Saturday
6 Dating Tips to Keep Things Fun, Easy-going this Season
With the weather warmer, more and more singles will be out and about checking out one another. You don't want to miss out on the action if you're ready to connect with someone new, so do make time to get out and about! But before you do, consider the following so that you are not wasting your time this mating season.
1. Don't assume the first person who shows you some interest (and who happens to be younger or older) is meant to be. Long term commitment is the last thing you should be thinking of when you barely know someone.
2. Find some common interests before you make arrangements to meet or spend your hard-earned money on someone. People might look like your ideal, but it doesn't mean that mentally you will mesh with them.
3. Never expect someone will give you anything just because you gave the individual something first.
4. Stop talking about exes! They are your former partners for good reason!
5. Just because your older or younger means nothing, so don't dwell on age! There are mature and immature people in all age groups. However, keep in mind the wider the age gap, the more differences you will encounter sooner or later.
6. Lastly, appreciate your time with someone and most of all be respectful even if they aren't big on respect, because you never know how he or she might benefit you later. It is a small world you know!
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Nicholl McGuire
1. Don't assume the first person who shows you some interest (and who happens to be younger or older) is meant to be. Long term commitment is the last thing you should be thinking of when you barely know someone.
2. Find some common interests before you make arrangements to meet or spend your hard-earned money on someone. People might look like your ideal, but it doesn't mean that mentally you will mesh with them.
3. Never expect someone will give you anything just because you gave the individual something first.
4. Stop talking about exes! They are your former partners for good reason!
5. Just because your older or younger means nothing, so don't dwell on age! There are mature and immature people in all age groups. However, keep in mind the wider the age gap, the more differences you will encounter sooner or later.
6. Lastly, appreciate your time with someone and most of all be respectful even if they aren't big on respect, because you never know how he or she might benefit you later. It is a small world you know!
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Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
Your Older Date's Relationship with Mom
Whether he is very close, somewhat close or not at all due to conflict, death or something else, you just might learn much about how he might treat you. Not every man, who appears to have a great relationship with mom, will be nice and respectful to their dates too.
Some men feel obligated to be obedient to mom because they fear or worry about her. There are many people who have no idea or concept that they are being manipulated by their mothers. Nor do they comprehend how their relationship (or lack thereof) with mom is connected with how they generally treat women.
Watch for these signs and more that a man is not very kind or respectful toward women:
1. He feels he is smarter and/or more responsible than women.
2. He speaks harshly about them.
3. He makes offensive jokes about the opposite sex.
4. He claims to have a close relationship with his mom, yet he badmouths her.
5. He doesn't act like he cares for his mother much even when she is having a tough time.
6. He talks positively about men and tends to bond well with them, but women he is mean and disrespectful.
7. You feel like you are walking on eggshells with him.
When you notice these signs, you have a choice to confront the man about his behavior, keep your distance, or drop him altogether. Men who are mean-spirited when it comes to women are not good guys to be around. A mother's impact is quite powerful: good, bad or otherwise. Don't underestimate it. If a man should say, "I really can't stand my mother...I hate what she did to me...I wish she was never my mother...I can't forgive her for...She really gets on my nerves," you have every right to be wary of him. Check out "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry" by Nicholl McGuire
Some men feel obligated to be obedient to mom because they fear or worry about her. There are many people who have no idea or concept that they are being manipulated by their mothers. Nor do they comprehend how their relationship (or lack thereof) with mom is connected with how they generally treat women.
Watch for these signs and more that a man is not very kind or respectful toward women:
1. He feels he is smarter and/or more responsible than women.
2. He speaks harshly about them.
3. He makes offensive jokes about the opposite sex.
4. He claims to have a close relationship with his mom, yet he badmouths her.
5. He doesn't act like he cares for his mother much even when she is having a tough time.
6. He talks positively about men and tends to bond well with them, but women he is mean and disrespectful.
7. You feel like you are walking on eggshells with him.
When you notice these signs, you have a choice to confront the man about his behavior, keep your distance, or drop him altogether. Men who are mean-spirited when it comes to women are not good guys to be around. A mother's impact is quite powerful: good, bad or otherwise. Don't underestimate it. If a man should say, "I really can't stand my mother...I hate what she did to me...I wish she was never my mother...I can't forgive her for...She really gets on my nerves," you have every right to be wary of him. Check out "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry" by Nicholl McGuire
Friday
Your Date Told You Some Things About His/Her Past - Are You Listening?
Your date will tell you about his or her past growing up like there was abuse, trauma, violence or emotional abuse between parents, and more.
What is the likelihood that he or she will one day blow up on you?
Tuesday
Sunday
Dating Older African American Men
My dating older African American men experiences started when I was 19 years old and stopped soon after I got married the first time, broke up started back up, and then ended after meeting my online date and marrying him (all at least eight plus years older--the oldest being almost 20 year age difference).
The first mature man that took interest in dating me was a 41 year old who was hiding his thinning hair as best he could. I accidentally brushed up against it once and he straightened it out as fast he could while looking downcast. I apologized and felt bad for him. Anyway, I was happy to go out with the nice guy still in college like me at the time. I was especially proud to be seen with him after seeing the black Stingray I would be riding in on our first date! Not a rental--he owned it because he was one of the few guys I met who did some wise things with his money during his youth.
My parents jaws dropped when they heard the sports car arrive in the front of their home. They forgot all about how old he was and he didn't look his age which was alright with them--I guess. I didn't bother to get their opinion, I was too busy thinking about all the fun I was going to have with this one.
The tall African American gentleman slowly got out the shiny car that looked like it just came off the showroom floor. Once he saw me coming down the stairs outside my parents home, he headed over to the passenger side to open the door, he smiled warmly after looking me over. I was dressed to kill and just as sharp as the automobile!
He wasn't the first man that would take me to quality restaurants, make promises of traveling around the country and elsewhere, and talk of making me a wife and mother one day. The same year more older men, more promises, gifts, and dates. Later came promise and engagement rings from the divorced, the married getting a divorce, the friends with benefits, the abusive man, and the momma's boy. The following year and more years to come more of the same.
I noticed a pattern while dating older, black men I dated born around the 1960s (Civil Rights Movement)--they were chauvinistic and a few angry. Yep, I said it. These men enjoyed the company of beautiful women, complimented them much, and even bought them some things, but wasn't much interest in personal opinion, counsel, or requests unless they benefited in some way. On top of the loveless connections (at least on my end) I wasn't the only woman with several, I was one of a group--the fresh meat, the rebound chic, the smart one, or PYT (pretty young thang) that was also being persuaded to wait for whatever--a relationship, money, car, home--whatever! But of course the sweet lines of, "I will drop everyone for you...You are so gorgeous, sexy...I love you. I will leave my wife..." Huh, what wife?
Anyone who has dated a black man knows how charming they can be with their smooth words. They can melt the underwear off of you--I kid you not! While giving you small tokens, some are expecting you to pay for major purchases or invest in their dreams. I noticed when tactics didn't work with me and other black women, some of these same men went off to be with white women--didn't bother me, enjoy.
I did not like the subtle as well as blatant control tactics many of these men used to feed their egos. I could see that there was also some commitment issues with many of them that's why I didn't continue to date them. Given that there is less than 15% of African Americans in the United States (last I checked the population stats) that means there isn't a whole lot of available men. You have many incarcerated, gay, bi-sexual, ill, and too young to date of that percentage. Those suitable for dating are great catches but have their share of issues including: unemployed, addictions, mental disorders, exes, children from previous relationships (and mothers who don't necessarily want to let them go), dating inter-racially (not black women) and have mistresses or girlfriends. A smaller percentage are faithful and mainly at home when not working but also have their woes. The dating scene is indeed tough when it comes to connecting with quality older black men and even more challenging when trying to marry.
Things are even more difficult when there are those African American men, who are single and childless, but don't take care of themselves. They seek younger women, but they don't get very far because some just aren't attractive. However, with a fat wallet, suddenly they are "fine" and "sexy" according to some single, gold-digging women of all races.
Nicholl McGuire
The first mature man that took interest in dating me was a 41 year old who was hiding his thinning hair as best he could. I accidentally brushed up against it once and he straightened it out as fast he could while looking downcast. I apologized and felt bad for him. Anyway, I was happy to go out with the nice guy still in college like me at the time. I was especially proud to be seen with him after seeing the black Stingray I would be riding in on our first date! Not a rental--he owned it because he was one of the few guys I met who did some wise things with his money during his youth.
My parents jaws dropped when they heard the sports car arrive in the front of their home. They forgot all about how old he was and he didn't look his age which was alright with them--I guess. I didn't bother to get their opinion, I was too busy thinking about all the fun I was going to have with this one.
The tall African American gentleman slowly got out the shiny car that looked like it just came off the showroom floor. Once he saw me coming down the stairs outside my parents home, he headed over to the passenger side to open the door, he smiled warmly after looking me over. I was dressed to kill and just as sharp as the automobile!
He wasn't the first man that would take me to quality restaurants, make promises of traveling around the country and elsewhere, and talk of making me a wife and mother one day. The same year more older men, more promises, gifts, and dates. Later came promise and engagement rings from the divorced, the married getting a divorce, the friends with benefits, the abusive man, and the momma's boy. The following year and more years to come more of the same.
I noticed a pattern while dating older, black men I dated born around the 1960s (Civil Rights Movement)--they were chauvinistic and a few angry. Yep, I said it. These men enjoyed the company of beautiful women, complimented them much, and even bought them some things, but wasn't much interest in personal opinion, counsel, or requests unless they benefited in some way. On top of the loveless connections (at least on my end) I wasn't the only woman with several, I was one of a group--the fresh meat, the rebound chic, the smart one, or PYT (pretty young thang) that was also being persuaded to wait for whatever--a relationship, money, car, home--whatever! But of course the sweet lines of, "I will drop everyone for you...You are so gorgeous, sexy...I love you. I will leave my wife..." Huh, what wife?
Anyone who has dated a black man knows how charming they can be with their smooth words. They can melt the underwear off of you--I kid you not! While giving you small tokens, some are expecting you to pay for major purchases or invest in their dreams. I noticed when tactics didn't work with me and other black women, some of these same men went off to be with white women--didn't bother me, enjoy.
I did not like the subtle as well as blatant control tactics many of these men used to feed their egos. I could see that there was also some commitment issues with many of them that's why I didn't continue to date them. Given that there is less than 15% of African Americans in the United States (last I checked the population stats) that means there isn't a whole lot of available men. You have many incarcerated, gay, bi-sexual, ill, and too young to date of that percentage. Those suitable for dating are great catches but have their share of issues including: unemployed, addictions, mental disorders, exes, children from previous relationships (and mothers who don't necessarily want to let them go), dating inter-racially (not black women) and have mistresses or girlfriends. A smaller percentage are faithful and mainly at home when not working but also have their woes. The dating scene is indeed tough when it comes to connecting with quality older black men and even more challenging when trying to marry.
Things are even more difficult when there are those African American men, who are single and childless, but don't take care of themselves. They seek younger women, but they don't get very far because some just aren't attractive. However, with a fat wallet, suddenly they are "fine" and "sexy" according to some single, gold-digging women of all races.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
What No Father Wants To Hear From His Little Girl
If a father doesn't have a good relationship with his daughter, failed her in many ways, was too demanding or strict, then expect some strange things to happen. Dysfunctional father daughter relationships
Wednesday
Self-Inflicted Wounds and the Turbulent Romance
Sometimes age gap couples make the kind of connections online or offline that are way over their heads. They realize they are playing with fire when people are being emotionally and/or physically wounded. But some of the most difficult arrangements are those where someone is hurting his or herself.
Not everyone is mentally stable when they seek a partner for just fun times or a life long commitment. The evidence is usually prevalent early on, but many people dismiss what they see and hear. The drinks continue to pour at parties, drugs are used, and sexual acts that would make an audience gasp are performed in a miserable relationship or arrangement. Some people believe that they can walk away from almost anything with minds and hearts intact, but that isn't always the case.
For example, the troubled, young abused woman might not go away easily and the wealthy, controlling man might not leave her alone when he should. A whirlwind romance goes full steam ahead before crashing. Sometimes these toxic connections end up being nothing more than funerals.
Death is a harsh reality and a wake up call especially when you know someone has pushed his or herself beyond the limits of imagination while inflicting all sorts of pain upon an already wounded soul.
It isn't always a person with a shady past found guilty, but sometimes the only one at fault is the broken heart looking to fulfill a void within by any means necessary.
Nicholl McGuire
Not everyone is mentally stable when they seek a partner for just fun times or a life long commitment. The evidence is usually prevalent early on, but many people dismiss what they see and hear. The drinks continue to pour at parties, drugs are used, and sexual acts that would make an audience gasp are performed in a miserable relationship or arrangement. Some people believe that they can walk away from almost anything with minds and hearts intact, but that isn't always the case.
For example, the troubled, young abused woman might not go away easily and the wealthy, controlling man might not leave her alone when he should. A whirlwind romance goes full steam ahead before crashing. Sometimes these toxic connections end up being nothing more than funerals.
Death is a harsh reality and a wake up call especially when you know someone has pushed his or herself beyond the limits of imagination while inflicting all sorts of pain upon an already wounded soul.
It isn't always a person with a shady past found guilty, but sometimes the only one at fault is the broken heart looking to fulfill a void within by any means necessary.
Nicholl McGuire
Saturday
Mariah Carey, Tommy Mottola & Sony : Life As A Porcelain Doll
There is always more than meets the eye, visit site about the unusual, strange and different. Celebrities lead the parade of all sorts of odd behaviors.
Friday
Writers, Bloggers, Video Creators...Dating Older Men, Younger Women?
He is sexy, sweet and smart. She is unique, fun, and beautiful!
The May-December romance is in full bloom. But as we all know sometimes
what goes up, goes down. Do you have something to share about dating older men
or younger women? Then let us feature you on this site!
We welcome all shapes, sizes, ethnicities, etc. Tell our audience about your challenges and share solutions. Send correspondence to nichollmcguire@gmail.com today.
Our audience enjoys reading content that can help them with their relationships and dating blues.
Thursday
Welcome to this Age Gap Dating Site Between Mature Men and Young Women
For those who are in love with an older man or curious as well as others who enjoy dating or married to young women, you will enjoy the content on this blog. Much is thought-provoking, fun, serious, and also liberating. So take a moment to check out whatever might be on interest. This information is timeless and very useful especially if you are new to May-December romance. Enjoy!
Nicholl McGuire
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Wednesday
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