What He Sees in You Younger Woman

He sees your youth, beauty, and preserved innocence despite whatever abuse you have undergone.  He sees the way you smile, the way you carry yourself and hears the words that come from soft lips.  He loves the way you move.  You are a reminder of good times in his life when responsibilities were minimal. 

Young woman, you take him back to days of laughter and nights of peace.  You came along after his many life storms.  You brought your joy, peace, and patience with you.  You showed interest when the wife of his youth stopped caring and sharing.  You are something special, meant to be cherished, and never abused.

Think highly of yourself young woman, because you deserve a good man who will use his life experience to love you.  He will show you things about yourself that you could never imagine.  He will take you places that you have never been before.  He will act like your father at times even when he doesn't mean to.  You are a daughter worth his attention.  You will earn a place in his life because he will need to determine what kind of woman are you.

So stand tall, young woman, know that you don't have to act like anyone, but yourself to keep a wise, older man.  But what you do have to be is respectable, loving, polite, and caring.  Be attentive to who you are, what you look like, and what you want out of your relationship with someone older and life.

Nicholl McGuire

Younger Women Older Men - Age Gap Dating Some will Never Understand

No matter how many reasons one states as to why younger women should or shouldn't date older men, the fact remains it happens and every situation is different.  There are those reasons that the general public knows about and those reasons that lie within the individuals themselves who date younger, older.  From a past of hurt to economic reasons, one who is young dating older, doesn't enter into a relationship for nothing.  Yet, in time, for many age gap couples that's what it ends up, a dead end.  This is what you don't find out about until years later after all the newness wears off.  Yet, the older man dusts himself off after a break up and keeps trying anyway as well as the young woman.  They set their sites on someone else who doesn't mind having a May-December relationship.

Young women get older, older men get older.  The two experience various personality changes, life challenges, and other issues over their courtship that aren't easily understood.  The older man is in a different place in his life and so is his younger partner.  No youthful person full of energy is going to want to retire to a life of boredom for long.  Sure, money keeps anyone interested for a time, but when it isn't there like it once was, the personality has to outweigh the finances and oftentimes with many older men, they just don't have it like they use to, ask their ex-wives!

So many older individuals work for years only to retire without a plan that motivates them to keep living.  They find themselves often parked in front of a television set or computer screen feeding their faces and when they aren't doing that, they are doing something else that isn't all that fulfilling.  Rather than create their own personal satisfaction, outside of being tied to a relationship with a younger person, they dream.  "One day I'm going to...and then I will..." Meanwhile, the body increases in size and nothing gets done.

Some younger women will tolerate the fat, old white guy or some other ethnicity for a time, because there is something or things that those men can do for them that young, immature men can't.  If many of these young men heeded their fathers' instructions (and of course came from a good gene pool) just maybe more could land the older man's hot woman.  But so many, look at the younger women, older men dating relationship with jealousy in their eyes like a child with his or her face pressed up against a toy store window, "I wish..."  Keep wishing!

One must get his or her life together, put each piece in place and be at the right place at the right time to get noticed in order for a beautiful young woman to even think about dating him or her. Working on one's self is a process and an older man has decades of experience doing just that.  He learns and then he puts what he knows into practice while an ignorant, wild young man groans, "I don't want to do that...I don't feel like it...what if...I'm outta here!"  Why would any woman want to bother with a lazy, unpredicatable, immature, and most likely crazy young man who has nothing, but something in between his legs?  In order for any woman, young or old, to respect a man, he has to prove his worth.  So the next time someone says, "Why is that pretty young woman with that ugly old guy?"  Know this, that ugly, old guy has proven his worth--he thinks of himself better than most, has accomplished much due to years of working on building himself up and others, while reaping the rewards from his efforts.  Unwise young men, watch and learn.

Nicholl McGuire  
 

Seductively Dressed Beautiful Women Lie Just as Much as Any Other

Hard to believe until it happens to you.  An angel, seductively dressed to lure you to a photo and act as if she is interested in you, an older man.  She lies to gain money, fame and power then boasts to friends, "Look, what I got him to buy me!"  If she is a professional, it's hard to tell, her photo tells no one that she is intelligent, people-oriented and ready to do business.  Rather, she sells sex.  She claims that she has morals when people question who is she really after seeing her photographs.  Her appearance shouts, "I am ready for the taking."  While she claims she is a Christian, wholesome, fun to be around, honest, etc.  But her lifestyle says something totally different.  Watch out for the beautiful liars!

They are hypocrites, the all show no go, types.  Now one must not assume that all scantily dressed women are up to no good, but something is up.  No one bares anything covered or uncovered on or offline for nothing. 

The scorned, beautiful women will orchestrate a plan to rob a millionaire of his wealth.  They can put on an act, say that you said or did something that you know you didn't.  You might want to record some conversations, make a copy of a dating profile, pen dates of incidents, and consult with your legal team, just in case you detect a little crazy in that gorgeous dame you met online.

Many in our society are gullible, easily charmed by beauty.  They think, "How can someone so beautiful, be so treacherous?"  Even with an image of Satan standing right next to the beauty queen, many men will find a way to get close enough to her to undress her despite all the warning signs, "Stay away."

Save yourself some grief, any woman whether nice-looking or not, who gives off signs that she just wants a fun time, be aware.  Spend some time studying more than just her body parts.

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Nicholl McGuire 

Dating Older Men vs Younger Men Pros and Cons

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Why a Younger Woman should Date an Older Man?

Written from a male perspective.

If you are interested in joining the dating game as a younger woman looking for older men, then you are heading on the right path.  Older men are more mature, have more success in life, are usually further in their careers, and are overall a better companion to be with versus a younger man.  In this article you will learn why a younger woman should date an older man.

Here are five reasons why you should date an older man:

1. Maturity level – Ladies let's be serious here; younger men are just not mature.  For example, having a burping contest with your lover is not what most ladies' would consider a good time.  An older man has much more mature aspects over a younger man.  This is why when you see a young woman dating an older man, chances are she finds him a more suitable match due to his confidence in who he is and knowledge of life.

2. More successful in life – Most older men who date younger women are a bit more successful in life.  By this I mean they have goals, some own homes, have nice cars, etc.  I am not saying that this is what is important in choosing someone to date, but it shows you their overall character as a person and as someone you want to date.

3. Further in their careers - Older men are further along in their careers.  Again this is not the end all be all if they are not.   You just might have a great lover which would make up for an unimpressive income.

4. Better companion –Older men are better companions in life.  Why?  This goes back to 1, 2, and 3.  They are more mature, more successful, and further in their careers.  These things show you the character of that person and their overall companion level will be with you.

These are just the beginning stages when you ask yourself or someone else, why a younger woman should date an older man?  Again, this is just the beginning and should not be the end of the road for some daters.  If the man you are with is younger, but treats you good, that is better than being with an older man who does not treat you good.  These are decisions only you can make for yourself and only you will learn in time. 

Nobody can tell you what you need to do or who to be with in life.  You make that call.  Use this article as a guide of what to watch out for, but do not pass on something that is better.

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Being In Love or Like? There is a Difference

Sometimes when one is dating, he or she forgets that every emotion that is experienced is not love.  It doesn't matter how old you are, there should be someone to speak aloud in your circle, "Hey, you just met the girl, slow down...Seriously honey, you don't even know this man!" loved ones will say.  This is a good think, don't take offense.

Those of us who remember being in love, know that the feeling lasts at least six months.  You can't eat or sleep without the one you love.  You plan for the future ie.) marriage.  You show this special person off even to your enemies.  You share just about everything with this person including your drinking glass--you just love them!  But when you are in like, you don't really care whether they come or go.  You definitely aren't planning any future and you aren't much interested in showing this person off especially around family.  You will even think twice about letting their lips touch anything you eat or drink, "I don't know where her/his lips have been?" you think.

So the next time someone or even yourself teases, "You're in love..." Know the difference.

Nicholl McGuire 

What's There Not to Love About Dating Older, Dating Younger?

What's there not to love about dating older men or dating younger women?  Plenty, depending on who you ask and what has been one's dating experience has been like over the years.  From immaturity to boredom, there are turn-offs about dating anyone older or younger.  Therefore, you must be willing to pick out what you are capable of putting up with and what is most certainly a deal-breaker.

My name is Nicholl, the creator of this site, and I can tell you that for years I have been exposed to older men very interested in dating younger women.  I have personally dated my share of older men as well and married two (one I am still with to date).  But as I began to exit my energetic 20s and entered into my insightful 30s, what I thought I liked about dating older men had changed and what I thought they liked about me had changed too.

You see, the more you date, the more you learn about the manipulators, liars, pimps, players, and others who have far too many personality disorders to count amongst the good guys who just want to make you happy.  As a young woman, you find yourself having to put up with some old fools, for a time, because you got yourself in a situation or two that you can't immediately exit without some degree of difficulty.  Then, as you mature, you realize some older men just aren't as fond of you as you might think or portray.  You discover they have been with so many women physically over their years, in addition to grappling with one or two mentally, that their mental capacity for dealing with yet another new face is overloaded.  You discover that some (of course not all) mature men aren't really thinking or believing in long-term relationships anymore.

There is plenty not to love about dating someone younger who is immature, unstable, and still angry with dad, her last boyfriend, and everyone else in between.  Further, one just might find that his young date may be a disappointing "all show, but no go."  The same holds true for the older man who naively thinks that simply decorating himself up with some nice clothes and "smell good" while filling his pockets with some cash is all that it takes to keep a young woman interested.  This tactic doesn't work for the wise young ladies on the dating scene.  They are going to eventually request more time, affection, attention, and love and when the old player doesn't deliver, it is on with the next one.  The young lady will be looking to exit the relationship sooner rather than later.

Take the time to list everything you don't like about dating someone older or younger and then ask yourself, "What am I willing to tolerate?"  Taking this moment to reflect just might help you be more selective when it comes to dating older men or younger women in the future.

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Broken Hearted Older Men with Issues - Young Women Don't Waste Your Youthful Years

He has yet to get over decades of heartbreak.  The mentally-disturbed older man has his share of the following:  self-esteem issues, sleep problems, sexual problems, mood swings, and weird behavior that if anyone knew, people would warn, "Keep away!"  Of course, a single, young lady, who thought the older man was rather attractive during their first meeting, didn't know this about him during those times they lived separately and periodically went out on dates.  But now, all hell has broken lose!

Independent young women, from around the world, tend to find out things the hard way when it comes to dating mature men.  These men are skilled at being everything young women want them to be, that is until their dates sincerely get to know them.  It is then when they act like fools, acting in ways that make a young woman think, "He's crazy, what did I get myself into!?" 

When the young woman can finally say in confidence that she knows her older gentleman suitor, it is usually after she has been robbed of her youthful years worrying about him and what he might do or not do concerning her and possibly children!  Her partner is a senior citizen behaving like a 20 plus year old leaving her feeling insecure, jealous, and angry, because he simply doesn't have his mindset and/or heart together!  

"What on earth happened to my mate?" She thinks.  "Why is he so grumpy?  What did I do?"  Don't beat yourself up with questions if you are a young woman reading this, you did no more than any other woman would do: you entertained him, did nice things, gave him good conversation, had sex with him, and became that friend he wanted.  Now if the older man, with issues, can't see the benefits in being with someone like you, and has given you much grief for the things that originally won him over, then it's time to move on!  Don't change who you are to suit someone who expects you to accept him for who he is.

Many young women who once were jovial in spirit, lose what little happiness they have left, because they allow a broken individual to sap their energy with his constant complaints, criticisms, and other rude behavior.  Sometimes the only way a man can truly see the diamond he has seated next to him is to lose her!

There are those young women who have dated their share of older men who have mentally and/or physically scarred them over the years, that they finally arrive at a place in their lives where they don't want to date another older man 10 plus years.  Good times become one too many bad times and so some of these young women will swear off dating old guys.

No matter the age, there will always be a broken hearted guy who just doesn't believe that he is a troubled individual.  He will talk himself into believing that he just can't seem to find the right girl, when in fact, he is the reason why he can't seem to get along with most young ladies long term.

Perceptive young women can spot a broken, desperate old man from how he walks to how much he stares at them.  The broken man doesn't think too much about how he makes others feel, because he is more concerned about controlling others to make him feel better--as if they can make him whole again.  Consider this, when an older man doesn't hear the questions that a young woman asks of him and isn't interested in answering them during their dating phase, it is clear, he isn't interested in her mindset.  When he doesn't take much interest in considering her suggestions for a future date, he has shown that he is a selfish individual.  If this older man doesn't bother to make his date feel good by complimenting her, then he lacks compassion and is more concerned about other people and things then who she is as a person and could care less about keeping her around long term.  And most of all, if he doesn't plan a future with her, then he has made it plain, she is nothing more than his "in the meantime" experience--that is until someone better comes along.

So before things, get too serious for some of you readers, recognize potential problems and know that a broken hearted older man can potentially sap the very life out of you if you aren't too careful!  If you are already in such a relationship, find your peace of mind and make plans to be rid of your burden if nothing changes for the better.

Nicholl McGuire

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Plenty of Reasons Why Older Men Date Younger Women, But Middle-Age Issues Live On

So older men date younger women for a variety of reasons from Boaz marrying Ruth to protect a family name to a relative simply liking a young lady and wanting to take care of her--no big deal, right?  Right.  But what if upon closer inspection some of those male mid-life blues start to show up coupled with issues he has carried from the last relationship with a menopausal woman, now what?  The young woman has her work cut out for her--that's what!  She has to be strong, focused, love herself, determined to make the relationship work (that is if she loves her partner) and have a support system that will advise her when things don't look good in the relationship.

I thought of this topic yet again (already wrote about it in the past on other sites and this one) as to why a man dates younger when I noticed many middle-aged women (both on and offline) behaving immaturely (ie. dressing inappropriately, cursing, fighting unnecessarily with partners)--purposely acting like young women in an attempt to keep their man's attention.  However, deep inside these middle-aged women feel jilted, angry, and jealous about the relationship between those "cradle-robbers," as they put it, and " young thangs."  These women's snarky comments, reveal a lot about their insecurities, unresolved issues, and more.

Men who date younger have spoken online and other places saying, "they don't like to feel old, menopausal women make them feel old."  I guess if one complains often about their aches it can be a turn-off.  I have heard menopausal women share a long list of issues with their co-workers about things like: vaginal dryness, weight gain, mood disorders--you name it!  So if they are talking about these things at work, I can only imagine how much more they are sharing with partners!

I would also assume that if a woman isn't taking care of herself both inside and out, her man is going to stray.  He is not going to keep being understanding if his wife/girlfriend keeps telling him, "I'm sorry I can't have sex tonight...these hot flashes are killing me...don't touch me.  Leave me alone!"   A weak man is going to eventually lust or look for a woman who he hopes will make him feel better than the last.  He is going to watch for the woman who doesn't have as many women issues as those who are more mature.  Remember,the old adage, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks?"  This is also true for the mature women as well.   

Some mature men grow weary of telling so-called responsible women (both young and old) to take care of themselves.  Notice I didn't say all.  From smelly (you know what) to managing money, women who don't take heed to advice that their mother may have told them or should have, will not keep any man around for long!   

Being that I am not middle-aged yet and not considered youthful either by societal standards, I can date men both young and old (since my face and body at times is deceiving for some),  I am personally indifferent to the topic of dating older and younger now that I am headed for the big 40, yet I do like to write about it and share my observations.  But really, who are the individuals who get a rise when the topic of older men, dating younger women arises?  Scorned middle-aged mothers and daughters, they care.  "Dad left mom for a younger woman who's like my age, wtf!?"  Her mom yells, "Go back to that baby, you call a girlfriend, Pig, Chester the Molester!"

These women care a whole lot!  The insecure wife is often left alone while her husband plays with the twenty-something year olds who could care less that the man is married.  Mom, on low self-esteem, hurts inside because she once looked a certain way and now thanks to society, she is forced to try to work on a face that is no longer holding make-up well.  She despises her body shape and will often comment about others being "...so small...Look at her...I wish I had her body..."  Meanwhile, her daughter just doesn't see men in the same way.  She wonders what the future holds.  She is angered that the young lady is old enough to be her friend.  She thinks, "Why is my dad so stupid?"  Hormones played an impact on dad's decision-making especially if the young woman is old enough to be his daughter.  Sure, there were other reasons that made him like the girl, but most assuredly a mentally stable man, who has a relatively good life and his relationship has very few issues, is not going to suddenly abandon it for a young woman.  But unstable men do it all the time and cover up the true reasons with a barrage of mainstream excuses.  The ignorant overlook the deception and don't bother to think deeply about the topic.  "So it happens, old guy, young lady, who cares?"  They dismiss all reasoning; instead, some just say,  "S$%t happens."  While they move on, middle-age issues live on.

Nicholl McGuire
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7 Signs an Age-Gap Relationship is Over

You might have noticed a partner isn't acting like he or she is interested in staying in a relationship with you.  However, you don't want to assume the worse unless you see the following signs.

1.  He/she often complains about the other, to not only family and friends, but strangers too.

Jokes, insults and other statements that make one angry come up all-too-often.  One's partner feels like he or she is not liked much less loved.  When feelings of upset are mentioned, the offending one acts uncaring and doesn't acknowledge his or her partner's concerns.

2.  He/she has feelings of regret having met the other.

"I knew she was too young...I should have listened to my family--he's too old."  The thoughts plague one's mind to the point where there are feelings of discontent and regret left behind.

3.  There is a disconnect when conversing about important matters.

From topics about one's plans to issues about a job, when the couple talks to one another there is no attempt at making one another feel comfortable and secure in the relationship.  Statements like: "I don't get you...You don't understand...why do I bother talking to you..." increasingly come up during discussions.

4.  Plans of a future together are discontinued or no longer discussed.

When someone mentions marriage, children, buying a house, moving in together, etc., the couple isn't the least bit interested.  They have avoided all communication about being together long-term, if anything, they are planning to break up in the near future. 

5.  Frequent disputes including threats or violent attacks.

Unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment have taken root.  No matter how hard they try, nothing helps.  They think about paying one another back for the last incident that left one or both with hurt feelings.

6.  Thoughts of cheating increase or has already been done repeatedly.

Everyone else looks better than one's mate.  So thoughts of a new relationship with someone else are heavy on the mind if he or she hasn't already begun the process.

7.  Lies and cover-ups about one's feelings gradually stop occurring.

The liar or cheat starts getting sloppy with their cover-ups and false story-telling.  They are showing no signs of wanting to stay in a relationship.

Once it is confirmed in your mind, body and spirit that your girlfriend or guyfriend isn't interested in you anymore, move on with your life.  Save yourself the drama of make-up to break up.  When a man or woman is no longer interested in being with one's current partner, things only get worse, they don't get any better no matter how many promises are made.

Nicholl McGuire 

Last Minute Valentine's Day Gifts for a Young Woman

Most men will show up at a lady friend's door with flowers and candy, this is still a hit with most women.  However, what if she has allergies and chocolate isn't her favorite candy?  Here are simple, inexpensive gifts to make her smile. 

1.  Something she has often mentioned and still has yet to buy.  For the men who pay close attention to their dates, try getting a few of those inexpensive things and then include a Valentine's Day card mentioning that, "I was listening when you said you needed..."

2.  A cute box to hold future clutter with something inside like a decorative picture frame of the two of you is memorable.  Include a card.

3.  His and hers anything with a note.  From a couple of pretty wine glasses to a quality towel set, these items say, "I still believe in our relationship..."

4.  Costume jewelry is only good when it does have lots of gold and other paint on it that can easily come off.  Look closely for signs of tarnishing.  Also, keep in mind, that if she doesn't typically wear beaded items, decorative charms, etc. and has skin allergies, don't take the chance buying cheaply made items.

5.  Valentine's day is also a good time to pass on a family heirloom for committed couples--not those who are just getting to know one another.

6.  Create a handmade card and include a bottle of perfume that you would like to smell on her.

7.  Purchase a gift card to her favorite store, nail or beauty shop.

8.  Write a letter and include an I.O.U. coupon promising to take her to an outing, perform a service, or something else since you forgot to plan for the holiday.

Other things include: balloons, stuffed animals, a pretty red or pink shirt, an accessory by a favorite designer, a book of a favorite celebrity, something engraved with her name on it...

Remember, these are items you would give someone you are just getting to know.  But women who have been around for years, you will have to do better!  Electronics, gold or sterling silver jewelry, birthstones, airplane tickets, money, pay off a bill, help with chores for the day--unexpected things always blow them away!

Have a Happy Valentines Day!

Nicholl McGuire