If You Feel Bored in a Relationship, then You Should Stay and Think Don't be so quick to make a move just because you are bored. Article provides useful things to help you reach a conclusion whether it is indeed boredom or something else.
Thursday
Getting a Divorce to Be with the Young Lady
Your secret is safe with me, I'm not telling. But the issue of divorce is something that many of us faced in the past. The thoughts came into mind soon after the holidays came to an end and then by spring the paperwork was delivered. For any number of reasons men and women say, goodbye to the past and hello to the future.
It may appear as if things are just great once the decision is reached to discontinue a current relationship. However, some people just don't understand that when people warn, "The grass isn't greener..." they mean it. It starts off a plush green, but in time it wears out, gets old and turns yellow. Without turning the grass over, planting some new seed, and maintaining the ground, there will be no plush green grass anymore. Instead, there will be holes, bald spots, bugs, and an unsightly look left behind. Isn't this partly the reason why the marriage grew stale in the first place? Off to go explore new pasture.
A young lady can be nice, sexy, smart, and special, but one must remember she is young. One day she is going to realize just how good-looking and intelligent she is and how much life she has in front of her. She will want to see what more is out there. No matter what she says, her heart will eventually tell her different. Why take a risk with a wishy-washy young person if a marriage might be saved?
Far too many men have prematurely ended savable marriages only to later find that if only they had been more focused on what was happening on the home-front and less distracted from what was at work, in the parking lot, on the computer screen, or at the local business maybe a wife would still be around.
Divorce has long-lasting effects while sexy and sex is temporal. Be sure that you are willing to take care of your ex and the young lady, because both will be expecting something sooner or later that starts with a dollar sign and ends with zeros.
Nicholl McGuire
It may appear as if things are just great once the decision is reached to discontinue a current relationship. However, some people just don't understand that when people warn, "The grass isn't greener..." they mean it. It starts off a plush green, but in time it wears out, gets old and turns yellow. Without turning the grass over, planting some new seed, and maintaining the ground, there will be no plush green grass anymore. Instead, there will be holes, bald spots, bugs, and an unsightly look left behind. Isn't this partly the reason why the marriage grew stale in the first place? Off to go explore new pasture.
A young lady can be nice, sexy, smart, and special, but one must remember she is young. One day she is going to realize just how good-looking and intelligent she is and how much life she has in front of her. She will want to see what more is out there. No matter what she says, her heart will eventually tell her different. Why take a risk with a wishy-washy young person if a marriage might be saved?
Far too many men have prematurely ended savable marriages only to later find that if only they had been more focused on what was happening on the home-front and less distracted from what was at work, in the parking lot, on the computer screen, or at the local business maybe a wife would still be around.
Divorce has long-lasting effects while sexy and sex is temporal. Be sure that you are willing to take care of your ex and the young lady, because both will be expecting something sooner or later that starts with a dollar sign and ends with zeros.
Nicholl McGuire
Tuesday
When the Young Woman is Rude, Restless and Miserable
The writing is on the wall, she isn't much interested in her older partner like she once was. The young woman talks rudely to him whether behind closed doors or in the public. She often feels bored in the relationship. In addition, her date has a good way of making her feel miserable when she is with him frequently complaining about something, acting critical of her, and showing well, his age.
The older man may not care too much about the way his lady friend feels since she still has sex with him every now and then. But in time, he is going to grow weary of his date's negative attitude and may end the relationship--that is if she doesn't do it first.
When the young woman reaches a point of no return in an age gap relationship, it's not so much that she hates the man she is with, but she is disappointed at the change that has taken place between them. Older men don't remain the same, they age and so do young women.
What use to be fun, unique and interesting a year or more ago may not be anymore for any number of factors between the couple. One would have to sit down with his or her partner to find out what has happened--that is if you still want to be in the relationship.
Nicholl McGuire also contributes to a dating blog here.
The older man may not care too much about the way his lady friend feels since she still has sex with him every now and then. But in time, he is going to grow weary of his date's negative attitude and may end the relationship--that is if she doesn't do it first.
When the young woman reaches a point of no return in an age gap relationship, it's not so much that she hates the man she is with, but she is disappointed at the change that has taken place between them. Older men don't remain the same, they age and so do young women.
What use to be fun, unique and interesting a year or more ago may not be anymore for any number of factors between the couple. One would have to sit down with his or her partner to find out what has happened--that is if you still want to be in the relationship.
Nicholl McGuire also contributes to a dating blog here.
Wednesday
When Some Older Men are Tired and Lazy
Some mature men are very energetic, pleasant to be around and enjoy having fun with younger people. These men will admit that young people make them feel alive. However, there are those older men who avoid young people like a plague. They aren't very much interested in dating women with young children, don't bother to take much time up with their own sons and daughters and younger relatives. They enjoy time alone watching favorite sports on television without feeling obligated to entertain anyone but themselves.
Sometimes the older man, who doesn't have much of a life, believes that by connecting with a young woman things will get better--become more interesting, but this isn't always the case. For some men, they regret their decisions choosing younger women to date. They come to the realization that having an imagined fun life, really ends up being more work than anticipated and costs much money. An older man, who is often tired, lazy and hoards his money, doesn't make for a good partner. Both mature and younger women actually regret landing these types.
Being overweight and having low-T has a lot to do with why some men are not as energetic as they once were. Unfortunately, some lost wives due to being fat--imagine having someone much larger than you attempting to make love to you or smelling an out of control body odor? It isn't any wonder that some divorce. Then throw in a mood disorder and boredom, an older man with these issues aren't going to win and keep friends for long. These men are typically uninterested in life beyond the television screen and music.
When a man is miserable and doesn't like himself much, he will lash out at anyone who points the finger at his weaknesses. Rather than deal with the problems that are creating more problems, he will cast blame, act as if he has done nothing wrong in a previous relationship, and go about his routines oblivious to those around him.
If a young woman happens to be involved with a man she deems old, tired and lazy, it would be best to distance herself from the troubled man when he refuses to address issues. Of course, we all are getting older, but some age pretty well and are a joy to be around, while others are often angry and want nothing more than a comfy chair, a cool beverage, and a huge television screen.
Nicholl McGuire
Sometimes the older man, who doesn't have much of a life, believes that by connecting with a young woman things will get better--become more interesting, but this isn't always the case. For some men, they regret their decisions choosing younger women to date. They come to the realization that having an imagined fun life, really ends up being more work than anticipated and costs much money. An older man, who is often tired, lazy and hoards his money, doesn't make for a good partner. Both mature and younger women actually regret landing these types.
Being overweight and having low-T has a lot to do with why some men are not as energetic as they once were. Unfortunately, some lost wives due to being fat--imagine having someone much larger than you attempting to make love to you or smelling an out of control body odor? It isn't any wonder that some divorce. Then throw in a mood disorder and boredom, an older man with these issues aren't going to win and keep friends for long. These men are typically uninterested in life beyond the television screen and music.
When a man is miserable and doesn't like himself much, he will lash out at anyone who points the finger at his weaknesses. Rather than deal with the problems that are creating more problems, he will cast blame, act as if he has done nothing wrong in a previous relationship, and go about his routines oblivious to those around him.
If a young woman happens to be involved with a man she deems old, tired and lazy, it would be best to distance herself from the troubled man when he refuses to address issues. Of course, we all are getting older, but some age pretty well and are a joy to be around, while others are often angry and want nothing more than a comfy chair, a cool beverage, and a huge television screen.
Nicholl McGuire
Tuesday
Young Woman: Do You Really Want a Rich Man?
What are you willing to give up to get a rich man? If anyone ever told you that there is nothing you must sacrifice in order to be with a successful man, think again, young woman!
Whether a man has a six figure income, inherited wealth, or just manages his money well, for him to be willing to share what he has earned, he has to know that he is going to get something (more than just sex) from his partner. The kind of some "things" that will motivate him enough to generously hand over a portion of his money to his young lover/girlfriend/wife. Yet, the truth is that many successful types maintain their wealth, not because they enjoy distributing it, but because they love saving or worse hoarding it!
So along comes a young lady who thinks that she is going to swindle a man out of his money, play a game better than him, or sweet talk him into sharing his assets. She just might do well persuading him to give her a donation or two, but of course at some point, the rich man is going to catch on to her gaming and in time, he will be expecting more than a trophy for a partner and legs spread wide. Whatever that something is she just might find herself compromising her morals--that is if she has any.
Most women who landed wealthy men did something along the way to catch and keep that man. Maybe the young lady didn't have to disrobe, but she did have to show and prove that she was a worthy partner. Manipulating others, pretending to love her rich man, helping him with his projects, offering financial support to her mate for a time (even though he is rich), housing him, making meals, tending to his needs, assisting with his children, meeting the needs of older parents...there are no free lunches when it comes to some young women partnering with older, rich men.
Mature women, who have been with well-to-do gentlemen far longer than most young women who have been on this planet, will speak of a long list of things they had to put up with in order to keep their, at times, insensitive, grouchy, and downright evil partners.
1. Lie for their rich men even though they wanted to tell the truth to others about them.
2. Pretend as if their men never emotionally, physically or spiritually abused them.
3. Put off personal needs to tend to their mates endeavors.
4. Enlist the help (or otherwise take advantage) of others to save their men money and time.
5. Experience emotional turmoil because a mate wanted to have sex with other women.
6. Forget about past indiscretions if they wanted to keep the peace at home.
7. Act as if everything is mentally, physically and spiritually alright with their rich partners when they know different.
These are only seven of many things partners of rich men have undergone to maintain decades long relationships. A woman who doesn't have tough-skin, has problems with working indoors and outdoors (sometimes the home isn't going to include a maid and a gardener), has issue with lying to protect a wealthy man's reputation, money, power status, etc. is not going to do well with a rich man.
Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it and when you do, will you be able to handle it?
Nicholl McGuire
Whether a man has a six figure income, inherited wealth, or just manages his money well, for him to be willing to share what he has earned, he has to know that he is going to get something (more than just sex) from his partner. The kind of some "things" that will motivate him enough to generously hand over a portion of his money to his young lover/girlfriend/wife. Yet, the truth is that many successful types maintain their wealth, not because they enjoy distributing it, but because they love saving or worse hoarding it!
So along comes a young lady who thinks that she is going to swindle a man out of his money, play a game better than him, or sweet talk him into sharing his assets. She just might do well persuading him to give her a donation or two, but of course at some point, the rich man is going to catch on to her gaming and in time, he will be expecting more than a trophy for a partner and legs spread wide. Whatever that something is she just might find herself compromising her morals--that is if she has any.
Most women who landed wealthy men did something along the way to catch and keep that man. Maybe the young lady didn't have to disrobe, but she did have to show and prove that she was a worthy partner. Manipulating others, pretending to love her rich man, helping him with his projects, offering financial support to her mate for a time (even though he is rich), housing him, making meals, tending to his needs, assisting with his children, meeting the needs of older parents...there are no free lunches when it comes to some young women partnering with older, rich men.
Mature women, who have been with well-to-do gentlemen far longer than most young women who have been on this planet, will speak of a long list of things they had to put up with in order to keep their, at times, insensitive, grouchy, and downright evil partners.
1. Lie for their rich men even though they wanted to tell the truth to others about them.
2. Pretend as if their men never emotionally, physically or spiritually abused them.
3. Put off personal needs to tend to their mates endeavors.
4. Enlist the help (or otherwise take advantage) of others to save their men money and time.
5. Experience emotional turmoil because a mate wanted to have sex with other women.
6. Forget about past indiscretions if they wanted to keep the peace at home.
7. Act as if everything is mentally, physically and spiritually alright with their rich partners when they know different.
These are only seven of many things partners of rich men have undergone to maintain decades long relationships. A woman who doesn't have tough-skin, has problems with working indoors and outdoors (sometimes the home isn't going to include a maid and a gardener), has issue with lying to protect a wealthy man's reputation, money, power status, etc. is not going to do well with a rich man.
Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it and when you do, will you be able to handle it?
Nicholl McGuire
Thursday
When the Family Accepts Younger Woman Dating Older Guy
He made it through the series of tests! The family really liked that guy who is 10 plus years older than their young daughter, niece, sister, cousin...Good for him! But the trial is not over, it's just beginning!
As long as the older guy dates the younger woman, there will always be someone or a group in the family that will be keeping one eye on that man who claims to love/like their young relative. The day he says one cross word or puts his hand on their little girl and she goes back to report to her family about the episode, just might be the day that he can forget coming back around the family.
Although some relatives might be okay with the arrangement publicly, behind closed doors they are having the "If he does anything..." kind of conversation. Remember, the relatives don't love or appreciate that man like his partner does. As far as they are concerned, he is a fly by night romance with mid-life issues.
Meanwhile, those relatives, who are genuinely happy for the couple, will not hesitate to invite them over for future events. It is up to the older guy and his young partner to pick and choose which events are worth attending. Too much hanging around the family isn't always good and so the old adage goes, familiarity breeds contempt. Therefore, take some time away from relatives and love from a distance if you want your relationship to go the distance!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.
As long as the older guy dates the younger woman, there will always be someone or a group in the family that will be keeping one eye on that man who claims to love/like their young relative. The day he says one cross word or puts his hand on their little girl and she goes back to report to her family about the episode, just might be the day that he can forget coming back around the family.
Although some relatives might be okay with the arrangement publicly, behind closed doors they are having the "If he does anything..." kind of conversation. Remember, the relatives don't love or appreciate that man like his partner does. As far as they are concerned, he is a fly by night romance with mid-life issues.
Meanwhile, those relatives, who are genuinely happy for the couple, will not hesitate to invite them over for future events. It is up to the older guy and his young partner to pick and choose which events are worth attending. Too much hanging around the family isn't always good and so the old adage goes, familiarity breeds contempt. Therefore, take some time away from relatives and love from a distance if you want your relationship to go the distance!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.
Wednesday
Age Gap Dating - When is it a Good Time to Stick with Your Own Age?
You will know when it is a better to remain friendly with someone older or younger when your mind and body are in agreement. There is just no shaking that feeling that says, "Keep away from them!"
Many young women may have started off talking about how great their older dates were when things were still new, but in time they begin to realize why the older women wouldn't even look twice at them. There is always a not-so public reason why an older man is interested in a younger woman and it isn't always good.
Some older men regret meeting their younger dates after a time of spending time with them. They too come to the realization why the young women prefer dating them; rather than younger, more attractive looking men. From wanting a place to stay to needing someone in their lives that will make them feel special, some young women's demands are too much to bear for older guys set in their ways.
To date most individuals who are older men or younger ladies requires patience, generosity, sex, and kindness. Young women are typically more active and talk more than older women. They also are still trying to figure their lives out so you never know what a day might bring. Older men tend to have their share of responsibilities as well as health issues, so you never know when those sweet guys will turn sour.
If you know that the idea of being with someone with a significant age gap is going to be a bit of a burden for you, then rather talk yourself into dating the person or allowing him or her to persuade you to continue to date, just say, "No." When you are not sold out on an idea, it is always best to avoid it. Otherwise, you will find yourself one day playing the blame game. Meanwhile, the only one to blame will be yourself for thinking you wanted something that you really didn't from the start.
Nicholl McGuire wrote Laboring to Love Myself, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.
Many young women may have started off talking about how great their older dates were when things were still new, but in time they begin to realize why the older women wouldn't even look twice at them. There is always a not-so public reason why an older man is interested in a younger woman and it isn't always good.
Some older men regret meeting their younger dates after a time of spending time with them. They too come to the realization why the young women prefer dating them; rather than younger, more attractive looking men. From wanting a place to stay to needing someone in their lives that will make them feel special, some young women's demands are too much to bear for older guys set in their ways.
To date most individuals who are older men or younger ladies requires patience, generosity, sex, and kindness. Young women are typically more active and talk more than older women. They also are still trying to figure their lives out so you never know what a day might bring. Older men tend to have their share of responsibilities as well as health issues, so you never know when those sweet guys will turn sour.
If you know that the idea of being with someone with a significant age gap is going to be a bit of a burden for you, then rather talk yourself into dating the person or allowing him or her to persuade you to continue to date, just say, "No." When you are not sold out on an idea, it is always best to avoid it. Otherwise, you will find yourself one day playing the blame game. Meanwhile, the only one to blame will be yourself for thinking you wanted something that you really didn't from the start.
Nicholl McGuire wrote Laboring to Love Myself, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.
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