Young Woman Watch for the Seemingly Rich, Older Man with Many Hang-ups

The major issue above all for the aging male is his personal failures. Those things that he doesn't want to come right out and say but from the looks of things we can see he is making up for something by the way he spends, shares, invests, and talks about his money, family, employment, and other issues. I noticed this after years of watching mature kinfolk act in unreasonable and illogical ways when it came to dealing with personal challenges. They would allude to goals that were never reached like increasing finances and owning homes, accomplishments that were never rewarded by employers, regrets regarding ruining family connections, the regrets of not taking opportunities when given a chance and more. Their need to make them feel good about what they should have, could have done propelled some of the once brightest and honest minds into murky waters.

There is an insatiable desire in some seemingly kind men to want bigger and better. Mr. Charmer sometimes looks to obtain whatever is suitable for him without regard to loved ones' feelings. He is open to making drastic career changes, divorce, abandon children, and more "to make some things happen." A man, spoiled with riches, yet doesn't feel he has enough money, material assets, and other things might feel more tempted to take major financial risks, steal from his employer(s) or hoard his money than a man that is use to living paycheck to paycheck. 

The greedy man feels he must present himself to the world as being more successful than fellowmen, a great catch for the ladies, an influential business mogul, etc. He will creatively change his external world to reflect his vision as best he can even if he participates in dishonest practices to finance his illusions and even at the cost of possibly his freedom and family. It is at that middle point in the mature male's life (40 plus) that this charmer has achieved more than a promotion, degree, and a sports car, but he has become a master deceiver. Men like this have decades experience fooling people. They continue to manipulate the unsuspecting about things related to their personal and professional lives and they are quite believable.

Some of these white-collar charmers begged, borrowed and stole to make themselves appear like they are knowledgeable, good, mature, dependable, honest, and other faux character traits to depict them. These men enjoy being admired more than they do working. Self-absorbed men feed off of anyone who shows them any attention as mentioned in earlier chapters. So they will partner with those who love riches like they do, and who are wiling to go above and beyond the call of duty for them. Sometimes those closest to these manipulators know what is happening when they are being mistreated and other times they are unaware, because slick people like this can sting you in such a way that you don't know you are being stung until it is too late.

Excerpt from Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men by Nicholl McGuire