In such a rush to grow up!
Couldn't wait to get that drink in your cup.
Thought you had everything figured out.
Gave God a praise and even a shout.
But now you realized that the one in season--
is not the one you really want to be pleasin.'
Young woman grow up!
Drop your teacup.
Look at the man, he isn't for free.
He is playing you plus three.
There's one for his head
and one for his bed
and one he's hoping will be dead.
Plan on cashing an insurance policy
Been living a lie-- one big fallacy.
Get out while you can,
he's just an ordinary man.
When he's up, he's up
but when he's down, he's down.
little man will hang to the ground.
Then what will you do?
No love connection between you two.
You might have a baby,
a premature old lady.
Don't take his name,
there all the same!
Help him with money--
plus you gave up the honey.
He's not interested in your mind,
more concerned with your behind.
Got a feeling some of you needed to read this,
because you realized a relationship isn't all bliss.
Run while you still have a dime.
Learn while you still have time.
Nicholl McGuire
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.--Proverbs 31:30
Saturday
Do You Date Older, Younger?
Lots of material is on this site about dating older men and younger women. So do you date either? How has your experience been so far? What do you hope to change within you? Your comments are welcome.
I personally didn't start dating older on purpose, it just happened that way. It seemed the men that were attracted to me were 10 plus years older. When I was younger I didn't mind the age difference so much. But now, it bothers me somewhat, because I am getting older.
Feel free to share your experience in the comment section below. Thanks for stopping by.
I personally didn't start dating older on purpose, it just happened that way. It seemed the men that were attracted to me were 10 plus years older. When I was younger I didn't mind the age difference so much. But now, it bothers me somewhat, because I am getting older.
Feel free to share your experience in the comment section below. Thanks for stopping by.
Thursday
When the Younger Woman Awakes to What She Really Wants...
She sits across the table from you and looks at how your physical appearance has changed since those early days she first laid eyes on you. You may have noticed how she too has changed. As much as she wants to look beyond physical appearance, it can be difficult. She sees younger men and notices things about them that compliment her age. Meanwhile, she relies heavily on her feelings for you to keep from fantasizing too long about her younger counterparts.
An awakening has taken place in the young woman's life that makes her question, "Why am I really with this older man?" Sure, she may have articulated some years ago the basic things like, "love and security." But as she matures, she realizes there is more to her decision-making when it came to being in a relationship with you. Depending on how she has been impacted by you over the years, will determine whether she will stay or go.
Trying to figure out a younger woman with an older mindset might be tricky. You see, there are some women who don't care too much about age until it starts affecting how she sees herself and what she wants out of the relationship. When age differences play a part in her younger world that she may not have noticed some years back, look out, because she just might not stick around if she no longer sees any benefit when it comes to dating an older man. "Did I start dating him because I thought he had money? Did he give me a home when I was down and out? Was he there for me when no one else was? Do I want marriage and a baby?"
Younger women want providers, father figures, protectors, mentors, and other related titles in their older men. Sure, some will say, "No, I just want a nice man." But seriously, look at her background and you can easily determine what she really wants in an aging man with few too many exs and adult children. You will need to put yourself in her shoes for a moment particularly if the relationship is suffering. If you have been with her for some time, have you been all that she ever wanted or did you fail like say, her daddy or favorite uncle?
If the father daughter relationship was a good one, then she just might be in the relationship for other reasons that have nothing to do with this article. The courtship may continue to go strong as long as you are holding up your end of the bargain. However, if the father daughter relationship was negatively impacted, chances are she is hoping you will continue to fulfill the void (especially when it comes to love)-- that is until she has her awakening.
Going back to the beginning of this article, youth drives some younger women's awakening experience. The very thing that may have drove you to her may drive her away from you to someone else. You wanted excitement, beauty, and personality, and she will want that too. Ask yourself this, "Do I exemplify what she really wants in a man her age? Does she really want me for me?"
Nicholl
An awakening has taken place in the young woman's life that makes her question, "Why am I really with this older man?" Sure, she may have articulated some years ago the basic things like, "love and security." But as she matures, she realizes there is more to her decision-making when it came to being in a relationship with you. Depending on how she has been impacted by you over the years, will determine whether she will stay or go.
Trying to figure out a younger woman with an older mindset might be tricky. You see, there are some women who don't care too much about age until it starts affecting how she sees herself and what she wants out of the relationship. When age differences play a part in her younger world that she may not have noticed some years back, look out, because she just might not stick around if she no longer sees any benefit when it comes to dating an older man. "Did I start dating him because I thought he had money? Did he give me a home when I was down and out? Was he there for me when no one else was? Do I want marriage and a baby?"
Younger women want providers, father figures, protectors, mentors, and other related titles in their older men. Sure, some will say, "No, I just want a nice man." But seriously, look at her background and you can easily determine what she really wants in an aging man with few too many exs and adult children. You will need to put yourself in her shoes for a moment particularly if the relationship is suffering. If you have been with her for some time, have you been all that she ever wanted or did you fail like say, her daddy or favorite uncle?
If the father daughter relationship was a good one, then she just might be in the relationship for other reasons that have nothing to do with this article. The courtship may continue to go strong as long as you are holding up your end of the bargain. However, if the father daughter relationship was negatively impacted, chances are she is hoping you will continue to fulfill the void (especially when it comes to love)-- that is until she has her awakening.
Going back to the beginning of this article, youth drives some younger women's awakening experience. The very thing that may have drove you to her may drive her away from you to someone else. You wanted excitement, beauty, and personality, and she will want that too. Ask yourself this, "Do I exemplify what she really wants in a man her age? Does she really want me for me?"
Nicholl
Tuesday
How to Look Good to Women Even If You're Average Looking Or Below at a Relatively Inexpensive Cost
If you're a rich or famous man, you automatically look good to most women no matter how average or below average looking you are. Chances are you're not reading this if you are rich, famous or both. No matter what people say, looks are important as they affect how people initially perceive you. If you look attractive, the door is open to a woman taking the chance to at least knowing you if she's single and free. If you don't look attractive, most of the time a woman isn't going to give you the time of day no matter how wonderful a person you are. Knowing that you look attractive helps give off a vibe of self-confidence and you'll probably feel more comfortable with yourself as opposed to feeling insecure.
What follows are some easy tips on how to relatively transform yourself at relatively little cost, except step 1, no matter how average or below average looking you are:
1. If you have noticeably bad looking teeth get them fixed immediately. This one might cost you a bit, but it's worth it, as one of the first things people notice about someone is bad teeth. Bad teeth indicate you either don't care about your appearance or can't afford or are too cheap to get your teeth fixed. Now I'm not saying you have to have a Hollywood smile which costs a fortune, but at least you shouldn't have fang teeth, crooked teeth and gaps. If you don't fix your teeth, most of my other points won't help.
2. Get in at least average shape. If you're noticeably overweight, go on some kind of diet and gradually lose the weight, jog and work out with free weights at home 3 times a week. You don't need to look muscular or anything but you should at least look relatively toned. The end object should be that at least someone won't look at you and notice that you look out of shape. It's not important that someone looks at you and is turned on by your body but that they're not turned off by it. I would not try to lose a lot of weight at once as the skin on your face might sag, but do it gradually.
3. Get your hair styled and if you're happy with it, always use the same hair stylist. Always tip your stylist well and listen to them. This will not make or break your bank as believe it or not, places like Supercuts have some excellent stylists and the cost of a cut without extras is under $15. I would bring with you the first time either a previous picture of yourself which you liked your hair or a magazine photo of a style you like and ask the stylist to cut your hair that way unless the stylist doesn't think it would work on you now. I would rely on what the stylist says. Tell them that they shouldn't cut your hair too short, if anything leave it too long. Look at both the front and the back when they're done and if something doesn't look right, tell them so they can still fix it. Don't judge your hair on how it looks till about the 5th day after it was cut. If you like it, get someone to take close up pictures of the front and back. Next time you get your hair cut again, bring the pictures in and only get your hair cut by the same person. After about 5 visits, your stylist will know how you like your hair cut and it won't be necessary to bring them in again.
4. If you don't already have them, get yourself a couple of pairs of decent looking shoes and always have them looking shined. You'd be surprised at how many women notice a man's shoes first before their clothes.
5. Always have your clothes neatly pressed and cleaned and make sure they are tailored to your body which most department stores will do at little cost when you buy your clothes. Make sure you are measured for the right size shirt, pants and jacket. If you can afford it, I would recommend owning at least 2 nice suits and some sports jackets from a designer label. If you can't, try to at least own decent looking clothes that you can get from a department store that specializes in clothes like say a Macy's as opposed to a place like Marshall's. There usually are decent sales at Macy's. You can always use the internet to shop for clothes online. Also buy some decent looking ties as there is nothing worse then wearing a cheap tie with a good suit.
6. Unless you have a mustache or beard always shave in the morning and shave before you go on a date.
7. Take a shower, at least once a day.
8. Brush your teeth and floss at least once a day and before you go on a date.
9. When going on a date for the first time, I would try to wear your best suit and tie or sports jacket and tie, if you want to give her the look that says you are a successful person with a good job and career even if it's not true, unless that will not impress her at all. You want to come from a position of power. Who knows, if she gives you a chance, the fact that your not upwardly mobile might not bother her! The important thing is, don't lie about yourself either.
10. If you are losing your hair, I would try treating it or going to Hair Club For Men and getting a Hair Piece. I did and I was quite happy with mine and no one was even aware it was a hair piece! Don't be afraid or embarrassed about people at work or in your daily life seeing you in your new hair. Within about 2 weeks they'll be use to it and won't notice it any more. I'd even tell them that you got a hair piece right away which would help mitigate any anxiety you might have.
I should add, if nature truly gave you an obviously bad prominent feature such as a large hooked nose, I would get plastic surgery on it if you can afford it no matter what nonsense a family member might say. Don't think of it as something that shows character because you're only deluding yourself. I'm not advocating getting plastic surgery unless you have a truly bad prominent feature that other people notice. The most important thing to remember is, the more confident and less insecure you are with yourself, the more attractive others see you.
By P. Hershon
What follows are some easy tips on how to relatively transform yourself at relatively little cost, except step 1, no matter how average or below average looking you are:
1. If you have noticeably bad looking teeth get them fixed immediately. This one might cost you a bit, but it's worth it, as one of the first things people notice about someone is bad teeth. Bad teeth indicate you either don't care about your appearance or can't afford or are too cheap to get your teeth fixed. Now I'm not saying you have to have a Hollywood smile which costs a fortune, but at least you shouldn't have fang teeth, crooked teeth and gaps. If you don't fix your teeth, most of my other points won't help.
2. Get in at least average shape. If you're noticeably overweight, go on some kind of diet and gradually lose the weight, jog and work out with free weights at home 3 times a week. You don't need to look muscular or anything but you should at least look relatively toned. The end object should be that at least someone won't look at you and notice that you look out of shape. It's not important that someone looks at you and is turned on by your body but that they're not turned off by it. I would not try to lose a lot of weight at once as the skin on your face might sag, but do it gradually.
3. Get your hair styled and if you're happy with it, always use the same hair stylist. Always tip your stylist well and listen to them. This will not make or break your bank as believe it or not, places like Supercuts have some excellent stylists and the cost of a cut without extras is under $15. I would bring with you the first time either a previous picture of yourself which you liked your hair or a magazine photo of a style you like and ask the stylist to cut your hair that way unless the stylist doesn't think it would work on you now. I would rely on what the stylist says. Tell them that they shouldn't cut your hair too short, if anything leave it too long. Look at both the front and the back when they're done and if something doesn't look right, tell them so they can still fix it. Don't judge your hair on how it looks till about the 5th day after it was cut. If you like it, get someone to take close up pictures of the front and back. Next time you get your hair cut again, bring the pictures in and only get your hair cut by the same person. After about 5 visits, your stylist will know how you like your hair cut and it won't be necessary to bring them in again.
4. If you don't already have them, get yourself a couple of pairs of decent looking shoes and always have them looking shined. You'd be surprised at how many women notice a man's shoes first before their clothes.
5. Always have your clothes neatly pressed and cleaned and make sure they are tailored to your body which most department stores will do at little cost when you buy your clothes. Make sure you are measured for the right size shirt, pants and jacket. If you can afford it, I would recommend owning at least 2 nice suits and some sports jackets from a designer label. If you can't, try to at least own decent looking clothes that you can get from a department store that specializes in clothes like say a Macy's as opposed to a place like Marshall's. There usually are decent sales at Macy's. You can always use the internet to shop for clothes online. Also buy some decent looking ties as there is nothing worse then wearing a cheap tie with a good suit.
6. Unless you have a mustache or beard always shave in the morning and shave before you go on a date.
7. Take a shower, at least once a day.
8. Brush your teeth and floss at least once a day and before you go on a date.
9. When going on a date for the first time, I would try to wear your best suit and tie or sports jacket and tie, if you want to give her the look that says you are a successful person with a good job and career even if it's not true, unless that will not impress her at all. You want to come from a position of power. Who knows, if she gives you a chance, the fact that your not upwardly mobile might not bother her! The important thing is, don't lie about yourself either.
10. If you are losing your hair, I would try treating it or going to Hair Club For Men and getting a Hair Piece. I did and I was quite happy with mine and no one was even aware it was a hair piece! Don't be afraid or embarrassed about people at work or in your daily life seeing you in your new hair. Within about 2 weeks they'll be use to it and won't notice it any more. I'd even tell them that you got a hair piece right away which would help mitigate any anxiety you might have.
I should add, if nature truly gave you an obviously bad prominent feature such as a large hooked nose, I would get plastic surgery on it if you can afford it no matter what nonsense a family member might say. Don't think of it as something that shows character because you're only deluding yourself. I'm not advocating getting plastic surgery unless you have a truly bad prominent feature that other people notice. The most important thing to remember is, the more confident and less insecure you are with yourself, the more attractive others see you.
By P. Hershon
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