Active and Inactive Older Men, Younger Women

If you are one who doesn't have much of a lifestyle outside of the workplace, then think twice about involving yourself with an active, fit woman.  She will tire you out!  You will find yourself wanting her to change her activities to suit you.  "When will we get together again?  I was just wondering when you will come back so that we can sit on the couch, stuff our faces, and watch movies together?"  Would you a mere 20 plus want to keep seeing a guy like that?  So what does the active guy got that the inactive guy doesn't?  Energy.  Simply put he does the kind of activities that keep him mentally and physically fulfilled.  When you call this guy he is out in the yard working, on the treadmill, at the mall, helping his parents out, and then he winds down after work.  He doesn't relax before the day even gets started!  But the inactive guy is often pleasuring himself first before he even thinks about tending to something like washing dishes, performing yard work, or shopping.  He puts off much unless he is getting paid for it i.e. he'll show up for work, but then how much work is really doing?

Now if an older man desires to attract and keep a young woman, it would make plenty of sense to do the kind of things that will keep him physically fit.  The secret is many fit young women are not too happy with their overweight partners no matter how much money or time you spend with them.  I have met these women online and a couple have considered dating men who are younger despite being married to older partners.  You see money is great when you have it, but what it can't do is change the mind of someone who is uninterested in dating or remaining in a relationship with someone who has let his or herself go.  Whoever said fat, lazy, and inconsiderate is okay needs their head examined, but so many people want others to accept things in their lifestyles that they can manage.

An active guy who cares about himself as well as others is definitely a good catch and if a woman is like him, the pair just might be great together.  However, when one is not-so active and the other is, there might be challenges such as:

1.  The active partner wants to go places and participate in activities more frequently.
2.  The inactive partner enjoys spending most days parked in front of electronic devices.
3.  The active partner is sociable and has a life outside of work and a relationship.
4.  The inactive partner often complains that he or she isn't getting enough attention.
5.  The fit partner enjoys looking good for self and others.
6.  The not-so fit partner tends to act jealous and/or controlling.  He or she also fear that one's partner will meet someone who is more attractive.

Now some people have their share of personal issues which makes them less active.  Consider the aging process and health challenges for starters.  If a partner's health problems are a concern, one might consider dating people his or her own age, rather than demand a young or older partner to change his or her lifestyle while mistreating him or her.

Nicholl McGuire is the blog owner and the author of Too Much, Too Soon Internet Dating Blues available in print and eBook.

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Being Overweight and Obese Affects Relationships Sooner or Later

We can convince ourselves all we want that being overweight or simply fat is unimportant like we do when we say, "Age is nothing but a number." Yet, health issues are important as indicated in other blog posts on this site and when you are in denial, you only make matters worse for you and those you claim to love.

There isn't anything sexy about a man or woman who can't walk very far, doesn't enjoy periodic sex due to health issues, and makes excuses as to why he or she refuses to improve one's self.  Then throw in unflattering clothing, a body odor and mood swings due to weight related problems.

I think of a man who was quite small in stature who dated and eventually married an obese woman.  Both are now deceased (RIP), but I learned a thing or two from observing those two.  Love didn't conquer the wife's obese issue.  The man acted impatient and mean-spirited to her.  He had his drinking problem and she had her overeating challenges before the pair met one another.  In time, the slim alcoholic cheated on her with other women who didn't look anything like her while she kept right on buying, cooking and eating her comfort foods.  The large woman, who later separated and then divorced her cheating husband, wasn't in denial about her weight issue, but rather than stay on top of improving herself, she sought the attention of men who would accept her just the way she was.  Needless to say all she got was friendship with one.

For the singles, keep searching for someone who is accepting of your weight issue, but keep in mind that at some point in the relationship, you and your future partner will have to face reality regardless of what motivational speakers and books say in their attempt to make you feel good about eating badly and being phat (fat). 

An overweight person comes with his or her share of challenges and just because he or she doesn't have symptoms now doesn't mean they won't ever. According to medical reports here's what to look out for:  type 2 diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, nonalcoholic fatty liver disease (excess fat and inflammation in the liver of people who drink little or no alcohol), osteoarthritis (a health problem causing pain, swelling, and stiffness in one or more joints), some types of cancer: breast, colon, endometrial (related to the uterine lining), and kidney stroke.  Add sexual issues for some to this list.  Due to the weight, an obese person is limited to what he or she can do.  Sometimes it is hit or miss when trying to make a partner reach orgasm because he or she tires quickly.  You can learn more about overweight and obesity related issues here.

With so many symptoms related to eating one's favorite comfort foods far more than necessary, how might these health ailments impact one's age gap relationship?  Not only is the young woman dealing with the aging processing of her older partner, but his weight issues too.  Then again, it may be the other way around, the mature man having to remind his younger companion to stop eating so much.
When one is battling with weight loss, he or she isn't going to be the nicest person to be around.  The individual will have his or her share of mood problems, hunger pains, and frustrations while expecting one's partner to be more understanding.  The person may not be in the mood for sex due to strenuous workouts leaving muscles sore or a lack of exercise while body weight continues to increase. 

Sometimes people start off well eating healthy and exercising, but once they feel comfortable in a relationship, they let themselves go.  This is when the arguments increase.  Let's face it who we were attracted to initially is what we hope to see for as long as we are in a relationship with her or him.  But if we can't stand change, then we aren't going to do so well especially if we are hung up on appearance.  The person may lose the weight, but then he or she may not.  What will you do?

So before you shrug your shoulders and say, "I don't care that he (or she) is overweight..." think again particularly if you pride yourself on being physically fit or you are working hard to lose the weight.  Some men think they can change women and some women think they can change men.  Well in a May-December romance, it is going to be quite difficult to teach a stubborn old dog new tricks.

Nicholl
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