He was attractive, articulate, and very good in bed, but he was boring. He loved talking about work, but he didn't love talking about going anywhere fun or share his thoughts about life. He had been married before and complained about how the last relationship became routine, boring. Funny, but the same things that bothered him in the last relationship, he was re-creating in the new one.
He sold the young woman on lies that he was a great guy to be around. The truth was most people found him a bit of a recluse, quiet, and at times slightly angry. He liked to go to nice places, travel, and he had the income to back up everything he promised. So the time came for them to get together. At first having sex often kept both distracted, but one day the woman awoke to reality and wanted more than just a penis inside of her, she wanted a man. A Prince Charming, if you will, a fun guy that would take her places, shower her with gifts, and just live a little outside of the bedroom. She told her date about her concerns, he listened with his ears, but did nothing with his feet.
As days together became weeks and weeks turned into years, weekends together didn't change. A movie, sex, breaks for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and do it all over again. Eventually she grew bored with him. She started fantasizing what it would be like to be with someone her own age.
This story is based on true facts. Younger women who complain about boring, older men. What is it about career minded older men that make some so boring anyway? For one, they don't attempt to do anything outside of their comfort zone. They talk alot, but don't deliver. Second, they assume that the woman will plan everything. How can a woman who doesn't have alot of life experience know what makes a man tick especially if her past experiences with men are few? Lastly, they don't educate themselves on the needs of women. How can you keep a woman when you don't bother to act on what you learn from romantic films, women's magazines, and advice from those who are in successful marriages?
The younger woman must be discerning of a man before she chooses to date him much less sleep with him. She must observe what he calls "fun." Ask him what he did last weekend, the weekend before and so on. If there is a pattern of staying home and watching television and she enjoys getting out into the community, then she should know that a future with him will be dull and boring. She should picture days of him coming home from work, plopping down in front of the television, and expecting her to entertain herself without him. Throw children into the mix and she will find that she will be entertaining them most of the time not him.
Some men simply don't know how to do anything more than go to work. They are often tired and prefer to be left alone to do what they want when they want to do it. It isn't any wonder that some of these men are cheated on, their wives leave them, or don't give them sex, etc. Young women should avoid pitying men who tell them that their exs did any of these things to them. Most likely, the ex had her reasons and they just didn't come into being either.
Remember young woman, you are only hearing one side of the story and he will not tell you all the details of what went wrong in the last relationship no matter how much you ask especially if he knows he is guilty.
When a young woman discovers her so-called fun guy is really a dull guy, she has a choice: she can either adjust her interests to suit his lifestyle (which is a bad choice because she is not living her life), she can explain to him how she would like to do more with him and would he honor what he has promised, or she can tell him that she thought he was her match, but unfortunately she has found that he isn't. The older man may take her words into consideration and do more, but then he may be doing some things out of his comfort zone. If he is honest with her, he may say, he is not interested in going places, and prefer to stay home most of the time. But how many older men who are trying to keep a younger woman is going to be truthful? That is why she has to recognize the signs that say he is not her match. The young woman must take initiative and move on, rather than try to be something she is not or make him act in ways that he is not.
Most older men are not interested in doing much but working, watching TV, sleeping, shopping for their interests, occasionally visiting family, and meeting with a few friends every now and then. An active older man with money to spend to travel, explore new places, participate in fun classes, etc. is in the minority! Young women don't be deceived by the men who promise you a life of fun and games. There may be some games -- the kind that play with your mind, so be careful.
Nicholl McGuire
http://www.yourlisten.com/nichollmcguire
Friday
Age Difference Matters When Pain is Involved
He has aches and pains that remind you of your dad. He tells you its from old injuries back in the day from playing sports. At first you are understanding, but as you learn more about him, you find he is often too tired to watch a movie in its entirety, goes to bed early, and he pops pain pills like Skittles.
Some young women aren't affected by the grunts and ouches that come and go from a man twice even tripple their ages, but other women are bothered by them. If you are an active younger woman who is fit, don't settle for a man who is often in pain. You may pity him in order to stay with him and that is the wrong reason. You may stick it out with him, because you think you have something to gain from being empathetic or worse, you secretly think one day he will die and you will achieve his wealth. Don't be so sure, many men are living longer than women nowadays.
If you can live with his aches and pains especially after great sex, so be it, but if you know that secretly you can't stand his old wrinkled butt, then by all means save yourself and him some time and kindly break it off!
Nicholl McGuire, experienced in dating older men during her terrible twenties. She has seen it all gray hair, age marks, wrinkles, war wounds, and smelled it all too -- LOL! But it didn't keep her away from embracing the maturity and security of dating someone older.
http://www.twitter.com/nichollmcguire
Some young women aren't affected by the grunts and ouches that come and go from a man twice even tripple their ages, but other women are bothered by them. If you are an active younger woman who is fit, don't settle for a man who is often in pain. You may pity him in order to stay with him and that is the wrong reason. You may stick it out with him, because you think you have something to gain from being empathetic or worse, you secretly think one day he will die and you will achieve his wealth. Don't be so sure, many men are living longer than women nowadays.
If you can live with his aches and pains especially after great sex, so be it, but if you know that secretly you can't stand his old wrinkled butt, then by all means save yourself and him some time and kindly break it off!
Nicholl McGuire, experienced in dating older men during her terrible twenties. She has seen it all gray hair, age marks, wrinkles, war wounds, and smelled it all too -- LOL! But it didn't keep her away from embracing the maturity and security of dating someone older.
http://www.twitter.com/nichollmcguire
Thursday
10 Things Men Do With Other Women While in A Relationship that Cause Problems
When a young woman is just getting to know you, your actions may not bother her at first (maybe as long as a year or more,) but as your relationship grows older, a girlfriend or wife's "understanding" begins to get thin. Here are 10 things that you may be doing that may cause problems for your relationship later. Discuss these issues in advance and talk about them again as they come up since a lot can change since those early days of dating.
1. Helping a single woman out financially and physically.
2. Being alone with a woman when it is non-related to business.
3. Touching and sharing a meal with another woman.
4. Lying about your whereabouts or not talking about them with your partner.
5. Talking about your wife or girlfriend intimately with another woman.
6. Having non-business related lunch or dinner with a woman alone.
7. Inviting your wife or girlfriend to an event then ignore her.
8. Kissing or acting playful with other woman in or out of your wife or girlfriend's presence.
9. Not telling your wife or girlfriend that you took a woman home or somewhere else.
10. Talking to relatives and friends about another woman's beauty (your child's teacher, your exs, your co-workers, even the sales clerk at the local store) and comparing that woman with your wife or girlfriend.
You say there is nothing wrong with one or all of these things I have listed. You even feel like your girl is fine with you doing these actions. You may consider women who have these kinds of issues insecure. Debate, disagree, get upset, but one day you will be in the dog house because of one if not all of these issues (think about some of the reasons why you had problems in the past with other women.) According to the Bible even your lustful thoughts can get you into trouble.
Be wise, don't bring unnecessary conflict into your home and avoid the temptation to do things that may rise strife within your wife or girlfriend. Don't cover your behind, expose it! Be open and honest about what you do when you are away from your mate.
Women think beyond what you tell them. Their minds are constantly thinking, especially young, intelligent women, "I wonder who was that woman? Why is she talking so closely to my man? Why are they sharing food with one another? Why didn't he tell me he drove her home three times this week? Why is there a meal for two on this receipt, he never told me he had dinner with someone?" You see how your reputation now looks? She has to think about why you do what you do. You never want a woman to get to a place that she has to come to you and ask you questions. But you don't want to talk so much to the point that you look guilty, telling everything you want her to know, but leaving out the truth.
Here are some tips to help you stay out of the future dog-house:
Invite your wife or girlfriend with you to meet a single woman especially when she offers a proposal "to get together" some time.
Opt out of opportunities to be alone with co-workers. Invite a third wheel to join you and the woman.
Avoid keeping secrets from your wife or girlfriend no matter how upset she gets about it. Would you rather hear her rant now or talk about breaking up with you for being secretive or lying later?
Consider your young wife or girlfriend your best friend now and all other friends (especially those who you know are "very fond" of you and vice versa) should be put on the back-burner -- this doesn't mean abandon them. If they are not helping your relationship then you should cut them off. Why remain friends with someone who doesn't like your young girlfriend and thinks of you as nothing but a Chester molestor unless you really are? Distant yourself from those jealous, lonely, middle-age friends who wouldn't dare doing anything different! Eventually cut them off. Not every friend is a life-time friend!
If your young partner asks you to please stop doing something you know is harming the relationship and you refuse, then you are sending a message to her that those people in your life and/or activities you do are more important than she is. Some men take on a negative attitude about some of these issues, because they know that the young women they are involved with are nothing more than playthings so they don't compromise. But if you are not a player, but a gentleman then consider the fact that this young woman may be your wife and/or the mother of your child one day!
In the future, be more considerate and compassionate of your new mate's feelings. Remember she didn't come into the relationship desiring a companionship with your friends (exs, families, etc.) she came into it for you and the security you provide both mentally and physically -- show her the same courtesy!
Nicholl McGuire
http;//associatedcontent.com/nichollmcguire
1. Helping a single woman out financially and physically.
2. Being alone with a woman when it is non-related to business.
3. Touching and sharing a meal with another woman.
4. Lying about your whereabouts or not talking about them with your partner.
5. Talking about your wife or girlfriend intimately with another woman.
6. Having non-business related lunch or dinner with a woman alone.
7. Inviting your wife or girlfriend to an event then ignore her.
8. Kissing or acting playful with other woman in or out of your wife or girlfriend's presence.
9. Not telling your wife or girlfriend that you took a woman home or somewhere else.
10. Talking to relatives and friends about another woman's beauty (your child's teacher, your exs, your co-workers, even the sales clerk at the local store) and comparing that woman with your wife or girlfriend.
You say there is nothing wrong with one or all of these things I have listed. You even feel like your girl is fine with you doing these actions. You may consider women who have these kinds of issues insecure. Debate, disagree, get upset, but one day you will be in the dog house because of one if not all of these issues (think about some of the reasons why you had problems in the past with other women.) According to the Bible even your lustful thoughts can get you into trouble.
Be wise, don't bring unnecessary conflict into your home and avoid the temptation to do things that may rise strife within your wife or girlfriend. Don't cover your behind, expose it! Be open and honest about what you do when you are away from your mate.
Women think beyond what you tell them. Their minds are constantly thinking, especially young, intelligent women, "I wonder who was that woman? Why is she talking so closely to my man? Why are they sharing food with one another? Why didn't he tell me he drove her home three times this week? Why is there a meal for two on this receipt, he never told me he had dinner with someone?" You see how your reputation now looks? She has to think about why you do what you do. You never want a woman to get to a place that she has to come to you and ask you questions. But you don't want to talk so much to the point that you look guilty, telling everything you want her to know, but leaving out the truth.
Here are some tips to help you stay out of the future dog-house:
Invite your wife or girlfriend with you to meet a single woman especially when she offers a proposal "to get together" some time.
Opt out of opportunities to be alone with co-workers. Invite a third wheel to join you and the woman.
Avoid keeping secrets from your wife or girlfriend no matter how upset she gets about it. Would you rather hear her rant now or talk about breaking up with you for being secretive or lying later?
Consider your young wife or girlfriend your best friend now and all other friends (especially those who you know are "very fond" of you and vice versa) should be put on the back-burner -- this doesn't mean abandon them. If they are not helping your relationship then you should cut them off. Why remain friends with someone who doesn't like your young girlfriend and thinks of you as nothing but a Chester molestor unless you really are? Distant yourself from those jealous, lonely, middle-age friends who wouldn't dare doing anything different! Eventually cut them off. Not every friend is a life-time friend!
If your young partner asks you to please stop doing something you know is harming the relationship and you refuse, then you are sending a message to her that those people in your life and/or activities you do are more important than she is. Some men take on a negative attitude about some of these issues, because they know that the young women they are involved with are nothing more than playthings so they don't compromise. But if you are not a player, but a gentleman then consider the fact that this young woman may be your wife and/or the mother of your child one day!
In the future, be more considerate and compassionate of your new mate's feelings. Remember she didn't come into the relationship desiring a companionship with your friends (exs, families, etc.) she came into it for you and the security you provide both mentally and physically -- show her the same courtesy!
Nicholl McGuire
http;//associatedcontent.com/nichollmcguire
Monday
If Your Match is Too Good to Be True than It Probably Is
He likes to dance, watch romance films, shop, travel, and spend money "lavishly." You think, "Wow!" He tells you how he isn't a huge sports fan, but he has a few teams here and there he follows. You are wondering, "Is he gay?" But its all true at least for a month or two maybe even as long as a year, but gradually you notice that what he said during those early stages of dating, isn't quite adding up. The truth is he really doesn't like dancing, shopping or traveling, he considers a good time staying in bed all day not only watching romantic film, but horrors, comedies, porn, you name it , this guy is a regular couch potato. He also enjoys debating with the boys on what team is going to the playoffs and he doesn't like you talking when the game is on. Meanwhile, your thinking, "I thought he wasn't a big sports fan!"
So why didn't he bother to tell you about the fine print when he met you. You know the print that says, "The offer to impress you expires after about 20 dates." Not only that, you find out he is a big cheapskate. Oh he spends money alright at the dollar store, the thrift store, the local yard sale, and the swap meet also known as the flea market! Worse, his apartment or home looks and smells like something out of a thrift store or a college dorm!
Be careful of that older guy who wins you over with sweet words like, "I like to do this...and I really enjoy that..." followed by everything you like to do!! He is forcing himself to be something he is not -- a younger man to fit your needs. If that is what you wanted, you wouldn't have bothered with the older man now would you? When you see this pattern of "too good to be true" happening in your relationship, expose him. Tell him how he doesn't have to tell you he likes something just to keep you interested. Explain to him that you would like to make a decision whether he is your match based on fact not fiction.
If you find that he is more interested in impressing you and not being truthful about who he really is and what he really likes and wants out of life, you might want to save yourself some time and call him an acquaintance like the guy you see every now and then at the local grocery store.
Remember there will come a time in the relationship that he will have a moment of truth where he will ask himself, "What the h*ll am I doing? I don't have any business running around with this young girl! I want my wife back or anyone who isn't twenty-something!"
You've been forewarned, now have a great time and that's it -- a great temporary time! LOL
Nicholl McGuire
http://www.associatedcontent.com/nichollmcguire
Follow me on Twitter @nichollmcguire
So why didn't he bother to tell you about the fine print when he met you. You know the print that says, "The offer to impress you expires after about 20 dates." Not only that, you find out he is a big cheapskate. Oh he spends money alright at the dollar store, the thrift store, the local yard sale, and the swap meet also known as the flea market! Worse, his apartment or home looks and smells like something out of a thrift store or a college dorm!
Be careful of that older guy who wins you over with sweet words like, "I like to do this...and I really enjoy that..." followed by everything you like to do!! He is forcing himself to be something he is not -- a younger man to fit your needs. If that is what you wanted, you wouldn't have bothered with the older man now would you? When you see this pattern of "too good to be true" happening in your relationship, expose him. Tell him how he doesn't have to tell you he likes something just to keep you interested. Explain to him that you would like to make a decision whether he is your match based on fact not fiction.
If you find that he is more interested in impressing you and not being truthful about who he really is and what he really likes and wants out of life, you might want to save yourself some time and call him an acquaintance like the guy you see every now and then at the local grocery store.
Remember there will come a time in the relationship that he will have a moment of truth where he will ask himself, "What the h*ll am I doing? I don't have any business running around with this young girl! I want my wife back or anyone who isn't twenty-something!"
You've been forewarned, now have a great time and that's it -- a great temporary time! LOL
Nicholl McGuire
http://www.associatedcontent.com/nichollmcguire
Follow me on Twitter @nichollmcguire
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