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How Does the Young Woman End Up with an Older Man a Lot Like Dad?
I never planned to date any men who acted like my dad, but yet I found myself in so many ways being attracted to older men who had some or as many of my dad's traits that I could find. I realize now there were "triggers," things I might have liked, wished, or didn't like about my own father, but I didn't know this at the time. On the surface, I could care less about dad's appearance, personal interests, etc. yet someone within me, cared a whole lot!
When the need to want to be close to dad was there, it showed up in the mates I agreed to date. I didn't seek out these men, they came to me which was quite bizarre just how much they reminded me of my dad. So for me, if there is something that I like or I found missing in my life related to my father, I tended to gravitate to it. However, as I mature, I am recognizing this and finding more healthier ways to cope since the truth is, I have no desire in the future to date any more men especially with a large age gap--five years tops! I am married now and I see my dad in some ways.
1. Skin Tone
It all started with skin tone, I personally like my own father's color, so if a guy was similar to his shade, I would be more open to talk to him then someone with a darker skin tone.
2. Occupation and Hobbies
If the man had a background that was close to my dad's like a white collar job, military service, and hobbies that reminded me of him, he also got the VIP treatment. (Mind you, at the time, I didn't knowing that my criteria in meeting someone was based on my dad's lifestyle).
3. Age
I realized that most men who are older are more settled. I didn't experience any hurt growing up such as, a father who ran the streets like a young man, partied, concerned about "his boys" or acted wild. Yet, my experience with younger, unsettled men was just that. They were often uncaring and wasted money. My dad and other older men I knew didn't do this, so the age gap was a plus for me. However, I had a strict upbringing, so I felt comfortable with controlling types which caused me much heartache with one older man.
4. Travel
What was strange was I really wanted men who got out and explored their local areas and elsewhere, yet I kept giving many dates the pass on this who didn't get out much! I would eventually get frustrated with these men. When I reflected back, my dad didn't leave the home to do recreational activities or vacation much either.
5. Communication
I found that when I talked with my dates, I often over did it and I wondered why. I felt like sharing so much of myself with these men. The truth was that at home with my own father, we rarely talked and he spent much time on off days staring at a television screen. So of course, where did I find I had most of my conversations with these dates? Seated next to them while they watched TV with no eye contact. They didn't seem to care too much about what I said, just like my dad.
If you should find that there is much going on with a date that is somehow connected with father blues or daddy issues, know that the young lady really can't help herself. Her dad dropped the ball. She still has more maturing to do so that she can find someone who she likes that doesn't consciously or subsconsciously remind her of her dad. This comes with being exposed to men at work, school, church, and elsewhere. She doesn't have to date much, but she will need to establish friendships in an effort to learn what she likes or doesn't like in men while breaking the wish for having a relationship with her father. Sometimes talking with dad about issues helps quell some childhood woes too. Also, a simple hug can do wonders. But what I will not advise is taking advantage of the wish for daddy's communication, affection and more, becoming like a dad to her. That relationship will soon fizzle especially when she begins to bond with her dad.
As for the young lady, continue to learn more about yourself and your needs and when you recognize you are choosing a mate based on what you did or didn't have with a dad, think deeply and be sure it is a healthy connection.
Nicholl McGuire
When the need to want to be close to dad was there, it showed up in the mates I agreed to date. I didn't seek out these men, they came to me which was quite bizarre just how much they reminded me of my dad. So for me, if there is something that I like or I found missing in my life related to my father, I tended to gravitate to it. However, as I mature, I am recognizing this and finding more healthier ways to cope since the truth is, I have no desire in the future to date any more men especially with a large age gap--five years tops! I am married now and I see my dad in some ways.
1. Skin Tone
It all started with skin tone, I personally like my own father's color, so if a guy was similar to his shade, I would be more open to talk to him then someone with a darker skin tone.
2. Occupation and Hobbies
If the man had a background that was close to my dad's like a white collar job, military service, and hobbies that reminded me of him, he also got the VIP treatment. (Mind you, at the time, I didn't knowing that my criteria in meeting someone was based on my dad's lifestyle).
3. Age
I realized that most men who are older are more settled. I didn't experience any hurt growing up such as, a father who ran the streets like a young man, partied, concerned about "his boys" or acted wild. Yet, my experience with younger, unsettled men was just that. They were often uncaring and wasted money. My dad and other older men I knew didn't do this, so the age gap was a plus for me. However, I had a strict upbringing, so I felt comfortable with controlling types which caused me much heartache with one older man.
4. Travel
What was strange was I really wanted men who got out and explored their local areas and elsewhere, yet I kept giving many dates the pass on this who didn't get out much! I would eventually get frustrated with these men. When I reflected back, my dad didn't leave the home to do recreational activities or vacation much either.
5. Communication
I found that when I talked with my dates, I often over did it and I wondered why. I felt like sharing so much of myself with these men. The truth was that at home with my own father, we rarely talked and he spent much time on off days staring at a television screen. So of course, where did I find I had most of my conversations with these dates? Seated next to them while they watched TV with no eye contact. They didn't seem to care too much about what I said, just like my dad.
If you should find that there is much going on with a date that is somehow connected with father blues or daddy issues, know that the young lady really can't help herself. Her dad dropped the ball. She still has more maturing to do so that she can find someone who she likes that doesn't consciously or subsconsciously remind her of her dad. This comes with being exposed to men at work, school, church, and elsewhere. She doesn't have to date much, but she will need to establish friendships in an effort to learn what she likes or doesn't like in men while breaking the wish for having a relationship with her father. Sometimes talking with dad about issues helps quell some childhood woes too. Also, a simple hug can do wonders. But what I will not advise is taking advantage of the wish for daddy's communication, affection and more, becoming like a dad to her. That relationship will soon fizzle especially when she begins to bond with her dad.
As for the young lady, continue to learn more about yourself and your needs and when you recognize you are choosing a mate based on what you did or didn't have with a dad, think deeply and be sure it is a healthy connection.
Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Still Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Still Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate - The Victi...: "Still here. So unsure. He blames me for his sins, takes everything personally, abandons instead of deals with martial issues (we have...
Monday
Beaten with Fists, Broken with Silent Treatment
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Beaten with Fists, Broken with Silent Treatment: She is the ideal candidate for the controlling man. Formerly abused, the survivor has potential to the man who doesn't have to lift a f...
Wednesday
The Funny Thing about Being with an Older Guy Is...
Nothing! The jokes on you today. Scroll this blog and be enlightened when it comes to older guys dating younger women and vice versa. Thank you much to our supporters!
Saturday
The Wider the Age Gap, The More Things to Consider
Love, friendship, compatible interests, similar goals, money, mental and financial stability, you name it and singles want it all. Some get lucky and others not so much in meeting a partner. Age gap dating is really not that different than dating someone your own age or close to it, but there are some differences.
This issue of age not meaning much only applies if the ages between the younger and older aren't extremely wide. But age is significant when a man is old enough to be the young woman's father twice! These people who love to talk about how age is nothing but a number haven't experienced many relationship differences, but for those who have and see the truth for what it is: He's really too old and she's really too young! So what makes this so?
1. Very little in common spiritually, mentally and physically. Frequent disputes, immaturity and/or substance, emotional or physical abuse.
2. Too little or too much money and an unwillingness to help with basic needs.
3. Worries over things like: gold-digging, family woes with the partner, and jealousy.
4. Employment and education focus -- too many long hours, not enough time spent together.
5. Health concerns that affect sex.
6. Unresolved issues with finances, former partner(s), business etc.
Whether you are the lucky older guy or gal who has landed a great companion or the one struggling in a May December relationship, there are some things to think about when dating older. This blog has many topics that range from age gap dating to dealing with mid-life challenges.
Media reports have shared studies where couples had a hard time staying together when the age gap in a relationship is very wide. The older guy isn't getting any younger and the young woman will not always stay young. So as the pair matures, needs change. What was good five or 10 years ago, isn't anymore. The internal issues of wanting more out of life rather than settling will be there for the young woman who feels the older gentleman didn't make good on his promises or isn't what she had in mind for a partner. The mature man will have his issues with mental and physical compatibility now that he is getting older. These are the facts and as much as some would like to blame everything but age, it is what it is.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
This issue of age not meaning much only applies if the ages between the younger and older aren't extremely wide. But age is significant when a man is old enough to be the young woman's father twice! These people who love to talk about how age is nothing but a number haven't experienced many relationship differences, but for those who have and see the truth for what it is: He's really too old and she's really too young! So what makes this so?
1. Very little in common spiritually, mentally and physically. Frequent disputes, immaturity and/or substance, emotional or physical abuse.
2. Too little or too much money and an unwillingness to help with basic needs.
3. Worries over things like: gold-digging, family woes with the partner, and jealousy.
4. Employment and education focus -- too many long hours, not enough time spent together.
5. Health concerns that affect sex.
6. Unresolved issues with finances, former partner(s), business etc.
Whether you are the lucky older guy or gal who has landed a great companion or the one struggling in a May December relationship, there are some things to think about when dating older. This blog has many topics that range from age gap dating to dealing with mid-life challenges.
Media reports have shared studies where couples had a hard time staying together when the age gap in a relationship is very wide. The older guy isn't getting any younger and the young woman will not always stay young. So as the pair matures, needs change. What was good five or 10 years ago, isn't anymore. The internal issues of wanting more out of life rather than settling will be there for the young woman who feels the older gentleman didn't make good on his promises or isn't what she had in mind for a partner. The mature man will have his issues with mental and physical compatibility now that he is getting older. These are the facts and as much as some would like to blame everything but age, it is what it is.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Friday
No Acting Older Than You Are, Young Women are Watching
Older men, who feel the innate need to feel young again, have this personal issue that a young woman could care less about. As far as she is concerned she just wants to know that you are mentally, physically and financially stable. The last thing she wants to hear about is how forgetful you are getting, how you have an ache here or there, how broke you are, what you don't know, and how you can't get there from here. These are not the kind of things you want to share with a new date!
Older men that often complain about all sorts of things like bills, exes, adult sons and daughters, and long lines at the store are such a bore! Why bother dating young women? Some older men should simply stick to their own age group. These same grumbling men will drop hints about their lack (whether true or not) as well as have other ups and downs that exes already know about and young women will soon discover. The troubled older man would do better talking to their own age group about personal challenges or better yet, seeing a doctor.
Think about this, would any man want to hear a woman nag, cry or moan often about her woman problems? So why would an older man assume a young woman would want to hear about his mid-life woes? Now there are some women who have a heart for male mid-life issues, but others not so much especially those who have been on the fence about dating older men. You can easily turn young women off if you act older than what you are.
There is a fight to stay young if an older man should want to brave dating women with a significant age gap. A man has to have some degree of youth to keep the young woman liking, loving and respecting him. He doesn't have to act like a 20 plus year old, but he should exude the kind of confidence that says, "I enjoy life, having fun, and appreciate my companion."
Older men, who can't keep young women around, are the type who tend not to be happy with themselves much less anyone else. These men have no real desire to stay fit, live unsatisfactory lifestyles, and can't see beyond their personal challenges. It isn't any wonder why some will change partners like they do their undergarments--young women grow weary of grumblers.
It is safe to say that a young woman who sincerely wants a good relationship will stick it out with a man who doesn't make her feel miserable by frequently complaining and acting older than who he is. The last thing a young woman wants is to feel like her youth is quickly passing by because she is with an unhappy older man.
Nicholl McGuire
Older men that often complain about all sorts of things like bills, exes, adult sons and daughters, and long lines at the store are such a bore! Why bother dating young women? Some older men should simply stick to their own age group. These same grumbling men will drop hints about their lack (whether true or not) as well as have other ups and downs that exes already know about and young women will soon discover. The troubled older man would do better talking to their own age group about personal challenges or better yet, seeing a doctor.
Think about this, would any man want to hear a woman nag, cry or moan often about her woman problems? So why would an older man assume a young woman would want to hear about his mid-life woes? Now there are some women who have a heart for male mid-life issues, but others not so much especially those who have been on the fence about dating older men. You can easily turn young women off if you act older than what you are.
There is a fight to stay young if an older man should want to brave dating women with a significant age gap. A man has to have some degree of youth to keep the young woman liking, loving and respecting him. He doesn't have to act like a 20 plus year old, but he should exude the kind of confidence that says, "I enjoy life, having fun, and appreciate my companion."
Older men, who can't keep young women around, are the type who tend not to be happy with themselves much less anyone else. These men have no real desire to stay fit, live unsatisfactory lifestyles, and can't see beyond their personal challenges. It isn't any wonder why some will change partners like they do their undergarments--young women grow weary of grumblers.
It is safe to say that a young woman who sincerely wants a good relationship will stick it out with a man who doesn't make her feel miserable by frequently complaining and acting older than who he is. The last thing a young woman wants is to feel like her youth is quickly passing by because she is with an unhappy older man.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
Bobby Vee - Come Back When You Grow Up Girl
Sometimes it can be hard to say, "Sorry, you are just too young for me..." send a message to the young woman whose mind is simply too immature for you.
Dating Website Owners, Sellers - Do You Have a Blog?
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This blog has been around for almost ten years sharing entertaining and insightful articles and videos about age gap relationships between men and women. Readers have enjoyed the bold content and unique perspectives. If you are a business owner who has yet to create a blog, why bother? Just connect with us. Weekly we are sharing interesting material with singles, couples, and curious people who enjoy reading about May-December romances highs and lows.
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Tips Dating Older...Blogger and Owner
This blog has been around for almost ten years sharing entertaining and insightful articles and videos about age gap relationships between men and women. Readers have enjoyed the bold content and unique perspectives. If you are a business owner who has yet to create a blog, why bother? Just connect with us. Weekly we are sharing interesting material with singles, couples, and curious people who enjoy reading about May-December romances highs and lows.
So feel free to share Tips Dating Older Men, Younger Women with your audience. Simply add a link to your site. Let us know you did and we will be sure to add you to our blog!
Nicholl nichollmcguire@yahoo.com
Tips Dating Older...Blogger and Owner
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Pregnant Young Ladies and Unhappy Older Men Who Love Them then Leave Them
"That wasn't a part of the plan! You told me you were on birth control. Why would you do this to me? You know I have a wife and other responsibilities! You can't have this baby...you wouldn't. Please tell me you wouldn't! Think of what this will do to your life--to us!"
How many older, married men so far this year have been surprised with the news, "I'm pregnant," by young mistresses? What about men, who never wanted children, and others who thought about it, but just didn't want to start their lives all over again? But now they have no choice. "Pregnant, why me?" they think.
Some older men aren't sticking around to even make the connection with their babies. We see evidence of this when we hear of the vast amount of single, young women having babies with no fathers living with them. Hopefully, these young women got enough information about the fathers of their children to meet up with them in family court. These love 'em and leave 'em types move on with lives as if nothing ever happened with their young damsels in distress. Meanwhile, the state pays for their babies and their young women's residences. Now other older men do stick around, but aren't the least bit happy about being dads especially when they are 50 plus and thinking about retirement in their 60s. In time, they too will find a way to love at a distance with or without children, while saying goodbye to young mates.
Men in midlife, who always wanted babies, tend to be happy about their young women being pregnant. But men in midlife, going through a tough time with bodily changes, and who are already fathers are not so happy. They struggle with the idea they got a young woman pregnant, how they look driving a family vehicle, money challenges they face bringing children into the world, and more.
This is why some mature women will warn young ladies to protect themselves. For they know better than most why their husbands strayed, why boyfriends are no longer loyal, and why these women couldn't stand to be with men their own age. Middle-aged, andropausal men can be fickle like menopausal women. The middle years are a strange time for many and they only get more strange for some while newborns cry, toddlers play, and big boys ask, "Why is dad so tired, so slow?"
Nicholl McGuire
How many older, married men so far this year have been surprised with the news, "I'm pregnant," by young mistresses? What about men, who never wanted children, and others who thought about it, but just didn't want to start their lives all over again? But now they have no choice. "Pregnant, why me?" they think.
Some older men aren't sticking around to even make the connection with their babies. We see evidence of this when we hear of the vast amount of single, young women having babies with no fathers living with them. Hopefully, these young women got enough information about the fathers of their children to meet up with them in family court. These love 'em and leave 'em types move on with lives as if nothing ever happened with their young damsels in distress. Meanwhile, the state pays for their babies and their young women's residences. Now other older men do stick around, but aren't the least bit happy about being dads especially when they are 50 plus and thinking about retirement in their 60s. In time, they too will find a way to love at a distance with or without children, while saying goodbye to young mates.
Men in midlife, who always wanted babies, tend to be happy about their young women being pregnant. But men in midlife, going through a tough time with bodily changes, and who are already fathers are not so happy. They struggle with the idea they got a young woman pregnant, how they look driving a family vehicle, money challenges they face bringing children into the world, and more.
This is why some mature women will warn young ladies to protect themselves. For they know better than most why their husbands strayed, why boyfriends are no longer loyal, and why these women couldn't stand to be with men their own age. Middle-aged, andropausal men can be fickle like menopausal women. The middle years are a strange time for many and they only get more strange for some while newborns cry, toddlers play, and big boys ask, "Why is dad so tired, so slow?"
Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Crazy Old Men - Why Do Young Women Bother?
Most young women know a crazy old man when they see him. He might be unattractive, smell funny, move slow, and talk much. These ladies might be polite and respectful to the senior citizen, but the last thing they are interested in is being with him. But then there are some young women who look at the same crazy old man and think, "I wonder if he has a nice house, some money, know a few stars, or has a hot car I can drive?" These women just might put up with crazy at least for awhile to impress friends, increase finances and achieve dreams.
Now some men, who believe that they still "got it" whatever "it" might be to them, won't be surprised that a young lady is taking any interest in them. Most likely, women have told them quite a few nice things over the years about the way they look, how they behave in bed, how they talk, walk, etc. However, older men, who have never had an "it" factor in their youth or in old age, should be concerned why would young women be acting like they are romantically interested in them? Consider also those older men who have mental and health issues who suddenly have a flock of youthful women taking up time with them. Observant sons and daughters of their elderly parent are going to want to know, "What's up with dad and these young women? He's not able to do much...he isn't mentally strong, something isn't right." Most likely, there isn't anything right about what is happening. Adult sons and daughters should investigate.
Sometimes seniors who are beginning to lose their minds will blurt out their personal business. They might alert young women to their money and give them access to their assets in the bank. These irresponsible seniors will offer to assist these young ladies while telling them to keep a lid on it. They wouldn't want sons and daughters older than their lovers to know what dear ole dad has been up to. But a forgetful mind, wasteful living, items going missing in the home, increase in foot traffic at the residence, and secretive behavior on dad's part just might alert relatives to some funny business.
One crazy man, who unfortunately died, had an increase of young women visiting him during his latter years. Neighbors wondered why they were so interested in the unattractive, often broke, older man living in a senior citizen high-rise building. His private life eventually became public, especially after he passed, it turned out that he was using drugs with those young ladies and some were servicing him. He would pay them to bring him the drugs. These ladies would then sit with the old man and get high. The poor man was losing his mind the more he used the drugs while causing further harm to his already bad health. He acted strangely and didn't keep himself up prior to death, but the young addicts didn't care and neighbors said the young women weren't all bad looking either.
Crazy old men in need of love will do just about anything for a bit of attention. With no one around who cares much for them, some end up doing despicable things. Others find themselves in jail after chasing what they thought were young ladies, when in fact were really young girls. But with mature attire, make-up, and what appears to be a fully developed body, who knew? The young girls know how old they are, but due to their immaturity and some of these older men's craziness and desperate acts, the pair will take chances--the kind of risks that might put girls in hospitals and old men in jail.
Nicholl McGuire
Now some men, who believe that they still "got it" whatever "it" might be to them, won't be surprised that a young lady is taking any interest in them. Most likely, women have told them quite a few nice things over the years about the way they look, how they behave in bed, how they talk, walk, etc. However, older men, who have never had an "it" factor in their youth or in old age, should be concerned why would young women be acting like they are romantically interested in them? Consider also those older men who have mental and health issues who suddenly have a flock of youthful women taking up time with them. Observant sons and daughters of their elderly parent are going to want to know, "What's up with dad and these young women? He's not able to do much...he isn't mentally strong, something isn't right." Most likely, there isn't anything right about what is happening. Adult sons and daughters should investigate.
Sometimes seniors who are beginning to lose their minds will blurt out their personal business. They might alert young women to their money and give them access to their assets in the bank. These irresponsible seniors will offer to assist these young ladies while telling them to keep a lid on it. They wouldn't want sons and daughters older than their lovers to know what dear ole dad has been up to. But a forgetful mind, wasteful living, items going missing in the home, increase in foot traffic at the residence, and secretive behavior on dad's part just might alert relatives to some funny business.
One crazy man, who unfortunately died, had an increase of young women visiting him during his latter years. Neighbors wondered why they were so interested in the unattractive, often broke, older man living in a senior citizen high-rise building. His private life eventually became public, especially after he passed, it turned out that he was using drugs with those young ladies and some were servicing him. He would pay them to bring him the drugs. These ladies would then sit with the old man and get high. The poor man was losing his mind the more he used the drugs while causing further harm to his already bad health. He acted strangely and didn't keep himself up prior to death, but the young addicts didn't care and neighbors said the young women weren't all bad looking either.
Crazy old men in need of love will do just about anything for a bit of attention. With no one around who cares much for them, some end up doing despicable things. Others find themselves in jail after chasing what they thought were young ladies, when in fact were really young girls. But with mature attire, make-up, and what appears to be a fully developed body, who knew? The young girls know how old they are, but due to their immaturity and some of these older men's craziness and desperate acts, the pair will take chances--the kind of risks that might put girls in hospitals and old men in jail.
Nicholl McGuire
Wednesday
When the Wealthy Older Man Acts Like a god in the Young Woman's Life
Her parents didn't care much for her, the young woman in need of love begins her quest to gain what she lacked growing up. She stumbles across an older man whether online or offline, someone who can help her mentally, physically and spiritually--at least so she hopes.
Yet, for many young women in search of mates, that they believe will meet their needs, they are left feeling disappointed. Sure, most relationships start off quite wonderful and others remain that way for years, but the unspoken truth with many is that they have resented their decisions in choosing mates. Rather, they wish they would have made wiser choices especially when the older men begin to show their true ages.
What one has to give up in order to gain much can be quite shocking when it comes to dating older wealthy men. Some young women have reduced their lives down to nothing more than being baby makers, maids, baby-sitters, secretaries, workers, investors, mistresses, and more. There is no love in these relationships just expectations. "I do for you, you do for me...and maybe you just might get more."
A young woman who has no faith, no self-esteem, broke physically, and is grappling with all sorts of family issues is easy prey for a man who is also broken mentally, physically and spiritually. Controlling other people's lives makes some men feel complete--they feel like gods answering their followers prayers. They expect to be praised, worshipped and given respect even when these acts are undeserving. These controlling men enjoy not having to answer to anyone. They will not hesitate to put up a fight, whether right or wrong, when it comes to someone or something directing their lives. So a young woman with little education, skill, wisdom, talent, respect for herself, etc. has little, if no influence, on her mature dates.
This is why concerned relatives and friends, who know women in relationships with older men, will advise these young ladies to do things like: focus on school, find a good job, break from a meaningless relationship, relocate, achieve dreams, travel, avoid pregnancy, marriage, and more. Those who have made poor decisions in their lives early on know how difficult it can be to live for self once one commits to marriage and family.
A young woman with little guidance in life will look to whoever is willing to be attentive to her. If that person is offering advice, paying her bills, protecting her, and doing other things while family and friends are often being critical, ignoring her, or showing the poor lady no love, there will always be an older man around looking to get his needs met while meeting hers for a time. Unfortunately, some mature men don't keep up with their end of the bargain. They lie, exaggerate, and do other things that leave a young woman feeling used and abused. Check out Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
Nicholl McGuire
Yet, for many young women in search of mates, that they believe will meet their needs, they are left feeling disappointed. Sure, most relationships start off quite wonderful and others remain that way for years, but the unspoken truth with many is that they have resented their decisions in choosing mates. Rather, they wish they would have made wiser choices especially when the older men begin to show their true ages.
What one has to give up in order to gain much can be quite shocking when it comes to dating older wealthy men. Some young women have reduced their lives down to nothing more than being baby makers, maids, baby-sitters, secretaries, workers, investors, mistresses, and more. There is no love in these relationships just expectations. "I do for you, you do for me...and maybe you just might get more."
A young woman who has no faith, no self-esteem, broke physically, and is grappling with all sorts of family issues is easy prey for a man who is also broken mentally, physically and spiritually. Controlling other people's lives makes some men feel complete--they feel like gods answering their followers prayers. They expect to be praised, worshipped and given respect even when these acts are undeserving. These controlling men enjoy not having to answer to anyone. They will not hesitate to put up a fight, whether right or wrong, when it comes to someone or something directing their lives. So a young woman with little education, skill, wisdom, talent, respect for herself, etc. has little, if no influence, on her mature dates.
This is why concerned relatives and friends, who know women in relationships with older men, will advise these young ladies to do things like: focus on school, find a good job, break from a meaningless relationship, relocate, achieve dreams, travel, avoid pregnancy, marriage, and more. Those who have made poor decisions in their lives early on know how difficult it can be to live for self once one commits to marriage and family.
A young woman with little guidance in life will look to whoever is willing to be attentive to her. If that person is offering advice, paying her bills, protecting her, and doing other things while family and friends are often being critical, ignoring her, or showing the poor lady no love, there will always be an older man around looking to get his needs met while meeting hers for a time. Unfortunately, some mature men don't keep up with their end of the bargain. They lie, exaggerate, and do other things that leave a young woman feeling used and abused. Check out Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
Nicholl McGuire
Tuesday
College Students in the Dark When it Comes to Abusive Dates
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: College Students in the Dark When it Comes to Abus...: The last thing that is on the mind of a college student is a violent boyfriend or girlfriend. He or she is far too busy with studies and e...
Monday
Does She Really Love Her Sugar Daddy?
When does a Sugar Baby reach a point in the mutually beneficial arrangement that she is strongly considering a long-term partnership with her older beau? The young woman has a lot to learn if she intends on maintaining some sort of arrangement with the gentleman.
Young women, who desire to get more out of their Sugar Daddy, Sugar Baby arrangement, will act in ways that might later cause a breakup. For a needy young woman, the innate passions such as: wanting to feel special, a hope of getting married, and the thought of having a baby will begin to suffocate the simplicity of just being available to a Sugar Daddy.
"I want more," she cries. Just like a father, a Sugar Daddy will calm the young lady with words, gifts, and promises. However, none of what he is doing will fulfill the void within. A woman with unfulfilled dreams, no faith, unresolved issues, personality disorders, and money woes is like an open wound that never heals. Place a Band-Aid on her and she will bleed to death.
One, who is in a Sugar Daddy arrangement, typically knows that love is one of those emotions that tends to come out of nowhere. Depending on the kind of friend one might have, will determine whether the arrangement ever becomes a relationship. Some Sugar Babies have to keep feelings hidden or otherwise risk losing it all. Some Sugar Dads simply don't want to be connected or controlled by anything that sounds even a little bit like love. Since most Sugar Daddies are involved with more than one woman, it will be difficult (almost impossible) to pen one down and keep him down.
Love feelings may be sincere or may not be between friends. Sometimes being treated and spoiled with gifts and sex gives an illusion that one is in love, when the truth is one is in infatuation. He or she might not be interested in living together, seeing one another daily, or planning a future. If this is the case, love just wouldn't describe temporal emotions, but lust would.
Nicholl McGuire also maintains the blog, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Young women, who desire to get more out of their Sugar Daddy, Sugar Baby arrangement, will act in ways that might later cause a breakup. For a needy young woman, the innate passions such as: wanting to feel special, a hope of getting married, and the thought of having a baby will begin to suffocate the simplicity of just being available to a Sugar Daddy.
"I want more," she cries. Just like a father, a Sugar Daddy will calm the young lady with words, gifts, and promises. However, none of what he is doing will fulfill the void within. A woman with unfulfilled dreams, no faith, unresolved issues, personality disorders, and money woes is like an open wound that never heals. Place a Band-Aid on her and she will bleed to death.
One, who is in a Sugar Daddy arrangement, typically knows that love is one of those emotions that tends to come out of nowhere. Depending on the kind of friend one might have, will determine whether the arrangement ever becomes a relationship. Some Sugar Babies have to keep feelings hidden or otherwise risk losing it all. Some Sugar Dads simply don't want to be connected or controlled by anything that sounds even a little bit like love. Since most Sugar Daddies are involved with more than one woman, it will be difficult (almost impossible) to pen one down and keep him down.
Love feelings may be sincere or may not be between friends. Sometimes being treated and spoiled with gifts and sex gives an illusion that one is in love, when the truth is one is in infatuation. He or she might not be interested in living together, seeing one another daily, or planning a future. If this is the case, love just wouldn't describe temporal emotions, but lust would.
Nicholl McGuire also maintains the blog, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Thursday
If You Feel Bored in a Relationship, then You Should Stay and Think
If You Feel Bored in a Relationship, then You Should Stay and Think Don't be so quick to make a move just because you are bored. Article provides useful things to help you reach a conclusion whether it is indeed boredom or something else.
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