Check out a book about abusive men by author Nicholl McGuire. Know the signs before pursuing any man!
Tuesday
Dating Advice: Should You Pursue The Guy
Check out a book about abusive men by author Nicholl McGuire. Know the signs before pursuing any man!
Friday
You Were Warned...She Crossed the Line - Bad Online Date - Young Women
The Blog Owner reading out of her book, "She's Crazy" by Nicholl McGuire. This nonfiction guide is for men in abusive relationships where the women are the batterers. She's Crazy Book Excerpt
Thursday
Young Woman Watch for the Seemingly Rich, Older Man with Many Hang-ups
The major issue above all for the
aging male is his personal failures. Those things that he doesn't
want to come right out and say but from the looks of things we can
see he is making up for something by the way he spends, shares,
invests, and talks about his money, family, employment, and other
issues. I noticed this after years of watching mature kinfolk act in
unreasonable and illogical ways when it came to dealing with personal
challenges. They would allude to goals that were never reached like
increasing finances and owning homes, accomplishments that were never
rewarded by employers, regrets regarding ruining family connections,
the regrets of not taking opportunities when given a chance and more.
Their need to make them feel good about what they should have, could
have done propelled some of the once brightest and honest minds into
murky waters.
There is an insatiable desire in some seemingly kind men to want bigger and better. Mr. Charmer sometimes looks to obtain whatever is suitable for him without regard to loved ones' feelings. He is open to making drastic career changes, divorce, abandon children, and more "to make some things happen." A man, spoiled with riches, yet doesn't feel he has enough money, material assets, and other things might feel more tempted to take major financial risks, steal from his employer(s) or hoard his money than a man that is use to living paycheck to paycheck.
The greedy man feels he must present himself to the world as being more successful than fellowmen, a great catch for the ladies, an influential business mogul, etc. He will creatively change his external world to reflect his vision as best he can even if he participates in dishonest practices to finance his illusions and even at the cost of possibly his freedom and family. It is at that middle point in the mature male's life (40 plus) that this charmer has achieved more than a promotion, degree, and a sports car, but he has become a master deceiver. Men like this have decades experience fooling people. They continue to manipulate the unsuspecting about things related to their personal and professional lives and they are quite believable.
Some of these white-collar charmers begged, borrowed and stole to make themselves appear like they are knowledgeable, good, mature, dependable, honest, and other faux character traits to depict them. These men enjoy being admired more than they do working. Self-absorbed men feed off of anyone who shows them any attention as mentioned in earlier chapters. So they will partner with those who love riches like they do, and who are wiling to go above and beyond the call of duty for them. Sometimes those closest to these manipulators know what is happening when they are being mistreated and other times they are unaware, because slick people like this can sting you in such a way that you don't know you are being stung until it is too late.
Excerpt from Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men by Nicholl McGuire
There is an insatiable desire in some seemingly kind men to want bigger and better. Mr. Charmer sometimes looks to obtain whatever is suitable for him without regard to loved ones' feelings. He is open to making drastic career changes, divorce, abandon children, and more "to make some things happen." A man, spoiled with riches, yet doesn't feel he has enough money, material assets, and other things might feel more tempted to take major financial risks, steal from his employer(s) or hoard his money than a man that is use to living paycheck to paycheck.
The greedy man feels he must present himself to the world as being more successful than fellowmen, a great catch for the ladies, an influential business mogul, etc. He will creatively change his external world to reflect his vision as best he can even if he participates in dishonest practices to finance his illusions and even at the cost of possibly his freedom and family. It is at that middle point in the mature male's life (40 plus) that this charmer has achieved more than a promotion, degree, and a sports car, but he has become a master deceiver. Men like this have decades experience fooling people. They continue to manipulate the unsuspecting about things related to their personal and professional lives and they are quite believable.
Some of these white-collar charmers begged, borrowed and stole to make themselves appear like they are knowledgeable, good, mature, dependable, honest, and other faux character traits to depict them. These men enjoy being admired more than they do working. Self-absorbed men feed off of anyone who shows them any attention as mentioned in earlier chapters. So they will partner with those who love riches like they do, and who are wiling to go above and beyond the call of duty for them. Sometimes those closest to these manipulators know what is happening when they are being mistreated and other times they are unaware, because slick people like this can sting you in such a way that you don't know you are being stung until it is too late.
Excerpt from Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men by Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
Thursday
Emotional Abuse
Name-calling, constant swearing at you, silent treatment, threats, and more, it happens even to the best of them. Emotional abuse.
Wednesday
Dating Tips - New Romance, Trouble Brewing - Don't Dismiss the Signs
A mature man will never let on that he is crazy, nope, no way, no how! He wants you to see him as that guy who is going to sweep you off your feet and meet your needs. The same is true for the young woman. You don't expect her to be a bit out of her mind either. When I recorded Whirlwind Romance, I thought of the thousands of men and women that start off dating never bothering to ask the uncomfortable questions and often dismissing what is obvious, "Something just ain't right."
Listen up on Your Listen. Also, do check out my books: She's Crazy for men who find themselves in abusive relationships with women and Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men for women who are often getting mixed up with mean-spirited men who of course never start off that way. You are showing your support for this blog and others with every purchase--much appreciate!
Nicholl McGuire, Blog Owner
Tuesday
Having Fun will Cost You - When the Older Man Gives Into the Chase
How much money do you have to spend on a young lady? How much time do you have to persuade the young woman to look beyond your wallet and aging appearance and truly see you for who you are? Is dating younger women really worth it? Not every man can do it and not every young woman wants an older man either. Be wise, look beyond the fun. -- Nicholl McGuire
Thursday
He's Old, Your Young and Everyone Wants to Know Why?
The topic of why young women date older men has been well-covered online. The reasons why a young lady, like yourself, dates older men according to many researchers, writers, and singles range from his maturity to security, but why do you want that One? Why do you bother to share conversation with him, open your heart and other things to him. What is it about the older man that makes you want to commit to the gentleman and only him when there are so many other men you could date?
When you take a moment to truly reflect on why you do the things you do, you might be surprised. Sometimes breaking down our thought processes will show us things about ourselves we never realized. Maybe there are desires you have that you hope your mature significant might help you achieve. Could he represent someone or something you have been missing?
Mature men have their reasons too as to why they seek after younger women. If they too sit back and think as to why they do what they do, what might they learn about themselves? A young woman is definitely not going to soothe those deep emotions within where worries, fears, and pain reside. She is like a Band-Aid. The real healing for the soul comes from a relationship with one's Maker who is responsible for mind, body and spirit.
One day both young and old will die and what will those they leave behind say about them, their relationships, children, and more? Was it a genuine connection? Did they really want to be together for love?
Make the most of your life, choose wisely and seek happiness within. A partner should simply be icing on the cake for you when everything else in your life is all peaches in cream! (Excuse the food references, can't you tell I haven't had lunch--lol.)
The public questions these men dating younger women relationships and others because many are usually built on selfish interests and not long-lasting love. Don't hate on your critics just be honest with yourself and that man or woman you are with, "Why do you want me, really?" Think about it.
Nicholl McGuire has experienced dating mature men. She authored many nonfiction books about relationships and provides website content on many sites. Learn more about her and subscribe to Nicholl's blog.
When you take a moment to truly reflect on why you do the things you do, you might be surprised. Sometimes breaking down our thought processes will show us things about ourselves we never realized. Maybe there are desires you have that you hope your mature significant might help you achieve. Could he represent someone or something you have been missing?
Mature men have their reasons too as to why they seek after younger women. If they too sit back and think as to why they do what they do, what might they learn about themselves? A young woman is definitely not going to soothe those deep emotions within where worries, fears, and pain reside. She is like a Band-Aid. The real healing for the soul comes from a relationship with one's Maker who is responsible for mind, body and spirit.
One day both young and old will die and what will those they leave behind say about them, their relationships, children, and more? Was it a genuine connection? Did they really want to be together for love?
Make the most of your life, choose wisely and seek happiness within. A partner should simply be icing on the cake for you when everything else in your life is all peaches in cream! (Excuse the food references, can't you tell I haven't had lunch--lol.)
The public questions these men dating younger women relationships and others because many are usually built on selfish interests and not long-lasting love. Don't hate on your critics just be honest with yourself and that man or woman you are with, "Why do you want me, really?" Think about it.
Nicholl McGuire has experienced dating mature men. She authored many nonfiction books about relationships and provides website content on many sites. Learn more about her and subscribe to Nicholl's blog.
Monday
Thursday
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Verbal Abuse - Emotionally Abusive Men, Women - Ne...
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Verbal Abuse - Emotionally Abusive Men, Women - Ne...: Here are many signs one must watch out for when involved or married to someone who is mean, sometimes nice, mean, sometimes nice and so on ...
Tuesday
Dating an Older Guy, Young Woman
Dating older is not a bad thing, but it can be if you are breaking the law. A mature man dating a young woman can be an enriching experience, but not when she has a child's mindset or worse a body that is not fully developed (and if so she is a child and not a woman).
As I write, I think of so many young girls who desire to be with older men, but they don't realize that there is far more they have to do besides look pretty and spend their money. Mature men want quality companions who eventually might help with chores, possibly procreate with them, and emotionally and financially assist. This is a lot to ask from someone who has barely left home and still very much relying on parents and/or grandparents to bail them out of situations.
So I guess what I most want to say is think before you target someone who has yet to get his or her life in order--the way he or she desires. A man who is fresh out of a relationship, has children from previous relationships and busy with work needs time for himself contrary to what he might tell the young lady. A woman who is still in school, dependent on family, and doesn't have much to offer will sooner or later resent connecting with an older man who can't do much for her but buy a few gifts when he feels like it and provide periodic sex.
Dating older or younger is a great thing when two people have their personal and professional lives in order. But if not, it can be such a hardship.
Nicholl McGuire knows all-too-well check out her many books on relationships.
As I write, I think of so many young girls who desire to be with older men, but they don't realize that there is far more they have to do besides look pretty and spend their money. Mature men want quality companions who eventually might help with chores, possibly procreate with them, and emotionally and financially assist. This is a lot to ask from someone who has barely left home and still very much relying on parents and/or grandparents to bail them out of situations.
So I guess what I most want to say is think before you target someone who has yet to get his or her life in order--the way he or she desires. A man who is fresh out of a relationship, has children from previous relationships and busy with work needs time for himself contrary to what he might tell the young lady. A woman who is still in school, dependent on family, and doesn't have much to offer will sooner or later resent connecting with an older man who can't do much for her but buy a few gifts when he feels like it and provide periodic sex.
Dating older or younger is a great thing when two people have their personal and professional lives in order. But if not, it can be such a hardship.
Nicholl McGuire knows all-too-well check out her many books on relationships.
Monday
Advice for the Mature Man Dating Young Women - Watch out for the Needy Woman
Courting a needy woman is an added stress for many mature men who are set in their ways. Author and Motivational Speaker Nicholl McGuire brings awareness to the woman who wants far too much than she gives. The Needy Woman
Thursday
Did You Buy The Right Gift - Older Dating Younger
You know you didn't do well shopping for a partner if you made any of the following mistakes:
1. You bought something without knowing his or her size.
2. You assumed that your friend would like something but didn't bother to ask about allergies.
3. You thought you picked the perfect gift, but did you check to see if he or she got it already?
4. You didn't do any detective work.
5. You barely know this person and are hoping for the best.
6. You didn't test it to see that it worked.
7. You didn't bother to check to see what else you need to buy for it.
Keep in mind an age gap is significant when you don't have a clue what a person likes in his or her age group or you presume that because he or she is a certain age that the gift is appropriate.
Take the time to be sure you really got a good gift before presenting it. If it isn't a good one, apologize and offer to make it up to him or her.
Nicholl McGuire also manages a blog for people who are simply bored with people and stuff. Stop by.
1. You bought something without knowing his or her size.
2. You assumed that your friend would like something but didn't bother to ask about allergies.
3. You thought you picked the perfect gift, but did you check to see if he or she got it already?
4. You didn't do any detective work.
5. You barely know this person and are hoping for the best.
6. You didn't test it to see that it worked.
7. You didn't bother to check to see what else you need to buy for it.
Keep in mind an age gap is significant when you don't have a clue what a person likes in his or her age group or you presume that because he or she is a certain age that the gift is appropriate.
Take the time to be sure you really got a good gift before presenting it. If it isn't a good one, apologize and offer to make it up to him or her.
Nicholl McGuire also manages a blog for people who are simply bored with people and stuff. Stop by.
Wednesday
Men, Are You in a Codependent Relationship With a Needy Girlfriend, Wife?
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Men, Are You in a Codependent Relationship With a ...: What is codependency? I've known numerous men who have been in relationships with clingy, needy, overly-emotional, jealous, and control...
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