A age gap dating advice blog that provides valuable tips when dating older men and younger women. Thought-provoking relationship tips for older men seeking to date younger women. Please be advised to seek a professional for serious issues. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling. This blog is not for people under the age of 18.
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Stay or Breakup - When the Younger or Older Date May Not Want a Relationship Anymore
Age gap dating. You thought you could stick it out, but he is just too old or she is just too young. You didn't think much about this before, but now there are things he or she is saying or doing that make you think twice about continuing an age gap relationship. Chances are your well-meaning relatives warn you of times like these, but you said, "Age ain't nothing but a number." Sure.
To stay or break up? You probably thought about the following:
1) If I stay I could remain in what could be a potentially great relationship when I'm older.
2) If I stay my partner might change into the man or woman of my dreams.
3) If I stay, he or she might be a great dad or mom to my future offspring.
4) If I stay, I might be well taken care of and continue to feel safe for a long time with him or her.
5) If I stay, we might acquire much in our lifetimes and I won't have to worry so much.
But if I break up...
1) I will be free to date other men or women closer to my age.
2) I won't have to be concerned about having children one day.
3) I won't wrestle so much with feelings related to the age gap any longer.
4) I won't have to take care of him in the future since it appears his health is declining.
I won't have to worry that she will run off and be with someone more healthier and fit.
5) I won't have to keep up with his requests and demands because he assumes I'm younger so I can handle them.
I won't have to keep up with this young woman's requests and demands, because I am too old for this---been there, done that!
These thoughts are just some of many that might go through a woman or man's mind who is contemplating on staying or breaking up. If an older partner doesn't know or refuses to talk about the issues, the break up is inevitable. If the younger woman has a nonchalant attitude about these issues when discussed, the mature gentleman will want to break up with her sooner rather than later.
One will need to look at what is driving the negative thoughts. Did he or she view media that made him or her think about these things? Did someone talk to a partner and raise doubts? Has future plans changed that doesn't include a partner? Have there been so many disagreements lately that may be causing discord? Do both people feel like there are not enough things they have in common with one another to sustain the relationship?
Whatever the issues, there is nothing wrong with looking inwardly at what you really want from the relationship. In any relationship, whether age gap or not, people change. Some couples grow weary of one another because there was never any solid foundation between the pair from the start. The older gentleman or younger woman could have been a rebound from a past relationship that left he or she heartbroken. Therefore, the new partner was a nice distraction from the past pain, but didn't do much more than that emotionally, spiritually, and/or physically.
The age gap pair could have developed a trauma bound because they had more negative in common than positive when they shared experiences. They may have been great friends that thought having a sexual relationship would be a good idea only to find out they should have remained platonic friends.
Decide what it is that you truly want out of your life, before discussing whether you want to stay or break up with a partner. Ask yourself the following:
1) Have I begun to work on or accomplish my dreams since being with this person?
2) Is this person a great support in helping me reach my life goals or does he or she look for ways to talk me out of doing things I thoroughly enjoy? (If you don't have any goals start writing them.)
3) By next Valentine's Day, what did we accomplish together that bettered our relationship?
4) When this person comes around me or when they call me, do I feel content to hear his or her voice or does this person simply annoy me and I can't wait to get away from her or him?
5) Can I honestly say that I love this person not just what they do for me or the kind words they say to me?
6) Do I feel proud being out in public with this person or do I look for ways to avoid inviting this person to go out with me?
7) Can I see myself with this person 5, 10, or even 15 plus years from now? Why or why not?
If you answered most of these questions with negative responses and you really have no desire to do anything different, it is safe to say that maybe this person isn't right for you regardless of his or her age.
Whenever positives outweigh the negatives in any relationship and there is no way of resolving them, this is when the hard decisions will need to be made. Two people must be willing to work together on the issues rather than frequently arguing about them.
Think about this, if you honestly believe your relationship is a dead-end headed nowhere, why continue to be unavailable to that one person (somewhere in this world) who really wants to be with you while being available to that one person who doesn't complete you and appears to care less about you?
Nicholl McGuire is the blog owner and author of Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues.
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