Of course, the mature man will attempt to persuade the young lady that he isn't having any midlife issues and that he knows what he wants. But the truth is, if you take a look at the gentleman's relationship history, how many other women did he claim to love, want, need, like? Notice what he says about the relationship endings and whether he is mainly blaming his exes and in-laws.
Some older men just love the idea of being with new sexual partners more so than settling down with them--no matter the age. But if a single or unavailable man wants to put his potential young lover at ease, he is going to say the kinds of things that will make her feel secure and safe with him.
"You are so pretty. I love that scent you are wearing. Would you like for me to buy you some more? I'm not the kind of guy who plays games, I know what I want, so will you give it to me? What would you think of being my wife one day?" The man who says these things obviously wants the young woman to feel special and consider keeping him around even though he isn't considering anything long-term or serious and may have told her so. The mature man is well aware that there are younger men who would very much like to date the young apple of his eye; therefore, he has to say whatever he can to keep her interested in him.
Some men laugh with the guys about the things they have said and done to win the trust of their young lovers. They enjoy the "dumb" act that some women play, but what they don't know is that there are those who are sincerely acting. When the time is right, those women will reveal their true selves and most likely the men won't like them so much. Then there are those young ladies who really are unintelligent and immature and so a lot of older men don't mind making them notches on their belts and then moving on. Sad, but true. These manipulative men will photograph or video record some of these young, obedient women and collect their images like hunters hanging up the heads of their prey on walls. With social media, online and offline albums, you never know just how many women have fallen prey to an older man's fantasies.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.