So you decided to pursue a man with riches. You placed yourself at the right place at the right time whether on or off the Internet. However, now you have some thoughts about who he is and all that comes with him that aren't so positive. Well, when this sort of thing happens; take a step back. You will need to re-evaluate whether you are willing to compromise personal beliefs, make yourself available more than you want to, and other things to keep that rich man in your life.
There is more to life than money, but for some women, whether young or old, that is all they think about. "How much can I get out of him? I need this paid...what will I have to do to get him to pay for it?" These thoughts and others can create unnecessary stress. Worrying over how to get someone to do something for you can be burdensome. How much do you trust yourself to get what you want? How much do you value you? If your date is so rich, why do you feel the need to have to jump through hoops to get him to help you? When you find yourself thinking more about his riches and less about the man himself, there is a problem--a big problem. Sooner or later you will start to dislike who you are because you secretly feel the way you do about the rich man and his riches. In addition, you just might lose interest in the rich man if he starts rejecting you often. Keep in mind, he will be watching to see if you are indeed interested in him or his money like so many others do.
You may have to tweak some things about you so that you can honestly have a great relationship free of the complications that money and sex can bring. Maybe you need to get out more, pursue hobbies, take classes, or do other things to make you more interesting. Often young women become insecure, controlling, and rude when they feel their position in a rich man's life is being threatened. These issues could be avoided had these women started a relationship with the rich man for the right reasons. A rich man will also need to think about whether he wants more with his young partner in the future, because he knows that in time, there is the possibility that she might want more with him.
Being with a rich man isn't easy. For purposes of this article, rich isn't defined by how much money a man makes only, but everything else that he has as well. A rich man could have many assets, people around him he works with, talents, hobbies, a great personality, and more. The wealthy man shows no evidence of being poor in much of anything. For a young woman who doesn't have much, his lifestyle can be overwhelming and intimidating. Immature women who aren't use to dating rich men can act strangely, rebel, and have temper tantrums like children. If you or someone you know is acting in ways that is causing a rich date to act more like a father figure than a lover, than the relationship will most likely be headed toward a dead-end.
Embrace all that comes with the rich man good, bad, and ugly only if you are accepting of his ways, the people around him, and goods. However, if you know that you are losing your identity and what you stand for while dating such a person, then back off. Maybe he just isn't the answer to your prayers that you thought.
Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Age-Gap Dating: How to Know When the Younger Woman is No Longer Interesting in Dating You
The newness wears off in many age-gap relationships. A mature date just isn't as appealing as he once was--it happens. Money and gifts don't keep all young women interested in dating older men especially when she is use to having nice things.
When you think of the many young women who do enjoy the company of older men (at least for a season), you must also realize that many settle with them for a time until they are better able to take care of themselves. Others may like the companionship, but not necessarily the way their men look. As for other young ladies, they just haven't met a charming guy their own age--yet. But for the young women who no longer like or want to be around their older men, they will act subtle or quite boldly about how they truly feel about them.
1. She frequently makes up excuses not to go out with him.
2. She isn't much interested in his conversation and frequently looks away, answers her cell phone, or strikes up a conversation with others just so that he will stop talking.
3. She ignores him when he calls.
4. She badmouths about him to his face and behind his back without remorse.
5. She isn't interested in being in the same room with him.
6. She expresses little or no interest in his hobbies like she once did.
7. She doesn't smile much around him.
8. She is very guarded about sharing her private life and feelings. For instance, she talks about others' thoughts/ideas/activities, but rarely shares how she feels about too much of anything.
9. She stops asking her date/boyfriend to buy her things.
10. She shows little, if any, affection toward him and doesn't act very responsive toward him when it comes to sex.
If you are a woman reading this and can relate to many of these signs, chances are you just don't like your date much, it would be best to make plans and move on. If you are a man reading this and really desire to keep your young lady friend around, step up your game and ask her does she really want to be in a relationship with you!
Nicholl McGuire
When you think of the many young women who do enjoy the company of older men (at least for a season), you must also realize that many settle with them for a time until they are better able to take care of themselves. Others may like the companionship, but not necessarily the way their men look. As for other young ladies, they just haven't met a charming guy their own age--yet. But for the young women who no longer like or want to be around their older men, they will act subtle or quite boldly about how they truly feel about them.
1. She frequently makes up excuses not to go out with him.
2. She isn't much interested in his conversation and frequently looks away, answers her cell phone, or strikes up a conversation with others just so that he will stop talking.
3. She ignores him when he calls.
4. She badmouths about him to his face and behind his back without remorse.
5. She isn't interested in being in the same room with him.
6. She expresses little or no interest in his hobbies like she once did.
7. She doesn't smile much around him.
8. She is very guarded about sharing her private life and feelings. For instance, she talks about others' thoughts/ideas/activities, but rarely shares how she feels about too much of anything.
9. She stops asking her date/boyfriend to buy her things.
10. She shows little, if any, affection toward him and doesn't act very responsive toward him when it comes to sex.
If you are a woman reading this and can relate to many of these signs, chances are you just don't like your date much, it would be best to make plans and move on. If you are a man reading this and really desire to keep your young lady friend around, step up your game and ask her does she really want to be in a relationship with you!
Nicholl McGuire
Monday
On Breaking Up with Younger or Older Partner - You Can't Get Away that Easy or Can You?
When you had your problems and your date had his or her's, you were there. When loneliness was getting the best of you, that's when your lover came along. When life was such a bore, your new friend brought excitement. In the beginning, it was nice. He grew to love you, treated you so sweetly. She was beautiful, charming, and gave you butterflies like in a teenage romance. But now?
It can be difficult to break up with someone who might still have a way of luring you back into his or her life even when you know he or she is no good for you. Your partner may have been a true friend when no one seemed to care. However, sometimes things go stale in relationships, because people change. From childbirth to unresolved issues of the past, change can make or break relationships. One must know when he or she can't stomach change anymore. You will know when you just can't go on in a relationship if any of the following has started or you believe will begin:
1. Feeling the need to cover up stories with lies. Sometimes having no feelings of remorse.
2. Frequent thoughts of wishing ill on this person.
3. Unable to forgive and forget every time he or she says or does something that offends.
4. An increase of disputes followed by thoughts of breaking up that don't seem to go away.
5. Your body often aches around this person from headaches to backaches.
6. You don't enjoy touching, smelling, or looking at this person like you once did.
7. You find that you have very little in common with him or her.
If most or even all of these signs apply to your current relationship, cut your losses early! Make plans to distance yourself from this individual. Cut this person off sexually and emotionally. Get belongings and stay away from him or her. If you force yourself to stay when you really don't want to, eventually you will mistreat this person and it just might lead to physical violence.
Nicholl McGuire
It can be difficult to break up with someone who might still have a way of luring you back into his or her life even when you know he or she is no good for you. Your partner may have been a true friend when no one seemed to care. However, sometimes things go stale in relationships, because people change. From childbirth to unresolved issues of the past, change can make or break relationships. One must know when he or she can't stomach change anymore. You will know when you just can't go on in a relationship if any of the following has started or you believe will begin:
1. Feeling the need to cover up stories with lies. Sometimes having no feelings of remorse.
2. Frequent thoughts of wishing ill on this person.
3. Unable to forgive and forget every time he or she says or does something that offends.
4. An increase of disputes followed by thoughts of breaking up that don't seem to go away.
5. Your body often aches around this person from headaches to backaches.
6. You don't enjoy touching, smelling, or looking at this person like you once did.
7. You find that you have very little in common with him or her.
If most or even all of these signs apply to your current relationship, cut your losses early! Make plans to distance yourself from this individual. Cut this person off sexually and emotionally. Get belongings and stay away from him or her. If you force yourself to stay when you really don't want to, eventually you will mistreat this person and it just might lead to physical violence.
Nicholl McGuire
Thursday
When Dating Older Goes Bad...
Dr Phil: A 26 Year Age Divide: Can This Couple Be Saved [December 16, 2013]
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