Let's face it, some sugar daddies just aren't easy on the eyes and don't necessarily have a gift for entertaining a pretty young woman, you might be one of them. So with that, there are some things that you will need to do to boost your strengths and downplay your weaknesses.
1. Take care of yourself.
Far too many older men let themselves go. The young woman looks at that nice photograph from yesteryear and dreams of having met you in your youth. Before you go showing off those past photos, in an attempt to win her over with your past beauty, try keeping her interested in the modern day you. Watch eating things that help pack on pounds around your mid-section. Don't ignore health issues. For instance, visit your doctor and dentist and share your concerns with them. Trim your hair (dye it or upgrade it), cut your toe nails, and get unsightly things removed or changed where applicable. Why permit yourself to go downhill just because you have reached a certain age?
2. Be polite and considerate.
Sweet, inspirational, and loving responses and phrases used to keep a young woman interested in you go a long way--this is what puts the "Sugar" in Daddy! Before long, she is forgetting about you being short, overweight, gray, and wrinkled. Write your thoughts, speak your feelings, or buy a book, artwork, keepsake, or card that comes from the heart.
3. Look for opportunities to do kind deeds.
There are selfish, miserable rich older and younger men who simply don't have the time, patience, or know-how when it comes to having a quality relationship with women. There are so many ways to show your appreciation and admiration of your younger partner. Think of things she likes, needs, and hopes for and try to help her in whatever way you can. From small tokens that make her life easier to help with paying bills, the fact still remains that some older, unattractive men get all the nice-looking ladies because they are good listeners and generous.
4. Explain noticeable flaws.
Some flaws simply can't be hidden; therefore when she questions, "What is that? How did that happen? Why do you act that way?" Be prepared to speak truth, but don't share so much information that she becomes fearful, worried, or start to wonder if she can catch what you got. For example, if you really like your date and desire to be with her exclusively, be open to talking about things like an incurable sexually transmitted disease--don't fail to mention it, and always remember to protect yourself and your partner.
5. Show much interest in your young partner's world.
Competition is fierce when it comes to dating a very attractive woman, so an unattractive man must stand out from the crowd by paying his young partner more attention than most men. He has to genuinely care about her and be willing to offer her the kind of love and appreciation that touches her soul.
Keep in mind there are young women who will look pass your flaws when they can see your inner strengths manifest externally. Do what you can to improve your self physically, mentally and spiritually.
Wednesday
5 Younger Women Woes
So what exactly goes through a mind of a young woman with a bright future ahead of her? A lot! She wants it all! A life of happiness, joy, love, and money. But all too often, her dreams are dashed by a bad breakup, an unexpected pregnancy, student loan debt, and unresolved issues with parents. Oh yes, there is much to be expected when dating a young woman who is seemingly intelligent with a job and a couple of hobbies for her mental release.
Young women have their share of concerns like an older man, and their issues are not all heartfelt, deep, and mysterious.
1. She is concerned about her looks and sometimes worry about what she will look like when she gets older.
From makeup to clothes, even if she isn't drop-deap gorgeous and high maintenance, she is interested in self improvement. She wants nice things and she doesn't want to feel guilty or angry at her partner about buying them either. Most likely, she has been told, "You won't be young forever!"
2. She cares immensely for family and friends (that is if certain ones haven't been that bad.) When she wants to talk to and see her loved ones, she will go to great lengths to do just that even complaining on the way to her parent's home. But if they have treated her or others wrongly often, she has little, if any, time for them or her partner's people.
3. She desires a relationship and possibly children one day, but she doesn't want to be pressured into having or not having them by a certain age. If she is still very much concerned about her looks and personal needs, why would she want to make a conscientious sacrifice to have children because someone else wants them? One way an independent woman, who is energetic, people-loving, and career-driven will settle with a husband and have children in her twenties, is if she slips on the birth control. And if this happens, be prepared for a myriad of emotions (happy, sad, depressed, angry, insensitive, rude, impatient, etc.) Most young women don't want to settle down before they are ready. (See When Mothers Cry http://whenmotherscry.blogspot.com)
4. She hopes to have enough money to maintain a decent living, so she isn't happy until she finds that her career choice is paying off and she has some help that will make her life easier.
If a young woman has settled in the past with someone who was more of a burden than a blessing, she will most likely avoid being in a relationship with someone who wants her to abandon her career while he saves money toward his future.
5. She has no need for religion in good times, but when in bad, she looks for the nearest church, relative or friend to help her through challenging times.
Most young women are not diehard believers in any faith. They know of a Creator or choose not to believe in one; but rather look to themselves for answers. But when things go wrong, lots of things, these women will run to people, who they feel like they can trust, to help them make sense of challenging times. Some will become overzealous at first, but gradually die down when they first join a group. Others will move on to something else if they can't experience the peace they have hoped for. While others will become bitter if they have been mistreated in anyway by faith leaders and their members and may become easily offended and argumentative if one attempts to share his or her beliefs.
Of course, there are more younger women woes, but these are the common ones that tend to show up in various conversations, on tee-shirts in slogans or pictures, in magazines that she reads and movies that she watches, and wall hangings--Beauty, Friendship, Romance, Money, and Faith--if you can touch her soul and lifestyle, you just might have a friend for life!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, a book for people interested in reading about the challenges of motherhood and how to solve some dilemmas when it comes to relationships, parenting, grandparents, in-laws, and more.
Young women have their share of concerns like an older man, and their issues are not all heartfelt, deep, and mysterious.
1. She is concerned about her looks and sometimes worry about what she will look like when she gets older.
From makeup to clothes, even if she isn't drop-deap gorgeous and high maintenance, she is interested in self improvement. She wants nice things and she doesn't want to feel guilty or angry at her partner about buying them either. Most likely, she has been told, "You won't be young forever!"
2. She cares immensely for family and friends (that is if certain ones haven't been that bad.) When she wants to talk to and see her loved ones, she will go to great lengths to do just that even complaining on the way to her parent's home. But if they have treated her or others wrongly often, she has little, if any, time for them or her partner's people.
3. She desires a relationship and possibly children one day, but she doesn't want to be pressured into having or not having them by a certain age. If she is still very much concerned about her looks and personal needs, why would she want to make a conscientious sacrifice to have children because someone else wants them? One way an independent woman, who is energetic, people-loving, and career-driven will settle with a husband and have children in her twenties, is if she slips on the birth control. And if this happens, be prepared for a myriad of emotions (happy, sad, depressed, angry, insensitive, rude, impatient, etc.) Most young women don't want to settle down before they are ready. (See When Mothers Cry http://whenmotherscry.blogspot.com)
4. She hopes to have enough money to maintain a decent living, so she isn't happy until she finds that her career choice is paying off and she has some help that will make her life easier.
If a young woman has settled in the past with someone who was more of a burden than a blessing, she will most likely avoid being in a relationship with someone who wants her to abandon her career while he saves money toward his future.
5. She has no need for religion in good times, but when in bad, she looks for the nearest church, relative or friend to help her through challenging times.
Most young women are not diehard believers in any faith. They know of a Creator or choose not to believe in one; but rather look to themselves for answers. But when things go wrong, lots of things, these women will run to people, who they feel like they can trust, to help them make sense of challenging times. Some will become overzealous at first, but gradually die down when they first join a group. Others will move on to something else if they can't experience the peace they have hoped for. While others will become bitter if they have been mistreated in anyway by faith leaders and their members and may become easily offended and argumentative if one attempts to share his or her beliefs.
Of course, there are more younger women woes, but these are the common ones that tend to show up in various conversations, on tee-shirts in slogans or pictures, in magazines that she reads and movies that she watches, and wall hangings--Beauty, Friendship, Romance, Money, and Faith--if you can touch her soul and lifestyle, you just might have a friend for life!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, a book for people interested in reading about the challenges of motherhood and how to solve some dilemmas when it comes to relationships, parenting, grandparents, in-laws, and more.
Tuesday
7 Health Related Things Older Men 50+ Might Go Through...
1. A desire to have another child. http://www.iol.co.za/lifestyle/family/baby-toddler/when-middle-aged-men-get-broody-1.1585333
2. Prostate issues. http://www.myneworleans.com/New-Orleans-Magazine/October-2013/A-Revelation-About-Prostate-Cancer/
3. Obesity and Alzheimer's. http://atlantablackstar.com/2013/10/01/obesity-linked-alzheimers-disease/
4. Side effects from a divorce. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/30/mens-health-divorce_n_4018432.html
5. Old age signs. http://www.iol.co.za/lifestyle/signs-that-old-age-is-sneaking-up-1.1585335
6. Low Testosterone. http://men.webmd.com/features/low-testosterone-explained-how-do-you-know-when-levels-are-too-low
7. Sleeping Issues. http://men.webmd.com/features/low-testosterone-explained-how-do-you-know-when-levels-are-too-low
2. Prostate issues. http://www.myneworleans.com/New-Orleans-Magazine/October-2013/A-Revelation-About-Prostate-Cancer/
3. Obesity and Alzheimer's. http://atlantablackstar.com/2013/10/01/obesity-linked-alzheimers-disease/
4. Side effects from a divorce. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/30/mens-health-divorce_n_4018432.html
5. Old age signs. http://www.iol.co.za/lifestyle/signs-that-old-age-is-sneaking-up-1.1585335
6. Low Testosterone. http://men.webmd.com/features/low-testosterone-explained-how-do-you-know-when-levels-are-too-low
7. Sleeping Issues. http://men.webmd.com/features/low-testosterone-explained-how-do-you-know-when-levels-are-too-low
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