A age gap dating advice blog that provides valuable tips when dating older men and younger women. Thought-provoking relationship tips for older men seeking to date younger women. Please be advised to seek a professional for serious issues. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling. This blog is not for people under the age of 18.
Friday
The Wise Older Men Who will Not be Played by Youth and Beauty
Around the globe, there are many older men, whether immature or not, who date younger women, but for the wise man, he is not like other men, who may be older by number, yet still have much growing up to do.
Experienced and mature, the older, single man refuses to be misled by a wayward young woman who knows little about him or respects his life experiences. The unwise and immature woman assumes she knows him, because her father, uncle, male co-worker and ex-boyfriend are older. She may have been spoiled or not by the men in her life. She may have envisioned what her ideal younger Mr. Right might be, yet learned the hard way that he simply doesn't exist. She may have a list of 20 plus things she wants from a man, based on her conversations with older women, and still hasn't scored big. The young lady may have deceptive plans to get her needs met by any means necessary.
After learning of a young woman's ill intentions, the mature man will not be so kind, no matter how beautiful. He is aware of the youthful one who fakes interest in him just so that she can fulfill a void or worse get close to his connections, material assets or other more attractive things.
These charming young women, who unfortunately do manipulative things, will eventually "need space, want to break up" when they have had enough of the older man's resistance and wise observations. The mature man just might drive the poor girl out of his life, because he has seen that type before!
When we think of those abusive older men, who were quite cruel, to young women, we may have overlooked their reasons as to why they behaved so harshly. Of course, it is not ever acceptable to abuse anyone, but what might have triggered some abusive older men to behave so disrespectfully with younger women? For some men, they realized that what they did in their youth to others, came back around full circle and they hated their younger partners for it! The idea that someone so beautiful, friendly, and considerate could so easily and effortlessly hurt them is too much too deal with for some disturbed men, so they go off mentally and/or physically! The older men, who are known abusers, are dangerous and will not tolerate younger women lying, stealing, cheating, or doing any other things to hurt them whether justified or not.
Now the more self-controlled older man, wise in his ways, he will be strategic in what he does to learn more about the young woman who he might suspect has her share of motives for agreeing to date him. He will not be so easily charmed into believing that the woman is in like or love with him. He realizes that there is a significant age difference and so with that he will have many questions and would want very much to find out, "Why me? What does she like about me? What does she really want from me?" He has every right to question what is it about this young lady that she is drawn to concerning him especially when most young women wouldn't even look twice at him much less accept his advances.
At the start of the relationship, it will seem too good to be true. That's because it probably is! Whether the young lady knows that she has her share of personal issues or not concerning dating older men, for the logical-minded man, he knows that one day she will awake to a harsh truth, her personal reality, that someone or something was absent in her life and that the older man who is in her life now is there to fulfill that void. For the sake of her beauty, attention and warm affection, the older man, whether wise or not, just might accept his role, but in the back of his mind he knows the truth.
When dating the younger woman, the wise older man is not going to be too concerned about the challenges he faces while dating her, because as a man, most people are not going to approach him with, "Why are you dating her?" They know better. He also knows that he has more life experience so he knows that he can provide some value to her life. What may bother him in time, however, is what can the young woman really do for him? Is she an added benefit to his life or a burden? He may be tempted to "train" her into a role that she may or may not be willing to accept. During the early part of the relationship, she may be resistant to his requests and strategies. Unfortunately, she might view what he is suggesting/advising/arguing about as being controlling.
Many challenges might arise in the May-December romance, but ultimately what is to be learned is that the wise older man is not easily charmed by the youth and beauty of a woman.
Nicholl McGuire is the blog owner and contributor and author of Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues
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Brian McKnight - Neva Get Enuf Of U
This is a man in love. If you don't see that look in his eyes, he isn't serious about you.
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Saturday
Stay or Breakup - When the Younger or Older Date May Not Want a Relationship Anymore
Sunday
When an Older Partner is Not as Nice-Looking as He Once Was - Stay Positive
The day you, who are much younger, realized your guy was old, maybe a lot older than you, he may have been shocking to view without his beauty aides, but you kept quiet. "Where did time go? What or who had I been looking at all this time?" you might have thought. He could have thought the same about you too (but I digress).
When dating someone older or married to a person decades older, it is very easy to see what you like about him or her when they are still relatively attractive. However, time isn't always kind to everyone especially when we age and now what was once appealing isn't. If your relationship was built on looks, well you might want to start looking for other things you like about that individual other than superficial things as soon as possible. It is only a matter of time that your older partner will notice that you just aren't that into him like you once were.
Appreciate his great personality. This doesn't seem to go anywhere when one is still full of energy despite his looks. Some older people, no matter what the life challenges may be, still manage to thrive. There is still hope for a relationship when the person works to maintain that shimmering personality. So close your eyes and embrace all that positive energy he offers!
Share a zest for life. People who enjoy life, seek all sorts of ways to stay engaged and active. Check to see that your gentleman is doing just that. However, if one is turning into a miserable, older person, who doesn't see anything good from one day to the next, this will not only steal what little youthful look he might still have, but cause you to often dream of running away. Therefore, encourage him to regain his youth, not by living vicariously through you, but enjoying all that life has to offer for himself.
Learn a thing or two about his finances. He works hard and knows how to manage his money or so you hope. He has plans and you just might be a part of those plans in the future--good for you both! Yes, as much as we don't want to look at how much money one makes, it's going to be a challenge when the individual is no longer providing a lavish lifestyle for himself and no one else. You can be a beacon of light by offering suggestions on saving money rather than spending up his money every chance you get (maybe your not like this, but just in case you have been). He may not be that attractive anymore, but he knows that his money might still be. He need not be irresponsible with it to keep you, capice?
Take interest in his hobbies. Anyone who enjoys doing something other than a partner, well that is awesome! So this guy has a hobby that is interesting and you could even be a part of helping with his hobby. If it is reasonable and more, well it doesn't hurt to take interest and ask questions. He just might be impressed.
Work out. So things go downhill on the outside, but they don't have to on the inside! You just might find the mature guy a bit more attractive when you see that body moving weight around or running on the treadmill rather than remaining sedentary for hours. He might even say, "Not only am I doing this for me, but for you, Babe!" How sweet! The gentleman might find you even more attractive because he sees that you care about your body too!
So you see, there is more than meets the eye! You can have a great relationship with a guy who unfortunately is having his share of challenges in the looks department. But when he has all these other wonderful attributes, who cares about looks?
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Too Much, Too Soon Internet Dating Blues. Check online wherever books are sold.