Being in love with someone older doesn't have to be one of those things that stops, feelings for someone can go on and on if you let them. If your focus is on the positive and your partner is willing to remain faithful to you, you can continue to be in love. When one is kind and respectful to his or her partner and the actions are reciprocated, then there are no worries about the relationship. But those people in relationships that tend to have many concerns about their age gap partnership is due to the way they are being treated by their mates. If a partner is rude, impatient, unkind, and frugal, then there isn't any wonder why things aren't working out.
To be in love with anyone, not just someone a decade or two older, one must be willing to do the kind of things that will keep a partner interested in being with him or her and vice versa. Yet, for some mature people, they simply don't have the energy or time to devote to another human being after spending years of dating and being married to one or more than a few. As a result, some will not stay interested in being with a young partner for long. Those that are burnt out with relationships and all that comes with them, find them meaningless, temporary, sex tiring, conversation mundane, and so on. It doesn't matter how young, nice or compatible, when a mature person isn't interested in being in a relationship there will be enough signs to let you know. With such a negative view when it comes to settling down with yet another partner, an older person (or young person) experiencing such feelings is far from being in love. If anything, he or she should get out of the relationship as soon as possible before causing anymore damage.
Selfish, negative people steal joy. They don't permit others to love in the way they so desire. They can be difficult, angry people who often disagree, fault-find, and hate various people, places and things for any number of reasons. Unfortunately, the older some people get, the worse they can be. This is why some mature men and women are unable to keep young partners (or those the same age), because they are uncomfortable with the aging process, unhappy with life decisions, and bitter because they didn't accomplish goals over the years. They don't find getting older a good experience especially when a young person is able to remember more things than they, have the patience for new technology, and enjoy learning new things. Some can be quite jealous of young people because they have plenty of time to get things right, so they assume.
Once it is discovered that there are far too many differences in personalities and years, the couple will eventually separate. Whatever drew them together, no longer is strong enough to keep them together.
The process of breaking up might be difficult at first for the older as well as young person, but in time both will be content with knowing they made a good decision. It is never a good idea to stick it out with someone you know you are no longer in love, like or lust with.