A age gap dating advice blog that provides valuable tips when dating older men and younger women. Thought-provoking relationship tips for older men seeking to date younger women. Please be advised to seek a professional for serious issues. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling. This blog is not for people under the age of 18.
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Dating Rich Older Men - What Younger, Needy Women Don't Think About
When a young lady seeks to date a man who makes much money, what she doesn't realize is that he isn't going to be as available to her emotionally and possibly physically as she might imagine. The young woman is in for a rude awakening if she thinks that dating or marrying an older man will always consist of exotic travel and jaw-dropping shopping sprees.
I got the opportunity to speak to women who date older men and they were at times naïve when it came to talking about them. They were like giddy school girls who just saw a handsome boy walk by them. The eyes brightened, the speech sped up, and their bodies moved around a bit as if excited to talk about the subject. These women didn't think too much about the possibility of future disappointments like their allowances or gifts being cut off one day by their rich dates. They were too busy thinking about those promises their guys made such as plans to attend special events, give them gifts and eat at five star restaurants.
Most rich, older men don't abandon jobs, forget about children (and sometimes exes), and they aren't thinking too much about keeping a sexual partner around for too long. Instead they enjoy the "in the meantime" experience with an attractive, young lady and then on to the next best thing. Workaholic older men are too busy thinking about jobs and money to care much about a lover's feeling, accomplishments, and other things that matter. The selfish simply want their periodic sexual desires met with no strings attached. It isn't any wonder why many are divorced--the "it's all about me" philosophy doesn't go well with marriage, children, and household responsibilities.
The wealthy but cheap older men spend a great deal of time in doors on off days. They don't like going out much because all that means is more money spent that they prefer to save. Some young women are blind-sided by this type because they start off treating them so well, but in time the newness wears off and the older men's true selves begin to show especially after they have received what they wanted, sex with a beautiful woman and companionship. When things become dull, they grow weary of dating and relationships. So they give their all back to jobs or businesses while the gullible women check their phones hoping to hearing from them. "Could he be back with his wife? What am I going to do, he doesn't send any money anymore? I was starting to fall for that guy..."
What many gullible women overlook, at least initially during the early dating stages, are the self-absorbed attributes in successful men. They are consumed with getting their needs met from the start. The signs aren't easily recognized because these men tend to attract women like themselves. Selfish women are too busy focused on themselves to pay any attention to warning signs that a date might be trouble. When a woman is immature and desperate for things like: attention, money and sex, she won't think too much about how she is treated until her needs are no longer being met. "What's up with him? He use to be so nice. He gave me whatever I wanted! Now he is so mean!"
Dating rich older men is a bit different than dating broke, younger men. The men who know they can buy just about anyone or anything, expect to be pleased. So they want more for their time and money than a broken man who is just happy being with a head-turner 10.
Young women who date rich put up with things that other women wouldn't even consider. This is because most women are looking for more in a relationship besides money and gifts, but not the 10 looking for a 10. She wants cash, business, opportunities, and whatever else that rich man can afford to give her!
Since many successful men know that most people are after their cash, property, etc. they are going to be guarded and will not always come off as nice and accommodating especially when they are aware of a young woman's motives
. Whether you are rich and older or young and broke, know that whatever your intention if it isn't good, expect to be taken advantage of sooner or later.
Nicholl McGuire maintains this blog and is the author of She's Crazy (a book for battered men).
I got the opportunity to speak to women who date older men and they were at times naïve when it came to talking about them. They were like giddy school girls who just saw a handsome boy walk by them. The eyes brightened, the speech sped up, and their bodies moved around a bit as if excited to talk about the subject. These women didn't think too much about the possibility of future disappointments like their allowances or gifts being cut off one day by their rich dates. They were too busy thinking about those promises their guys made such as plans to attend special events, give them gifts and eat at five star restaurants.
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Most rich, older men don't abandon jobs, forget about children (and sometimes exes), and they aren't thinking too much about keeping a sexual partner around for too long. Instead they enjoy the "in the meantime" experience with an attractive, young lady and then on to the next best thing. Workaholic older men are too busy thinking about jobs and money to care much about a lover's feeling, accomplishments, and other things that matter. The selfish simply want their periodic sexual desires met with no strings attached. It isn't any wonder why many are divorced--the "it's all about me" philosophy doesn't go well with marriage, children, and household responsibilities.
The wealthy but cheap older men spend a great deal of time in doors on off days. They don't like going out much because all that means is more money spent that they prefer to save. Some young women are blind-sided by this type because they start off treating them so well, but in time the newness wears off and the older men's true selves begin to show especially after they have received what they wanted, sex with a beautiful woman and companionship. When things become dull, they grow weary of dating and relationships. So they give their all back to jobs or businesses while the gullible women check their phones hoping to hearing from them. "Could he be back with his wife? What am I going to do, he doesn't send any money anymore? I was starting to fall for that guy..."
What many gullible women overlook, at least initially during the early dating stages, are the self-absorbed attributes in successful men. They are consumed with getting their needs met from the start. The signs aren't easily recognized because these men tend to attract women like themselves. Selfish women are too busy focused on themselves to pay any attention to warning signs that a date might be trouble. When a woman is immature and desperate for things like: attention, money and sex, she won't think too much about how she is treated until her needs are no longer being met. "What's up with him? He use to be so nice. He gave me whatever I wanted! Now he is so mean!"
Dating rich older men is a bit different than dating broke, younger men. The men who know they can buy just about anyone or anything, expect to be pleased. So they want more for their time and money than a broken man who is just happy being with a head-turner 10.
Young women who date rich put up with things that other women wouldn't even consider. This is because most women are looking for more in a relationship besides money and gifts, but not the 10 looking for a 10. She wants cash, business, opportunities, and whatever else that rich man can afford to give her!
Since many successful men know that most people are after their cash, property, etc. they are going to be guarded and will not always come off as nice and accommodating especially when they are aware of a young woman's motives
. Whether you are rich and older or young and broke, know that whatever your intention if it isn't good, expect to be taken advantage of sooner or later.
Nicholl McGuire maintains this blog and is the author of She's Crazy (a book for battered men).
Friday
Dating Younger Women (Blog) - Does Age Really Matter?
It all depends on who you ask, "Does age really matter?" For years this blog has shared personal as well as expert opinion about dating older men and younger women. Well I can certainly tell you that those who scream the loudest that age doesn't matter, at least initially, get a rude awakening as the relationship grows older. The wider the age gap, the more differences and the more bad news you eventually find out about your older or younger partner.
There simply are things that young women just don't understand or have the mindset to deal with concerning older men. Take for instance, life experiences and personal health woes, some younger women (not all of course) can't relate to men who are having a mid-life crisis no more than mature women. Older men have their share of the blues and the only thing that some young women can think of are their own selfish needs being met.
Now what about the older men who are a bit outdated and unwise? They gravitate to young women in the hopes that they will get sex and a companion. However, it doesn't work that way in time especially if there is no sincere connection with the young lady. A number of young women feel doubtful about the May-December relationship and question what really is the older guy's motives for even considering them. "I'm broke, still learning things about life...why is he really bothering with me when he could be with someone his own age?" Whatever the reason an older male comes up with to make the inquisitive,young woman feel secure, it isn't good enough. She most likely will move on sooner or later.
The takeaway is age matters when you give the relationship some time. You will see and feel the difference.
Nicholl
There simply are things that young women just don't understand or have the mindset to deal with concerning older men. Take for instance, life experiences and personal health woes, some younger women (not all of course) can't relate to men who are having a mid-life crisis no more than mature women. Older men have their share of the blues and the only thing that some young women can think of are their own selfish needs being met.
Now what about the older men who are a bit outdated and unwise? They gravitate to young women in the hopes that they will get sex and a companion. However, it doesn't work that way in time especially if there is no sincere connection with the young lady. A number of young women feel doubtful about the May-December relationship and question what really is the older guy's motives for even considering them. "I'm broke, still learning things about life...why is he really bothering with me when he could be with someone his own age?" Whatever the reason an older male comes up with to make the inquisitive,young woman feel secure, it isn't good enough. She most likely will move on sooner or later.
The takeaway is age matters when you give the relationship some time. You will see and feel the difference.
Nicholl
Thursday
What's the Point of Dating Older, Younger if No Longer Into It?
In previous entries I provided a host of information that talks about age gap dating experiences, family woes, health concerns, and more, and yet some will continue to date older or younger even when their hearts or minds are not that into it anymore.
There is a self-deception that occurs with some daters. It goes something like this, "I guess it's okay. I mean I like her/him. I really hope things work. I know I am his/her type. Besides I have a lot of money...look good, still fit...a great catch!" Most likely, if the person is displaying signs they don't like you much, you aren't as good as you think. But it's okay. You can move on if only you are willing.
I found someone online over a decade ago and I admit that I wasn't really feeling older guys at the time. I had a history that didn't treat me so nice. I had made up in my mind at the time that if it didn't work, I wasn't sticking around and I meant it. When you know you have reached that point when the young lady is annoying you more than pleasing you or the older man is being controlling rather than loving, it's time to make some hard decisions.
I know it can be tough. One man many years ago I had to let go because I was 19 and he was about 41. He really didn't do it for me. I knew there were some insecurities he had like the time when I brushed his hair not realizing that I uncovered his thinning spot. Irritated he swept it back, "I'm sorry..." I said. Talk about awkward. The man in crisis also drank much at times and didn't mind visiting me when he was drunk. What a waste! Yeah, that is what I was thinking. I didn't respect him and neither did he me, because why would he show up drunk?
Anyway, you need established relationship boundaries my friends. Once one, two or more are crossed and you just aren't feeling the fellow or gal, move on. Don't punish, insult, complain...there's no point in dating older or younger when you have personal hang-ups with age, personality, wit, and more.
Older people can be boring at times even when they think they are not and younger people can have too much energy...so why complain about the person you picked? Stick to your own age if dating younger or older is just not working any longer.
Nicholl
There is a self-deception that occurs with some daters. It goes something like this, "I guess it's okay. I mean I like her/him. I really hope things work. I know I am his/her type. Besides I have a lot of money...look good, still fit...a great catch!" Most likely, if the person is displaying signs they don't like you much, you aren't as good as you think. But it's okay. You can move on if only you are willing.
I found someone online over a decade ago and I admit that I wasn't really feeling older guys at the time. I had a history that didn't treat me so nice. I had made up in my mind at the time that if it didn't work, I wasn't sticking around and I meant it. When you know you have reached that point when the young lady is annoying you more than pleasing you or the older man is being controlling rather than loving, it's time to make some hard decisions.
I know it can be tough. One man many years ago I had to let go because I was 19 and he was about 41. He really didn't do it for me. I knew there were some insecurities he had like the time when I brushed his hair not realizing that I uncovered his thinning spot. Irritated he swept it back, "I'm sorry..." I said. Talk about awkward. The man in crisis also drank much at times and didn't mind visiting me when he was drunk. What a waste! Yeah, that is what I was thinking. I didn't respect him and neither did he me, because why would he show up drunk?
Anyway, you need established relationship boundaries my friends. Once one, two or more are crossed and you just aren't feeling the fellow or gal, move on. Don't punish, insult, complain...there's no point in dating older or younger when you have personal hang-ups with age, personality, wit, and more.
Older people can be boring at times even when they think they are not and younger people can have too much energy...so why complain about the person you picked? Stick to your own age if dating younger or older is just not working any longer.
Nicholl
Monday
Improve You and Dating Experiences in the New Year
For some singles they are turning over a new leaf in the New Year. They are looking forward to dating a bit differently like changing dating preferences and upgrading personal images for starters. Courageous men and women who have never dated younger or older, a different ethnicity or even out of their hometowns are ready for new dating experiences this upcoming year, according to some online dating forums.
You might be one looking to make a difference in your life, if so, bravo to you! Why not think outside the box? Many of us who have dated a variety of people in our lifetime did so, because we simply got tired of doing things based on past dating experiences or teachings passed down from family. You never know who you might cross paths with and that person just may be the one!
Now some couples are simply fed up with one another for any number of reasons including age related issues and if this is you, well you don't have to stick it out in a miserable relationship. Fall back from the dating scene a bit, recover and then come back for some more good times when you are ready. If you have a faith, use it--someone is out there for you! Here are some tips on improving your future dating experiences:
1. Work on your health. Watch your weight. Exercise and check in with your doctor and dentist.
2. Don't keep ex-lovers, wives, husbands, etc. on speed dial. Move on!
3. Vow that you will never permit yourself to be broken spiritually, mentally or physically by a future or current partner.
4. Keep your relatives out of your personal life. This means no updating them on dates you are not serious about.
5. Find the time for you! The world doesn't revolve around that new someone you meet--no matter how friendly, wealthy, attractive,etc.
6. Do your part to make some great memories when dating someone. Don't rely on others to make you happy.
7. If you believe in a Creator, why not practice your faith and attract someone who is spiritual like you?
With so much happening online in dating world you can never be too safe. Take precautions when meeting someone online and never rush into doing anything with someone you barely even know! There are countless stories of victims who just didn't bother researching before sleeping with dates and now they are either connected with the wrong partners, in jail, deceased or have their share of unwanted children or STDS (sigh).
Have a great New Year connecting with someone who is right for you!
By the way, check out our partners on this site who work hard to bring you some great services around the web!
Nicholl
You might be one looking to make a difference in your life, if so, bravo to you! Why not think outside the box? Many of us who have dated a variety of people in our lifetime did so, because we simply got tired of doing things based on past dating experiences or teachings passed down from family. You never know who you might cross paths with and that person just may be the one!
Now some couples are simply fed up with one another for any number of reasons including age related issues and if this is you, well you don't have to stick it out in a miserable relationship. Fall back from the dating scene a bit, recover and then come back for some more good times when you are ready. If you have a faith, use it--someone is out there for you! Here are some tips on improving your future dating experiences:
1. Work on your health. Watch your weight. Exercise and check in with your doctor and dentist.
2. Don't keep ex-lovers, wives, husbands, etc. on speed dial. Move on!
3. Vow that you will never permit yourself to be broken spiritually, mentally or physically by a future or current partner.
4. Keep your relatives out of your personal life. This means no updating them on dates you are not serious about.
5. Find the time for you! The world doesn't revolve around that new someone you meet--no matter how friendly, wealthy, attractive,etc.
6. Do your part to make some great memories when dating someone. Don't rely on others to make you happy.
7. If you believe in a Creator, why not practice your faith and attract someone who is spiritual like you?
With so much happening online in dating world you can never be too safe. Take precautions when meeting someone online and never rush into doing anything with someone you barely even know! There are countless stories of victims who just didn't bother researching before sleeping with dates and now they are either connected with the wrong partners, in jail, deceased or have their share of unwanted children or STDS (sigh).
Have a great New Year connecting with someone who is right for you!
By the way, check out our partners on this site who work hard to bring you some great services around the web!
Nicholl
Thursday
Embarrassed by the Older Man's Looks
He doesn't get the invite to visit with the younger woman's family members and friends for the holidays. His much younger girlfriend rarely wants to go out and about with him. The truth is she secretly is embarrassed by her older companion's looks.
It is obvious they aren't a cute couple and she knows it. The young lady doesn't like the way people look at them when they are out together. She isn't comfortable with being in her family's presence with him either, because she knows what they will say, "He's too old for you. He looks like your dad!"
Young ladies don't think of age difference details until they are tested by society. Similar to an interracial relationship, it takes some getting use to for some May-December couples to be seen in public and to witness reactions. Being behind closed doors is one thing, but being out in the open with an aging partner is something different. One must be comfortable in his or her own skin while choosing to ignore the mean or shocking stares and comments. You can't help who you fall in love with!
If you find yourself frequently feeling uncomfortable about the relationship, discuss your concerns with your partner. Consider your needs first and if it becomes too much to bear, maybe an age gap relationship is not for you. Even though a person's appearance shouldn't be a big deal, it is when there are significant years between you both.
Attraction is very important in relationships and when you don't feel attracted to a partner than you might as well face it. Not everyone is like fine wine getting better with age--it's a harsh reality that some couples don't want to admit to.
Nicholl McGuire
Blog Owner and Author of Too Much, Too Soon Internet Dating Blues
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