Sunday

Why He Doesn't Keep Any Young Ladies

Some men change women like they do underwear.  No one ever bothers to think, "What's up with this guy? "  They simply go on whatever he tells them about this young woman and that one.  But the truth is, many of these handsome players have problems!  From erection issues to personality disorders, there are some things seen and unseen that are simply wrong with them.  Sometimes there are those young women who just aren't any good to date because they too have issues, but when one sees a mature man frequently dating, never committing, while often blaming, you have to wonder.

I thought of the middle-aged men in my own family who were often paired up with gullible young women.  These pretty dames were indeed a sight for sore eyes and appeared to have their lives together.  They had good jobs, nice residences, reliable transportation, and some money in the bank.  I would think, "What is it about some of my older relatives these young ladies find attractive?"  Once the newness of their relationships wore off, these aging men were exposed for the cheaters and liars that they were.  I say past tense, because many are now deceased.  But I learned, while they lived, that rather than face their personal demons, they ran from them by running into the arms of young women while they re-created a young looking lifestyle. 

The young women were mere distractions in the lives of these miserable, angry men who knew how to act the good guy role in order to get what they wanted.  When things didn't work emotionally or physically in previous relationships, the old was replaced with the new.  These men, who enjoyed acting prideful and boasting about what little they had, believed that an "upgrade...a pretty new face who didn't talk much...a young woman with a job...someone who liked to have sex alot and go places..." is all they needed and they would be okay.  But they were never okay.  Many contracted sexual diseases and many others had grew weary behind closed doors, so I had heard.  Some had mental issues that were never prayed away or dealt with--deep inside they were very unhappy.  

The typical relationship disagreements would show up and my male relatives would show out.  Some young women were left with two black-eyes while others were scarred with bad names on their minds and hearts.  Those that managed to get away before things got too bad, recalled sad times when their past lovers had little, if anything, meaningful to say to them.  My single, older male relatives realized before their deaths that young, attractive women had their own minds nowadays.  They couldn't be easily controlled.  These young ladies weren't afraid to speak up about what bothered them.  This sort of behavior was a deal breaker for some of these troubled, older men in mid-life, who didn't mind spending a few dollars here and there, while expecting money and gifts in return from their young lovers.  These mature men had very little patience and often became easily irritated when the young women in their lives talked too long, shopped too long, and stuck around too long!

As much as many older men would love to look at everyone and everything as being a thorn in their sides, the reality is that these troubled men who spent their lives chasing tail, so to speak, are really angry at themselves for not doing much more with their lives.

Protect the females in your family who seek father figures, show them that all that is older isn't necessarily better.

Nicholl McGuire

Monday

The Narcissistic Relationship - Its Not You


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Tempted to Strike Back? The Abused Older Guy and His Crazy Young Girlfriend

Young, fiesty, and strong, the young woman hit her older partner for the third time this week.  He cursed at her each time, threatened to beat her down if she hit him again, and so she did and then again and again while kicking him with her high-heel shoes.  The thought of going to jail flashed through the man's mind.  "I'm too old for this," he thought.  His girlfriend got away with being physically abusive yet again.  He waited until she calmed down then asked her to leave.  She yelled, cried, and made promises not to do it again.  The older gentleman was fed up!

No matter how beautiful, talented, or how much you invested in the young woman, no man deserves to be abused!  You might feel ashamed, angry, depressed, or even bitter, but keeping this toxic woman around will only get worse.  Some men, who have suffered abuse like black and blue marks on their faces to bites in undisclosed locations, have kept episodes of abuse silent.  Instead, they drink alcohol or use drugs to numb their pain.  Others will find calmer women to date while keeping the "crazy b#tch" around.

If you are in a bad relationship right now or are attempting to recover from one, there are helpful resources as follows:

Battered Men: Men's Personal Stories http://www.batteredmen.com/gjdvstor.htm

Hidden Hurt for Men in the UK http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/male_victims_of_domestic_violence.html

Web MD: Help for Battered Men http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/help-for-battered-men

For more useful websites go here.

Nicholl McGuire also maintains a blog entitled, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate, see here.

Sunday

No Love, Just Sex - She Knows You are Living Out a Fantasy

For some young, single women, busy with careers and their social lives, they really aren't interested in a serious relationship despite what some older men might think.  Although there are those mature men who are all-too-eager to bed, wed, or share their wealth with beautiful young women, some of these ladies just aren't interested no matter what you promise or do for them.

There is no need trying to rack one's brain trying to figure out why some of these women, don't want a steady, older boyfriend.  Educated women know about things like: andropause, adultery, jealousy, former partners, adult sons and daughters, and other challenges that come with dating someone older and they just can't imagine being with an older man long-term. 

Mature men, who consider themselves still young physically and mentally, just can't fathom why they can't seem to connect with certain young women.  Instead of taking rejection personally, accept the fact that some women, whether old or young, just aren't going to want anything more than a brief conversation, possibly sex, and so life goes on. 

Some men have a need to relive a time in their lives where they were sought after and someone genuinely loved them, but things change.  Whatever an older gentleman once had in his previous life with someone else, far too many life disappointments have a way of tarnishing what once was and so for some men, they chase a dream of what could be.  Rather than facing  reality, some older singles create a fantasy in their minds with someone younger while hoping to relive emotions from their youth.  They seek to find someone special and when they do, they plan to tie her down, so to speak. 

Young women can detect when a man is desperate to find and keep a fantasy; therefore, these discerning women might give up sex, but not much else.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love Myself and writes articles about a wide variety of subjects including family challenges.     

No Sugar-Coating the Truth: Married and Dating The Father's Daughter

A parent has every right to be concerned when it comes to his twenty-something daughter being approached by a man his own age or older.  Let's face it, with so many music videos, television series, movies, and other media marketing young, fit, attractive looking women, an older man is going to flirt with the idea of dating a younger woman at some point in his life.

These young women that we see holding hands with rich men, old enough to be their fathers, are daughters.  Somehow something went amiss personally for these young women; therefore, that older partner, who spends time with his young lover, is fulfilling a void or many voids that men her own age just can't do for her.  From a workaholic father to an alcoholic one, the daughter who has grown up with these type of male figures, want to experience love and she just might not care who or what it comes from.  Age and looks mean nothing to a young woman desperate to find love.

Unfortunately for the married, older women, who are working hard to keep their mature partners with them, the competition can be fierce and get quite ugly when one has been jilted by a cheating partner for many years.  The young woman just might find herself in a situation where she will need the help from parents, counselors, and others, because she got in over her head when involving herself with a married man.  

These wayward, married spouses or single men in temporary relationships sometimes find themselves conversing with younger women in the hopes that they find them attractive enough to be more than friends.  When in the presence of a beautiful woman, some men forget about the responsibilities that await them at home.  Finding young women, who actually like these older men, is like a dream come true for them.  An older man might recall his youthful days when a certain type of girl or woman was out of his league, but now that he is successful, he might reason that the risk far outweighs everything else.  "If only I could have her..." he tells himself. 

For some of these young, niave women they become nothing more than prey.  They aren't necessarily wife material.  They aren't emotionally mature for a relationship.  They have little money to handle existing responsibilities much less be a partner's helpmate.  All of which a father knows about his daughters.  These immature youthful women lack understanding on what it truly means to be in a committed relationship.  They are also ill-equipped when it comes to looking beyond self and making sacrifices.  However, when it comes to bedroom experiences and being a mature man's companion, they typically don't fall short.  This is what drives a father and any other male the young woman is connected to crazy!  The thought that an old man is sleeping with their young daughter/niece/cousin creeps some mature men out!  In their minds, they can't imagine sleeping with a young woman.  It isn't any wonder why some older men find it difficult even impossible to have any relationship with a select young woman.  No matter what you say or do, you will never be good enough for a father's daughter especially if your intentions are temporal or with hidden motives.

I must admit in my personal life, I have been influenced by well-meaning family members and friends who wanted nothing but the best for me even if it meant selling one's soul, so to speak.  If more family members would motivate these young daughters to make wiser decisions when it comes to dating, not just for financial reasons, but also for deep, moral convictions, maybe there wouldn't be so many young women making themselves available to older, married men.

Nicholl McGuire



  

Saturday

Sugar Baby Owed Her Sugar Daddy, Killed Her Husband

A Sugar Baby from Arizona met her Sugar Daddy on an online website.  The man had loaned her over $300,000.  When it was time to pay him back, this Sugar Baby decided to create an insurance scheme where she murders her husband, receives money from the policy, and then would pay off her loan to the Sugar Daddy.  Of course, her plan of making up false stories of abuse against the husband as well as another story about her husband being attacked by a stranger, etc. didn't pan out and now she is sentenced to life.  The wife killed her husband with a hammer. (Link no longer active, article appeared on Yahoo news).

Evidently, the Sugar Baby didn't want to have the typical mutually beneficial relationship that most Sugar Daddy and Sugar Baby arrangements are made of.  Why enter into a loan agreement when she knew she didn't have the money to begin with?  Why would a Sugar Daddy even go along with such an agreement?  He was aware of the woman's plan to do away with her husband.

If there is any takeaway from this tragic story is don't promise anything that you can't payback or give up.  Maybe the woman reasoned a loan would be better than having to sleep with the Sugar Daddy since she was married.  However, what could have been a simple agreement or no agreement at all ended up costing a man his life.

Nicholl McGuire

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Sunday

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Why looks don't matter?
 

Having Sex with Younger or Older Partner Just Because...

The couple was head over heels in love with one another when they first met some years ago, but now, not so much.  You see, she experienced far too many disappointing moments with the man who she calls, "Sugar Daddy."  She had hoped that maybe the relationship would have matured by now.  But he and she aren't interested in anything more than sex these days.

What appeared to be so right, ended up so wrong when the young woman finally realized she bit more off than she could chew by involving herself with an older man decades older than she.  He too, thought that being with his younger partner was a bit too much for him to handle mentally and physically, yet he pressed on with the relationship anyway.

Now the pair are nothing more than periodic sex partners with very few common interests.  They just don't have that "spark" for one another anymore--they have grown apart.  Yet, the sex keeps them connected, at least for the time being, until one or both insults the other in a dispute, then off they go taking a sabbatical away from one another in minds and sometimes with feet too--that is until "missing you" feelings draw them back together again.  On the outside looking in, witnesses might describe the couple as "pathetic, weak, dysfunctional..." but it works for them now.

If your relationship with an older or younger partner is somewhat like what has been described, then you just might want to begin to emotionally and physically set yourself free if the situation is causing you misery.  Why dump your personal frustrations and dislike on to someone who isn't going to change his or her lifestyle or behaviors to suit you?  Move on. 

Nicholl McGuire shares more relationship advice at:  Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate. 

Saturday

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Fine-Looking, Funny and Unforgettable: The Special Older Man

An average looking older man might have that stunning, younger woman on his arm, but he didn't get her without being that guy who holds her interest.  He might have found some ways to enhance some physical features that made the young woman say, "Well, he may not be the best-looking man, but he sure has some fine-looking qualities about him."

A man with a great personality knows how to make the young women laugh and say the kinds of things that make him unforgettable.  He doesn't take himself too seriously and isn't interested in being right all the time when conversing with others.  He takes criticism in stride whether helpful or not.    In addition, he doesn't care to control the people who are in his presence and is careful not to hurt feelings. He prefers to win friends, rather than make enemies.  For an older man, such as the one described, it may have taken him years to get it together in mind, body and spirit, but once he arrived, he took advantage of his opportunities.  Now he isn't a perfect man, far from it, but he knows that in order to live his best life, he must do the kind of things that not only benefit him, but others too.

Many young men haven't quite grasped the concept of developing one's self in mind, body and spirit.  They may choose one or the other, usually the part of self that is going to make them the most money, and then worry about the others when they are too old, broke, busted, and disgusted to do much.  Vibrant, smart, and beautiful women look out for the man who makes them laugh, is easy on their eyes, and has some attributes about them that make him unforgettable.

The best advice a mature man could takeaway from this blog post today is, do the best you can for you (physically, mentally and spiritually).  Know what your weaknesses are and address them before someone has to point them out to you.  Work hard to build yourself up especially after years of being beaten down from angry people, bad investments, fast living, and a poor diet.  When you are at that place in your life where you can feel good about you inside and out, then others will take notice and want to be around you.

Nicholl McGuire

Sunday

You Can Date a Younger Woman...

Who said that because you are in your 40s, 50s, 60s plus that you can't/shouldn't/won't date anyone younger?  Life just got interesting for many older men who have met younger women.  Until these youthful beauties came into their lives, many settled.  They went along with someone their own age or older only to regret it.  Many of these men, young at heart, knew they weren't attracted to their older partners like they were younger women, but because of the people around them putting their personal beliefs off on them and the worry of "what will my parents/brothers/sisters think" they stuck a relationship out with someone they should have never dated/married.

So many older women going through a tough menopausal experience wonder why their partners are behaving rudely, acting as if they don't want to be in relationships with them anymore while never bothering to think, "My spouse has changed.  He has grown weary of being in a relationship with me...He has moved on..."  Instead, some women so desperate to keep a man, any man, will let them play.  Play with this woman and that one until their men fall in love with their younger lovers or get them pregnant.  Now what?

Any older man, rich or poor, sweet or sour can date a younger woman if he knows how to relate to her, but can these men love them--truly fall head over heels in love with them?  Can you honestly treat her like a potential wife?  That is the question.  If worries keep you up at night, the thought that you have walked away from an older partner that you might still love or you feel uneasy about committing to a younger woman, then dating younger is just not for you.  Only the strong survive in these age gap relationships.  Yes, the young woman will be tempted by men her own age, older or younger.  Yes, the young woman might want you to commit to her and have a family.  Yes, the young woman might have daddy issues and you might be the solution to her problems.  But whatever your worry/fear, you will have to override it if you want to catch and keep a quality young woman.

The age difference does play a part at some point in the relationship between younger and older.  A man may not want anymore children, yet his young partner does.  He may have some health issues that put a damper on their sex life, and she may be in her prime.  Problems will surface, but it is up to the couple to find a way to alleviate as many challenges as possible.

Think about what you most want to do when it comes to relationships.  If you are serious about being with a young woman (notice I didn't say many women), then let it be known to her and those who matter in your life.

Nicholl McGuire
  

Saturday

Age Gap Dating: Is the Young Woman the Needy and Greedy Type?

The rich gentleman was there when no one else was in the young woman's life.  He gave her things that no one else had.  He said things that no else ever said to her.  The young woman adores her older beau.  She is very appreciative of him and does her part to ensure that he will always be in her life.  However, the young woman can be too needy and greedy for her own good.

Often requesting her mature mate buy her things, the young lady doesn't do too much for herself like she once did.  She has grown dependent on her date to meet her needs.  Once the rich professional completes his date's list, she has created yet another for him to do.  By the time, the older man realizes how much he has done for his young partner, and for how long, he is already head over heels in love.

Some young women take advantage of older men because these men allow them to become dependent on them while encouraging greedy behavior.  They say things like, "Get whatever you like...do you need anything else?  Would you like to get another...?"  They turn the appreciative, stable-minded young woman into an ungrateful, moody brat who cries when she doesn't get her way.  To stop such behavior, one must teach or re-teach the young woman to become more independent.  She must build a life of her own especially if she has no plans on being with her older friend for always. 

The mature man might not want to keep the young woman around in the future, so it would make sense to begin to cut down or cut off the money and gifts being given to her depending on the status of the relationship and the agreement between the couple.

As with most May-December relationships, one will have to determine are the age difference challenges worth staying together.  The wealthy man must take control of the need and greed before it suffocates what contentment is left in the relationship.

Nicholl McGuire

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