When walking out in public, the mature gentleman might stare at the young lady from a distance hoping that she will take notice of him. A question might come to mind, would the 22 plus year old woman bother with the graying man with/without facial hair, fit/unfit, handsome or not? Most likely she will give him a bit of attention especially if he should make her laugh. Agreeing to date the older man might not be an issue if she knows that he has something more to offer besides flattering statements and a nice smile. The 22-year-old is looking over the rich man's shoulder at the car he is driving. She is viewing his wardrobe and looking at his ring finger. She is also noticing the jewelry he is wearing. She might take notice of how he smells and whether or not she can stand to look at his face and body shape for long. The young woman is also looking at the hue of his skin while checking out scars, age marks, and other imperfections along with tattoos while he brags about his haves while luring her into some conversation about her have-nots. She is determining whether or not she can tolerate listening and looking at the older man for long periods of time.
What might the affluent older man do for the 22 plus year old woman? He needs to know the answer to that question before he bothers to ask for a date. Sooner or later a smart, young lady will ask. Since many young women, who are focused on education and careers, aspire to do wonderful things that will make them feel accomplished, they aren't that interested in a middle-aged man's relatives, children, exes, etc. Smiles are deceiving. She is being polite when she is asking about one's personal life, but if she picks up on anything that sounds like work for her, drama that she has to put up with just to be with an older, rich (or poor) man, distractions that might interfere with her career goals/cost of living, or anything more that might potentially affect her plans, she most likely will forget about that nice, older gentleman. But other young ladies, depending on the impact the older man might have made on them, will take his number-- just in case they need financial help one day, a temporary sex buddy, or a father figure/mentor for a bit of wisdom.
Most career-driven young women are not interested in marriage and a baby in a carriage until late in life. Many more are definitely not interested in baby-sitting/looking after or spending money on another woman's children with the older man. The ones that might put aside life goals and work to assist their older partners are those that are very unhappy with their current or unresolved past situations. Maybe they have the following challenges:
-Don't get along with parents.
-Recently broke up with someone.
-Found out they are pregnant.
-Have a mental condition.
-Struggle with past issues regarding a father figure or other males or something else that might have occurred in their personal lives to derail dreams.
A young lady just might tolerate the older guy if he acts like her escape from past woes especially if he is stable and secure in his life. Desperate, young women seek the older men who are weak to helping beautiful damsels in distress. Sobs, anger outbursts, frequent sighing, or fake laughs over one's troubles is often given early on in the dating relationship (along with much sex) in the hopes that she can secure the successful, older man until the troubled young woman no longer has need of him.
So when it comes to young women dating older men, it all depends on who you ask and what their life issue might be at the time. Just know that love doesn't come easy. A spiritually and mentally immature woman who is still learning and growing isn't much interested in love as much as opportunity.