Friday
When the Relationship is Coming to an End: Things the Young Woman Might Do
Some young women just can't handle rejection from older men especially those who have been taken care of by a Sugar Daddy type. Like men, they too will do things to try to save their pride particularly if they aren't ready for a break up. Getting a partner's attention is one of the most popular things an immature, young woman will do even after the older gentleman has said, "It's over!"
Dress provocatively.
She attempts to win him back in her arms by making herself even more appealing and sexy. She thinks that if she can get him back in the bed, he will change his mind about her and the relationship. It may sound silly, even strange, that she would put herself out like that, but this is what some young women will do.
Change her appearance.
Now for some women, rather than use her sex appeal to charm her former partner back into her arms again, she will do some things like change her hairstyle, color, or other things that either send a bold statement or a subtle one like, "See, what you are missing! I will be fine without you. I am focused on me. I am a new and improved me, thanks to you!"
Cry.
The tears flow every time you come around or call her. She is pulling on your heart strings. She wants "things to get better...I still love you...I really want this to work..."
Laugh.
She may use a happy countenance as a lure to get her older partner to pay her attention. She figures that if she is jovial and fun to be around he won't mind being in her presence and will forget about breaking up with her.
Buy gifts.
Gift-giving works for the man who doesn't have much, but for the established man, not so much. Yet, the young woman will try to win his affections by buying her man something she thinks he will really like in the hopes of getting back in his good graces!
Here are other things she might do to halt a breakup:
Pop over his house unannounced.
Do outlandish things like send a naked photo of herself or show up naked.
Act insecure and jealous especially when he mentions talking to other women whether they are family or not.
Pick fights.
Dress half-naked or wear very tight clothes around his friends while making conversation possibly exchanging phone numbers.
Threaten to expose her lover's secrets or share details of their relationship with others.
Yell/scream, in other words, make a scene in a public place.
Do drugs or drink heavily before meeting her former lover.
Talk about committing suicide.
Use pregnancy as a good reason for the two of them to work things out. She may be pregnant, she may not be. Go to doctor's visits with her to be sure--don't take a sonogram photo as proof alone and get a DNA test as soon as possible.
When a woman uses many of these tactics to keep a man, you have to wonder how stable is her mindset during a tough time. Some women just are too fragile mentally to deal with breaking up, but staying with them knowing full well you no longer like, trust, or want to be around them is not good either. Unfortunately, verbal and physical abuse will fester and may even become so bad that one might lose his or her freedom! When the writing is on the wall that your soon-to-be ex-girlfriend is acting out of her mind, be sure to use the full extent of the law to keep you safe and anyone else you might be dating in the future.
Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
Dress provocatively.
She attempts to win him back in her arms by making herself even more appealing and sexy. She thinks that if she can get him back in the bed, he will change his mind about her and the relationship. It may sound silly, even strange, that she would put herself out like that, but this is what some young women will do.
Change her appearance.
Now for some women, rather than use her sex appeal to charm her former partner back into her arms again, she will do some things like change her hairstyle, color, or other things that either send a bold statement or a subtle one like, "See, what you are missing! I will be fine without you. I am focused on me. I am a new and improved me, thanks to you!"
Cry.
The tears flow every time you come around or call her. She is pulling on your heart strings. She wants "things to get better...I still love you...I really want this to work..."
Laugh.
She may use a happy countenance as a lure to get her older partner to pay her attention. She figures that if she is jovial and fun to be around he won't mind being in her presence and will forget about breaking up with her.
Buy gifts.
Gift-giving works for the man who doesn't have much, but for the established man, not so much. Yet, the young woman will try to win his affections by buying her man something she thinks he will really like in the hopes of getting back in his good graces!
Here are other things she might do to halt a breakup:
Pop over his house unannounced.
Do outlandish things like send a naked photo of herself or show up naked.
Act insecure and jealous especially when he mentions talking to other women whether they are family or not.
Pick fights.
Dress half-naked or wear very tight clothes around his friends while making conversation possibly exchanging phone numbers.
Threaten to expose her lover's secrets or share details of their relationship with others.
Yell/scream, in other words, make a scene in a public place.
Do drugs or drink heavily before meeting her former lover.
Talk about committing suicide.
Use pregnancy as a good reason for the two of them to work things out. She may be pregnant, she may not be. Go to doctor's visits with her to be sure--don't take a sonogram photo as proof alone and get a DNA test as soon as possible.
When a woman uses many of these tactics to keep a man, you have to wonder how stable is her mindset during a tough time. Some women just are too fragile mentally to deal with breaking up, but staying with them knowing full well you no longer like, trust, or want to be around them is not good either. Unfortunately, verbal and physical abuse will fester and may even become so bad that one might lose his or her freedom! When the writing is on the wall that your soon-to-be ex-girlfriend is acting out of her mind, be sure to use the full extent of the law to keep you safe and anyone else you might be dating in the future.
Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
Tuesday
He's More Interested in Sex than a Relationship - What to do?
He came off too strong the last time you two were together. His eyes were everywhere and his hands would have been too had you not stopped the horny guy. You would like to go out with him again, but you wonder if it is going to be more of the same? Yes, it will be if you keep teasing him with those lips, that dress, your gaze, sexy conversation, and whatever else you do that turns him on. You might want to think twice about being alone with him.
Young women take chances dating men who obviously want more than just dinner and a movie. He has told you over the phone what he wants and has also been quite bold in what he hopes to have happen the next time he sees you. So what do some young women do? They give into the wild man's desires even when these girls don't want to and unfortunately some get raped.
One must be on her guard when dating older men who are not acting like gentlemen, but more like men who haven't had sex in awhile. You can't have a great time with someone who talks often about having sex when you know you aren't ready. Think twice before going out with the man who can't seem to take "Later or in the future..." as a good enough answer. Pushy men might be violent men, so be careful.
Some things you might want to do:
1. Explain to him why he is turning you off with all his talk about having sex with you.
2. Distance yourself from him by not answering your phone everytime he calls or opening your door when he comes around. Talk with relatives and friends about your concerns if he keeps insisting that he wants to come over.
3. Be prepared to fight if he doesn't respect your boundaries. Have self-defense equipment and 911 on speed dial.
4. Don't ride in the car with him and arrange to have a future date in a public space if you must go out with this "I need sex right now" guy again.
5. You might feel the need to keep him in your life, but don't give up anything to get something, always find alternatives. A sexual bond with someone who doesn't care much about you and vice versa can take a long time to get over and you might have many regrets as a result. Young women have been known to have children they didn't want with men they were never attracted to. They have also walked away with sexually transmitted diseases among other things because they compromised their personal beliefs to satisfy someone else's. Don't let this happen to you!
When the writing is on the wall that your sexually-starved friend is more concerned about your body and less interested in anything else, don't think things will get better, because if you do what he likes, most likely he will find someone else to pursue in the future if you give up sex too soon.
Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com
Young women take chances dating men who obviously want more than just dinner and a movie. He has told you over the phone what he wants and has also been quite bold in what he hopes to have happen the next time he sees you. So what do some young women do? They give into the wild man's desires even when these girls don't want to and unfortunately some get raped.
One must be on her guard when dating older men who are not acting like gentlemen, but more like men who haven't had sex in awhile. You can't have a great time with someone who talks often about having sex when you know you aren't ready. Think twice before going out with the man who can't seem to take "Later or in the future..." as a good enough answer. Pushy men might be violent men, so be careful.
Some things you might want to do:
1. Explain to him why he is turning you off with all his talk about having sex with you.
2. Distance yourself from him by not answering your phone everytime he calls or opening your door when he comes around. Talk with relatives and friends about your concerns if he keeps insisting that he wants to come over.
3. Be prepared to fight if he doesn't respect your boundaries. Have self-defense equipment and 911 on speed dial.
4. Don't ride in the car with him and arrange to have a future date in a public space if you must go out with this "I need sex right now" guy again.
5. You might feel the need to keep him in your life, but don't give up anything to get something, always find alternatives. A sexual bond with someone who doesn't care much about you and vice versa can take a long time to get over and you might have many regrets as a result. Young women have been known to have children they didn't want with men they were never attracted to. They have also walked away with sexually transmitted diseases among other things because they compromised their personal beliefs to satisfy someone else's. Don't let this happen to you!
When the writing is on the wall that your sexually-starved friend is more concerned about your body and less interested in anything else, don't think things will get better, because if you do what he likes, most likely he will find someone else to pursue in the future if you give up sex too soon.
Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com
Friday
7 Dating Tips for Older Men Meeting Young Women for the First Time
So you are excited about meeting your new date offline? Your first meeting will be great if you just remember to relax, don't take yourself too seriously, and use your manners. Now here are some other tips you might not have thought about.
One. Have a plan, a back up plan, and another plan on where you are taking your date.
First dates are the memorable ones, so you will want to work out a great plan. Interview her on what she might like to do, see and eat on the first date. Mention your interests. Find places that will meet both your needs. Have alternative plans that are near the area just in case an unforeseen circumstance takes place. But whatever you do, don’t wander aimlessly around looking for a place to go. Research the area before you arrive. If you can visit the community before you get there, do it. Google the location and check reviews. If one spot doesn’t work out, check out the next, and the next when all else fails, park in a nice spot and just talk until you can figure out where to go next. Keep your cool.
Two. Save money to be spent on your dating experience.
Don’t count on your date to have much. Young mothers with children don’t typically have a lot of money put aside for dating. A young woman in college maybe barely making ends meet. Just because she may be living independently or with parents, doesn’t mean she is able to afford an expensive outing with someone she is still getting to know. So avoid the temptation to ask her to split the bill, drive her car, or pay for gas. If you can’t afford to make a good impression, put it off. Remember the old adage, a first impression is a lasting one--don’t blow it!
Three. If things should go wrong, don’t lie or make lame excuses.
You spent too much time looking at yourself in the mirror, you fell asleep and forgot about the date, someone came over and you left late, whatever the reason, don’t focus on what you did wrong by lying, covering up, or exaggerating, apologize and then get right to making wrongs right. “Let me make this up to you, could I interest you in…would you like…I would love to help you with…” Statements like these sound much better than, “I didn’t think it was a good time to meet, but I know you wanted…You could have called me, you’re lucky I’m here…Everyone is always bothering me at the last minute, I would have been here sooner, but…” So is she going to have to feel your tension all evening?
Four. Look your best, be prepared to take a photo with her.
Skipping anything that you typically do to make yourself handsome can be detrimental when on a first date. When that special someone has seen you looking your best in many of your photos, she doesn’t want to suddenly see the gray-bearded guy who once had a black beard in all his photographs or the guy with the flat stomach suddenly have one now that he isn’t wearing a certain garment, shirt, or suit coat. The first photo is just as important as the first date, so be sure you have everything trimmed, colored, or whatever else it is that you do to look good.
Five. Be kind and respectful.
It is very easy to be yourself to the point that it turns a date off. Be yourself, but within reason. Don’t act overly macho, young and silly, or crazy and critical just because she shared a story once of a cool guy who saved her family or some funny guys back in high school. Most young women want what the older ones want, a polite man who is a good listener and sincerely cares about her.
Six Avoid the temptation of expecting her to have sex with you.
Just because you both were talking hot and heavy on the phone the other night, doesn’t mean that she is going to have sex with you. You never know what has transpired since the two of you last talked. So if she doesn’t bring it up, don’t say anything, but gently let her know with a flirty glance, “I wouldn’t mind.” From religious conviction to a menstrual cycle, many factors come into play when a woman just doesn’t seem interested in being intimate. Besides, you shouldn’t want a woman who is all-too-willing to get in bed with you without so much as thinking about a commitment.
Seven. Don’t assume that she wants to go out with you again.
Some men believe that they are a catch and that every woman should be honored to be in their presence. However, there is always one, two, three or more women who rather be anywhere then with an unattractive boring guy, a miserable man, a control freak, or crazy nut. Be sure that none of these descriptions fit you. Young women might be open to try something new for a time, but then when things get weird, they will gradually back off.
Taking the needed time to prepare for a date will not only make her feel comfortable, but you will feel good knowing that no matter what happens, you did your best. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire maintains other blogs as well, check out http://workplaceproblems.blogspot.com
One. Have a plan, a back up plan, and another plan on where you are taking your date.
First dates are the memorable ones, so you will want to work out a great plan. Interview her on what she might like to do, see and eat on the first date. Mention your interests. Find places that will meet both your needs. Have alternative plans that are near the area just in case an unforeseen circumstance takes place. But whatever you do, don’t wander aimlessly around looking for a place to go. Research the area before you arrive. If you can visit the community before you get there, do it. Google the location and check reviews. If one spot doesn’t work out, check out the next, and the next when all else fails, park in a nice spot and just talk until you can figure out where to go next. Keep your cool.
Two. Save money to be spent on your dating experience.
Don’t count on your date to have much. Young mothers with children don’t typically have a lot of money put aside for dating. A young woman in college maybe barely making ends meet. Just because she may be living independently or with parents, doesn’t mean she is able to afford an expensive outing with someone she is still getting to know. So avoid the temptation to ask her to split the bill, drive her car, or pay for gas. If you can’t afford to make a good impression, put it off. Remember the old adage, a first impression is a lasting one--don’t blow it!
Three. If things should go wrong, don’t lie or make lame excuses.
You spent too much time looking at yourself in the mirror, you fell asleep and forgot about the date, someone came over and you left late, whatever the reason, don’t focus on what you did wrong by lying, covering up, or exaggerating, apologize and then get right to making wrongs right. “Let me make this up to you, could I interest you in…would you like…I would love to help you with…” Statements like these sound much better than, “I didn’t think it was a good time to meet, but I know you wanted…You could have called me, you’re lucky I’m here…Everyone is always bothering me at the last minute, I would have been here sooner, but…” So is she going to have to feel your tension all evening?Four. Look your best, be prepared to take a photo with her.
Skipping anything that you typically do to make yourself handsome can be detrimental when on a first date. When that special someone has seen you looking your best in many of your photos, she doesn’t want to suddenly see the gray-bearded guy who once had a black beard in all his photographs or the guy with the flat stomach suddenly have one now that he isn’t wearing a certain garment, shirt, or suit coat. The first photo is just as important as the first date, so be sure you have everything trimmed, colored, or whatever else it is that you do to look good.
Five. Be kind and respectful.
Six Avoid the temptation of expecting her to have sex with you.
Just because you both were talking hot and heavy on the phone the other night, doesn’t mean that she is going to have sex with you. You never know what has transpired since the two of you last talked. So if she doesn’t bring it up, don’t say anything, but gently let her know with a flirty glance, “I wouldn’t mind.” From religious conviction to a menstrual cycle, many factors come into play when a woman just doesn’t seem interested in being intimate. Besides, you shouldn’t want a woman who is all-too-willing to get in bed with you without so much as thinking about a commitment.
Seven. Don’t assume that she wants to go out with you again.
Some men believe that they are a catch and that every woman should be honored to be in their presence. However, there is always one, two, three or more women who rather be anywhere then with an unattractive boring guy, a miserable man, a control freak, or crazy nut. Be sure that none of these descriptions fit you. Young women might be open to try something new for a time, but then when things get weird, they will gradually back off.
Taking the needed time to prepare for a date will not only make her feel comfortable, but you will feel good knowing that no matter what happens, you did your best. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire maintains other blogs as well, check out http://workplaceproblems.blogspot.com
Tuesday
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We have been blogging since 2007! It feels good knowing that people are reading and obtaining a bit of wisdom, humor, and dating tips when it comes to finding and keeping a great companion.
So what is a blog entry without sharing more tips on dating older and younger?
If you are ready and willing to make changes when your own efforts have failed, then you are more likely to act on the tips this blog provides you. People who have quality relationships are those who are open to accepting their mate's frailties and able to see their own personal flaws.
When seeking that special someone or maintaining one's current relationship,
one knows that he or she can't afford to be too picky. A lover enjoys a mate's company and isn't concerned about things like what his or her eyebrows look like and how the person laughs. Instead of focusing on the little things that might annoy others, the lover focuses on everything that makes him or her feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Love prevails even when one is dating older or younger. Age doesn't matter when one is sold out and in love with a mate! So for those who just don't get it, it isn't for you to "get it," just be positive and hope that the energy of a fresh romance rekindles a stale one!
In closing, be free to love a person in a way that you always wanted! Sure, there are many voices that want to help you solve your dilemmas, better you, and so on, but what really matters is what you want so take what you learn and make it your own! So enjoy the blog, there is more to come!
Nicholl McGuire Media
So what is a blog entry without sharing more tips on dating older and younger?
If you are ready and willing to make changes when your own efforts have failed, then you are more likely to act on the tips this blog provides you. People who have quality relationships are those who are open to accepting their mate's frailties and able to see their own personal flaws.
When seeking that special someone or maintaining one's current relationship,
one knows that he or she can't afford to be too picky. A lover enjoys a mate's company and isn't concerned about things like what his or her eyebrows look like and how the person laughs. Instead of focusing on the little things that might annoy others, the lover focuses on everything that makes him or her feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Love prevails even when one is dating older or younger. Age doesn't matter when one is sold out and in love with a mate! So for those who just don't get it, it isn't for you to "get it," just be positive and hope that the energy of a fresh romance rekindles a stale one!
In closing, be free to love a person in a way that you always wanted! Sure, there are many voices that want to help you solve your dilemmas, better you, and so on, but what really matters is what you want so take what you learn and make it your own! So enjoy the blog, there is more to come!
Nicholl McGuire Media
The Ugly Reality of Dating an Older Partner with Low T or Hormonal Issues
He isn’t going to tell you that his body was part responsible for ending his last relationship with someone who was close to his age. Instead, he is going to tell you that “things just didn’t work out.” His former partner who suffers with mood swings, hot flashes and more is not going to admit that her fluctuating emotions is what ran her husband out of the house and into the arms of another woman younger than she. Both will “act” as if that’s how life is, and so they move on, or do they?
Some menopausal wives recognize their actions and inactions in their marriages and will work hard to try to restore them even going so far as to say downright foolish things to try to keep their husbands. Then there are those men with health issues, who may still want to be with their wives, but not live with them, so they will try to live double lives. He may be with his wife on one day and then with his girlfriend on another day and so on.
Ashamed, miserable, and broken, what once was is no more for some couples who have been together for 10 plus years. Yet, for others, their younger partners become nothing more than past times until the former couple gets whatever needs to be fixed in their minds, bodies and spirits. An aha moment comes and before long, he is wanting to get remarried to his ex, she is desiring a baby, and the two believe that they will live happily ever after--not likely. The two have left behind a trail of broken hearts, the older man and his menopausal wife. They act as if everything is okay with the world until an ex shows up with some bad news, a former lover just finds it hard to let go, and someone else is not going away without a fight in court.
There is a price to pay when one doesn’t take care of his or her issues within a relationship before stepping out on his wife or husband. A young woman can become pregnant by an older man, even with low T (testosterone) issues, and before long, that relationship becomes nothing more than another chapter in history. The menopausal wife may find that a fling here and there with a younger gentleman suitor just isn’t worth it, but then later learns she is carrying an incurable sexually transmitted disease.
Why couldn’t he have stuck it out with his wife before wrecking havoc on someone else? Why couldn’t his wife hang in there a little longer? The emotional roller coaster of a ride comes into play with younger partners when the older ones make promises that they know they can’t keep.
“I love you…I am over my wife…Don’t worry I will take care of you…my husband and I are getting a divorce…” The younger person should be thinking, “Well, if that happens great, but I’m not sticking around. I can find someone else with less baggage.”
One must be cautious of those who have been displaying irresponsible behaviors--acting more like a rebellious teen, rather than a grown up. When the low T lover desires to live a more active lifestyle even when mind and body is saying otherwise, look out! He may act like that today, but totally different tomorrow. Then there is his wife who acts like she is in love one minute and then hates men the next. Young people are caught in the middle of mayhem wondering, “What is up with these so-called mature adults?”
Not every person deemed “mature” really is. Not every older man is caring, nurturing, and able to provide a lifestyle of security. Not every older woman is patient, sweet, and wants sex all the time. Contrary to what many may have heard and read about “the older date,” there are many who have issues due to things like: bad eating, addictions, trauma, mental issues and chronic health ailments. These people do not turn out to be what a younger person might expect after much Internet reading, interviewing others on their experiences, and going out on several dates or more. Smiling photographs of older people dating younger don’t reveal the issues that many couples face due to age differences. Sure it sounds nice as long as the older partners are single, healthy, active, and mentally sound, but when things change, one must be prepared for all sorts of challenges.
Once the writing is on the wall, so to speak, don’t try to put your own spin on truth, see it for what it really is and ask yourself, “Do I really want to go on this journey with my low T lover or my moody menopausal partner?” Keep in mind, sooner or later, the ride will end either with the young person still seated in the passenger seat alone, kicked off the ride, or ready for another one with his or her mature partner.
Nicholl McGuire
Some menopausal wives recognize their actions and inactions in their marriages and will work hard to try to restore them even going so far as to say downright foolish things to try to keep their husbands. Then there are those men with health issues, who may still want to be with their wives, but not live with them, so they will try to live double lives. He may be with his wife on one day and then with his girlfriend on another day and so on.
Ashamed, miserable, and broken, what once was is no more for some couples who have been together for 10 plus years. Yet, for others, their younger partners become nothing more than past times until the former couple gets whatever needs to be fixed in their minds, bodies and spirits. An aha moment comes and before long, he is wanting to get remarried to his ex, she is desiring a baby, and the two believe that they will live happily ever after--not likely. The two have left behind a trail of broken hearts, the older man and his menopausal wife. They act as if everything is okay with the world until an ex shows up with some bad news, a former lover just finds it hard to let go, and someone else is not going away without a fight in court.
There is a price to pay when one doesn’t take care of his or her issues within a relationship before stepping out on his wife or husband. A young woman can become pregnant by an older man, even with low T (testosterone) issues, and before long, that relationship becomes nothing more than another chapter in history. The menopausal wife may find that a fling here and there with a younger gentleman suitor just isn’t worth it, but then later learns she is carrying an incurable sexually transmitted disease.
Why couldn’t he have stuck it out with his wife before wrecking havoc on someone else? Why couldn’t his wife hang in there a little longer? The emotional roller coaster of a ride comes into play with younger partners when the older ones make promises that they know they can’t keep.
“I love you…I am over my wife…Don’t worry I will take care of you…my husband and I are getting a divorce…” The younger person should be thinking, “Well, if that happens great, but I’m not sticking around. I can find someone else with less baggage.”
One must be cautious of those who have been displaying irresponsible behaviors--acting more like a rebellious teen, rather than a grown up. When the low T lover desires to live a more active lifestyle even when mind and body is saying otherwise, look out! He may act like that today, but totally different tomorrow. Then there is his wife who acts like she is in love one minute and then hates men the next. Young people are caught in the middle of mayhem wondering, “What is up with these so-called mature adults?” Not every person deemed “mature” really is. Not every older man is caring, nurturing, and able to provide a lifestyle of security. Not every older woman is patient, sweet, and wants sex all the time. Contrary to what many may have heard and read about “the older date,” there are many who have issues due to things like: bad eating, addictions, trauma, mental issues and chronic health ailments. These people do not turn out to be what a younger person might expect after much Internet reading, interviewing others on their experiences, and going out on several dates or more. Smiling photographs of older people dating younger don’t reveal the issues that many couples face due to age differences. Sure it sounds nice as long as the older partners are single, healthy, active, and mentally sound, but when things change, one must be prepared for all sorts of challenges.
Once the writing is on the wall, so to speak, don’t try to put your own spin on truth, see it for what it really is and ask yourself, “Do I really want to go on this journey with my low T lover or my moody menopausal partner?” Keep in mind, sooner or later, the ride will end either with the young person still seated in the passenger seat alone, kicked off the ride, or ready for another one with his or her mature partner.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
The Characteristics of a Spiritually Poor, Rich, Older Man
He is poor spiritually, yet rich materially. He doesn't seem to appear like he is lacking in anything. However, once you spend some time with him and listen carefully to his conversation, you find that the wealthy man really has no spiritual connection to anyone or anything. He doesn't feel it is necessary to pray, read a Holy Bible, visit a church, meditate, or do anything else related to spirituality. For young women who believe in a Creator, you will find that being with an older man who isn't interested in bettering himself spiritually is going to be a challenge.
Mature men can be stubborn. They resist being told anything that makes them feel like they are out of control of their own lives. The minister might make them feel that way. A spiritual counselor may aggravate him. A parent who is religious can be irritating. Then the young woman who is sold out for Jesus might be a turn-off.
Choosing to abandon one's faith for riches is foolish and connecting with someone who has quite boldly expressed how he doesn't need or want a relationship with a Creator will be a problem in the short and long term. Yet, young believers will take that chance anyway, because they have a love for money that their bibles warn against. If you sincerely want someone to complete you, recognize the spiritually poor, rich older man and save yourself some heartache, don't make him your intimate partner.
Here are some things to look out for.
Nicholl McGuire
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Mature men can be stubborn. They resist being told anything that makes them feel like they are out of control of their own lives. The minister might make them feel that way. A spiritual counselor may aggravate him. A parent who is religious can be irritating. Then the young woman who is sold out for Jesus might be a turn-off.
Choosing to abandon one's faith for riches is foolish and connecting with someone who has quite boldly expressed how he doesn't need or want a relationship with a Creator will be a problem in the short and long term. Yet, young believers will take that chance anyway, because they have a love for money that their bibles warn against. If you sincerely want someone to complete you, recognize the spiritually poor, rich older man and save yourself some heartache, don't make him your intimate partner.
Here are some things to look out for.
- The rich man thinks and acts most often without spiritual insight and acknowledgement of a Creator.
- He finds fault with others, even those who mean him well, also blames Creator.
- Seeks women, alcohol, drugs, parties, and more to make him feel whole, but is disappointed that nothing satisfies completely.
- Unable to mentally break free from draining responsibilities even if retired or living a sedentary lifestyle, because he spent much of his life acquiring things while having his life dictated by someone or something else.
- He lies or exaggerates about not having enough money.
- Hoards money when fearful of things like: family trials, media stories, and other’s personal experiences about lost material wealth. Some men have become this way because they grew up in poor households.
Nicholl McGuire
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Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
Wednesday
Things Younger Women Want from Older Dates and It’s Not Just Financial Security
There are many things that any single woman interested in dating a mature gentleman wants when beginning their courtship. But for young women, who don’t have much dating experience, they are looking for some things from their older gentlemen in addition to money and gifts.
A friendship.
It brings great pleasure to a young woman when she can clearly see that an older gentleman is fond of her. Many of her friends are not with young men who care much about their likes, dislikes, present, or future. So when the older man finds her not only “attractive, intelligent, destined to be a success,” or whatever other nice words he uses to describe her, he boosts her self-esteem and quite naturally she wants more of his company.
A good lover.
Sexually active young women desire mind-blowing sex. Chances are she didn’t have that kind of experience when she dated men her age and younger. So when she has made a connection with not only a man who is a good communicator, but a great lover too, she becomes very excited about what more he has to offer.
Someone who isn’t like the males who negatively impacted them.
When young women seek out older men, they are looking for something different. They want to be with the men who have the kind of attributes that aren’t like younger men. Some younger women already had the controlling, jealous type of boyfriend. So when the older gentleman comes along, she wants him to be the opposite of the last guy. Is he mentally stable, secure, mature, and not possessive?
Responsible partner.
From how he takes care of his car to the way he deals with others, is he the type of person that people respect and does he keep promises, and cares for others? A smart, young woman wants a man who is going to not only be responsible because he is receiving a paycheck from someone, but know how to manage his personal life as well. She recognizes the fact that she just might be a part of his world one day, so she best act just as responsible if not more.
A trustworthy mate.
Can she trust her date around her mother and other women she knows? Some men just can’t be trusted and so she will be watching to see if he won’t disrespect her, steal, or lie as well as other things. She might even question him on whether or not he has a faith or some kind of moral principles he follows.
They want attention.
Whether she has daddy issues or not, she hopes that her date will shower her with affection and listen to her when she is up and when she is down. So she will do and say things to get a response out of her date. She is curious about how he reacts to her.
They want their men healthy.
Young women are concerned about their mature dates’ health especially when they find themselves falling in love with them. They want their mates to live long.
When a man has the ability to financially take care of his self, household and anyone who he chooses to make his partner, it is a wonderful thing, because that is just one less thing that his future mate has to be concerned about especially if things aren’t going so well for her at this time. However, most young women have a drive to succeed and participate in the kinds of activities where they can still be who they are without losing their identity in a relationship. A gentleman who inspires his young partner to be the best she can be in all that she does will look beyond his wallet. She just might really view him as someone who she might be able to spend the rest of her life with.
Nicholl McGuire blogger at It's All in the Family, see blog here.
A friendship.
It brings great pleasure to a young woman when she can clearly see that an older gentleman is fond of her. Many of her friends are not with young men who care much about their likes, dislikes, present, or future. So when the older man finds her not only “attractive, intelligent, destined to be a success,” or whatever other nice words he uses to describe her, he boosts her self-esteem and quite naturally she wants more of his company.
A good lover.
Sexually active young women desire mind-blowing sex. Chances are she didn’t have that kind of experience when she dated men her age and younger. So when she has made a connection with not only a man who is a good communicator, but a great lover too, she becomes very excited about what more he has to offer.
Someone who isn’t like the males who negatively impacted them.
When young women seek out older men, they are looking for something different. They want to be with the men who have the kind of attributes that aren’t like younger men. Some younger women already had the controlling, jealous type of boyfriend. So when the older gentleman comes along, she wants him to be the opposite of the last guy. Is he mentally stable, secure, mature, and not possessive?
Responsible partner.
From how he takes care of his car to the way he deals with others, is he the type of person that people respect and does he keep promises, and cares for others? A smart, young woman wants a man who is going to not only be responsible because he is receiving a paycheck from someone, but know how to manage his personal life as well. She recognizes the fact that she just might be a part of his world one day, so she best act just as responsible if not more.
A trustworthy mate.
Can she trust her date around her mother and other women she knows? Some men just can’t be trusted and so she will be watching to see if he won’t disrespect her, steal, or lie as well as other things. She might even question him on whether or not he has a faith or some kind of moral principles he follows.
They want attention.
Whether she has daddy issues or not, she hopes that her date will shower her with affection and listen to her when she is up and when she is down. So she will do and say things to get a response out of her date. She is curious about how he reacts to her.
They want their men healthy.
Young women are concerned about their mature dates’ health especially when they find themselves falling in love with them. They want their mates to live long.
When a man has the ability to financially take care of his self, household and anyone who he chooses to make his partner, it is a wonderful thing, because that is just one less thing that his future mate has to be concerned about especially if things aren’t going so well for her at this time. However, most young women have a drive to succeed and participate in the kinds of activities where they can still be who they are without losing their identity in a relationship. A gentleman who inspires his young partner to be the best she can be in all that she does will look beyond his wallet. She just might really view him as someone who she might be able to spend the rest of her life with.
Nicholl McGuire blogger at It's All in the Family, see blog here.
Sunday
10 Things that Excite Young Ladies About Their Dates' Transportation
So you want to make an even better impression on your date? Know your transportation and how your young lady friend might respond to it. Does she like a sporty car or a luxurious one? What is she driving? Make her feel special by sharing some of those things you like about your car, truck, van or motorcycle and offer to buy something that will cause her to think of you every time she gets into her car. Consider the type of personality your date possesses, and think how her style might compliment your vehicle.
What is so special about a guy's transportation anyway? Well, it all depends on the girl. Following are 10 things that excite many young ladies who like nice automobiles.
1. A ride on the back of a motorcycle for the adventurous type (keep in mind, not all young ladies like this).
2. For those who don't mind messing up their hair, letting the convertible top down.
3. The way the motor sounds when her date starts the car up.
4. Automobile detail such as tinted windows, shiny rims, color, etc.
5. How nice and clean the car smells.
6. A spacious backseat.
7. Riding in a vehicle that sits higher than others.
8. A great sound system.
9. A decorated inside with convenient items like tissue, trash bag, organizer, etc.
10. Trunk space when traveling--no worries about bringing or buying too much stuff and not having enough room.
Make a lasting impression on the young lady when you pick her up the next time. Impact her five senses and she just might be back for another ride on the town.
Nicholl McGuire also shares poetry here.
What is so special about a guy's transportation anyway? Well, it all depends on the girl. Following are 10 things that excite many young ladies who like nice automobiles.
1. A ride on the back of a motorcycle for the adventurous type (keep in mind, not all young ladies like this).
2. For those who don't mind messing up their hair, letting the convertible top down.
3. The way the motor sounds when her date starts the car up.
4. Automobile detail such as tinted windows, shiny rims, color, etc.
5. How nice and clean the car smells.
6. A spacious backseat.
7. Riding in a vehicle that sits higher than others.
8. A great sound system.
9. A decorated inside with convenient items like tissue, trash bag, organizer, etc.
10. Trunk space when traveling--no worries about bringing or buying too much stuff and not having enough room.
Make a lasting impression on the young lady when you pick her up the next time. Impact her five senses and she just might be back for another ride on the town.
Nicholl McGuire also shares poetry here.
Friday
Nasty, Crazy, Sexy and Sweet Young Women: Know the Differences
A mature guy wants to go on a rich dating website to find that special someone who is years younger than he. The kind of gal who is going to be the one that makes his heart sing, but there is only one problem, he really doesn't know what he is looking for in a young woman. There are all types of young women from nasty to sweet. If a gentleman whether rich, poor, nice or mean doesn't have a clue as to what really turns him on, why would he expect his youthful date to know what he wants?
Nasty Girl
As much as some would rather look the other way and think more highly of themselves than they ought, Nasty Girl is on the dating website seeking a good time and she is looking for a Nasty Boy. She may look like any man's fantasy girl, but she isn't necessarily interested in living out the Pretty Woman movie. She also isn't playing by any book of morals and ethics, and she wouldn't be all that interested in meeting her date's family no matter how long they have dated. So why does the nice guy fall for her and attempt to make Ms. Nasty date him exclusively, who knows? If Nasty Girl is your speed, you have to act the part, don't pretend like you aren't nasty when you know you are, hypocrites! Keep in mind, if a man claims to be a believer in a Higher Power, who he considers righteous, you might want to flee from temptation, because Nasty Girl is very charming and you won't be able to let go easily.
Crazy Girl
Now she is going to be the one who is going to say things that most women wouldn't. She will act like a fool about almost anything. "I just love this...I couldn't ever live without...I absolutely so want to...I am obsessed with..." You get the picture. She is full of emotions, energy, happy one minute, sad the next, and she so very wants to see the world! But be careful, she falls in love way too fast--might even forget to take a pill or two! Crazy Girl is ready to drop panties faster than you can say, "Let's go to my place." Can your cell phone handle all of her future texts, voice mails, and images? Do you think you are ready to show her off to family, make her your wife and play father to her children within less than six months of meeting her? Oh by the way, she isn't going to appreciate your chatting with other women even if they are your mother, sister and children's mother.
Sexy Girl
You may come across way too many of these young and sexy types including those who are not really sexy at all, but just pretend to be. After a few dates, some of these women are back to the jeans, long shirts, and tennis shoes with their hair tied back and no makeup--uh oh, is she still pretty? Then you have the real, sexy women who might be a tad bit difficult to keep up with, because their sexiness is just a bit too hot too handle. Men will turn their necks to take a look at your girl and might even slip her a number or two when you aren't looking. None of your conservative female relatives, especially the married ones, will accept Ms. Sexy spreading all her lust all over the place. Best to keep her to yourself! Now could she be future marriage material, maybe? But then again, maybe not if she doesn't know how to control her sexy. She is the cheating type, so you will need to watch her!
Sweet Girl
Quiet, docile, ready to get married and have a baby or two, Sweet is going to be that one who makes time for you. She is going to practically do whatever you suggest without complaint. Sweet will even cook, clean, and rub your back. This young woman might remind you of that good woman you left behind back in your youth. She will stir up butterflies in your belly and bring some excitement in your mundane life. Oh yeah, Sweet is a keeper. But some older men, who are more interested in a good time, are better off leaving Sweet alone. You don't want to break that girl's heart, chances are she has quite a few people who are close to her that would love to stir up some trouble with an old man that they really don't like the idea she is dating.
So there you have it, equipped with some useful knowledge about at least four popular types of young women you will meet on just about any dating website! Choose wisely and be prepared to face the consequences when you don't live up to what you say. Please come back to this site and share your experience, we would love it!
Nicholl McGuire is an author, blogger and Internet content producer. Learn more about her here.
Nasty Girl
As much as some would rather look the other way and think more highly of themselves than they ought, Nasty Girl is on the dating website seeking a good time and she is looking for a Nasty Boy. She may look like any man's fantasy girl, but she isn't necessarily interested in living out the Pretty Woman movie. She also isn't playing by any book of morals and ethics, and she wouldn't be all that interested in meeting her date's family no matter how long they have dated. So why does the nice guy fall for her and attempt to make Ms. Nasty date him exclusively, who knows? If Nasty Girl is your speed, you have to act the part, don't pretend like you aren't nasty when you know you are, hypocrites! Keep in mind, if a man claims to be a believer in a Higher Power, who he considers righteous, you might want to flee from temptation, because Nasty Girl is very charming and you won't be able to let go easily.
Crazy Girl
Now she is going to be the one who is going to say things that most women wouldn't. She will act like a fool about almost anything. "I just love this...I couldn't ever live without...I absolutely so want to...I am obsessed with..." You get the picture. She is full of emotions, energy, happy one minute, sad the next, and she so very wants to see the world! But be careful, she falls in love way too fast--might even forget to take a pill or two! Crazy Girl is ready to drop panties faster than you can say, "Let's go to my place." Can your cell phone handle all of her future texts, voice mails, and images? Do you think you are ready to show her off to family, make her your wife and play father to her children within less than six months of meeting her? Oh by the way, she isn't going to appreciate your chatting with other women even if they are your mother, sister and children's mother.
Sexy Girl
You may come across way too many of these young and sexy types including those who are not really sexy at all, but just pretend to be. After a few dates, some of these women are back to the jeans, long shirts, and tennis shoes with their hair tied back and no makeup--uh oh, is she still pretty? Then you have the real, sexy women who might be a tad bit difficult to keep up with, because their sexiness is just a bit too hot too handle. Men will turn their necks to take a look at your girl and might even slip her a number or two when you aren't looking. None of your conservative female relatives, especially the married ones, will accept Ms. Sexy spreading all her lust all over the place. Best to keep her to yourself! Now could she be future marriage material, maybe? But then again, maybe not if she doesn't know how to control her sexy. She is the cheating type, so you will need to watch her!
Sweet Girl
Quiet, docile, ready to get married and have a baby or two, Sweet is going to be that one who makes time for you. She is going to practically do whatever you suggest without complaint. Sweet will even cook, clean, and rub your back. This young woman might remind you of that good woman you left behind back in your youth. She will stir up butterflies in your belly and bring some excitement in your mundane life. Oh yeah, Sweet is a keeper. But some older men, who are more interested in a good time, are better off leaving Sweet alone. You don't want to break that girl's heart, chances are she has quite a few people who are close to her that would love to stir up some trouble with an old man that they really don't like the idea she is dating.
So there you have it, equipped with some useful knowledge about at least four popular types of young women you will meet on just about any dating website! Choose wisely and be prepared to face the consequences when you don't live up to what you say. Please come back to this site and share your experience, we would love it!
Nicholl McGuire is an author, blogger and Internet content producer. Learn more about her here.
Thursday
Some Mature Older Men will Take Advantage of Immature Young Women
Why is it that her family raises eyebrows when her older date comes around them? Why is it that negative words is all family and friends speak when the young woman talks about her mature date? Why does the young woman feel like she has to defend her man, her preference, her reasons for dating him, and more--Why?
From the stranger that looks at the young woman with a look of caution to the father who threatens to hurt him, if he so much as make his daughter cry, they have good reason to be concerned. There are some mature men who will take advantage of a young woman who has little life experiences. She hasn't managed her own finances for long, may not have moved away from home but once, lived with a boyfriend for a short stint, and doesn't get around much because she is always working. So she doesn't really know much about dating/relationships, finances, travel, and adulthood, besides what her parents and siblings may have told her growing up.
Unfortunately, many fathers and other male relatives just don't talk to the females in their families about too much of anything relevant to their lifestyle choices from what they wear to who they pick to date. Sure, a concerned dad or uncle might say, "Be careful of those big, bad wolves out there..." But is that really enough information to protect her? "What should I look out for?" the young lady should ask for specifics, find out what fathers, uncles, cousins are really saying. Hopefully, they aren't so protective of the male bond that they will start exposing the games that men play. But if they don't, there are always books like that one by Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady Think Like Man--many men hated him for writing this one.
The big, bad wolves come in sheep's clothing. They are charming, act protecting, flatter, want young women who won't ask any questions, might even talk a few out of the little money they have saved up in bank accounts, and may even promise marriage knowing full well that is the least of their intentions. When the bad wolf throws back his false exterior, the young woman usually finds out the hard way that all that glitters ain't gold! He is mean-spirited, bitter because of a past divorce, loss of money or children, and displeased with his life choices. The immature, young woman might be a product of his mid-life crisis, and when he realizes this, he isn't that handsome, loving, and sensitive type that she had once fallen in love with.
What is downright evil that some mature men do to unwise, young women is know full well how far they will keep them on their strings before they cut the ties. They act like puppet masters, controlling arms, legs and whatever else they can. Rather than encouraging her to do what she likes, pursue her dreams, he manipulates her into holding off dreams, follow him and do whatever he asks while forsaking all family and friends.
Mature men, who don't have to be the player type, but rather controlling, plan out exactly the beginning, middle and end of their courtship with young, silly women, before pursuing what they truly want, a wise woman with a certain youthfulness about her. They act as if everything is okay in their dating experiences with the immature as long as they keep getting what they can out of them. But when the typical immature responses start grating on their nerves, they back off. Rebellious, tempermental, argumentative women, who act like children, get kicked to the curb!
Sooner or later, the immature woman notices some negative things about her older man, but doesn't catches on completely until she sees him starting to withdrawal. Sex isn't coming as regularly, conversation is sparse/meaningless, he isn't taking her places like he once had, and sometimes she may even detect some hostility in his voice. If she starts snooping/investigating to find out what is really going on with him, the hurtful reality is discovered, he never was into her as much as he claimed. From photographs of other women to phone numbers, it was all a game to that mature player. In time, the young woman learns the game of her puppet master. The silly woman, who was once ignorant, becomes enlightened.
The tables often turn on both the selfish, mature men and their young, silly women who think they are going to "just date for fun, have a good time." People eventually wise up. Young women, realize there is more to dating some mature older men than meets the eye.
Nicholl McGuire
From the stranger that looks at the young woman with a look of caution to the father who threatens to hurt him, if he so much as make his daughter cry, they have good reason to be concerned. There are some mature men who will take advantage of a young woman who has little life experiences. She hasn't managed her own finances for long, may not have moved away from home but once, lived with a boyfriend for a short stint, and doesn't get around much because she is always working. So she doesn't really know much about dating/relationships, finances, travel, and adulthood, besides what her parents and siblings may have told her growing up.
Unfortunately, many fathers and other male relatives just don't talk to the females in their families about too much of anything relevant to their lifestyle choices from what they wear to who they pick to date. Sure, a concerned dad or uncle might say, "Be careful of those big, bad wolves out there..." But is that really enough information to protect her? "What should I look out for?" the young lady should ask for specifics, find out what fathers, uncles, cousins are really saying. Hopefully, they aren't so protective of the male bond that they will start exposing the games that men play. But if they don't, there are always books like that one by Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady Think Like Man--many men hated him for writing this one.
The big, bad wolves come in sheep's clothing. They are charming, act protecting, flatter, want young women who won't ask any questions, might even talk a few out of the little money they have saved up in bank accounts, and may even promise marriage knowing full well that is the least of their intentions. When the bad wolf throws back his false exterior, the young woman usually finds out the hard way that all that glitters ain't gold! He is mean-spirited, bitter because of a past divorce, loss of money or children, and displeased with his life choices. The immature, young woman might be a product of his mid-life crisis, and when he realizes this, he isn't that handsome, loving, and sensitive type that she had once fallen in love with.
What is downright evil that some mature men do to unwise, young women is know full well how far they will keep them on their strings before they cut the ties. They act like puppet masters, controlling arms, legs and whatever else they can. Rather than encouraging her to do what she likes, pursue her dreams, he manipulates her into holding off dreams, follow him and do whatever he asks while forsaking all family and friends.
Mature men, who don't have to be the player type, but rather controlling, plan out exactly the beginning, middle and end of their courtship with young, silly women, before pursuing what they truly want, a wise woman with a certain youthfulness about her. They act as if everything is okay in their dating experiences with the immature as long as they keep getting what they can out of them. But when the typical immature responses start grating on their nerves, they back off. Rebellious, tempermental, argumentative women, who act like children, get kicked to the curb!
Sooner or later, the immature woman notices some negative things about her older man, but doesn't catches on completely until she sees him starting to withdrawal. Sex isn't coming as regularly, conversation is sparse/meaningless, he isn't taking her places like he once had, and sometimes she may even detect some hostility in his voice. If she starts snooping/investigating to find out what is really going on with him, the hurtful reality is discovered, he never was into her as much as he claimed. From photographs of other women to phone numbers, it was all a game to that mature player. In time, the young woman learns the game of her puppet master. The silly woman, who was once ignorant, becomes enlightened.
The tables often turn on both the selfish, mature men and their young, silly women who think they are going to "just date for fun, have a good time." People eventually wise up. Young women, realize there is more to dating some mature older men than meets the eye.
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
The Temperamental Older Man Who Thinks He is Okay
His hair is thinning, belly protruding, and he isn’t excited about life. He is often irritated with others. Whether they are too talkative, noisy, happy, or active, he looks at people, even member of his own household, with a dismal expression before exploding about what someone said or did. What is it about the temperamental older man that makes older women stay away and young women want to run?
Those who love him and have taken a bit of time to do some research on his age group usually find out that his bodily changes are associated with his anger outbursts, sudden tearful moments, impatience, and other odd behaviors. Although one presents the sensitive man with proven scientific evidence about his change of life, whether he is in 40s, 50s, 0r 60s, he resents the researchers, curses loved ones and goes about his life taking risks.
Young women are warned about dating men with testosterone issues, also known as low-T, but typical of young women, they don’t heed wise counsel. They go ahead and date, have sex, produce babies, get married, and do other things that might put their safety and overall well-being at risk. If a young woman knows that she doesn‘t have the patience, time or knowledge to deal with a moody older man, it is best to stay or run away before she catches his wrath.
The longer a young woman dates and older man, her eyes begin to widen and then she starts to see what her mature relatives and friends had been warning. Unfortunately, some young women see the truth too late and are abused physically, mentally, or even spiritually. The troubled older man who attends church regularly or has a background in religion will use the Bible as a means of control. The abuser will use verbal abuse and silent treatment to get her to follow his rules. Then there is the often angry older man who threatens or strikes his victims (men/women/children/pets) whenever things don’t go his way or he doesn’t like the way someone is treating him.
Rather than get necessary help that could possibly bring his hormones in balance, the mentally disturbed man, who once demonstrated self-control in many areas of his life, plays the blame game. “It’s the job…the annoying kids…my crazy wife…my car…this money-sucking house…” Sure. How about it’s him--a man that has reached a place in his life where everything rattles his nerves. In his youth, he had challenges and got over them without saying much. He watched movies and rarely, if ever, shedded a tear. He ran, lifted heavy objects, jumped, climbed, danced, played athletic sports, and did many things without needing to sit down for long periods of time. He was able to have sex without worrying over whether a certain part of his anatomy would stay firm. He worked from sun up to sun down and ran all over time to this event and that one. Those were the good old days, but the mature gentleman’s present days could get better if he would face his reality and build his life in such a way that can accommodate the different human being that he has become. From less work hours to a daily regimen of eating right, taking necessary medicine and supplements, and scheduling time for other activities, besides watching TV or sitting in front of a computer screen, just might uplift his spirits.
Some men will allow their moods to dominate even their intimate lives, fun times with their family, and travel. They will say, “I’m not up to it. I rather not. Could we do that another time?” He exchanges good times for a room, chair and an electronic device. For some men, that is the best place for them, because if they refuse to acknowledge that they are not good people to be around, they are better left alone. For loved ones who have a person like this around them, get on with your life! Create distance if he seems to be increasingly angry over what most people wouldn’t overreact to if you feel your mental stability and safety is at risk. You will know that trouble is on the horizon when you experience the following around the moody older man: nervousness, irritability, rage, vengeful thoughts, unexplained tension, constant stomach upset, or headaches. Separate yourself from him and contact this person less. If you live with him, doesn’t matter what you have or don’t have with this person, pack your bags and leave before he hurts you or you retaliate with hurtful words and physical violence. For those spiritual, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit so you know you don’t have to put up with abuse and don’t let those religious types tell you otherwise.
A temperamental older man is not going to change without proper treatment, he is only going to get worse! No amount of exercise or quiet meditation is going to solve an ongoing problem if he doesn’t want to get tested, listen to doctor’s advice and make necessary changes that you may have suggested as well. Stubborn men, who don’t watch all aspects of their diets including cutting out sugary drinks, maintaining reasonable portion sizes, and doing other things to better their health, rarely change. Years will go by and they will say, “I am going to do this…and I am going to do that…” They unfortunately don’t attempt to make significant changes until something major happens with their bodies, relationships, or income.
Those who love him and have taken a bit of time to do some research on his age group usually find out that his bodily changes are associated with his anger outbursts, sudden tearful moments, impatience, and other odd behaviors. Although one presents the sensitive man with proven scientific evidence about his change of life, whether he is in 40s, 50s, 0r 60s, he resents the researchers, curses loved ones and goes about his life taking risks.
Young women are warned about dating men with testosterone issues, also known as low-T, but typical of young women, they don’t heed wise counsel. They go ahead and date, have sex, produce babies, get married, and do other things that might put their safety and overall well-being at risk. If a young woman knows that she doesn‘t have the patience, time or knowledge to deal with a moody older man, it is best to stay or run away before she catches his wrath.
The longer a young woman dates and older man, her eyes begin to widen and then she starts to see what her mature relatives and friends had been warning. Unfortunately, some young women see the truth too late and are abused physically, mentally, or even spiritually. The troubled older man who attends church regularly or has a background in religion will use the Bible as a means of control. The abuser will use verbal abuse and silent treatment to get her to follow his rules. Then there is the often angry older man who threatens or strikes his victims (men/women/children/pets) whenever things don’t go his way or he doesn’t like the way someone is treating him.
Rather than get necessary help that could possibly bring his hormones in balance, the mentally disturbed man, who once demonstrated self-control in many areas of his life, plays the blame game. “It’s the job…the annoying kids…my crazy wife…my car…this money-sucking house…” Sure. How about it’s him--a man that has reached a place in his life where everything rattles his nerves. In his youth, he had challenges and got over them without saying much. He watched movies and rarely, if ever, shedded a tear. He ran, lifted heavy objects, jumped, climbed, danced, played athletic sports, and did many things without needing to sit down for long periods of time. He was able to have sex without worrying over whether a certain part of his anatomy would stay firm. He worked from sun up to sun down and ran all over time to this event and that one. Those were the good old days, but the mature gentleman’s present days could get better if he would face his reality and build his life in such a way that can accommodate the different human being that he has become. From less work hours to a daily regimen of eating right, taking necessary medicine and supplements, and scheduling time for other activities, besides watching TV or sitting in front of a computer screen, just might uplift his spirits.
Some men will allow their moods to dominate even their intimate lives, fun times with their family, and travel. They will say, “I’m not up to it. I rather not. Could we do that another time?” He exchanges good times for a room, chair and an electronic device. For some men, that is the best place for them, because if they refuse to acknowledge that they are not good people to be around, they are better left alone. For loved ones who have a person like this around them, get on with your life! Create distance if he seems to be increasingly angry over what most people wouldn’t overreact to if you feel your mental stability and safety is at risk. You will know that trouble is on the horizon when you experience the following around the moody older man: nervousness, irritability, rage, vengeful thoughts, unexplained tension, constant stomach upset, or headaches. Separate yourself from him and contact this person less. If you live with him, doesn’t matter what you have or don’t have with this person, pack your bags and leave before he hurts you or you retaliate with hurtful words and physical violence. For those spiritual, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit so you know you don’t have to put up with abuse and don’t let those religious types tell you otherwise.
A temperamental older man is not going to change without proper treatment, he is only going to get worse! No amount of exercise or quiet meditation is going to solve an ongoing problem if he doesn’t want to get tested, listen to doctor’s advice and make necessary changes that you may have suggested as well. Stubborn men, who don’t watch all aspects of their diets including cutting out sugary drinks, maintaining reasonable portion sizes, and doing other things to better their health, rarely change. Years will go by and they will say, “I am going to do this…and I am going to do that…” They unfortunately don’t attempt to make significant changes until something major happens with their bodies, relationships, or income.
Saturday
84 Year Old Grandmother's Courtship and Marriage to Older Man
She was 16 years old when she fell in love with a friend of the family who was 34 years old. The woman being interviewed didn't want her real name being shared, so her name will be April.
Back in the 1930s, the young April was a mere teen who had a life ahead of her, but she got distracted with the tall, dark and handsome fellow who admired her from a distance. She explains that he caught her eye, not only because he was so nice-looking, but also because "I wanted to leave my father's house...I was uneducated." She had attended elementary school on and off until about the age of 13 before her mother died. Her father, who had suddenly become a widow, went wild with the young ladies, according to April's relatives. So April and her siblings saw a poor example of how an older man treated young women. Relatives say he would drink, party, and have sex with them sometimes having a few at a time. They were children watching him abuse these women and some were women of the night.
But the handsome gentleman, who had been in April's family for years, had claimed that when she was a baby, the girl would one day become his wife. "I was still in my diapers my older relatives said when he told them that," said the 84 year old grandmother. April was impressed with the muscular man. "He could read and write." This was important to women of the time, because they knew that an educated man could get a better job than most and be able to provide for his family. April's older man was a blessing to a girl with a big heart. She grew up in a household of 20 and the older gentleman was going to get her out of there.
April warns young women, who share their trials with her, to be careful when it comes to dating men especially older ones. She says, "Don't trust a smiling face. There are dangerous men in this world." The mother of six learned the hard way. After leaving her father's house and going to be with the family friend, the mature gentleman would marry her and then move her out of state.
April was required to work during her marriage, because despite her husband's education, he had a strike against him--he was a black man trying to work during a time when racial dissension was present between blacks and whites. He also was one who liked to drink and party just like April's father. There was an obvious pattern, not only with April, but her siblings as well, most dated older men and many were cheated on. They basically got their father all over again through the men they dated and eventually married--his good, bad, rich and poor qualities all wrapped up in one!
April, being an uneducated black woman raising a family from the 1940s to the early 1960s, had her share of challenges as well; therefore, her options for employment were few. Housecleaning and cooking was what she did for very low wages. "I didn't have the opportunities back then, that young women have nowadays," April says. There was no daycare, Internet, an abundance of programs to help the needy, and many households didn't have televisions. April grew up poor, married into poverty, and then later acquired her personal wealth after her children became adults.
"This is why I tell young people to get an education, so that they don't have to settle for less," April advises. She tells women to put off marriage and having children until you have accomplished personal goals. There were times in her life she admits, she cried because of the poor decisions she made in life.
The man who had swept her off her feet and had given her so much happiness and promises, eventually caused her much upset to the point that she couldn't focus on anything she truly wanted to do. "He was abusive--a bastard! But my stupid self, loved him!" She pauses and then adds, "I asked myself, why do I love this man?" Long after her husband's passing, April admits that she still loves him. For years, April said that she attended church while choosing to remain in the abusive relationship for the sake of her children. She says that it was her faith in God that got her through many turbulent times.
But love doesn't verbally abuse or physically fight and two of April's own children wanted their father gone from the house, one even threatened to shoot his dad for beating up his mother. April was well aware that love doesn't hurt, but she was also fearful about leaving. There were times when she and her children did stay with relatives until her husband cooled down.
Nowadays, the 84 year old grandmother listens to young women's relationship plights and prays for them who labor to love their abusive mates while advising they get away. April blames her lack on why she settled. After decades of being cheated on, that handsome man who attracted many women both young and old met his fate. April shares that her abuser was burned to death in a house fire. "He moved out of our family home and got his own place in an apartment building where he lived for a time," April solemnly explains. "My husband called me the night before and asked if we could get back together. I told him I would have to pray about it. The next day I heard that he had died in a fire." April admits her faith was shook and cautions don't pray if you don't want an answer.
After the death of her husband back in the 70s, April says that "I could never love another man." When asked why, she said, "I was afraid that if I got close to one, I might kill him if he treated me the way my husband had." There were nice men that she courted (dated); however, she could recognize the signs that she couldn't be with them. Some of those red flags were:
1. Attempts to tell her how to parent her children while barely getting to know her.
2. Visiting only when convenient because an individual was married.
3. Lying about one's true intentions such as saying he wanted friendship when he really wanted sex.
4. Using threats and pressure to get her to commit.
5. Buying her gifts and bringing money to secure a place in her life even when she was no longer romantically interested in her gentleman suitor.
April shares that when a man makes you feel like less than a woman such as often acting rudely, jealous, or bitter, stop dating him. When you feel like you have to report your every move to him, don't. If the older man doesn't appreciate what you are doing for him, stop giving him sex, visiting him, or whatever else you are doing. April adds, "Don't be a fool!"
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
Back in the 1930s, the young April was a mere teen who had a life ahead of her, but she got distracted with the tall, dark and handsome fellow who admired her from a distance. She explains that he caught her eye, not only because he was so nice-looking, but also because "I wanted to leave my father's house...I was uneducated." She had attended elementary school on and off until about the age of 13 before her mother died. Her father, who had suddenly become a widow, went wild with the young ladies, according to April's relatives. So April and her siblings saw a poor example of how an older man treated young women. Relatives say he would drink, party, and have sex with them sometimes having a few at a time. They were children watching him abuse these women and some were women of the night.
But the handsome gentleman, who had been in April's family for years, had claimed that when she was a baby, the girl would one day become his wife. "I was still in my diapers my older relatives said when he told them that," said the 84 year old grandmother. April was impressed with the muscular man. "He could read and write." This was important to women of the time, because they knew that an educated man could get a better job than most and be able to provide for his family. April's older man was a blessing to a girl with a big heart. She grew up in a household of 20 and the older gentleman was going to get her out of there.
April warns young women, who share their trials with her, to be careful when it comes to dating men especially older ones. She says, "Don't trust a smiling face. There are dangerous men in this world." The mother of six learned the hard way. After leaving her father's house and going to be with the family friend, the mature gentleman would marry her and then move her out of state.
April was required to work during her marriage, because despite her husband's education, he had a strike against him--he was a black man trying to work during a time when racial dissension was present between blacks and whites. He also was one who liked to drink and party just like April's father. There was an obvious pattern, not only with April, but her siblings as well, most dated older men and many were cheated on. They basically got their father all over again through the men they dated and eventually married--his good, bad, rich and poor qualities all wrapped up in one!
April, being an uneducated black woman raising a family from the 1940s to the early 1960s, had her share of challenges as well; therefore, her options for employment were few. Housecleaning and cooking was what she did for very low wages. "I didn't have the opportunities back then, that young women have nowadays," April says. There was no daycare, Internet, an abundance of programs to help the needy, and many households didn't have televisions. April grew up poor, married into poverty, and then later acquired her personal wealth after her children became adults.
"This is why I tell young people to get an education, so that they don't have to settle for less," April advises. She tells women to put off marriage and having children until you have accomplished personal goals. There were times in her life she admits, she cried because of the poor decisions she made in life.
The man who had swept her off her feet and had given her so much happiness and promises, eventually caused her much upset to the point that she couldn't focus on anything she truly wanted to do. "He was abusive--a bastard! But my stupid self, loved him!" She pauses and then adds, "I asked myself, why do I love this man?" Long after her husband's passing, April admits that she still loves him. For years, April said that she attended church while choosing to remain in the abusive relationship for the sake of her children. She says that it was her faith in God that got her through many turbulent times.
But love doesn't verbally abuse or physically fight and two of April's own children wanted their father gone from the house, one even threatened to shoot his dad for beating up his mother. April was well aware that love doesn't hurt, but she was also fearful about leaving. There were times when she and her children did stay with relatives until her husband cooled down.
Nowadays, the 84 year old grandmother listens to young women's relationship plights and prays for them who labor to love their abusive mates while advising they get away. April blames her lack on why she settled. After decades of being cheated on, that handsome man who attracted many women both young and old met his fate. April shares that her abuser was burned to death in a house fire. "He moved out of our family home and got his own place in an apartment building where he lived for a time," April solemnly explains. "My husband called me the night before and asked if we could get back together. I told him I would have to pray about it. The next day I heard that he had died in a fire." April admits her faith was shook and cautions don't pray if you don't want an answer.
After the death of her husband back in the 70s, April says that "I could never love another man." When asked why, she said, "I was afraid that if I got close to one, I might kill him if he treated me the way my husband had." There were nice men that she courted (dated); however, she could recognize the signs that she couldn't be with them. Some of those red flags were:
1. Attempts to tell her how to parent her children while barely getting to know her.
2. Visiting only when convenient because an individual was married.
3. Lying about one's true intentions such as saying he wanted friendship when he really wanted sex.
4. Using threats and pressure to get her to commit.
5. Buying her gifts and bringing money to secure a place in her life even when she was no longer romantically interested in her gentleman suitor.
April shares that when a man makes you feel like less than a woman such as often acting rudely, jealous, or bitter, stop dating him. When you feel like you have to report your every move to him, don't. If the older man doesn't appreciate what you are doing for him, stop giving him sex, visiting him, or whatever else you are doing. April adds, "Don't be a fool!"
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
Tuesday
How to Keep a Young Woman Interested in You and Not Your Flaws
When one is mature seeking a youthful lady, he has to know that in order to keep her interest, he must have some things about him that keep her coming back for more other than the typical large financial portfolio, sex, and impressive toys that other rich gentleman suitors have. A wise younger woman is going to look the other way after a few dates when she starts to see those flaws that tend to show up out of nowhere with some older men. For instance, he typically dyes his hair, but after a few dates he advertises his grays for the world to see. He might even trade a nice dress shirt for a boring, old tee-shirt.
What does the premature display of the real you say to this young woman who may still consider you a stranger? “He’s a great actor. I didn’t realize just how old he really is until he showed up with that 1970’s wardrobe with his white hair sprouting everywhere!” A young woman can have a short attention span especially for an older man who stands before her looking dull and tired. Face it, some men have to work harder than others to keep a woman happy.
1. Communicate your strengths.
You might not be active like most men, but you are smarter than many of them. Put your intelligence to work and help that young woman improve herself physically, mentally and spiritually when the opportune time comes. She just might say, “I was thinking, maybe you could help me with…” Jump at the opportunity by sharing what you know about her concerns and how might she be able to solve them.
2. Focus on your accomplishments and how they have helped others.
What is it about you that impresses most men and women that know you? You might be lacking in looks, but you might have a long list of awards for your generosity, gifts for helping others, business achievements, and more. Share what drives you to be the best you can be. She just might overlook those imperfections that others would run from.
3. Ask her about her goals, dreams and desires.
Young women like to talk about themselves, so encourage her to do so. This might make you stand out from those other guys because she you are sincerely interested in hearing what she has to say. Once again, look for opportunities to help her achieve her dreams.
4. Take care of yourself.
Men who do things to improve their appearances are a draw for many women. A man who doesn’t smoke, maintains his body weight, and smells good has a better chance at meeting and keeping a woman than a man who does the total opposite.
5. Point out obvious issues before she does, and mention what you are doing to try to fix them.
Women have flaws just like men, but when they are noticeable, many will explain the who, what, when, where, why, and how of them all. When men share their war stories, they just might get a sympathetic ear and someone who will get a little closer to them depending on the story. So if you know you can’t hide your issue like a large scar across your left cheek, talk about it, but don’t say so much that it makes her scared, worried, or concerned for her life.
6. Share a few past failures, but mention how you managed to move on with your life.
It is better that she hears about your past then from the neighborhood, so if you did some things that she just might find out about if she were to conduct a background check, let her know. However, include what you are doing differently now and how you resolved past issues.
7. Mention the people and things you do that keep you motivated.
Are there some people who could vouch for how good of a man you truly are? In time, you will want to use them to help your date reach a decision on whether you are good for her or not. Some single women might not be completely convinced about dating certain men due to one flaw or another, but then along comes the single man’s mom and sister bragging about their loved one and now a date, who was once in doubt, is ready to commit.
When a young woman notices your flaws, don’t hide, worry, or think the worse, just do your best to explain, but not so much that she desires to go elsewhere. Know what impresses your date and stick to those things that keep her interested in you and not your flaws.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
What does the premature display of the real you say to this young woman who may still consider you a stranger? “He’s a great actor. I didn’t realize just how old he really is until he showed up with that 1970’s wardrobe with his white hair sprouting everywhere!” A young woman can have a short attention span especially for an older man who stands before her looking dull and tired. Face it, some men have to work harder than others to keep a woman happy.
1. Communicate your strengths.
You might not be active like most men, but you are smarter than many of them. Put your intelligence to work and help that young woman improve herself physically, mentally and spiritually when the opportune time comes. She just might say, “I was thinking, maybe you could help me with…” Jump at the opportunity by sharing what you know about her concerns and how might she be able to solve them.
2. Focus on your accomplishments and how they have helped others.
What is it about you that impresses most men and women that know you? You might be lacking in looks, but you might have a long list of awards for your generosity, gifts for helping others, business achievements, and more. Share what drives you to be the best you can be. She just might overlook those imperfections that others would run from.
3. Ask her about her goals, dreams and desires.
Young women like to talk about themselves, so encourage her to do so. This might make you stand out from those other guys because she you are sincerely interested in hearing what she has to say. Once again, look for opportunities to help her achieve her dreams.
4. Take care of yourself.
Men who do things to improve their appearances are a draw for many women. A man who doesn’t smoke, maintains his body weight, and smells good has a better chance at meeting and keeping a woman than a man who does the total opposite.
5. Point out obvious issues before she does, and mention what you are doing to try to fix them.
Women have flaws just like men, but when they are noticeable, many will explain the who, what, when, where, why, and how of them all. When men share their war stories, they just might get a sympathetic ear and someone who will get a little closer to them depending on the story. So if you know you can’t hide your issue like a large scar across your left cheek, talk about it, but don’t say so much that it makes her scared, worried, or concerned for her life.
6. Share a few past failures, but mention how you managed to move on with your life.
It is better that she hears about your past then from the neighborhood, so if you did some things that she just might find out about if she were to conduct a background check, let her know. However, include what you are doing differently now and how you resolved past issues.
7. Mention the people and things you do that keep you motivated.
Are there some people who could vouch for how good of a man you truly are? In time, you will want to use them to help your date reach a decision on whether you are good for her or not. Some single women might not be completely convinced about dating certain men due to one flaw or another, but then along comes the single man’s mom and sister bragging about their loved one and now a date, who was once in doubt, is ready to commit.
When a young woman notices your flaws, don’t hide, worry, or think the worse, just do your best to explain, but not so much that she desires to go elsewhere. Know what impresses your date and stick to those things that keep her interested in you and not your flaws.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
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