as it was when you first started dating.
For many starry-eyed couples, they have a false belief that everything will just continue to be sexy and fun for always. They will talk of taking medicines to keep their sex lives active and come up with creative ways to enjoy love-making. However, as you age, so does your mind and body. There will be days even weeks, irregardless of your age, you just don't feel like it. So add demanding newborns, whiny toddlers and rebellious teens to the mix and the gap widens since the last time you had sex.
3. Sometimes impatience, moodiness, and tiredness will affect dreams of the happy family life.
If you thought that having a baby with your mature beau would bring you closer, think again. Men and women who have had children already or just beginning to think about having them as mature adults, have a good idea what to expect. Now how they endure through the whole child-rearing process is left up to speculation. Some couples actually break up because they just can't handle themselves and their needy children. The aging process isn't easy for some. If one isn't happy within, he isn't going to give his all to yet another relationship and possibly more children--some divorced men have been there and done that and really don't want to do it again. Young lady, do more watching what your older guy friend does and less listening to his charming speech about how you will make a great mom. Will he really make a great dad?
4. How old will you be and how old will he be when the child is in high school, college, etc.?
This question will pop up in your mind as you look at those around you who appear to be more active with their children while your partner not so much. You will think of this question as your mate grows older. You will start to wonder if he will be alive to see the children graduate, get married and have children of their own.
5. The children will notice that dad is an old man.
As much as you say, "Age is nothing but a number" to yourself, the children will clearly see that their father isn't like you and those young dads they see. They will ask questions, "Why can't dad do this...Why can't our father go there...Why is he always tired? Why doesn't he do things like the other dads?" Make all the excuses you want, the reality is he is older and you will most likely be the one running the children around to school activities, entertaining events, and more.
So just ponder deeply whether having a baby with an older man is really what you want to do.
Nicholl McGuire provides spiritual commentary on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
Saturday
6 Tips on Detecting a Stupid Older Man - He Exists and Will Drive You Crazy
I know some niave, gullible, young women just don't want to believe that they could ever land a downright unintelligent, older man for a date. But it happens and you best be watchful when it comes to some of these stupid so-called mature men.
1. He claims he knows things that he really doesn't.
Quiz him on some things about life. Listen to his answers. Is he trying to impress you with ignorant slang? Is he giving you complete answers? Are you at a lost when trying to follow his conversation? Does he even know what he is talking about?
2. He doesn't have much conversation and when he talks you almost want to laugh.
"Is that really all he has for me?" you think. "I can't believe he asked me that question, is he stupid?"
3. When you speak, he is looking all around, over your shoulder, or staring at you like some Weirdo?
You know you are attractive and intelligent. Apparently, he not only can't make any healthy eye contact, but is he really listening to what you are saying? Something is happening in that mind up there (sigh).
4. He takes far too long to respond to your questions. Deep thinking unnecessary.
Simple questions, simple answers. So why does he take so long to answer? How much time do you need to think about whether you like sprinkled cheese on pasta or not? How long does it take to get one's mind started up to make conversation?
5. He jokes and laughs way too much and nothing he or you says is really that funny.
"Okay, dude are you a retard?"
6. He has nothing to show for all his hard work in life.
It isn't any wonder this guy is divorced twice, owns no property (his wives do), he wears tacky clothes, drives a beat up car (his wives have luxury automobiles), he rarely sees his children (wives don't trust him), etc. Could it be that his past partners discovered he was stupid about women, money, chidlren, and men's fashion and kicked him to the curb?
So stupid is as stupid does. When a man has a long pattern of making dumb life decisions, it is safe to say that he is a bit slow. You will need to ask yourself, "Am I patient enough to deal with all the stupid stuff he will do if I continue to date him?"
There are many reasons why women his own age don't bother with them. Young women sometimes ignore obvious red alert signs when it comes to dating; instead, they hope for the best. This is a stupid move. Check yourself on your intelligence level. When you start seeing signs of stupidity, don't shake them off or reason them away. Keep your eyes open for someone intelligent like you. Ponder this, that older man might be the father of your children one day. Do you really want your children to perform badly in life?
Nicholl McGuire
1. He claims he knows things that he really doesn't.
Quiz him on some things about life. Listen to his answers. Is he trying to impress you with ignorant slang? Is he giving you complete answers? Are you at a lost when trying to follow his conversation? Does he even know what he is talking about?
2. He doesn't have much conversation and when he talks you almost want to laugh.
"Is that really all he has for me?" you think. "I can't believe he asked me that question, is he stupid?"
3. When you speak, he is looking all around, over your shoulder, or staring at you like some Weirdo?
You know you are attractive and intelligent. Apparently, he not only can't make any healthy eye contact, but is he really listening to what you are saying? Something is happening in that mind up there (sigh).
4. He takes far too long to respond to your questions. Deep thinking unnecessary.
Simple questions, simple answers. So why does he take so long to answer? How much time do you need to think about whether you like sprinkled cheese on pasta or not? How long does it take to get one's mind started up to make conversation?
5. He jokes and laughs way too much and nothing he or you says is really that funny.
"Okay, dude are you a retard?"
6. He has nothing to show for all his hard work in life.
It isn't any wonder this guy is divorced twice, owns no property (his wives do), he wears tacky clothes, drives a beat up car (his wives have luxury automobiles), he rarely sees his children (wives don't trust him), etc. Could it be that his past partners discovered he was stupid about women, money, chidlren, and men's fashion and kicked him to the curb?
So stupid is as stupid does. When a man has a long pattern of making dumb life decisions, it is safe to say that he is a bit slow. You will need to ask yourself, "Am I patient enough to deal with all the stupid stuff he will do if I continue to date him?"
There are many reasons why women his own age don't bother with them. Young women sometimes ignore obvious red alert signs when it comes to dating; instead, they hope for the best. This is a stupid move. Check yourself on your intelligence level. When you start seeing signs of stupidity, don't shake them off or reason them away. Keep your eyes open for someone intelligent like you. Ponder this, that older man might be the father of your children one day. Do you really want your children to perform badly in life?
Nicholl McGuire
Thursday
When You Discover a Date Has a Girlfriend
The news can be disheartening; a man
you like has a girlfriend. The heart aches; the breathing is heavy,
and the desire to pay this man back for lying to you increases with
each passing moment. But before one plans her next strategy, be
grateful that you know. Now is the time to start thinking about what
you can do to make yourself feel at peace once again.
First, take a moment to undo everything
in your mind you thought you knew about the person you have been
dating. He obviously liked you a lot because he lied about having a
girlfriend. But that doesn’t mean, that he is still an honest,
kind, sweetheart of a man. Instead, you have discovered he is a
liar, not as nice as you originally thought and is selfish. The
likelihood that he is going to treat you like he did his girlfriend
in the future is probable. Once the newness of the relationship
wears off with you, he will be out pretending to be single with
someone else.
Second, confront this man on his lies,
but not in a way that shows him you still care about him. You will
need to cry your eyes out privately, have your grieving moment out of
the way, before you get to the point that you can give him a cold
stare and speak your truth. So what might you say? Express your
feelings and tell him what you want to do i.e.) break up, date
others, move on with your life, etc.
Third, make no apologies and keep
feelings of guilt far away. It isn’t necessary to apologize for
any emotional outburst, cursing, or anything else—you are angry and
you have every right to feel this way. You were deceived by someone
you trusted and you will need to share your disappointment with him
and a supportive friend. But what you don’t want to do is make
yourself so sick about the matter that you end up doing something so
bad that you might go to jail.
Fourth, fight the temptation to stalk
the man and his girlfriend. Although hurt feelings will make you
think about doing some strange things, don’t feed into them. Even
if the girlfriend is aware that you exist, she will have to go
through her own personal trials too. She may or may not break up
with him. Depending on how long they have been together, she just
might stick it out with your date. So if the plan is to tell the
girlfriend everything you know about her man, stop, it just might
draw them closer.
Lastly, don’t be available to him
sexually, physically, or any way that keeps you hanging on to him.
Unfortunately, there are far too many people who enjoy using others
to get their personal needs met. If the man suspects that you are
still weak for him then he will take advantage of whatever you are
willing to give him. So when he and his girlfriend have a fight, he
might come to you for sex like he has always done. If he needs some
money, wants to drive your car or stay at your home, he will boldly
ask because he feels that now that you know he has a girlfriend, you
will be okay with it. In time, you will grow weary of being used and
will find yourself giving him an ultimatum.
Nicholl McGuire provides web content to individuals and businesses. To learn more, visit http://nichollmcguiremedia.blogspot.com
Thursday
Online Resources for Those in Age Gap Relationships
Whether you are in an age gap relationship or want to learn more, there is useful material here and around the web to help and encourage you or those you know. Enjoy!
Ideal Age Gap for Couples Revealed
Who Is Too Young or Too Old for You to Date?
NUMBERS GAME: 10 MAY-DECEMBER COUPLES IN HOLLYWOOD
Would YOU have an age gap romance?
Ideal Age Gap for Couples Revealed
Who Is Too Young or Too Old for You to Date?
NUMBERS GAME: 10 MAY-DECEMBER COUPLES IN HOLLYWOOD
Would YOU have an age gap romance?
Tuesday
Thanks for Stopping By! Tips Dating Older Men, Younger Women
When we have this desire to step out of our comfort zones and try something different, we don't always consider the possible consequences and disappointments of our actions, and sometimes we don't believe that there is anything wrong in what moves us.
There are moments in our lives that we are simply tired of the way things have been and we seek change. To be in an age gap relationship is something new and different for many. But like with all relationships, it comes with it's share of challenges. Some will like you, others won't. Today you are in love, tomorrow not so much. The past is behind you, the future might look bleak. You get the point if you have been in a relationship with someone younger or older for some time now.
On this blog, there are many videos and articles that share insightful tips on May-December romances. Some of the advice is humorous and other information quite serious. Just as there are good people in this world, there are also bad ones. It is up to all of us to be on the look out for the strange, abusive, crazy, and dangerous in our presence and then proceed to safeguard ourselves and loved ones.
I hope that you, who have already subscribed as well as those who are visiting Tips Dating Older Men, Younger Women, will be enlightened. Thank you so much for your continued support.
Nicholl McGuire
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
Nicholl McGuire Media
There are moments in our lives that we are simply tired of the way things have been and we seek change. To be in an age gap relationship is something new and different for many. But like with all relationships, it comes with it's share of challenges. Some will like you, others won't. Today you are in love, tomorrow not so much. The past is behind you, the future might look bleak. You get the point if you have been in a relationship with someone younger or older for some time now.
On this blog, there are many videos and articles that share insightful tips on May-December romances. Some of the advice is humorous and other information quite serious. Just as there are good people in this world, there are also bad ones. It is up to all of us to be on the look out for the strange, abusive, crazy, and dangerous in our presence and then proceed to safeguard ourselves and loved ones.
I hope that you, who have already subscribed as well as those who are visiting Tips Dating Older Men, Younger Women, will be enlightened. Thank you so much for your continued support.
Nicholl McGuire
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
Nicholl McGuire Media
Thursday
Over 24 and Considered "Too Old" for the Old Guy While He Let's Himself Go
Everyone is entitled to his or her dating preferences. If you like them young and you are 50 plus so be it. If you like them old and you are 20 plus, that's your prerogative. But what isn't cool is when one is vicious about calling women, who are still relatively young, old when he (or she) is visually and physically old. What nerve some have? It's almost laughable to see someone who is out of shape, miserable, and often weary from a cozy office job talk about what women, younger than he, look like and how he only dates younger, sexy and beautiful women.
It's time for attractive women whether young or old to raise the bar! Far too many ladies are settling for men who don't bother to keep themselves up. They tolerate, not only an unattractive looking guy, but sometimes those who could barely take care of themselves financially much less a woman. Is it really hard to meet people in the dating world or is the Internet just too d*mn convenient to get hooked up with whoever whenever?
A woman whether over 24 or younger is still a human being that can be a good friend or your worst nightmare depending on how you treat her. She can shower a mature man she is really into with much love and kindness as long as he respects her, but the day he doesn't, her personality changes and things are typically never the same. If the old guy insults his date with comments about how old she is, what she knows or doesn't know for her age, or makes comments about certain parts of her anatomy getting "older," he will eventually kiss that partner goodbye. You can only get away with saying so much if you are fit yourself, attractive, and successful.
Nicholl McGuire also contributes to Relationship and Dating Advice blog here.
Monday
Does Your Date Make Less Money than You?
The longer you date someone, the more
you learn about him or her. You begin to find out things that aren't
so flattering and you start to wonder whether you want to continue to
date this person. One thing that can turn into a big issue later is
when a date makes less money than you. Now sometimes this isn't a
problem if he or she is good about managing what little he or she
has. But when this person doesn't make much money, sooner or later
low funds will affect you and your wallet.
Consider the many things one wants to
do while dating. Most of these travel plans cost money. Does your
date have a savings toward making any of his or her wishes a reality
or is this person expecting you to foot the bills?
When it comes to eating out and at
home, who is often putting out the money? Does this bother you? If
it does and you have been hiding your feelings about it, you might
want to start discussing your concerns before things get any more
serious. If you started out paying most of the bills in the dating
phase, know that your role most likely won’t change as the
relationship gets older.
A man or woman who is use to being
taken care of is usually attracted to people willing to meet his or
her needs. What is your date’s history? Has his partners
typically been older or younger? This is significant because chances
are if you are older, he or she has some other underlying issues and
being with someone mature makes him or her feel mentally and
physically secure. Sometimes a date is thrown into a role he or she
didn't plan on playing out i.e.) Sugar Daddy, Father, Sugar Momma,
Mother.
You will know when the connection with
a date is more about material wealth then it is about love when he or
she does the following:
- The person never offers to pay for anything while you are out.
- He or she doesn't appear to love or even like you much, but when you pull out your wallet, there is much attention and affection thrown your way.
- You can’t have a conversation with him or her without it involving money or you assisting him or her in some way.
- Your date acts very needy, pouts, and does things that irritate you when it comes to purchases you have made with your money.
- The date doesn't bother to save any money and expects you to bail him or her out.
Once you see the truth, here’s what
you will need to do:
- Scale back on the gift-giving.
- Don’t offer your date any financial assistance or service. Observe how he or she handles matters.
- Plan to attend events and travel, but ask for contributions from your date if he or she would want to go along. If the date doesn't help, go without him or her.
Life is too short to permit someone to take advantage of your kindness. Be sure that anyone you date whether they make less or more money is someone that sincerely loves you for you!
Nicholl McGuire shares more relationships tips here.
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