Tuesday

5 Things About Older Men No Woman Likes

So you got her, but can you keep her?  The younger, intelligent woman is not going to spend the best years of her life committed to a mature man who just can't seem to understand why some things he does or doesn't do are deal breakers.  If you love her, you will do what is right--without the excuse-making, blame game, reverse psychology tactics, and emotional or physical abuse.  No sane woman is going to tolerate the following forever and always!  Sooner or later she is going to take a stand, so rather than listen to her rant, pay attention and make needed changes.

1.  Men who don't keep themselves up ie.) take daily showers, cut hair, etc.

Would you want to smell a nasty body odor from your partner or look at her disheveled hair often?  Of course not.  You would say something to her wouldn't you.  So what makes you think she wants to keep tolerating some things about you that you have obviously let go? 

2.  Men who are users and abusers.

How long will you ask her to give you something, make this, or do that before she becomes visibly upset?  Do as much as you can on your own, without her assistance, and maybe you won't look like you are using and abusing her.  As one woman once shared with me about doing for men, "Iron wears out."  A woman will grow weary of being nice to you when you don't bother to appreciate her and do what she likes sometimes without resistance.  Men have said similar things--it takes two to tango, my friend.  Would you like to be used and abused by her?

3.  Men who lie or exaggerate about things like:  who they know, where they have been, and what happened while there.

If you can't help her, don't hurt her with lies and exaggerations.  Some women are vengeful--they hold alot in before they unleash their wrath--what you thought you got away with five days ago or even five years ago just might come back to haunt you, so tell the truth!

4.  Men who say one thing and do another. ie.) He says he likes to go places, but in reality he is a couch potato.

When you have dated much, there are some things that you should know by now when it comes to women, like not telling your date you love her when you really don't  know what you feel or making yourself out to be someone that you really aren't, like a rich big shot--yeah right.  Meanwhile, the reality is you are in over your head in debt and you hope your date offers to pay sometime.  Be open!

5.  Men who have little room in their lives for a committed relationship.

As much as you would like to date that special someone, the truth is you barely have enough time to clip your toenails.  Seriously, re-think dating a young woman when you know you have little time and patience.  She will desire your attention and affection and if you can't give it to her, there will be someone else (most likely younger than you) that will fulfill that void one day.  Think before you take the leap!

These five tips are just a start on the right track when it comes to dating and keeping a young woman, I'm sure you can think of five more.  So do take the time to better yourself before arguments get out of hand.

Nicholl McGuire 

Thursday

When the Fashionably Dressed Older Man Overcompensates for His Lack

When young and older men sit back and admire a fellow brother who appears to be very successful, happy, and has many women who like him, what they don't readily see are his weaknesses and neither do those women who think he is a good catch.

Far too many young women, as well as older ones, are caught with a charming smile, false promises, and more because they fail to see manipulative tactics by deceptive older men.  Like young men, who look up to players, pimps, and hustlers, foolish women are taken by the gentleman's decor used to entice the naive, gullible, materialistic, and others who wish to walk in or beside his shoes.

The designer labels, the fat leather wallet, eye-catching jewelry, expensive cars, a big home, and other feel-good items are nothing more than distractions that lead many people away from truth.  It is very hard for one to see whether Mr. Right Now is more like Mr. Right Never Ever.

The young woman, captivated by an admirer's lustful desires, fails to see the signs that an older man is past his prime and may not satisfy her like a man her own age.  She deceives herself into thinking she is attracted to him because "He said that he would give me...He promised that he would buy me... He told me that he loved me..." when the reality is that this older man is deceiving his fans with charms that lead many women to Heartbreak Hotel.

Many older men have been dismissed as future long-term mates by observant, mature women, because they saw early on through these manipulative men's lies.  So he goes out to the local mall and elsewhere buying yet another item he doesn't need to make himself happy while seeking yet another woman who will stick around and give him what he wants before she notices his flaws.

Now some of the mature man's weaknesses are noticeable while others not so much.  Some women learn the hard way that there are those men who are physically broken--lacking in something here, there or everywhere!  One would think a man who knows he can't get along with or keep a woman for a variety of reasons would just settle with being alone, but not the determined mature man who thinks he still has what it takes from 10, 15 or 20 plus years ago!

The reality that he can't keep up with a younger woman or connect with women in his own age group soon affects various areas of his life from finances to location.  He thinks, "What can I do to make them like me?"  Some older men will dress up their broken bodies in the finest garments--especially those individuals who refuse to do things like:  take necessary medicines/supplements for their conditions, work out, or seek a professional therapist for past issues.  They believe that their next victim won't notice things like: a moody temperament, a terrible odor that comes and goes, impotence, tiredness, and strange behaviors.  Other mature men will buy gadgets and go places they think will impress their love interests.  While some will simply do nothing but run their mouths in the hopes that they can get a quickie from someone who might be having a similar hormonal high.

A man who really wants love in his life must come to terms with the truth about himself.  Dressing one's self in the latest fashions may draw some honeybees, but how long they stay is up in the air.  If you are experiencing some free time after breaking up with someone, consider looking at yourself in the mirror, sniff around, observe your environment, and pay close attention to what those closest to you have warned, a body that is crying out for love and peace needs more than just another item to cover it or keep it entertained.

Nicholl McGuire, creator of this blog.  Thank you for visiting!

Keep Up With Me

Found someone who can keep up with me
now that one is all I can see.

Have been through the fight to keep love in sight.
After years of pain, now I see the light!

Have told others, there is more to do besides sharing covers.
Tried to speak wisdom to the lost and confused kind of brothers.

I really wasn't prepared for a love like this,
but things changed when we shared a kiss.

Older, younger
stronger, wise.
Broke past ties,
kept away from lies.

Times were somewhat good back then,
even when my spirit didn't override my skin.

These days I am focused on what really matters,
true love has made a pumping heart grow fatter.

Feel satisfied with my new life,
less boring, and not as much strife.

Know what I want and why I am here,
happiness moves me to shed a tear.

I do not fear what people might say
I take the time out to pray each day.

Have a lot to share with the one who has blessed me,
healed my wandering, blind eyes, so that I may see,
I now appreciate the one who stands before me!


Nicholl McGuire

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