Wednesday
4 Dating Apps for People Seeking an Age Gap Relationship - Older Men Dating Younger Women
For younger women looking to date older men or vice versa but are too shy to connect offline, there are sites that cater to your needs. The following is a list of dating apps for people who want to date older men, younger women. Don't be ashamed or feel odd about meeting people who are not close to your age. Sometimes you can't help who you might have more in common with than others. If you feel like trying a dating app, here are a few that cater to age gap relationships exclusively. For those who have a faith you may want to look at eHarmony, ChristianMingle and other similar dating apps.
1. EstablishedMen.com - you can flirt for free, filter results and searches, block people, and create a favorite list.
2. MillionaireMatch.com - you can send winks, share first date ideas, post lots of photos, have a private album, post questions, you can request verification of photo, and do other interesting stuff.
3. SugarDaddyMeet.com - you can contact members through winks and emails, upload many photos and create a blog homepage.
4. AgeMatch.com - if you believe in May- December relationships, you will enjoy this one. Create a detailed profile, send winks, participate in forum discussions, etc.
Keep in mind in order to get full use of the dating sites, there are fees so do visit the site to the latest prices. Also, check to see if the site has auto renewal membership fees and view terms to see what the process is to cancel service if you find it is no longer useful.
1. EstablishedMen.com - you can flirt for free, filter results and searches, block people, and create a favorite list.
2. MillionaireMatch.com - you can send winks, share first date ideas, post lots of photos, have a private album, post questions, you can request verification of photo, and do other interesting stuff.
3. SugarDaddyMeet.com - you can contact members through winks and emails, upload many photos and create a blog homepage.
4. AgeMatch.com - if you believe in May- December relationships, you will enjoy this one. Create a detailed profile, send winks, participate in forum discussions, etc.
Keep in mind in order to get full use of the dating sites, there are fees so do visit the site to the latest prices. Also, check to see if the site has auto renewal membership fees and view terms to see what the process is to cancel service if you find it is no longer useful.
Tuesday
10 of the Best Dating Apps - Connect with Someone Older or Younger
1) Tinder - discover people who are near you, connect with locals.
2) Bumble - the woman makes the first move on this dating app.
3) Happn - discover people who you have crossed paths with during the day.
4) Coffee Meets Bagel - each day at 12 noon guys you will receive 21 matches, you can like or pass.
5) Hinge - if you are interested in a real relationship, then this app is for you!
6) OK Cupid - finds you matches based on what you care about and it is free.
7) POF - this is one of the largest and most active dating sites.
8) Christian Mingle - this app makes it easy to connect with people of faith.
9) Match - discover a diverse global community of singles. Check profiles near or far.
10) eHarmony - premium online dating for people interested in committed relationships.
2) Bumble - the woman makes the first move on this dating app.
3) Happn - discover people who you have crossed paths with during the day.
4) Coffee Meets Bagel - each day at 12 noon guys you will receive 21 matches, you can like or pass.
5) Hinge - if you are interested in a real relationship, then this app is for you!
6) OK Cupid - finds you matches based on what you care about and it is free.
7) POF - this is one of the largest and most active dating sites.
8) Christian Mingle - this app makes it easy to connect with people of faith.
9) Match - discover a diverse global community of singles. Check profiles near or far.
10) eHarmony - premium online dating for people interested in committed relationships.
Wednesday
Dating Apps and Desperate Singles
Dating apps make it so easy to share anything and everything with someone that you usually don't realize you have been communicating with a stranger until you sit down in his or her presence for awhile like what happened to me. The person has no clue what is your favorite meal, the names of your closest relatives, or what some of your pet-peeves are about restaurants. The uneasy feeling within serves as yet another warning, "Slow down, he/she really doesn't know you that well. Do you really need to connect with this person intimately anytime soon?"
Certain apps restrict the natural process of communication and make seeing one another the priority. Other apps make communication the center of the relationship, but don't do so well when it comes to encouraging an offline connection since there is money to be made online. You are still a human being no matter what technological device is created and you will need to take control over your mind, body and spirit on and offline.
The mood changes between couples as they learn good, bad and ugly things that affect one another. Sometimes conversations are fun, intense, emotional, and quiet. Casting away one's perception, judgmental attitude, and other personal issues is constantly done when attempting to start a new relationship with someone. But going into anything blindly without a moral compass, some boundaries, and other things to keep one out of trouble is sure to lead to a stressful relationship that may end up lasting for years! The following are some things I did to keep some lonely and desperate singles from contacting me anymore having gone through my share of dating challenges:
1. I noted what I wanted and what I wasn't going to put up with sometimes firmly if I felt someone was being pushy.
2. I specifically indicated the kind of person I wanted to meet, but I didn't provide a long list just a general statement. I didn't want someone having so much information that they could magically turn themselves into something just to date me.
3. I didn't say too much about my family and work because I really didn't feel it was necessary in a first email or conversation.
4. I didn't hide my discontent when I was asked to do some things that I didn't want to do.
5. I ended any communication that didn't sit well with me whether playful or not.
Have you ever spoken to someone that is head over heels in love with a partner? Did he or she appear to have a brightened countenance when talking about one's love interest? Did this person act as if everything was right with the world? If so, then you know the love struck lady or guy is not the least bit interested in hearing anything that might sound like a warning or a negative comment about one's lover. Having gone through a previous break up, all most people want to do is focus on the good when it comes to anyone or anything new. What usually occurs is most relatives and friends just let their loved ones learn the hard way.
So a conversation is going great, smiles are beaming, and some relatives and friends might be jealous since their relationships have long lost their shine. The couple is guarded about sharing too much personal information. In time, they spend an increasingly amount of time away from family and friends who once made up a good portion of their time.
"We are so open with one another...We get along so good. He is so great...I love how she expresses herself; she really knows what she wants. I think he gets me," lovers say. Do these statements sound familiar? Now to those who have "been there, done that" their conversations about one another sound sweet, but the reality is in time relationship highs mellow and the lows start to increase. This is why some mature couples won't say too much to those who are "in love," because they know better, things will fizzle and when they do, the gullible will learn the hard way. Time always tells the truth and what was once so special and right about someone ends up not always being so in the short or long term.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues
Monday
Dating Rich Older Men - What Younger, Needy Women Don't Think About
When a young lady seeks to date a man who makes much money, what she doesn't realize is that he isn't going to be as available to her emotionally and possibly physically as she might imagine. The young woman is in for a rude awakening if she thinks that dating or marrying an older man will always consist of exotic travel and jaw-dropping shopping sprees.
I got the opportunity to speak to women who date older men and they were at times naïve when it came to talking about them. They were like giddy school girls who just saw a handsome boy walk by them. The eyes brightened, the speech sped up, and their bodies moved around a bit as if excited to talk about the subject. These women didn't think too much about the possibility of future disappointments like their allowances or gifts being cut off one day by their rich dates. They were too busy thinking about those promises their guys made such as plans to attend special events, give them gifts and eat at five star restaurants.
Most rich, older men don't abandon jobs, forget about children (and sometimes exes), and they aren't thinking too much about keeping a sexual partner around for too long. Instead they enjoy the "in the meantime" experience with an attractive, young lady and then on to the next best thing. Workaholic older men are too busy thinking about jobs and money to care much about a lover's feeling, accomplishments, and other things that matter. The selfish simply want their periodic sexual desires met with no strings attached. It isn't any wonder why many are divorced--the "it's all about me" philosophy doesn't go well with marriage, children, and household responsibilities.
The wealthy but cheap older men spend a great deal of time in doors on off days. They don't like going out much because all that means is more money spent that they prefer to save. Some young women are blind-sided by this type because they start off treating them so well, but in time the newness wears off and the older men's true selves begin to show especially after they have received what they wanted, sex with a beautiful woman and companionship. When things become dull, they grow weary of dating and relationships. So they give their all back to jobs or businesses while the gullible women check their phones hoping to hearing from them. "Could he be back with his wife? What am I going to do, he doesn't send any money anymore? I was starting to fall for that guy..."
What many gullible women overlook, at least initially during the early dating stages, are the self-absorbed attributes in successful men. They are consumed with getting their needs met from the start. The signs aren't easily recognized because these men tend to attract women like themselves. Selfish women are too busy focused on themselves to pay any attention to warning signs that a date might be trouble. When a woman is immature and desperate for things like: attention, money and sex, she won't think too much about how she is treated until her needs are no longer being met. "What's up with him? He use to be so nice. He gave me whatever I wanted! Now he is so mean!"
Dating rich older men is a bit different than dating broke, younger men. The men who know they can buy just about anyone or anything, expect to be pleased. So they want more for their time and money than a broken man who is just happy being with a head-turner 10.
Young women who date rich put up with things that other women wouldn't even consider. This is because most women are looking for more in a relationship besides money and gifts, but not the 10 looking for a 10. She wants cash, business, opportunities, and whatever else that rich man can afford to give her!
Since many successful men know that most people are after their cash, property, etc. they are going to be guarded and will not always come off as nice and accommodating especially when they are aware of a young woman's motives
. Whether you are rich and older or young and broke, know that whatever your intention if it isn't good, expect to be taken advantage of sooner or later.
Nicholl McGuire maintains this blog and is the author of She's Crazy (a book for battered men).
I got the opportunity to speak to women who date older men and they were at times naïve when it came to talking about them. They were like giddy school girls who just saw a handsome boy walk by them. The eyes brightened, the speech sped up, and their bodies moved around a bit as if excited to talk about the subject. These women didn't think too much about the possibility of future disappointments like their allowances or gifts being cut off one day by their rich dates. They were too busy thinking about those promises their guys made such as plans to attend special events, give them gifts and eat at five star restaurants.
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Most rich, older men don't abandon jobs, forget about children (and sometimes exes), and they aren't thinking too much about keeping a sexual partner around for too long. Instead they enjoy the "in the meantime" experience with an attractive, young lady and then on to the next best thing. Workaholic older men are too busy thinking about jobs and money to care much about a lover's feeling, accomplishments, and other things that matter. The selfish simply want their periodic sexual desires met with no strings attached. It isn't any wonder why many are divorced--the "it's all about me" philosophy doesn't go well with marriage, children, and household responsibilities.
The wealthy but cheap older men spend a great deal of time in doors on off days. They don't like going out much because all that means is more money spent that they prefer to save. Some young women are blind-sided by this type because they start off treating them so well, but in time the newness wears off and the older men's true selves begin to show especially after they have received what they wanted, sex with a beautiful woman and companionship. When things become dull, they grow weary of dating and relationships. So they give their all back to jobs or businesses while the gullible women check their phones hoping to hearing from them. "Could he be back with his wife? What am I going to do, he doesn't send any money anymore? I was starting to fall for that guy..."
What many gullible women overlook, at least initially during the early dating stages, are the self-absorbed attributes in successful men. They are consumed with getting their needs met from the start. The signs aren't easily recognized because these men tend to attract women like themselves. Selfish women are too busy focused on themselves to pay any attention to warning signs that a date might be trouble. When a woman is immature and desperate for things like: attention, money and sex, she won't think too much about how she is treated until her needs are no longer being met. "What's up with him? He use to be so nice. He gave me whatever I wanted! Now he is so mean!"
Dating rich older men is a bit different than dating broke, younger men. The men who know they can buy just about anyone or anything, expect to be pleased. So they want more for their time and money than a broken man who is just happy being with a head-turner 10.
Young women who date rich put up with things that other women wouldn't even consider. This is because most women are looking for more in a relationship besides money and gifts, but not the 10 looking for a 10. She wants cash, business, opportunities, and whatever else that rich man can afford to give her!
Since many successful men know that most people are after their cash, property, etc. they are going to be guarded and will not always come off as nice and accommodating especially when they are aware of a young woman's motives
. Whether you are rich and older or young and broke, know that whatever your intention if it isn't good, expect to be taken advantage of sooner or later.
Nicholl McGuire maintains this blog and is the author of She's Crazy (a book for battered men).
Friday
Dating Younger Women (Blog) - Does Age Really Matter?
It all depends on who you ask, "Does age really matter?" For years this blog has shared personal as well as expert opinion about dating older men and younger women. Well I can certainly tell you that those who scream the loudest that age doesn't matter, at least initially, get a rude awakening as the relationship grows older. The wider the age gap, the more differences and the more bad news you eventually find out about your older or younger partner.
There simply are things that young women just don't understand or have the mindset to deal with concerning older men. Take for instance, life experiences and personal health woes, some younger women (not all of course) can't relate to men who are having a mid-life crisis no more than mature women. Older men have their share of the blues and the only thing that some young women can think of are their own selfish needs being met.
Now what about the older men who are a bit outdated and unwise? They gravitate to young women in the hopes that they will get sex and a companion. However, it doesn't work that way in time especially if there is no sincere connection with the young lady. A number of young women feel doubtful about the May-December relationship and question what really is the older guy's motives for even considering them. "I'm broke, still learning things about life...why is he really bothering with me when he could be with someone his own age?" Whatever the reason an older male comes up with to make the inquisitive,young woman feel secure, it isn't good enough. She most likely will move on sooner or later.
The takeaway is age matters when you give the relationship some time. You will see and feel the difference.
Nicholl
There simply are things that young women just don't understand or have the mindset to deal with concerning older men. Take for instance, life experiences and personal health woes, some younger women (not all of course) can't relate to men who are having a mid-life crisis no more than mature women. Older men have their share of the blues and the only thing that some young women can think of are their own selfish needs being met.
Now what about the older men who are a bit outdated and unwise? They gravitate to young women in the hopes that they will get sex and a companion. However, it doesn't work that way in time especially if there is no sincere connection with the young lady. A number of young women feel doubtful about the May-December relationship and question what really is the older guy's motives for even considering them. "I'm broke, still learning things about life...why is he really bothering with me when he could be with someone his own age?" Whatever the reason an older male comes up with to make the inquisitive,young woman feel secure, it isn't good enough. She most likely will move on sooner or later.
The takeaway is age matters when you give the relationship some time. You will see and feel the difference.
Nicholl
Thursday
What's the Point of Dating Older, Younger if No Longer Into It?
In previous entries I provided a host of information that talks about age gap dating experiences, family woes, health concerns, and more, and yet some will continue to date older or younger even when their hearts or minds are not that into it anymore.
There is a self-deception that occurs with some daters. It goes something like this, "I guess it's okay. I mean I like her/him. I really hope things work. I know I am his/her type. Besides I have a lot of money...look good, still fit...a great catch!" Most likely, if the person is displaying signs they don't like you much, you aren't as good as you think. But it's okay. You can move on if only you are willing.
I found someone online over a decade ago and I admit that I wasn't really feeling older guys at the time. I had a history that didn't treat me so nice. I had made up in my mind at the time that if it didn't work, I wasn't sticking around and I meant it. When you know you have reached that point when the young lady is annoying you more than pleasing you or the older man is being controlling rather than loving, it's time to make some hard decisions.
I know it can be tough. One man many years ago I had to let go because I was 19 and he was about 41. He really didn't do it for me. I knew there were some insecurities he had like the time when I brushed his hair not realizing that I uncovered his thinning spot. Irritated he swept it back, "I'm sorry..." I said. Talk about awkward. The man in crisis also drank much at times and didn't mind visiting me when he was drunk. What a waste! Yeah, that is what I was thinking. I didn't respect him and neither did he me, because why would he show up drunk?
Anyway, you need established relationship boundaries my friends. Once one, two or more are crossed and you just aren't feeling the fellow or gal, move on. Don't punish, insult, complain...there's no point in dating older or younger when you have personal hang-ups with age, personality, wit, and more.
Older people can be boring at times even when they think they are not and younger people can have too much energy...so why complain about the person you picked? Stick to your own age if dating younger or older is just not working any longer.
Nicholl
There is a self-deception that occurs with some daters. It goes something like this, "I guess it's okay. I mean I like her/him. I really hope things work. I know I am his/her type. Besides I have a lot of money...look good, still fit...a great catch!" Most likely, if the person is displaying signs they don't like you much, you aren't as good as you think. But it's okay. You can move on if only you are willing.
I found someone online over a decade ago and I admit that I wasn't really feeling older guys at the time. I had a history that didn't treat me so nice. I had made up in my mind at the time that if it didn't work, I wasn't sticking around and I meant it. When you know you have reached that point when the young lady is annoying you more than pleasing you or the older man is being controlling rather than loving, it's time to make some hard decisions.
I know it can be tough. One man many years ago I had to let go because I was 19 and he was about 41. He really didn't do it for me. I knew there were some insecurities he had like the time when I brushed his hair not realizing that I uncovered his thinning spot. Irritated he swept it back, "I'm sorry..." I said. Talk about awkward. The man in crisis also drank much at times and didn't mind visiting me when he was drunk. What a waste! Yeah, that is what I was thinking. I didn't respect him and neither did he me, because why would he show up drunk?
Anyway, you need established relationship boundaries my friends. Once one, two or more are crossed and you just aren't feeling the fellow or gal, move on. Don't punish, insult, complain...there's no point in dating older or younger when you have personal hang-ups with age, personality, wit, and more.
Older people can be boring at times even when they think they are not and younger people can have too much energy...so why complain about the person you picked? Stick to your own age if dating younger or older is just not working any longer.
Nicholl
Monday
Improve You and Dating Experiences in the New Year
For some singles they are turning over a new leaf in the New Year. They are looking forward to dating a bit differently like changing dating preferences and upgrading personal images for starters. Courageous men and women who have never dated younger or older, a different ethnicity or even out of their hometowns are ready for new dating experiences this upcoming year, according to some online dating forums.
You might be one looking to make a difference in your life, if so, bravo to you! Why not think outside the box? Many of us who have dated a variety of people in our lifetime did so, because we simply got tired of doing things based on past dating experiences or teachings passed down from family. You never know who you might cross paths with and that person just may be the one!
Now some couples are simply fed up with one another for any number of reasons including age related issues and if this is you, well you don't have to stick it out in a miserable relationship. Fall back from the dating scene a bit, recover and then come back for some more good times when you are ready. If you have a faith, use it--someone is out there for you! Here are some tips on improving your future dating experiences:
1. Work on your health. Watch your weight. Exercise and check in with your doctor and dentist.
2. Don't keep ex-lovers, wives, husbands, etc. on speed dial. Move on!
3. Vow that you will never permit yourself to be broken spiritually, mentally or physically by a future or current partner.
4. Keep your relatives out of your personal life. This means no updating them on dates you are not serious about.
5. Find the time for you! The world doesn't revolve around that new someone you meet--no matter how friendly, wealthy, attractive,etc.
6. Do your part to make some great memories when dating someone. Don't rely on others to make you happy.
7. If you believe in a Creator, why not practice your faith and attract someone who is spiritual like you?
With so much happening online in dating world you can never be too safe. Take precautions when meeting someone online and never rush into doing anything with someone you barely even know! There are countless stories of victims who just didn't bother researching before sleeping with dates and now they are either connected with the wrong partners, in jail, deceased or have their share of unwanted children or STDS (sigh).
Have a great New Year connecting with someone who is right for you!
By the way, check out our partners on this site who work hard to bring you some great services around the web!
Nicholl
You might be one looking to make a difference in your life, if so, bravo to you! Why not think outside the box? Many of us who have dated a variety of people in our lifetime did so, because we simply got tired of doing things based on past dating experiences or teachings passed down from family. You never know who you might cross paths with and that person just may be the one!
Now some couples are simply fed up with one another for any number of reasons including age related issues and if this is you, well you don't have to stick it out in a miserable relationship. Fall back from the dating scene a bit, recover and then come back for some more good times when you are ready. If you have a faith, use it--someone is out there for you! Here are some tips on improving your future dating experiences:
1. Work on your health. Watch your weight. Exercise and check in with your doctor and dentist.
2. Don't keep ex-lovers, wives, husbands, etc. on speed dial. Move on!3. Vow that you will never permit yourself to be broken spiritually, mentally or physically by a future or current partner.
4. Keep your relatives out of your personal life. This means no updating them on dates you are not serious about.
5. Find the time for you! The world doesn't revolve around that new someone you meet--no matter how friendly, wealthy, attractive,etc.
6. Do your part to make some great memories when dating someone. Don't rely on others to make you happy.
7. If you believe in a Creator, why not practice your faith and attract someone who is spiritual like you?
With so much happening online in dating world you can never be too safe. Take precautions when meeting someone online and never rush into doing anything with someone you barely even know! There are countless stories of victims who just didn't bother researching before sleeping with dates and now they are either connected with the wrong partners, in jail, deceased or have their share of unwanted children or STDS (sigh).
Have a great New Year connecting with someone who is right for you!
By the way, check out our partners on this site who work hard to bring you some great services around the web!
Nicholl
Thursday
Embarrassed by the Older Man's Looks
He doesn't get the invite to visit with the younger woman's family members and friends for the holidays. His much younger girlfriend rarely wants to go out and about with him. The truth is she secretly is embarrassed by her older companion's looks.
It is obvious they aren't a cute couple and she knows it. The young lady doesn't like the way people look at them when they are out together. She isn't comfortable with being in her family's presence with him either, because she knows what they will say, "He's too old for you. He looks like your dad!"
Young ladies don't think of age difference details until they are tested by society. Similar to an interracial relationship, it takes some getting use to for some May-December couples to be seen in public and to witness reactions. Being behind closed doors is one thing, but being out in the open with an aging partner is something different. One must be comfortable in his or her own skin while choosing to ignore the mean or shocking stares and comments. You can't help who you fall in love with!
If you find yourself frequently feeling uncomfortable about the relationship, discuss your concerns with your partner. Consider your needs first and if it becomes too much to bear, maybe an age gap relationship is not for you. Even though a person's appearance shouldn't be a big deal, it is when there are significant years between you both.
Attraction is very important in relationships and when you don't feel attracted to a partner than you might as well face it. Not everyone is like fine wine getting better with age--it's a harsh reality that some couples don't want to admit to.
Nicholl McGuire
Blog Owner and Author of Too Much, Too Soon Internet Dating Blues
Thursday
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Tuesday
Under the Sheets - Poetry Blog
Under the Sheets: Poetry blog for poet lovers. Enjoy the entertaining love poems of Nicholl McGuire Poet/Blogger/Author/Virtual Assistant
Saturday
On Attending Family Events with a Date - Personal Experience, Self-Help Book
When I first started dating in my youth, I always found myself either accepting or declining an invite to attend my dates' family events. I will be the first to admit, I wasn't always eager to meet my companions' kin especially when I knew there was no future with them. Later in life, I would have long term relationships and find that some people were okay about occasional cancellations and others not so much. The negative talk would start about "Why didn't you come?" along with questions to see how close was I to my own family.
It wasn't that I had issues with the individuals at some of these gatherings; I just didn't feel the need to support my partners' every time they chose to connect with their families. I recall witnessing my own family quite happy when in-laws, girlfriends and boyfriends were no shows every now and then. They simply wanted to spend some time with their relatives without their better half always around. If you think about it, we do tend to let our hair down more so when partners aren't around.
Meeting someone's new girlfriend or boyfriend, in-laws, extended relatives, half sisters and brothers, etc. can be particularly burdensome especially around holidays. Do we even bother to remember all those names? We don't always want to be around our own intermediate family much less the aunt of the cousin whose friend is a friend of...you know the feeling.
When you are involved with someone who really enjoys the company of his or her family a little more than you do, the last thing you want to do is hurt him or her, so you go along to get along month after month or year after year until one day a light bulb goes off, "I don't want to keep doing this! I really want to do something different this year." If resentment is mixed with anger once you arrive to this revelation, those emotions are sure to bring confusion for yourself and/or household, because for so long you had chose to do some things to appease someone else.
One should never obligate his or herself to go somewhere he or she rather not just because the individual doesn't want to hurt a partner's feelings. What about yours? Keep this in mind when you read my book, Should I Go to the Party? This isn't just a book that questions whether a party is worth attending or not, but it challenges you to establish a plan before you are faced with the dilemmas and trials that come with attending an event. There are so many stories where people wish they had never gone somewhere and met the people that they did.
Stop the cycle of going along just to get along and look a little closer at those in your social circle who just love inviting folks to all sorts of events even when they know full well trouble-makers will be present--is it worth it? Could accepting the wrong invitation be the end of a good relationship, friendship? Check out
Nicholl McGuire is the author of other books including: Say Goodbye to Dad, Tell Me Mother You're Sorry, and What Else Can I do on the Internet?
Sunday
The "When I Need Her" Girl - Is that You?
She is called upon only when the older gentleman is in need of her time and affection. He doesn't kiss her on the lips when they meet or have sex, because according to him, "Well that is just personal."
The well-dressed gentleman is not what you would consider a sugar daddy or even a rich gentleman--even though his wardrobe is quite deceiving, he is simply an old player. A man with many tricks who knows how to play games with silly, naive women who think they will be taken care of by him. What does love have to do with anything anyway in the player's world? Selfish men and women have agendas. Their arranged meetings, whether secretly or publicly, have little to do with love.
In the case of the mature gentleman, one who has had more than enough travel and sex in his eighty plus years on this planet, the "When I Need Her" Girl of 10 plus years is nothing more than a toy he brings out every now and then. His body is with the wife any other time. The player says what attracted him to his wife was her big breasts and legs, but others say it was her money too. The beauty his committed companion once had as well as the player has long passed away. He admits that the women loved him, but he couldn't love them, because he had no love for self.
The wife seems to be quite content just being in the moment with her player husband while the residue of drugs, sex and rock n roll still remain on her even at seventy plus years old. She is numb to the pain her mate has caused her over the years. She is emotionally spent and so she runs away in her mind whenever one starts to get to close to her personal pain settling with a player for decades. The wife was aware of more than just one of her husband's "When I Need Her" girls. She has long stopped crying and protesting and has settled with the "bad boy" she got mixed up with many years ago.
When I think of the other women, those who knew or didn't know that their lovers were married, I can't help but shiver. They didn't care much about playing second fiddle, being used whenever husbands wanted them and then later disposed. The old player, described previously, wasn't the one contributing much to the cat and mouse game, but the young women were. The man's wardrobe, housing, food, etc. was funded by women. According to the player, he has got it made.
As for the "When I Need Her" girls, well we all know where they stand...on corners, at bars, on therapists' couches, in churches, hospital beds, hiding in closets, and elsewhere wishing/hoping/praying for more than what they settled for.
Nicholl McGuire
The well-dressed gentleman is not what you would consider a sugar daddy or even a rich gentleman--even though his wardrobe is quite deceiving, he is simply an old player. A man with many tricks who knows how to play games with silly, naive women who think they will be taken care of by him. What does love have to do with anything anyway in the player's world? Selfish men and women have agendas. Their arranged meetings, whether secretly or publicly, have little to do with love.
In the case of the mature gentleman, one who has had more than enough travel and sex in his eighty plus years on this planet, the "When I Need Her" Girl of 10 plus years is nothing more than a toy he brings out every now and then. His body is with the wife any other time. The player says what attracted him to his wife was her big breasts and legs, but others say it was her money too. The beauty his committed companion once had as well as the player has long passed away. He admits that the women loved him, but he couldn't love them, because he had no love for self.
The wife seems to be quite content just being in the moment with her player husband while the residue of drugs, sex and rock n roll still remain on her even at seventy plus years old. She is numb to the pain her mate has caused her over the years. She is emotionally spent and so she runs away in her mind whenever one starts to get to close to her personal pain settling with a player for decades. The wife was aware of more than just one of her husband's "When I Need Her" girls. She has long stopped crying and protesting and has settled with the "bad boy" she got mixed up with many years ago.
When I think of the other women, those who knew or didn't know that their lovers were married, I can't help but shiver. They didn't care much about playing second fiddle, being used whenever husbands wanted them and then later disposed. The old player, described previously, wasn't the one contributing much to the cat and mouse game, but the young women were. The man's wardrobe, housing, food, etc. was funded by women. According to the player, he has got it made.
As for the "When I Need Her" girls, well we all know where they stand...on corners, at bars, on therapists' couches, in churches, hospital beds, hiding in closets, and elsewhere wishing/hoping/praying for more than what they settled for.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
Why Did I Start a Blog about Young Women and Older Men...
Sometimes I have to go back to why I even bothered to put this blog together. I mean I didn't have to broadcast anything about subject matter like this, because well you readers know everything, right? Actually you don't and neither do I and so the need for this blog over the years has been necessary.
We think when we meet people that we know so much. We read articles, watch TV, hear
stories, had dating experiences...so we think we can handle almost anything that comes our way when it comes to dating. But can you really when things aren't going so well in your life? Nope. You are left wide open, weak for a thrill. You want a change in routine, something new, fresh, different...I get it. But I don't support it when you already have someone at home that loves/likes you. I'm not encouraging a person of faith to compromise their belief for anyone. It isn't worth losing your anointing. I am definitely not the one who will cheer you on when you are a victim either of a turbulent relationship.
I will say that I absolutely love sharing advice and listening to stories that relate to the content on this blog. You can always learn something new if you are open to receiving. Don't let negative past experiences keep you from growing and loving! I for one am quite content in my lifestyle choice (married older) and look forward to the future. Who knows, maybe I might be a cougar one day--just kidding, but then maybe not, hmmm.
Thanks for reading, keep scrolling and click those ads too--appreciate the support!
Nicholl
We think when we meet people that we know so much. We read articles, watch TV, hear
stories, had dating experiences...so we think we can handle almost anything that comes our way when it comes to dating. But can you really when things aren't going so well in your life? Nope. You are left wide open, weak for a thrill. You want a change in routine, something new, fresh, different...I get it. But I don't support it when you already have someone at home that loves/likes you. I'm not encouraging a person of faith to compromise their belief for anyone. It isn't worth losing your anointing. I am definitely not the one who will cheer you on when you are a victim either of a turbulent relationship.
I will say that I absolutely love sharing advice and listening to stories that relate to the content on this blog. You can always learn something new if you are open to receiving. Don't let negative past experiences keep you from growing and loving! I for one am quite content in my lifestyle choice (married older) and look forward to the future. Who knows, maybe I might be a cougar one day--just kidding, but then maybe not, hmmm.
Thanks for reading, keep scrolling and click those ads too--appreciate the support!
Nicholl
Monday
Feel Left Out? Age Gap Relationships Can be Lonely
He doesn't want to bring you around his relatives or peers because he is uncomfortable with the age difference despite his saying he is okay with it. She doesn't want you attending a family event because males in her family don't approve of you being much older.
So what do age gap couples end up doing when family and friends make them feel uncomfortable at events? They stay home. They say, "Who cares? We don't need them...We love one another." But deep down inside maybe the young woman really wanted to be with her family and maybe the older gentleman desired to spend time with kinfolk.
We don't often hear about the challenges of dating older or younger because the people who are celebrating their new love interests are still quite blinded by sex and beauty. But when tough times show up, they keep their business to themselves.
There is a loneliness that some couples feel when so many family members don't necessarily like their choice in a partner whether old or young. The feeling of being casted out or not liked because of one's actions is not a good feeling especially when you are use to being the favorite in a family.
Age gap relationships can be difficult and lonely at times depending on who you might have connected to like: the selfish, stubborn, angry, controlling or rude types. The frustrations that might arise because one didn't bother to think too deeply about how a partner might feel about relationship concerns can come spilling out between the pair in unusual ways such as: frequent disputes about meaningless things, silent treatment, pouting, passive aggressive behaviors, etc. The fact is that people tend to be more comfortable around folks who are about the same age or a little younger or older. They share many common interests and at times find other things that are attractive about one another.
Watch out for signs that you feel lonely in a May-December romance. Reach out for support. Don't fake interest when there is no longer any in a partner. Make time to think about whether you still want to be in this kind of relationship. Forgive yourself if it doesn't work out and allow yourself some time to reconnect with you before starting another relationship.
Nicholl McGuire
So what do age gap couples end up doing when family and friends make them feel uncomfortable at events? They stay home. They say, "Who cares? We don't need them...We love one another." But deep down inside maybe the young woman really wanted to be with her family and maybe the older gentleman desired to spend time with kinfolk.
We don't often hear about the challenges of dating older or younger because the people who are celebrating their new love interests are still quite blinded by sex and beauty. But when tough times show up, they keep their business to themselves.
There is a loneliness that some couples feel when so many family members don't necessarily like their choice in a partner whether old or young. The feeling of being casted out or not liked because of one's actions is not a good feeling especially when you are use to being the favorite in a family.
Age gap relationships can be difficult and lonely at times depending on who you might have connected to like: the selfish, stubborn, angry, controlling or rude types. The frustrations that might arise because one didn't bother to think too deeply about how a partner might feel about relationship concerns can come spilling out between the pair in unusual ways such as: frequent disputes about meaningless things, silent treatment, pouting, passive aggressive behaviors, etc. The fact is that people tend to be more comfortable around folks who are about the same age or a little younger or older. They share many common interests and at times find other things that are attractive about one another.
Watch out for signs that you feel lonely in a May-December romance. Reach out for support. Don't fake interest when there is no longer any in a partner. Make time to think about whether you still want to be in this kind of relationship. Forgive yourself if it doesn't work out and allow yourself some time to reconnect with you before starting another relationship.
Nicholl McGuire
Monday
Love Dating Older, Younger?
Do you enjoy the laughter of a young, beautiful lady in your presence, mature gentleman? Do you appreciate the maturity of a man who is almost old enough to be your dad? Well, there is nothing wrong with that!
You are a wonderful man or woman who knows what he or she wants and even if you don't you are still learning and growing with each dating experience. With that said, enjoy your life! Now we aren't talking about doing something you might regret, compromising one's personal faith for a cheap thrill, or acting like a complete idiot to win favor with someone. But what we are saying is find the space in your mind and the time in your schedule to really get to know someone. Through the journey, you will also learn some interesting things about you.
Dating online robs many people of the joy of being with someone in a way that really makes you see and feel a person inside and out. Instead, what happens for many the online experience becomes nothing more than a game of cat and mouse that never has a proper ending. Even offline one feels jaded that he or she was used in the moment and then on to the next. Feel empty yet? Do you feel a void in your heart? You probably have dated far too many people or met up sexually with energy vampires.
When one warns to "slow down...take it easy...stop rushing...I don't like to be pressured." they are sending a red alert flag that you are moving too fast. They are letting you know that there is something wrong with your wiring. Dating older or younger was never meant to be something that you turn around in 10 minutes and hope for the best.
Remember why you wanted to date older or younger in the first place? So why speed things up? Besides you can't teach an old dog any new tricks and you can't make a young person settle down who doesn't want to.
Look beyond your personal needs and ask yourself again, "Now why do I love dating older or younger..." Upon closer inspection you will find that there is more to why you do it than meets the eye.
Nicholl McGuire
You are a wonderful man or woman who knows what he or she wants and even if you don't you are still learning and growing with each dating experience. With that said, enjoy your life! Now we aren't talking about doing something you might regret, compromising one's personal faith for a cheap thrill, or acting like a complete idiot to win favor with someone. But what we are saying is find the space in your mind and the time in your schedule to really get to know someone. Through the journey, you will also learn some interesting things about you.Dating online robs many people of the joy of being with someone in a way that really makes you see and feel a person inside and out. Instead, what happens for many the online experience becomes nothing more than a game of cat and mouse that never has a proper ending. Even offline one feels jaded that he or she was used in the moment and then on to the next. Feel empty yet? Do you feel a void in your heart? You probably have dated far too many people or met up sexually with energy vampires.
When one warns to "slow down...take it easy...stop rushing...I don't like to be pressured." they are sending a red alert flag that you are moving too fast. They are letting you know that there is something wrong with your wiring. Dating older or younger was never meant to be something that you turn around in 10 minutes and hope for the best.
Remember why you wanted to date older or younger in the first place? So why speed things up? Besides you can't teach an old dog any new tricks and you can't make a young person settle down who doesn't want to.
Look beyond your personal needs and ask yourself again, "Now why do I love dating older or younger..." Upon closer inspection you will find that there is more to why you do it than meets the eye.
Nicholl McGuire
Monday
Seeking an Older, Wiser, Richer Guy -- Good Luck with That!
You might get a guy who is wiser than the last boyfriend, but not richer. You might get richer, but not wise. You might get okay, but not sexy. Or, you might get nothing, but another headache. So what to do? Accept the poor man for who he is!
You see we live in this world where we think that we can have it all. Sure, you might feel like you won everything you ever wanted in a date, but sooner or later something in your life is going to give you a headache--whether it is that hot guy, his mother, his children, his job or all of the above. Then what? You trade the old man in for a new model, huh? If that is your intention, then you learned from the best, old players out there, and I'm not judging. That's what many of the middle-age guys having a mid-life crisis did with their wives, girlfriends, lovers, and others. But you don't have to be that selfish dame or gold-digger. Rather, you can drive that old guy to his grave a happy man simply by being the best you possibly can inside and out!
You aren't perfect, Sweetheart and neither is he. You aren't always going to look so beautiful and that's okay. As long as you have that love-sick chap wrapped around your finger, then who cares, right? His sister might stir up some hate (hell look at her), his mother will caution (her marriage ain't so great), and his friends (male and female) will show a bit of envy and in the end, you will win whether he leaves you or you leave him...you still got a lot of years ahead of you (that is if your maker doesn't call you home sooner). So enjoy your time with that man you might call your "Sugar daddy," he just might be your meant to be or that wise teacher that will direct you to where you need be. But if not, life goes on, now doesn't it? You can make it whether with him or not.
Nicholl McGuire
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
You see we live in this world where we think that we can have it all. Sure, you might feel like you won everything you ever wanted in a date, but sooner or later something in your life is going to give you a headache--whether it is that hot guy, his mother, his children, his job or all of the above. Then what? You trade the old man in for a new model, huh? If that is your intention, then you learned from the best, old players out there, and I'm not judging. That's what many of the middle-age guys having a mid-life crisis did with their wives, girlfriends, lovers, and others. But you don't have to be that selfish dame or gold-digger. Rather, you can drive that old guy to his grave a happy man simply by being the best you possibly can inside and out!
You aren't perfect, Sweetheart and neither is he. You aren't always going to look so beautiful and that's okay. As long as you have that love-sick chap wrapped around your finger, then who cares, right? His sister might stir up some hate (hell look at her), his mother will caution (her marriage ain't so great), and his friends (male and female) will show a bit of envy and in the end, you will win whether he leaves you or you leave him...you still got a lot of years ahead of you (that is if your maker doesn't call you home sooner). So enjoy your time with that man you might call your "Sugar daddy," he just might be your meant to be or that wise teacher that will direct you to where you need be. But if not, life goes on, now doesn't it? You can make it whether with him or not.
Nicholl McGuire
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
Sunday
Young Woman: Is He Really the Man of Your Dreams?
He is handsome, special, sweet, mature, kind and unique.
But when all the niceties slowly begin to fade away, what do you think you are able to put up with?
Consider the following list:
Snoring.
Talk too much.
Talk too little.
Lies about money.
Doesn't have much.
Isn't divorced.
Too many exes.
Doesn't want children.
Wants children.
Works too much.
Works too little.
Loves sports.
Loves his car.
Laughs loud.
Doesn't laugh enough.
Not generous.
Unloving.
Arrogant.
Rude.
Insincere faith.
Lives in a bubble.
Dull.
Expects you to work much.
Expects you to work little.
Health issues.
Older children.
Secrets.
Substance addictions.
Sex addictions.
Religious.
Selfish....
What you think you might be getting in an older man, may not be what you had in mind.
Once again, can you tolerate the truth? Do you think you are able to go the distance with him?
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