He came off too strong the last time you two were together. His eyes were everywhere and his hands would have been too had you not stopped the horny guy. You would like to go out with him again, but you wonder if it is going to be more of the same? Yes, it will be if you keep teasing him with those lips, that dress, your gaze, sexy conversation, and whatever else you do that turns him on. You might want to think twice about being alone with him.
Young women take chances dating men who obviously want more than just dinner and a movie. He has told you over the phone what he wants and has also been quite bold in what he hopes to have happen the next time he sees you. So what do some young women do? They give into the wild man's desires even when these girls don't want to and unfortunately some get raped.
One must be on her guard when dating older men who are not acting like gentlemen, but more like men who haven't had sex in awhile. You can't have a great time with someone who talks often about having sex when you know you aren't ready. Think twice before going out with the man who can't seem to take "Later or in the future..." as a good enough answer. Pushy men might be violent men, so be careful.
Some things you might want to do:
1. Explain to him why he is turning you off with all his talk about having sex with you.
2. Distance yourself from him by not answering your phone everytime he calls or opening your door when he comes around. Talk with relatives and friends about your concerns if he keeps insisting that he wants to come over.
3. Be prepared to fight if he doesn't respect your boundaries. Have self-defense equipment and 911 on speed dial.
4. Don't ride in the car with him and arrange to have a future date in a public space if you must go out with this "I need sex right now" guy again.
5. You might feel the need to keep him in your life, but don't give up anything to get something, always find alternatives. A sexual bond with someone who doesn't care much about you and vice versa can take a long time to get over and you might have many regrets as a result. Young women have been known to have children they didn't want with men they were never attracted to. They have also walked away with sexually transmitted diseases among other things because they compromised their personal beliefs to satisfy someone else's. Don't let this happen to you!
When the writing is on the wall that your sexually-starved friend is more concerned about your body and less interested in anything else, don't think things will get better, because if you do what he likes, most likely he will find someone else to pursue in the future if you give up sex too soon.
Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com
Friday
7 Dating Tips for Older Men Meeting Young Women for the First Time
So you are excited about meeting your new date offline? Your first meeting will be great if you just remember to relax, don't take yourself too seriously, and use your manners. Now here are some other tips you might not have thought about.
One. Have a plan, a back up plan, and another plan on where you are taking your date.
First dates are the memorable ones, so you will want to work out a great plan. Interview her on what she might like to do, see and eat on the first date. Mention your interests. Find places that will meet both your needs. Have alternative plans that are near the area just in case an unforeseen circumstance takes place. But whatever you do, don’t wander aimlessly around looking for a place to go. Research the area before you arrive. If you can visit the community before you get there, do it. Google the location and check reviews. If one spot doesn’t work out, check out the next, and the next when all else fails, park in a nice spot and just talk until you can figure out where to go next. Keep your cool.
Two. Save money to be spent on your dating experience.
Don’t count on your date to have much. Young mothers with children don’t typically have a lot of money put aside for dating. A young woman in college maybe barely making ends meet. Just because she may be living independently or with parents, doesn’t mean she is able to afford an expensive outing with someone she is still getting to know. So avoid the temptation to ask her to split the bill, drive her car, or pay for gas. If you can’t afford to make a good impression, put it off. Remember the old adage, a first impression is a lasting one--don’t blow it!
Three. If things should go wrong, don’t lie or make lame excuses.
You spent too much time looking at yourself in the mirror, you fell asleep and forgot about the date, someone came over and you left late, whatever the reason, don’t focus on what you did wrong by lying, covering up, or exaggerating, apologize and then get right to making wrongs right. “Let me make this up to you, could I interest you in…would you like…I would love to help you with…” Statements like these sound much better than, “I didn’t think it was a good time to meet, but I know you wanted…You could have called me, you’re lucky I’m here…Everyone is always bothering me at the last minute, I would have been here sooner, but…” So is she going to have to feel your tension all evening?
Four. Look your best, be prepared to take a photo with her.
Skipping anything that you typically do to make yourself handsome can be detrimental when on a first date. When that special someone has seen you looking your best in many of your photos, she doesn’t want to suddenly see the gray-bearded guy who once had a black beard in all his photographs or the guy with the flat stomach suddenly have one now that he isn’t wearing a certain garment, shirt, or suit coat. The first photo is just as important as the first date, so be sure you have everything trimmed, colored, or whatever else it is that you do to look good.
Five. Be kind and respectful.
It is very easy to be yourself to the point that it turns a date off. Be yourself, but within reason. Don’t act overly macho, young and silly, or crazy and critical just because she shared a story once of a cool guy who saved her family or some funny guys back in high school. Most young women want what the older ones want, a polite man who is a good listener and sincerely cares about her.
Six Avoid the temptation of expecting her to have sex with you.
Just because you both were talking hot and heavy on the phone the other night, doesn’t mean that she is going to have sex with you. You never know what has transpired since the two of you last talked. So if she doesn’t bring it up, don’t say anything, but gently let her know with a flirty glance, “I wouldn’t mind.” From religious conviction to a menstrual cycle, many factors come into play when a woman just doesn’t seem interested in being intimate. Besides, you shouldn’t want a woman who is all-too-willing to get in bed with you without so much as thinking about a commitment.
Seven. Don’t assume that she wants to go out with you again.
Some men believe that they are a catch and that every woman should be honored to be in their presence. However, there is always one, two, three or more women who rather be anywhere then with an unattractive boring guy, a miserable man, a control freak, or crazy nut. Be sure that none of these descriptions fit you. Young women might be open to try something new for a time, but then when things get weird, they will gradually back off.
Taking the needed time to prepare for a date will not only make her feel comfortable, but you will feel good knowing that no matter what happens, you did your best. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire maintains other blogs as well, check out http://workplaceproblems.blogspot.com
One. Have a plan, a back up plan, and another plan on where you are taking your date.
First dates are the memorable ones, so you will want to work out a great plan. Interview her on what she might like to do, see and eat on the first date. Mention your interests. Find places that will meet both your needs. Have alternative plans that are near the area just in case an unforeseen circumstance takes place. But whatever you do, don’t wander aimlessly around looking for a place to go. Research the area before you arrive. If you can visit the community before you get there, do it. Google the location and check reviews. If one spot doesn’t work out, check out the next, and the next when all else fails, park in a nice spot and just talk until you can figure out where to go next. Keep your cool.
Two. Save money to be spent on your dating experience.
Don’t count on your date to have much. Young mothers with children don’t typically have a lot of money put aside for dating. A young woman in college maybe barely making ends meet. Just because she may be living independently or with parents, doesn’t mean she is able to afford an expensive outing with someone she is still getting to know. So avoid the temptation to ask her to split the bill, drive her car, or pay for gas. If you can’t afford to make a good impression, put it off. Remember the old adage, a first impression is a lasting one--don’t blow it!
Three. If things should go wrong, don’t lie or make lame excuses.
You spent too much time looking at yourself in the mirror, you fell asleep and forgot about the date, someone came over and you left late, whatever the reason, don’t focus on what you did wrong by lying, covering up, or exaggerating, apologize and then get right to making wrongs right. “Let me make this up to you, could I interest you in…would you like…I would love to help you with…” Statements like these sound much better than, “I didn’t think it was a good time to meet, but I know you wanted…You could have called me, you’re lucky I’m here…Everyone is always bothering me at the last minute, I would have been here sooner, but…” So is she going to have to feel your tension all evening?Four. Look your best, be prepared to take a photo with her.
Skipping anything that you typically do to make yourself handsome can be detrimental when on a first date. When that special someone has seen you looking your best in many of your photos, she doesn’t want to suddenly see the gray-bearded guy who once had a black beard in all his photographs or the guy with the flat stomach suddenly have one now that he isn’t wearing a certain garment, shirt, or suit coat. The first photo is just as important as the first date, so be sure you have everything trimmed, colored, or whatever else it is that you do to look good.
Five. Be kind and respectful.
Six Avoid the temptation of expecting her to have sex with you.
Just because you both were talking hot and heavy on the phone the other night, doesn’t mean that she is going to have sex with you. You never know what has transpired since the two of you last talked. So if she doesn’t bring it up, don’t say anything, but gently let her know with a flirty glance, “I wouldn’t mind.” From religious conviction to a menstrual cycle, many factors come into play when a woman just doesn’t seem interested in being intimate. Besides, you shouldn’t want a woman who is all-too-willing to get in bed with you without so much as thinking about a commitment.
Seven. Don’t assume that she wants to go out with you again.
Some men believe that they are a catch and that every woman should be honored to be in their presence. However, there is always one, two, three or more women who rather be anywhere then with an unattractive boring guy, a miserable man, a control freak, or crazy nut. Be sure that none of these descriptions fit you. Young women might be open to try something new for a time, but then when things get weird, they will gradually back off.
Taking the needed time to prepare for a date will not only make her feel comfortable, but you will feel good knowing that no matter what happens, you did your best. To your success!
Nicholl McGuire maintains other blogs as well, check out http://workplaceproblems.blogspot.com
Tuesday
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We have been blogging since 2007! It feels good knowing that people are reading and obtaining a bit of wisdom, humor, and dating tips when it comes to finding and keeping a great companion.
So what is a blog entry without sharing more tips on dating older and younger?
If you are ready and willing to make changes when your own efforts have failed, then you are more likely to act on the tips this blog provides you. People who have quality relationships are those who are open to accepting their mate's frailties and able to see their own personal flaws.
When seeking that special someone or maintaining one's current relationship,
one knows that he or she can't afford to be too picky. A lover enjoys a mate's company and isn't concerned about things like what his or her eyebrows look like and how the person laughs. Instead of focusing on the little things that might annoy others, the lover focuses on everything that makes him or her feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Love prevails even when one is dating older or younger. Age doesn't matter when one is sold out and in love with a mate! So for those who just don't get it, it isn't for you to "get it," just be positive and hope that the energy of a fresh romance rekindles a stale one!
In closing, be free to love a person in a way that you always wanted! Sure, there are many voices that want to help you solve your dilemmas, better you, and so on, but what really matters is what you want so take what you learn and make it your own! So enjoy the blog, there is more to come!
Nicholl McGuire Media
So what is a blog entry without sharing more tips on dating older and younger?
If you are ready and willing to make changes when your own efforts have failed, then you are more likely to act on the tips this blog provides you. People who have quality relationships are those who are open to accepting their mate's frailties and able to see their own personal flaws.
When seeking that special someone or maintaining one's current relationship,
one knows that he or she can't afford to be too picky. A lover enjoys a mate's company and isn't concerned about things like what his or her eyebrows look like and how the person laughs. Instead of focusing on the little things that might annoy others, the lover focuses on everything that makes him or her feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Love prevails even when one is dating older or younger. Age doesn't matter when one is sold out and in love with a mate! So for those who just don't get it, it isn't for you to "get it," just be positive and hope that the energy of a fresh romance rekindles a stale one!
In closing, be free to love a person in a way that you always wanted! Sure, there are many voices that want to help you solve your dilemmas, better you, and so on, but what really matters is what you want so take what you learn and make it your own! So enjoy the blog, there is more to come!
Nicholl McGuire Media
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