Thursday
Some Mature Older Men will Take Advantage of Immature Young Women
Why is it that her family raises eyebrows when her older date comes around them? Why is it that negative words is all family and friends speak when the young woman talks about her mature date? Why does the young woman feel like she has to defend her man, her preference, her reasons for dating him, and more--Why?
From the stranger that looks at the young woman with a look of caution to the father who threatens to hurt him, if he so much as make his daughter cry, they have good reason to be concerned. There are some mature men who will take advantage of a young woman who has little life experiences. She hasn't managed her own finances for long, may not have moved away from home but once, lived with a boyfriend for a short stint, and doesn't get around much because she is always working. So she doesn't really know much about dating/relationships, finances, travel, and adulthood, besides what her parents and siblings may have told her growing up.
Unfortunately, many fathers and other male relatives just don't talk to the females in their families about too much of anything relevant to their lifestyle choices from what they wear to who they pick to date. Sure, a concerned dad or uncle might say, "Be careful of those big, bad wolves out there..." But is that really enough information to protect her? "What should I look out for?" the young lady should ask for specifics, find out what fathers, uncles, cousins are really saying. Hopefully, they aren't so protective of the male bond that they will start exposing the games that men play. But if they don't, there are always books like that one by Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady Think Like Man--many men hated him for writing this one.
The big, bad wolves come in sheep's clothing. They are charming, act protecting, flatter, want young women who won't ask any questions, might even talk a few out of the little money they have saved up in bank accounts, and may even promise marriage knowing full well that is the least of their intentions. When the bad wolf throws back his false exterior, the young woman usually finds out the hard way that all that glitters ain't gold! He is mean-spirited, bitter because of a past divorce, loss of money or children, and displeased with his life choices. The immature, young woman might be a product of his mid-life crisis, and when he realizes this, he isn't that handsome, loving, and sensitive type that she had once fallen in love with.
What is downright evil that some mature men do to unwise, young women is know full well how far they will keep them on their strings before they cut the ties. They act like puppet masters, controlling arms, legs and whatever else they can. Rather than encouraging her to do what she likes, pursue her dreams, he manipulates her into holding off dreams, follow him and do whatever he asks while forsaking all family and friends.
Mature men, who don't have to be the player type, but rather controlling, plan out exactly the beginning, middle and end of their courtship with young, silly women, before pursuing what they truly want, a wise woman with a certain youthfulness about her. They act as if everything is okay in their dating experiences with the immature as long as they keep getting what they can out of them. But when the typical immature responses start grating on their nerves, they back off. Rebellious, tempermental, argumentative women, who act like children, get kicked to the curb!
Sooner or later, the immature woman notices some negative things about her older man, but doesn't catches on completely until she sees him starting to withdrawal. Sex isn't coming as regularly, conversation is sparse/meaningless, he isn't taking her places like he once had, and sometimes she may even detect some hostility in his voice. If she starts snooping/investigating to find out what is really going on with him, the hurtful reality is discovered, he never was into her as much as he claimed. From photographs of other women to phone numbers, it was all a game to that mature player. In time, the young woman learns the game of her puppet master. The silly woman, who was once ignorant, becomes enlightened.
The tables often turn on both the selfish, mature men and their young, silly women who think they are going to "just date for fun, have a good time." People eventually wise up. Young women, realize there is more to dating some mature older men than meets the eye.
Nicholl McGuire
From the stranger that looks at the young woman with a look of caution to the father who threatens to hurt him, if he so much as make his daughter cry, they have good reason to be concerned. There are some mature men who will take advantage of a young woman who has little life experiences. She hasn't managed her own finances for long, may not have moved away from home but once, lived with a boyfriend for a short stint, and doesn't get around much because she is always working. So she doesn't really know much about dating/relationships, finances, travel, and adulthood, besides what her parents and siblings may have told her growing up.
Unfortunately, many fathers and other male relatives just don't talk to the females in their families about too much of anything relevant to their lifestyle choices from what they wear to who they pick to date. Sure, a concerned dad or uncle might say, "Be careful of those big, bad wolves out there..." But is that really enough information to protect her? "What should I look out for?" the young lady should ask for specifics, find out what fathers, uncles, cousins are really saying. Hopefully, they aren't so protective of the male bond that they will start exposing the games that men play. But if they don't, there are always books like that one by Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady Think Like Man--many men hated him for writing this one.
The big, bad wolves come in sheep's clothing. They are charming, act protecting, flatter, want young women who won't ask any questions, might even talk a few out of the little money they have saved up in bank accounts, and may even promise marriage knowing full well that is the least of their intentions. When the bad wolf throws back his false exterior, the young woman usually finds out the hard way that all that glitters ain't gold! He is mean-spirited, bitter because of a past divorce, loss of money or children, and displeased with his life choices. The immature, young woman might be a product of his mid-life crisis, and when he realizes this, he isn't that handsome, loving, and sensitive type that she had once fallen in love with.
What is downright evil that some mature men do to unwise, young women is know full well how far they will keep them on their strings before they cut the ties. They act like puppet masters, controlling arms, legs and whatever else they can. Rather than encouraging her to do what she likes, pursue her dreams, he manipulates her into holding off dreams, follow him and do whatever he asks while forsaking all family and friends.
Mature men, who don't have to be the player type, but rather controlling, plan out exactly the beginning, middle and end of their courtship with young, silly women, before pursuing what they truly want, a wise woman with a certain youthfulness about her. They act as if everything is okay in their dating experiences with the immature as long as they keep getting what they can out of them. But when the typical immature responses start grating on their nerves, they back off. Rebellious, tempermental, argumentative women, who act like children, get kicked to the curb!
Sooner or later, the immature woman notices some negative things about her older man, but doesn't catches on completely until she sees him starting to withdrawal. Sex isn't coming as regularly, conversation is sparse/meaningless, he isn't taking her places like he once had, and sometimes she may even detect some hostility in his voice. If she starts snooping/investigating to find out what is really going on with him, the hurtful reality is discovered, he never was into her as much as he claimed. From photographs of other women to phone numbers, it was all a game to that mature player. In time, the young woman learns the game of her puppet master. The silly woman, who was once ignorant, becomes enlightened.
The tables often turn on both the selfish, mature men and their young, silly women who think they are going to "just date for fun, have a good time." People eventually wise up. Young women, realize there is more to dating some mature older men than meets the eye.
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
The Temperamental Older Man Who Thinks He is Okay
His hair is thinning, belly protruding, and he isn’t excited about life. He is often irritated with others. Whether they are too talkative, noisy, happy, or active, he looks at people, even member of his own household, with a dismal expression before exploding about what someone said or did. What is it about the temperamental older man that makes older women stay away and young women want to run?
Those who love him and have taken a bit of time to do some research on his age group usually find out that his bodily changes are associated with his anger outbursts, sudden tearful moments, impatience, and other odd behaviors. Although one presents the sensitive man with proven scientific evidence about his change of life, whether he is in 40s, 50s, 0r 60s, he resents the researchers, curses loved ones and goes about his life taking risks.
Young women are warned about dating men with testosterone issues, also known as low-T, but typical of young women, they don’t heed wise counsel. They go ahead and date, have sex, produce babies, get married, and do other things that might put their safety and overall well-being at risk. If a young woman knows that she doesn‘t have the patience, time or knowledge to deal with a moody older man, it is best to stay or run away before she catches his wrath.
The longer a young woman dates and older man, her eyes begin to widen and then she starts to see what her mature relatives and friends had been warning. Unfortunately, some young women see the truth too late and are abused physically, mentally, or even spiritually. The troubled older man who attends church regularly or has a background in religion will use the Bible as a means of control. The abuser will use verbal abuse and silent treatment to get her to follow his rules. Then there is the often angry older man who threatens or strikes his victims (men/women/children/pets) whenever things don’t go his way or he doesn’t like the way someone is treating him.
Rather than get necessary help that could possibly bring his hormones in balance, the mentally disturbed man, who once demonstrated self-control in many areas of his life, plays the blame game. “It’s the job…the annoying kids…my crazy wife…my car…this money-sucking house…” Sure. How about it’s him--a man that has reached a place in his life where everything rattles his nerves. In his youth, he had challenges and got over them without saying much. He watched movies and rarely, if ever, shedded a tear. He ran, lifted heavy objects, jumped, climbed, danced, played athletic sports, and did many things without needing to sit down for long periods of time. He was able to have sex without worrying over whether a certain part of his anatomy would stay firm. He worked from sun up to sun down and ran all over time to this event and that one. Those were the good old days, but the mature gentleman’s present days could get better if he would face his reality and build his life in such a way that can accommodate the different human being that he has become. From less work hours to a daily regimen of eating right, taking necessary medicine and supplements, and scheduling time for other activities, besides watching TV or sitting in front of a computer screen, just might uplift his spirits.
Some men will allow their moods to dominate even their intimate lives, fun times with their family, and travel. They will say, “I’m not up to it. I rather not. Could we do that another time?” He exchanges good times for a room, chair and an electronic device. For some men, that is the best place for them, because if they refuse to acknowledge that they are not good people to be around, they are better left alone. For loved ones who have a person like this around them, get on with your life! Create distance if he seems to be increasingly angry over what most people wouldn’t overreact to if you feel your mental stability and safety is at risk. You will know that trouble is on the horizon when you experience the following around the moody older man: nervousness, irritability, rage, vengeful thoughts, unexplained tension, constant stomach upset, or headaches. Separate yourself from him and contact this person less. If you live with him, doesn’t matter what you have or don’t have with this person, pack your bags and leave before he hurts you or you retaliate with hurtful words and physical violence. For those spiritual, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit so you know you don’t have to put up with abuse and don’t let those religious types tell you otherwise.
A temperamental older man is not going to change without proper treatment, he is only going to get worse! No amount of exercise or quiet meditation is going to solve an ongoing problem if he doesn’t want to get tested, listen to doctor’s advice and make necessary changes that you may have suggested as well. Stubborn men, who don’t watch all aspects of their diets including cutting out sugary drinks, maintaining reasonable portion sizes, and doing other things to better their health, rarely change. Years will go by and they will say, “I am going to do this…and I am going to do that…” They unfortunately don’t attempt to make significant changes until something major happens with their bodies, relationships, or income.
Those who love him and have taken a bit of time to do some research on his age group usually find out that his bodily changes are associated with his anger outbursts, sudden tearful moments, impatience, and other odd behaviors. Although one presents the sensitive man with proven scientific evidence about his change of life, whether he is in 40s, 50s, 0r 60s, he resents the researchers, curses loved ones and goes about his life taking risks.
Young women are warned about dating men with testosterone issues, also known as low-T, but typical of young women, they don’t heed wise counsel. They go ahead and date, have sex, produce babies, get married, and do other things that might put their safety and overall well-being at risk. If a young woman knows that she doesn‘t have the patience, time or knowledge to deal with a moody older man, it is best to stay or run away before she catches his wrath.
The longer a young woman dates and older man, her eyes begin to widen and then she starts to see what her mature relatives and friends had been warning. Unfortunately, some young women see the truth too late and are abused physically, mentally, or even spiritually. The troubled older man who attends church regularly or has a background in religion will use the Bible as a means of control. The abuser will use verbal abuse and silent treatment to get her to follow his rules. Then there is the often angry older man who threatens or strikes his victims (men/women/children/pets) whenever things don’t go his way or he doesn’t like the way someone is treating him.
Rather than get necessary help that could possibly bring his hormones in balance, the mentally disturbed man, who once demonstrated self-control in many areas of his life, plays the blame game. “It’s the job…the annoying kids…my crazy wife…my car…this money-sucking house…” Sure. How about it’s him--a man that has reached a place in his life where everything rattles his nerves. In his youth, he had challenges and got over them without saying much. He watched movies and rarely, if ever, shedded a tear. He ran, lifted heavy objects, jumped, climbed, danced, played athletic sports, and did many things without needing to sit down for long periods of time. He was able to have sex without worrying over whether a certain part of his anatomy would stay firm. He worked from sun up to sun down and ran all over time to this event and that one. Those were the good old days, but the mature gentleman’s present days could get better if he would face his reality and build his life in such a way that can accommodate the different human being that he has become. From less work hours to a daily regimen of eating right, taking necessary medicine and supplements, and scheduling time for other activities, besides watching TV or sitting in front of a computer screen, just might uplift his spirits.
Some men will allow their moods to dominate even their intimate lives, fun times with their family, and travel. They will say, “I’m not up to it. I rather not. Could we do that another time?” He exchanges good times for a room, chair and an electronic device. For some men, that is the best place for them, because if they refuse to acknowledge that they are not good people to be around, they are better left alone. For loved ones who have a person like this around them, get on with your life! Create distance if he seems to be increasingly angry over what most people wouldn’t overreact to if you feel your mental stability and safety is at risk. You will know that trouble is on the horizon when you experience the following around the moody older man: nervousness, irritability, rage, vengeful thoughts, unexplained tension, constant stomach upset, or headaches. Separate yourself from him and contact this person less. If you live with him, doesn’t matter what you have or don’t have with this person, pack your bags and leave before he hurts you or you retaliate with hurtful words and physical violence. For those spiritual, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit so you know you don’t have to put up with abuse and don’t let those religious types tell you otherwise.
A temperamental older man is not going to change without proper treatment, he is only going to get worse! No amount of exercise or quiet meditation is going to solve an ongoing problem if he doesn’t want to get tested, listen to doctor’s advice and make necessary changes that you may have suggested as well. Stubborn men, who don’t watch all aspects of their diets including cutting out sugary drinks, maintaining reasonable portion sizes, and doing other things to better their health, rarely change. Years will go by and they will say, “I am going to do this…and I am going to do that…” They unfortunately don’t attempt to make significant changes until something major happens with their bodies, relationships, or income.
Saturday
84 Year Old Grandmother's Courtship and Marriage to Older Man
She was 16 years old when she fell in love with a friend of the family who was 34 years old. The woman being interviewed didn't want her real name being shared, so her name will be April.
Back in the 1930s, the young April was a mere teen who had a life ahead of her, but she got distracted with the tall, dark and handsome fellow who admired her from a distance. She explains that he caught her eye, not only because he was so nice-looking, but also because "I wanted to leave my father's house...I was uneducated." She had attended elementary school on and off until about the age of 13 before her mother died. Her father, who had suddenly become a widow, went wild with the young ladies, according to April's relatives. So April and her siblings saw a poor example of how an older man treated young women. Relatives say he would drink, party, and have sex with them sometimes having a few at a time. They were children watching him abuse these women and some were women of the night.
But the handsome gentleman, who had been in April's family for years, had claimed that when she was a baby, the girl would one day become his wife. "I was still in my diapers my older relatives said when he told them that," said the 84 year old grandmother. April was impressed with the muscular man. "He could read and write." This was important to women of the time, because they knew that an educated man could get a better job than most and be able to provide for his family. April's older man was a blessing to a girl with a big heart. She grew up in a household of 20 and the older gentleman was going to get her out of there.
April warns young women, who share their trials with her, to be careful when it comes to dating men especially older ones. She says, "Don't trust a smiling face. There are dangerous men in this world." The mother of six learned the hard way. After leaving her father's house and going to be with the family friend, the mature gentleman would marry her and then move her out of state.
April was required to work during her marriage, because despite her husband's education, he had a strike against him--he was a black man trying to work during a time when racial dissension was present between blacks and whites. He also was one who liked to drink and party just like April's father. There was an obvious pattern, not only with April, but her siblings as well, most dated older men and many were cheated on. They basically got their father all over again through the men they dated and eventually married--his good, bad, rich and poor qualities all wrapped up in one!
April, being an uneducated black woman raising a family from the 1940s to the early 1960s, had her share of challenges as well; therefore, her options for employment were few. Housecleaning and cooking was what she did for very low wages. "I didn't have the opportunities back then, that young women have nowadays," April says. There was no daycare, Internet, an abundance of programs to help the needy, and many households didn't have televisions. April grew up poor, married into poverty, and then later acquired her personal wealth after her children became adults.
"This is why I tell young people to get an education, so that they don't have to settle for less," April advises. She tells women to put off marriage and having children until you have accomplished personal goals. There were times in her life she admits, she cried because of the poor decisions she made in life.
The man who had swept her off her feet and had given her so much happiness and promises, eventually caused her much upset to the point that she couldn't focus on anything she truly wanted to do. "He was abusive--a bastard! But my stupid self, loved him!" She pauses and then adds, "I asked myself, why do I love this man?" Long after her husband's passing, April admits that she still loves him. For years, April said that she attended church while choosing to remain in the abusive relationship for the sake of her children. She says that it was her faith in God that got her through many turbulent times.
But love doesn't verbally abuse or physically fight and two of April's own children wanted their father gone from the house, one even threatened to shoot his dad for beating up his mother. April was well aware that love doesn't hurt, but she was also fearful about leaving. There were times when she and her children did stay with relatives until her husband cooled down.
Nowadays, the 84 year old grandmother listens to young women's relationship plights and prays for them who labor to love their abusive mates while advising they get away. April blames her lack on why she settled. After decades of being cheated on, that handsome man who attracted many women both young and old met his fate. April shares that her abuser was burned to death in a house fire. "He moved out of our family home and got his own place in an apartment building where he lived for a time," April solemnly explains. "My husband called me the night before and asked if we could get back together. I told him I would have to pray about it. The next day I heard that he had died in a fire." April admits her faith was shook and cautions don't pray if you don't want an answer.
After the death of her husband back in the 70s, April says that "I could never love another man." When asked why, she said, "I was afraid that if I got close to one, I might kill him if he treated me the way my husband had." There were nice men that she courted (dated); however, she could recognize the signs that she couldn't be with them. Some of those red flags were:
1. Attempts to tell her how to parent her children while barely getting to know her.
2. Visiting only when convenient because an individual was married.
3. Lying about one's true intentions such as saying he wanted friendship when he really wanted sex.
4. Using threats and pressure to get her to commit.
5. Buying her gifts and bringing money to secure a place in her life even when she was no longer romantically interested in her gentleman suitor.
April shares that when a man makes you feel like less than a woman such as often acting rudely, jealous, or bitter, stop dating him. When you feel like you have to report your every move to him, don't. If the older man doesn't appreciate what you are doing for him, stop giving him sex, visiting him, or whatever else you are doing. April adds, "Don't be a fool!"
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
Back in the 1930s, the young April was a mere teen who had a life ahead of her, but she got distracted with the tall, dark and handsome fellow who admired her from a distance. She explains that he caught her eye, not only because he was so nice-looking, but also because "I wanted to leave my father's house...I was uneducated." She had attended elementary school on and off until about the age of 13 before her mother died. Her father, who had suddenly become a widow, went wild with the young ladies, according to April's relatives. So April and her siblings saw a poor example of how an older man treated young women. Relatives say he would drink, party, and have sex with them sometimes having a few at a time. They were children watching him abuse these women and some were women of the night.
But the handsome gentleman, who had been in April's family for years, had claimed that when she was a baby, the girl would one day become his wife. "I was still in my diapers my older relatives said when he told them that," said the 84 year old grandmother. April was impressed with the muscular man. "He could read and write." This was important to women of the time, because they knew that an educated man could get a better job than most and be able to provide for his family. April's older man was a blessing to a girl with a big heart. She grew up in a household of 20 and the older gentleman was going to get her out of there.
April warns young women, who share their trials with her, to be careful when it comes to dating men especially older ones. She says, "Don't trust a smiling face. There are dangerous men in this world." The mother of six learned the hard way. After leaving her father's house and going to be with the family friend, the mature gentleman would marry her and then move her out of state.
April was required to work during her marriage, because despite her husband's education, he had a strike against him--he was a black man trying to work during a time when racial dissension was present between blacks and whites. He also was one who liked to drink and party just like April's father. There was an obvious pattern, not only with April, but her siblings as well, most dated older men and many were cheated on. They basically got their father all over again through the men they dated and eventually married--his good, bad, rich and poor qualities all wrapped up in one!
April, being an uneducated black woman raising a family from the 1940s to the early 1960s, had her share of challenges as well; therefore, her options for employment were few. Housecleaning and cooking was what she did for very low wages. "I didn't have the opportunities back then, that young women have nowadays," April says. There was no daycare, Internet, an abundance of programs to help the needy, and many households didn't have televisions. April grew up poor, married into poverty, and then later acquired her personal wealth after her children became adults.
"This is why I tell young people to get an education, so that they don't have to settle for less," April advises. She tells women to put off marriage and having children until you have accomplished personal goals. There were times in her life she admits, she cried because of the poor decisions she made in life.
The man who had swept her off her feet and had given her so much happiness and promises, eventually caused her much upset to the point that she couldn't focus on anything she truly wanted to do. "He was abusive--a bastard! But my stupid self, loved him!" She pauses and then adds, "I asked myself, why do I love this man?" Long after her husband's passing, April admits that she still loves him. For years, April said that she attended church while choosing to remain in the abusive relationship for the sake of her children. She says that it was her faith in God that got her through many turbulent times.
But love doesn't verbally abuse or physically fight and two of April's own children wanted their father gone from the house, one even threatened to shoot his dad for beating up his mother. April was well aware that love doesn't hurt, but she was also fearful about leaving. There were times when she and her children did stay with relatives until her husband cooled down.
Nowadays, the 84 year old grandmother listens to young women's relationship plights and prays for them who labor to love their abusive mates while advising they get away. April blames her lack on why she settled. After decades of being cheated on, that handsome man who attracted many women both young and old met his fate. April shares that her abuser was burned to death in a house fire. "He moved out of our family home and got his own place in an apartment building where he lived for a time," April solemnly explains. "My husband called me the night before and asked if we could get back together. I told him I would have to pray about it. The next day I heard that he had died in a fire." April admits her faith was shook and cautions don't pray if you don't want an answer.
After the death of her husband back in the 70s, April says that "I could never love another man." When asked why, she said, "I was afraid that if I got close to one, I might kill him if he treated me the way my husband had." There were nice men that she courted (dated); however, she could recognize the signs that she couldn't be with them. Some of those red flags were:
1. Attempts to tell her how to parent her children while barely getting to know her.
2. Visiting only when convenient because an individual was married.
3. Lying about one's true intentions such as saying he wanted friendship when he really wanted sex.
4. Using threats and pressure to get her to commit.
5. Buying her gifts and bringing money to secure a place in her life even when she was no longer romantically interested in her gentleman suitor.
April shares that when a man makes you feel like less than a woman such as often acting rudely, jealous, or bitter, stop dating him. When you feel like you have to report your every move to him, don't. If the older man doesn't appreciate what you are doing for him, stop giving him sex, visiting him, or whatever else you are doing. April adds, "Don't be a fool!"
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
Tuesday
How to Keep a Young Woman Interested in You and Not Your Flaws
When one is mature seeking a youthful lady, he has to know that in order to keep her interest, he must have some things about him that keep her coming back for more other than the typical large financial portfolio, sex, and impressive toys that other rich gentleman suitors have. A wise younger woman is going to look the other way after a few dates when she starts to see those flaws that tend to show up out of nowhere with some older men. For instance, he typically dyes his hair, but after a few dates he advertises his grays for the world to see. He might even trade a nice dress shirt for a boring, old tee-shirt.
What does the premature display of the real you say to this young woman who may still consider you a stranger? “He’s a great actor. I didn’t realize just how old he really is until he showed up with that 1970’s wardrobe with his white hair sprouting everywhere!” A young woman can have a short attention span especially for an older man who stands before her looking dull and tired. Face it, some men have to work harder than others to keep a woman happy.
1. Communicate your strengths.
You might not be active like most men, but you are smarter than many of them. Put your intelligence to work and help that young woman improve herself physically, mentally and spiritually when the opportune time comes. She just might say, “I was thinking, maybe you could help me with…” Jump at the opportunity by sharing what you know about her concerns and how might she be able to solve them.
2. Focus on your accomplishments and how they have helped others.
What is it about you that impresses most men and women that know you? You might be lacking in looks, but you might have a long list of awards for your generosity, gifts for helping others, business achievements, and more. Share what drives you to be the best you can be. She just might overlook those imperfections that others would run from.
3. Ask her about her goals, dreams and desires.
Young women like to talk about themselves, so encourage her to do so. This might make you stand out from those other guys because she you are sincerely interested in hearing what she has to say. Once again, look for opportunities to help her achieve her dreams.
4. Take care of yourself.
Men who do things to improve their appearances are a draw for many women. A man who doesn’t smoke, maintains his body weight, and smells good has a better chance at meeting and keeping a woman than a man who does the total opposite.
5. Point out obvious issues before she does, and mention what you are doing to try to fix them.
Women have flaws just like men, but when they are noticeable, many will explain the who, what, when, where, why, and how of them all. When men share their war stories, they just might get a sympathetic ear and someone who will get a little closer to them depending on the story. So if you know you can’t hide your issue like a large scar across your left cheek, talk about it, but don’t say so much that it makes her scared, worried, or concerned for her life.
6. Share a few past failures, but mention how you managed to move on with your life.
It is better that she hears about your past then from the neighborhood, so if you did some things that she just might find out about if she were to conduct a background check, let her know. However, include what you are doing differently now and how you resolved past issues.
7. Mention the people and things you do that keep you motivated.
Are there some people who could vouch for how good of a man you truly are? In time, you will want to use them to help your date reach a decision on whether you are good for her or not. Some single women might not be completely convinced about dating certain men due to one flaw or another, but then along comes the single man’s mom and sister bragging about their loved one and now a date, who was once in doubt, is ready to commit.
When a young woman notices your flaws, don’t hide, worry, or think the worse, just do your best to explain, but not so much that she desires to go elsewhere. Know what impresses your date and stick to those things that keep her interested in you and not your flaws.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
What does the premature display of the real you say to this young woman who may still consider you a stranger? “He’s a great actor. I didn’t realize just how old he really is until he showed up with that 1970’s wardrobe with his white hair sprouting everywhere!” A young woman can have a short attention span especially for an older man who stands before her looking dull and tired. Face it, some men have to work harder than others to keep a woman happy.
1. Communicate your strengths.
You might not be active like most men, but you are smarter than many of them. Put your intelligence to work and help that young woman improve herself physically, mentally and spiritually when the opportune time comes. She just might say, “I was thinking, maybe you could help me with…” Jump at the opportunity by sharing what you know about her concerns and how might she be able to solve them.
2. Focus on your accomplishments and how they have helped others.
What is it about you that impresses most men and women that know you? You might be lacking in looks, but you might have a long list of awards for your generosity, gifts for helping others, business achievements, and more. Share what drives you to be the best you can be. She just might overlook those imperfections that others would run from.
3. Ask her about her goals, dreams and desires.
Young women like to talk about themselves, so encourage her to do so. This might make you stand out from those other guys because she you are sincerely interested in hearing what she has to say. Once again, look for opportunities to help her achieve her dreams.
4. Take care of yourself.
Men who do things to improve their appearances are a draw for many women. A man who doesn’t smoke, maintains his body weight, and smells good has a better chance at meeting and keeping a woman than a man who does the total opposite.
5. Point out obvious issues before she does, and mention what you are doing to try to fix them.
Women have flaws just like men, but when they are noticeable, many will explain the who, what, when, where, why, and how of them all. When men share their war stories, they just might get a sympathetic ear and someone who will get a little closer to them depending on the story. So if you know you can’t hide your issue like a large scar across your left cheek, talk about it, but don’t say so much that it makes her scared, worried, or concerned for her life.
6. Share a few past failures, but mention how you managed to move on with your life.
It is better that she hears about your past then from the neighborhood, so if you did some things that she just might find out about if she were to conduct a background check, let her know. However, include what you are doing differently now and how you resolved past issues.
7. Mention the people and things you do that keep you motivated.
Are there some people who could vouch for how good of a man you truly are? In time, you will want to use them to help your date reach a decision on whether you are good for her or not. Some single women might not be completely convinced about dating certain men due to one flaw or another, but then along comes the single man’s mom and sister bragging about their loved one and now a date, who was once in doubt, is ready to commit.
When a young woman notices your flaws, don’t hide, worry, or think the worse, just do your best to explain, but not so much that she desires to go elsewhere. Know what impresses your date and stick to those things that keep her interested in you and not your flaws.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
Friday
When All the Older Gentleman Wants is a Companion
With so many articles and videos talking about older men wanting nothing more than sex from young women, it can be a challenge to think any differently. But there are rich, as well as poor men, who aren’t interested in sex as much as they use to, simply put, they are all sexed out (at least temporarily that is). What might a young woman offer a gentleman besides sex?
Communication
A young woman and an older man who are on the go often, meeting people, volunteering, working, and just living a full life will have a bunch of stories to tell. They will enjoy long talks at places they like to frequent. They will share knowledge of some sites they might want to visit one day together. There is a lot to do and a woman who likes to communicate and travel is a great catch for an older man who still very much has a lot of life in him!
Friendship
When one has lived a life of strife, it is hard to come by good friends. Sometimes the only friend that one has is his or herself. Quality friendship is something that most people desire. No matter how many riches a man has, he will most likely want the company of a woman who can keep a secret, respect him, provide assistance in times of need, and hopefully love him for who he is and not just what he can give her. A young lady who truly knows what it means to be a good friend will be one of the lucky ones to land a nice, generous, older man one day!
Physical Touch without the Sex
Believe it or not, back when you were in high school, you didn’t have sex with everyone you met, you actually had friendships where the only thing you did was hold hands and hug. There are still many people in this world who love one another but have a lack of interest in sex due to a number of mental and body health issues. So hand-holding is good, a hug better, and a soft kiss is the best for some May-December relationships.
Consider looking beyond what many expect will occur between an older man and a younger woman dating; instead, find ways to build on the romance, appreciate one another, learn, and grow in this ever-changing world together!
Nicholl McGuire
Communication
A young woman and an older man who are on the go often, meeting people, volunteering, working, and just living a full life will have a bunch of stories to tell. They will enjoy long talks at places they like to frequent. They will share knowledge of some sites they might want to visit one day together. There is a lot to do and a woman who likes to communicate and travel is a great catch for an older man who still very much has a lot of life in him!
Friendship
When one has lived a life of strife, it is hard to come by good friends. Sometimes the only friend that one has is his or herself. Quality friendship is something that most people desire. No matter how many riches a man has, he will most likely want the company of a woman who can keep a secret, respect him, provide assistance in times of need, and hopefully love him for who he is and not just what he can give her. A young lady who truly knows what it means to be a good friend will be one of the lucky ones to land a nice, generous, older man one day!
Physical Touch without the Sex
Believe it or not, back when you were in high school, you didn’t have sex with everyone you met, you actually had friendships where the only thing you did was hold hands and hug. There are still many people in this world who love one another but have a lack of interest in sex due to a number of mental and body health issues. So hand-holding is good, a hug better, and a soft kiss is the best for some May-December relationships.
Consider looking beyond what many expect will occur between an older man and a younger woman dating; instead, find ways to build on the romance, appreciate one another, learn, and grow in this ever-changing world together!
Nicholl McGuire
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